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 Sex Positions
Couples Sex Guide
Top 10 Sex Positions to Have a More
Intimate Sex Life with Your Lover

By: Amanda Franklin

 Table of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1: The Importance of a Healthy Sexual Relationship in a Couple

Chapter 2: How to Keep the Sexual Relationship Healthy

Chapter 3: Top Sexual Positions and How to Do Them

Conclusion

Here is a FREE bonus book Relationships 101: The Best Relationship Advice for Couples to

Strengthen Their Relationship by Amanda Franklin.

 Introduction

I want to thank you and congratulate you for downloading the book,

Sex Positions: Couples Sex Guide Top 10 Sex Positions to Have a More

Intimate Sex Life with Your Lover. This book will increase the heat and

passion in your relationship.

The importance of sexual intimacy in a relationship can’t be denied.

Whether you feel the intimacy in your relationship is fading or you just

want to ramp up the passion in between the sheets then this read is an

absolute must for you. It will show you the best sex positions that will

maximize the pleasure for both partners. The best thing about this book is

with the help of the sex positions provided in this book all the other aspects
of your relationship should also get stronger. Thanks again for

downloading this book, I hope you enjoy it!

 Chapter 1: The Importance of a Healthy Sexual

Relationship in a Couple

Some couples may claim that being in love is enough to keep the

intimacy in a relationship. There is no use in emphasizing the couple’s

sexual life since sex is not the foundation of intimacy.

However, psychologists and marriage counselors say that attraction

and love are not enough to strengthen an intimate relationship. Physical

and emotional chemistry in an intimate relationship may not survive if the

couples will underrate or ignore their sexual chemistry.

According to studies, a healthy sexual relationship can strengthen the

intimacy between the couples. Sex is an outlet of releasing the love

between lovers. It keeps the passion and the love burning between the

couple, especially if both parties enjoy it.

Further, it is while having sex that the couple bare themselves

completely in front of each other. Having sex, especially when naked,

removes the insecurities of partners about their physiques and increases the

sense of acceptance between the couple. Without those insecurities, the

couple may trust each other better and develop better self-confidence.

Having sex does not only strengthen the love and relationship of the

couple. It also strengthens the mental health of the couple. Researches

show that the stress level and/or depression of a person are significantly

reduced after he had sex with his spouse or intimate partner. Sex is

considered to be a better anti-depressant than any anti-depressant drugs.

People with active and healthy sex life are less likely to be depressed.
 Sex is not something that is overrated, as others may perceive.

Instead, it is something beneficial for a relationship. Thus, making a

healthy relationship out of it will really help strengthen the intimacy

between lovers.
 Chapter 2: How to Keep the Sexual Relationship Healthy

The mere act of having sex does not make the sexual relationship

healthy. There are other factors that couple needs to observe in order to

make their relationship healthy. Below are some of those factors.

Respect. According to psychologists, the lack of respect during

sexual intercourse or activity may harm not just the sexual relationship but

the whole relationship. A disrespected or scarred spouse or partner is most

likely to look for another person who would treat them with respect.

Also sexual activity that degrades one of the couple does not make

the relationship healthy. As said before, sex is the outlet of showing love.

It is not an act of making one partner suffer, just like what is being done in a
dominant-submissive relationship. What kind of love would that be if one

of the partners is treated as a whore or worse, a slave?

Experimenting with BDSM sex is not entirely frowned upon by

experts. Exploring with BDSM sex can add excitement in the couple’s

sexual relationship. However, it should not replace the intimate sexual

activities of the couple.

Comfort. Comfort makes sex pleasurable. The sexual positions and

sexual act must be comfortable for both parties. If one of the parties does

not enjoy the sexual act or position, he or she may lose interest in having

sex in the future. Also, if the sexual activity is comfortable between the

couple, they are more likely to make love to each other long and more

often.

Variety. There are three kinds of sex that the couple can perform.

These are oral sex, anal sex, and frontal sex. Under these kinds of sex,
there are many varieties of sexual positions that the couple may explore to

make their sex life exciting. Sticking to traditional positions (e.g.,

missionary and doggy) can get quite boring if it becomes repetitive. Trying

a variety of sexual positions can really help strengthen the intimacy

between the couple.

Also, when partners are exploring many varieties of sexual positions,

they become more excited to be with each other.

Satisfaction. When it comes to sexual relationship, partners are not

expected to be just contented. Couples want to be satisfied when they

engage in sex. Thus, it is important that the parties satisfy each other

during sexual activities. An unsatisfied partner may develop insecurities

about himself and distrust to his partner. Some of them may even resort to

finding another partner that can keep them satisfied.

 Communication. Marriage counselors often advise couples to have

an open communication with each other. This includes the communication

while having sex.

Aside from moaning, grunting or screaming their satisfaction, the

couple also needs to communicate their other concerns to their partner like

their preference or the performance of their partner. This will help them

enjoy the sexual act more.

Lovers often do not communicate their sexual concerns to their

partners, especially if the concern is about performance, because they are

afraid to offend them. So instead of having satisfying sex, they end up with

a mediocre one where one of them or both of them have to fake their

orgasms.

Experts say that the couple needs to tell their partners if their

performance is below satisfactory. It is not something to be kept. Sex,

naturally, is between two people. It has to be enjoyed by the people

performing it and not just by one of them. The couple should not wait until

their sexual relationship becomes shaky before addressing the concerns.

 Chapter 3: Top Sexual Positions and How to Do Them

As discussed in the previous chapter, couples should explore a

variety of positions to keep the fire between the couple going. Here are the

top 10 sexual positions that are guaranteed to satisfy the couples and make

them more intimate with each other.

1. The G-Spot Stimulating Sex Position. Women have G-spot hidden

about two inches of their vagina’s upper wall. It is a spot that is almost

considered a myth because it is very difficult to find. But, once the spot is

found and stimulated, it makes the woman experience an extraordinary

orgasm that can make them moan like crazy. And as the G–spot is being
stimulated, the vagina tends to squeeze the cock harder which pleasures the

man.

To start the G-Spot stimulating sex position, the woman lies flat on

the bed or on the floor with her legs raised in a 90 degree angle. The man

will then position himself in front of the woman’s opening and begin

thrusting in and out.

As the pleasure builds up between the couple, the man should slowly

raise the woman’s lower body up so that her body will be pointed towards

the ceiling. The man should also start kneeling tall as he continues to

thrust. The purpose of this step is to find the G-spot. Once the man finds

the spot, he should retain the position and start thrusting to stimulate the G-

spot until the woman reaches her orgasm.

If the man has not reached his own orgasm when the woman came,

he could continue his thrusts until he reaches his own climax. His thrusts
will just build up another orgasm to the woman.

Some couple would find this position as a hardcore sex position

rather than an intimate sex position. However, many couples ended up

expressing (sometimes, even screaming) their love to each other as they

enjoy the waves of pleasure derived from this mind-blowing sexual

position. Nothing may be more intimate than that.

2. The Lotus Sex Position. Marriage counselors often suggest this

position to married couple because it is a very intimate position. It involves

a lot of kissing, fondling and body contacts.

In this position, the woman does most of the work.

To start, the man sits with his legs crossed. Each foot touches the

opposite knee. The woman then guides her partner’s penis to penetrate her
as she sits on his lap. Instead of the man thrusting up, it is the woman who

does the rocking.

If the man becomes uncomfortable because of the woman’s weight,

he may straighten his legs or spread it to form a diamond shape. The

woman, on the other hand, may cling to the man’s neck as she rocks.

In this position, the couple will be in a good position where they can

easily kiss each other, explore and feel their body against each other.

This position is sometimes noted as the sitting missionary sex

position.

3. Cowgirl Sex Position. In this position, the woman rides her

partner like a cowgirl. This means that she is on top of his man and has

control over the sexual activity.

 This position is highly advised for women who find it difficult to

achieve orgasm. According to some researches, 64 percent of women have

difficulty achieving orgasm. Some women even fake their orgasms just to

satisfy their men. But with this position, women can easily reach their

orgasm because they can guide the penetration to the spot that stimulate

their orgasm.

To start this position, the man lies on his back on the bed or on any

surface the couple prefers. The woman moves down her opening to the

man’s erection and start riding her man like a horse. The man may caress

the woman’s body to increase their passion. Most men would often fondle

the breasts as they move up and down.

Since the woman is in control, she could do the variations while

riding her man. She could ride him in a kneeling position, in a squat
position or in reverse position. This is the position that shows men how

women can have their own fun.

The cowgirl position may be considered as a hardcore sex position

rather than an intimate one. Still, giving the control solely to the woman

during sex is a very intimate act that a man can do for his lover.

4. Missionary Sex Position. It may be common and seems ordinary,

but Missionary Sex Position is still considered as one of the greatest sex

positions. It is easy to do. It does not need any flexibility or agility. It

guarantees equal satisfaction between the partners.

In this position, the woman lies on her back with her legs spread

open. The man positions himself in between the woman’s legs and

penetrates her opening. The hard work for this position is done by the
man. The responsibility of the woman is to caress his man to ease the

pressure on his back and encourage him by romancing him.

This position is great because it may achieve triple spot stimulation.

It can simultaneously stimulate the clitoris, the G-Spot and A-Spot of the

woman which can blow her mind away.

The man’s pelvis stimulates the clitoris as he thrust inside the

woman. If the woman is not satisfied on the pressure she feels on her clit,

she could just simply press her pelvis closer to the man’s pelvis to achieve

the pressure she wants to achieve.

If the woman wants to have more impact on her A-spot, she just has

to raise her leg ups or wrap them around the man’s waist to allow the man

to penetrate deeper.

Another reason why this position remains to be a top sex position is

that it allows romancing between the couple. Just like in the Lotus position,
the couple can kiss and touch each other as they rock.

The missionary sex position also acts as the base position to many

other sexual positions, like the G-Spot Sniper sex position and Sandwich

Position.

5. Dancing Sex Position. This is a standing sex position. It is often

called as the standing missionary position. This position allows the couple

to engage in a heated sex in narrow spaces like the shower, dressing booth

and elevators.

In this position, control can be shifted between the couple.

To start this position, the man stands facing the woman. He lifts one

of the woman’s legs to his waist, just like the basic Tango position, and

position himself between the woman’s legs. If he wants to penetrate deeper,

he may lift both legs and secure them around his waist. To secure their
connection and make it comfortable, the man may push the woman against

a wall.

If the man gets tired, the woman can let him rest for a while by

switching positions. The man will now rest on the wall and let his partner

rock him while she is clinging to his body for support.

The dancing sex position can easily be altered into a countertop

position, especially if it is done in the shower.

6. Washing Machine Position. Some couples may not be familiar

with this position, but it is slowly gaining fame for being a hardcore yet

intimate sexual position.

The washing machine position is actually a variety of sitting position

and standing position, but the sex is only done in a running washing

machine.
 In a washing machine sitting position, the woman sits on top of the

washing machine with her leg widely spread upward. She should also split

her butt wide so that her anus can touch the top of the washing machine.

The man then positions himself and penetrates her opening. As the man

thrusts in and out, the vibration of the running washing machine in the

woman’s anus spreads to her vagina and also to man’s penis adding more

sensations to the activity.

Some couples who tried the sitting washing machine position

claimed, however, that it is a bit difficult especially if the crotch of the man

do not reach the top of the washing machine.

In the washing machine standing position, the woman lies on her

chest on the top of the washing machine. Her lower body should be

touching the front of the washing machine. The man then enters the woman

from her behind.

 Again, the stimulation from the washing machine in the woman’s

breasts and pubic portion will add excitement to the couple. The standing

position also allows the couple to easily switch to anal sex. During the anal

sex, the vibration from the washing machine can continue the stimulation in

the clit and the pubic portion of the woman.

7. On-fours sex positions or Doggy-Style sex positions. This

position is one of the traditional sexual positions. It allows the couple to

find the perfect angle to satisfy them. Also, it allows the couple to easily

switch from vaginal penetration to anal penetration or vice versa.

The Doggy style position is considered one of the best sexual

positions because it is one of the naughtiest and hottest sexual positions.

According to research, women love doing doggy style because it

allows them to be dirty but in a playful way. The women are allowed to
masturbate while the man thrusts in and out from their pussy or anus.

Some women feel playful especially when the thrusting makes their breasts

shake.

There are three top doggy sex positions that most couples prefer.

These are the regular doggy style position, the bulldog sex position and the

stairway doggy style sex position.

The Regular Doggy Style

In a regular doggy style, the woman gets down on her knees and

hands and spreads her legs apart a bit. The man kneels down and enters the

woman from behind. For deeper penetration, the woman may move her

head and shoulder closer to the bed or the ground. For better pressure or

impact, the woman may push back to counter his man’s thrusts.
 The Bulldog Style

The Bulldog style is a gentle dominant-slave sexual position. The

man takes all the control in this style. All the woman needs to do is to get

down on fours and press her legs tightly as the man thrusts in and out from

her behind. The tighter she presses her legs, the tighter the man would feel

inside her.

This style is rougher than the regular doggy style because the man is

expected to grab the woman’s shoulder or hair to steady his stance and to

thrust deeper and harder in every angle. This style may be painful for some

women, but some may find it pleasurable. For those who feel

uncomfortable with the pain, they should immediately tell their partners.

Stairway Doggy Style

 The Stairway Doggy Style is one of the naughtiest sexual positions

for couples. This sexual position requires to be done in the stairway. The

fact that the sexual intercourse is done in the open makes this style exciting

and very naughty.

This type of doggy style is just a regular doggy style, but only done

in the stairway. And since it is in the stairway, the woman is in an

ascending position. This allows the man to thrust deeper and in a

comfortable angle. This position is also ideal for anal sex. It will also be

easy for the woman to push back for deeper and harder penetration.

The man is also in a comfortable position to fondle the woman or

stimulate his clitoris; and if they are doing anal, remember that it is a

comfortable position to finger-fuck his woman.

The only setback for this doggy style is that the stairs may be hard

and can hurt the elbows and knees of the woman. Experts suggest using
pads on the elbow or knees when doing this style. The couple may also do

the act in a carpeted stairway.

8. Rear Entry Sex Position. This is a combination of doggy style

and missionary style.

In this position, the woman lies on the bed on her stomach. The man

then enters from her behind. The man can either thrust in and out without

putting pressure on the woman’s back or he can thrust up and down in a

full body motion. The woman can help out by pushing her butt up and

down to counter the man’s motion.

Some women enjoy having their men press their weight on their back

when doing the rear entry sex position. Allowing the man to press his

weight will put him in the best position to be intimate with his partner. He

can easily romance his lover’s ears, neck and back.

 9. 69 Sex position. Though this sex position does not involve

penetration, it still remains as one of the top positions for a healthy sexual

relationship.

The 69 sex position is a form of oral sex between the couple that is

often treated as one of the foreplay during sex.

Foreplay is an important part of having sex. Without any foreplay,

the partners will not be aroused enough to continue exploring other sexual

positions. The 69 sex positions are considered to be the best and the most

intimate foreplay position for couples.

In this position, both parties are stimulated with oral action

simultaneously. The man will be performing cunnilingus (licking and

sucking on pussy) on the woman. The woman will be giving the man a

blow job.
 There are many ways a couple can perform the 69 position. The

variants include the traditional 69, the side 69 position, and the exotic 69

sex position.

The Traditional 69 Sex Position

In the traditional 69 sex position, the man is on top while the woman

is under him. The man needs to arch his body to give a comfortable space

for the woman to do her task. He may need to use his elbows or hands to

support his body.

Both of them will then level their organs to each other’s face and

begin a traditional cunnilingus and blowjob.

The traditional 69 sex position, however limits the performance of

the man. The man does not have a free hand to caress the woman. Also, he

should be careful not to press sudden weight on his crotch since it may

cause the woman to gag or choke on his cock.

 The Side 69 Sex Position

In the side 69 sex position, the couple will be lying on their sides

facing their partner’s organ. The only thing that sets this position apart

from the other two 69 sex positions is that the man may have a free hand to

help him stimulate the woman. He may even insert fingers in the woman’s

vagina as he performs cunnilingus.

The Exotic 69 Sex Position

The exotic 69 sex position is doing the 69 sex position while standing

up. Though this position is really hot and sexy, it tires the couple easily.

The woman will be standing upside-down and the man has to support her.

The weight of the woman may strain the man’s back and legs. On the other

hand, the woman may easily feel dizzy because of the sudden rush of blood

to her head for being upside down for a long time.

 10. The Quickie Sex Position. Quickie sex is often underrated.

Some couples think that it is impossible to have an orgasm in just five

minutes. But with the Quickie Sex position, having an orgasm for both

lovers in just five minutes is doable.

This sex position is often done upon waking up or before the one of

the couple leaves for work or for an emergency.

To do this position, the man lies on his back with his legs together.

The woman then moves down into his erection, but she won’t ride him.

Instead, she will lean forward and let the man thrust in a quick motion from

below. The man will not be able to penetrate deep, but his penetration

would be enough to stimulate the woman’s G-spot.

Since the position is very tiring, men can only do the position for a

few minutes. However, many men enjoy this sex position because the angle
is perfect for their satisfaction. As for the women, she may have to quickly

look for the spot that she really enjoys in order to enjoy the quickie with his

man.

Experts say that quickie sex should not be laughed upon. It is a

relationship saver especially when the couple is too busy to engage in long

sensual sexual intercourse. It serves as a reminder to the couple that sex is

still part of their lives even during their busy schedules.

The sex position listed here is only the top sex positions preferred by

many couples. It only serves as a guide to partners who wishes to

strengthen their sex life by exploring the other sex position. There are

dozens other sex position that a couple can explore to satisfy their sexual

needs and to express their intimacy with each other.

 Conclusion

Thank you again for downloading this book!

I hope this book was able to increase your intimacy with your partner

and ultimately strengthen your overall relationship.

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 Relationships 101
The Best Relationship Advice for
Couples to Strengthen Their Relationship

By Amanda Franklin
 Introduction

I want to thank you and congratulate you for downloading the book,

Relationships 101: The Best Relationship Advice for Couples to Strengthen

Their Relationship. This book contains information on how to strengthen

your relationship to stand the test of time.

Whether you’re dating, engaged, or married this book will show you

ways to build a solid foundation for a great relationship that will overcome

life’s obstacles. It’s a fact that there is an increasing number of marriages

that end in divorce. This book will show you how to strengthen your bond

and be a in relationship that only gets stronger with time. Thanks again for

downloading this book, I hope you enjoy it!

 Chapter 1: Five Keys to a Great Relationship

We all want someone to love and to be loved in return – someone you

can share friendship, laughter, caring, work, and support in both the good

times and the bad. Everyone deeply desires this kind of relationship but

many couples fail to achieve it.

This book aims to teach you step by step, the process of improving

your romantic or marital relationship. These will help you restore your

friendship, love and fun that were once there. If you are having a great

relationship with the one you love, this will help you to keep it that way and

nurture your happy relationship.

This book tackles on increasing your intimacy and connections

within your relationship and at the same time increasing your understanding
of your partner, as well as self-awareness. This also aims to tell you that

satisfying love is possible. You are capable of creating a relationship with

your partner in which both of you will feel emotionally secured at the

present time and be confident about your future.

Below are the five keys for a great and lasting relationship:

1) Decide together. Many couples fail in making collective

decisions during major transitions in their lives. You are both taking a

journey: make clear decisions where the both of you want to go. Do not

allow things to just happen. However, it doesn't necessarily mean that you

have to do this in every single aspect of your lives. For instance, if you are

enjoying your evening routine at home together, just let things slide: it

works fine for both of you anyway. On the other hand, there are times that

you cannot just let things happen in front of you. Making decisions is a

combined effort and needs teamwork. Are you thinking of quitting your
job? Are you planning to have a child? How do you want to manage your

savings? Whenever there is an important matter that needs to be addressed,

make a decision together. Your decisions show your greater commitment to

work your relationship.

2) Do your part. You work as a team. This means you both

agree that you will commit in keeping friendship and fun within your

relationship; you do not argue and fight destructively; and you will aim for

a safe emotional harbor in your relationship. One of the success factors of a

marital team is when each member is doing their part. Ask yourself this,

“What are my contributions in our marriage or relationship?” Once you

answered this question, focus on what you can contribute instead of what

you can get from the relationship.

3) Connect with your partner using the “safe mode function.”

Concentrate on making your relationship emotionally and physically safe at

home especially when dealing with issues and conflicts. Intimacy and

positive connections are possible when you are both confident that you can

perform your part to avoid conflicts. Do your best to handle conflicts

peacefully. If you are successful in doing this, you'll be able to relax more,

be yourself, and open yourself to more physical and emotional intimacy.

4) Open yourself to positive connections. According to

research, what really matters to most couples are positive connections.

Conflicts and issues are inevitable. It will happen even if you try to avoid it.

Couples want to enjoy the great things that relationship can offer; fun,

spiritual meaning, passion, deep friendship, parenting, companionship, and

connections with the core values of life.

5) Nurture your commitment. Establishing something

meaningful and hanging on in a relationship is crucial. Couples do this

because of their commitment to a “long-term” relationship. Commitment

means knowing that you both count on each other to help one another, to be

there and support each other no matter what happens.

Keep in mind the five keys to lasting and great relationship as you

learn the steps on how to improve your romantic or marital bond. You will

notice amazing improvements in your relationship with your partner or

spouse after reading this book.

 Chapter 2: Step 1: Cultivate Your Friendship

Are you friends with your partner? If you have lost or trying to build

friendship with your partner, here are some ideas that can help you:

Show your efforts to build your friendship. You have to accept the

fact that it will need a lot of work. Your partner is a potential best friend that

you can trust. But, it will not happen on its own. Sad but true – most

couples become too busy with their own endeavors, that they grow distant

to each other without even noticing it. The perfect way to start building

friendship is to plan when you will be alone with your partner. Make long

walks as an opportunity to talk and share what is going on in their lives

such as events happened at work.

Provide quality time. Everyone would definitely enjoy spending

quality time with loved ones. Who would not cherish a fun game or a chat
with their partners even for a few minutes? Hugging and kissing your

partner is much easier and quicker to give compared to sitting down with

them to share stories. Being interested and engaged in spending time with

your partner is really a gift to them.

Learn to deal with the hurtful past. For instance, your spouse

committed adultery. The process of going through acceptance, healing and

recovery reveal that you have been trapped in an unhealthy communication

relationship with your spouse. This is the best part of the situation – you get

to learn your mistakes and still have a chance to mend what has been

broken.

Always care and nourish each other. Losing a child is a devastating

situation that both parents endure. The best person who can be with you at
this point in your life is your spouse or partner. Remember, both of you lost

a child. This is the perfect time to comfort each other.

Explore common interests and hobbies. Find out what your partners

interests are, passions, or likes? What usually eats up your partner's free

time? This activity entails your efforts, time and a little sacrifice to know

more about the interests and hobbies of your partner. Take note, you might

have known your partner for years but things might have changed over

time. There might be things that were not interesting to them before that are

now.

Keep your gadgets away during weekends or family day. Ensure that

when you are home, you do not spend most of your time tinkering on your

laptop of mobile phone to answer business matters. Save it on a work day.

Practice speaking gently and softly. More and more couples are

speaking in phrases with each other – what they actually want their partner
to do especially in doing household chores like “Take out the trash” or “Go

and wash the dishes.” While it may be normal among close friends, it may

not be as amusing, neither effective, when you do it to your significant

other. There is a great possibility that you end up shouting and yelling all

the time just to get things done at home.

Learn to respect personal space and privacy. As a partner, it does not

give you a license to invade their privacy. Everyone loves to enjoy personal

time and space regardless how you well know each other. They need time to

sit back and relax, to energize themselves and to be quiet alone. If you share

a work area or office room, respect the personal time and space of your

partner.

Always speak good things about your partner. It is tempting to share

with your close friends or relatives what is currently happening between

you and your partner. However, saying negative things about your partner
and his/her weaknesses is like bathing yourself with negative emotions.

These negative words or rants about your partner will only absorb your

energy. Punish yourself by keeping quiet for 10 minutes when you notice

yourself speaking negative words about your partner. However, it is healthy

to let it out with a few trusted people your rants or issues about your spouse.

Be patient. Try to ponder on this: patience takes practice. Once you

become patient each day, you get stronger on this aspect. Patience also

gives you self-control and the capability to stop being negative. From that

position, you will be able to make good choices and wise decisions in your

life.
 Chapter 3: Step 2: Perform Positive Marital Habits

Keeping a happy relationship requires time and effort. Both you and

your partner must work hand and hand to make your relationship work.

Good habits lead to a happy and blissful journey together.

It is a inevitable to meet challenges along the way that may test your

relationship. Arguments and disagreements will surely happen. In any

relationship, no matter how compatible or similar you are, there will be

some point in your lives that you will clash and argue be it something

serious or petty. In order to avoid these, here are some habits that you and

your partner can start together.

Catch your partner doing something “right.”

You have been telling your spouse to always bring the trash bag

before going to sleep. You can give him/her a smack and say, “Thank you
for doing this honey.” No more sarcastic and insulting comments such as

“Thank God, you are finally bringing the trash” or “Now you are doing

something.” Sarcastic statements are not healthy to say to your spouse even

you mean well. It will only ruin both your moods and might trigger a heated

argument. A little appreciation surely helps improve any relationship

especially your marriage. It is great to let your spouse know that you

acknowledge something good about him/her.

Emphasize your point in three sentences.

Some casual conversations of couples end up in heated arguments

because one spouse brings up the past or unresolved issues. You'd be

surprised to learn that most marriages that end up in divorce started from

these. It helps a lot if you stay within the current conversation and avoid

bringing up old wounds. Here are easy steps in order to do this:

Step one: State and focus only on the current issue.

 Step two: Describe the issue in not more than three sentences. Here is

an example, “You said yesterday that you will be cleaning up the garage

today and you didn’t.”

Step three: Prevent yourself adding other information which could be

related to the current situation such as “You do not do what you have

promised you are going to do. I can no longer trust you. I do not even know

what you are going to do next. By the way, I noticed you left your dishes

last night in the sink.”

Perform household chores together.

Doing chores can make a huge difference in your marital

relationship. It can help keep your love alive in one way or another. In

marriage, sharing everything, be it a small or a big responsibility, is a clear

manifestation of your commitment to care and honor each other. This is the

ideal and perfect setting. Surveys show that couples who share household
chores are more capable to handle stress. Apart from finishing the tasks

faster, both of you will enjoy bonding moments together. Below is a list of

tips on how to share household chores.

Tip #1: Divide the household chores. You wash the clothes then your

spouse will be in-charge of hanging it.

Tip #2: Create a schedule who takes care of a task for the day like it

is your task to bring the kids to school on Mondays, Wednesdays and

Fridays while your spouse is in-charge on Tuesdays, Thursdays and

Saturdays.

Study the things that interest your spouse.

This does not mean you need to be a fan or an expert of the hobby or

the interest of your partner. For instance, basketball is your husband’s

favorite sport. Get to know more about the basic terminologies or how to
score in playing basketball. Surprise your spouse – watch a live game of his

favorite team or know the profile of his favorite players.

Surprise your spouse through giving gifts that are related to his/her

hobby.

Your partner is into photography. A new tripod or camera bag is

perfect for your spouse. This simple gesture shows that you are encouraging

and supporting your partner's hobby.

Find out who are the people influencing your partner right now.
 Your partner might be reading a good book from his/her favorite

author that has positive effects on how he/she views things these past few

days. It could be the reason why there are improvements on her/his

parenting style or in handling your relationship issues. This is a great

chance for you to jump in to support your partner because it is about raising

your children or dealing with marital challenges.

Get rid of bad habits.

Contract yourself to do something new today even for five minutes

before you give in doing the bad habit you used to do. Have a ready list of

punishment and reward programs for yourself. For instance, if you always

swear in front of your partner, put a dollar in your swear jar.

Avoid making unwise decisions on your financials.

 Financial concerns are one of the major reasons of a broken

relationship. It is usually because of bad habits. Creating good money habits

can help you achieve your financial goals for yourself and for your family.

Chapter 4: Step 3: Unleash Your Creativity

Being together for so long has its own unique challenges for couples.

There are times when everything feels like a routine and monotonous. That

said, there is nothing wrong with having a routine however, there will be

times when one of you (or both) will be looking for something different. A

sure-fire way of rekindling the old fire (so to speak) is by surprising them.

Here are a few tips:

Give your partner customized love coupons. You can easily print

these at home. Include wild fantasies of your partner, love making sessions,
washing the dishes for your partner, cleaning his/her car or simply take out

the trashes. This is a perfect DIY gift that you can give on special

occasions.

Send your partner love messages out of the blue during work days

through email, text messages or chat messages. This might sound corny to

many couples but it can bring back the spark between you and your partner.

Give your partner a big hug and kisses before he/she leaves for work.

You kiss your partner all the time but when was the last time you hugged

him/her so tight that you do not want him/her to let go? Hugging does not

involve a lot of your time. Let your partner feel your warm embrace without

any reason at all.

Write your partner a love letter using a fancy stationery and ball pen.

In this age of technology, it is easy to write an email or a text message.

However, sending your partner a hand written love letter or card makes it

more romantic and sweet.

Do something for your partner that he/she hates to do such as

cleaning the car or organizing his/her office.

Remember that little things and simple gestures mean a lot to your

partner. It might not be expensive but it will surely be appreciated and

remembered. Unleash your creativity to show your love and how much you

care for your partner.

 Chapter 5: Step 4: Enhance Your Sex Life

Based on studies, many couples face major problems regarding

decreasing interest in sex. Many come up with different reasons – couples

do not make sexuality and sensuality part of their lives; loss of trust because

of infidelity; or simply they let love and romance fade away. Whatever your

reasons, as a couple it is time to enhance your sensuality and sexuality.

Below are two important tips.

Tip #1: Make others perceive you as a desirable and sexier person.

For women:

Flaunt a little skin. Choose a favorite body spot such as your

décolletage, arms, legs or shoulders to show off. Wear something that

shows off your gifted body part such as a tube tank top whenever you are

with your partner.

 Make it a habit to wear red – red nail polish, red shoes, red shirt, or

red lipstick. Based on researches, men sees women wearing red as more

attractive and sexier.

Lean closer to your guy.

If you can manage wearing high heels, do it. It will give you more

confidence and power to show off your legs.

For men:

Practice straight posture and always stand tall.

Initiate with your woman a gentle touch. Touch her arms during an

intimate conversation.

Open the door for her and touch her back as you lead her way.

Wear something classy or one notch higher than what is expected in

every occasion.
 Tip #2: Become a better lover.

Prolong your foreplay with your partner for five minutes more.

Pay attention closely to your lover’s response in everything that you

do especially when making love.

Eat light at least two hours before you make love with your partner.

In case you cannot avoid taking the sumptuous dinner that your partner

prepared for both of you, just eat what you can digest.

Engage with your lover in prolonged eye contact.

Create a sensual environment. Clean and organize your bedroom, lit

scented candles, ready a bottle of wine and two wine glasses, scatter petals

and play romantic music.

Awaken your playful side. Relax. Enjoy the moment. Have fun.

Giggle more.
Chapter 6: Step 5: The Speaker Listener Technique

It doesn't matter whether you've been together more than half or your

lives or just a few weeks you need learn to communicate properly with each

other . It is surprising to know that one of the common problems that

married couples face is there lack of proper communication. They do not

talk about the issues and conflicts at hand under the “safe mode function,”

as described in Chapter 1.

It is dangerous and unsafe to assume that your partner knows

everything that is going on in your mind and in your heart. Keep in mind to

always “ask” and not “assume.” Do not just hear what is being said. You

need to listen and understand. Acknowledge what you hear. Below is a set

of rules that both of you can start following. Use the speaker listener

technique.
 a) The speaker must have the floor. Identify an object or a

spot to identify where is the “floor” that the speaker must enjoy when he or

she wants to say something. It is crucial to follow each role. If you do not

have the floor, then your role is the listener.

b) Share the floor with your partner. During the course of

discussion, share the floor once in a while with your partner. However, the

speaker will always have the opportunity to have the floor. Once the

speaker is done, switch your roles and discuss further the issues at hand.

Allow the roles to change. Remember, this step shows how you trust each

other in switching the floors as the need arises.

c) It is a no-no to solve the problem on the spot. In using this

technique, your goal is to have a good conversation. Do not try to solve the

problems prematurely. When you do, you are not helping each other. You
do not give each other a chance to say what one has to say about the

problem.
Chapter 7: Step 6: Learn to Forgive: Restore Hope

When you forgive your partner, you also refuse to keep a record of all

his/her wrongdoings. Here are the things you need to keep in mind to

master the art of forgiving and forgetting.

Make a list of the things that you want to discuss.

This could be the instances when you had disagreements and were

not able to talk it through. This includes the things that you are afraid to

discuss. If in case you fight about everything each day you live, you have

greater chances of facing more challenging differences. You need to

improve the manner of speaking and talking with each other. Both of you

need major upgrade on communication skills.

 Say your concerns constructively.

Follow these four starting statements:

a. I feel (anxious, devastated, sad, frustrated)

b. My concerns are…

c. I would really love to … (never use “I would love you

to…”)

d. What are your thoughts about… or how do you feel…

Come up with mutually agreeable solutions in each item.

Resolve new issues as you meet them with win-win solutions. No

party should just give in on the proposed solution just to end the discussion.

Both of you must compromise and agreed on the solutions.

Concentrate on yourself.
 When discussing issues, avoid telling your partner that they are a bad

person or what they are doing is wrong. No one would ever want to hear

how bad they are. It is much better you figure out how you can divert your

energies into positive ones.

Increase your positive energies.

Smile more. Hug more. Touch more. Show your eye kisses. Show

more appreciation to your partner.

Conclusion

Thank you again for downloading this book!

I hope this book was able to help you with your relationship.
Preview Of Happy Marriage: Discover the Secrets to Having the
Best Marriage Life by Amanda Franklin

Chapter 1 - What Makes a Happy Marriage?

Couples entering into marriage only wish for one thing, and that is to

have a successful and happy married life. When the couples were still

dating, they talk a lot about the future. It is mostly about the kids or their

housing plans. However, many of them do not really think about the

potential changes in their life once they start living in one roof. They may
have a perfect relationship when they were still dating, but what about after

they entered the sacrament of marriage. Would it still be the same? If they

are not fully ready for the next stage of their relationship, then problems

will start to rise.

To be fully ready in entering marriage, couples need to prepare

themselves physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. If one of these

areas does not receive proper attention, then the couple will be at risk of

facing problems in the future. Lack of preparation is the root of most

conflicts in married couples. Trust, honesty and faithfulness are the most

talked about issues when it comes to marriage. Couples should know how

to be truthful and understanding with each other. If not, many aspects of

their personal lives will be affected: the kids, the sides of both families, etc.
 Marriage is a union, not only of two people, but also of two families.

There will be more people involved, so the couple should consider

everything before stepping up into a higher stage of relationship. To know

the things that make a marriage happy and successful, here are some steps

and strategies that you can follow:

The couple must have proper communication.

Communication is the main key to a happy marriage. Both the

husband and wife should know how to listen to opinions and communicate

with each other. Since couples were the ones who decided to take their

relationship to the next level, they should be mature enough to deal with

their individual flaws and weaknesses. No one is perfect, so each one must

understand and lift up the other when needed.

 Couples experience many problems and one of them is the lack of

financial resources. When difficulties come, they should keep their

communication lines open. If there are misunderstandings, it is best to talk

to each other properly. If a fight is already undergoing, they should calm

themselves first before saying anything bad. No one wants to end up

regretting what he or she said especially because negative words that are

already said can no longer be taken back. It will already plant a seed of

anger in the other person’s heart.

People have their own differences, even husbands and wives living

together. Couples should know each other’s personality or anticipate each

other’s thoughts to make a good communication. One must be aware of his

partner’s body languages and expression, for him to know if there is a

problem.

Communication is an important ingredient in marriage because

everything flows from it. Lack of communication may turn small problems

into bigger ones; therefore, couples should not neglect the power of

communication in their relationship.

Couples should always make time for each other.

This is something that most couples forget when they enter into

marriage. When they are still dating, they always find a reason to spend

time with each other. However, when they start living together, they realize

that they have more obligations. This causes them to work even harder than
when they were still single. They spend most of their time at work, thereby

reducing the time spent with their partners. If this continues, they will grow

apart and eventually, the gap may become too huge that it will lead to

separation or divorce.

Women are mostly demanding of their husband’s time. They want

their husband to give them more attention and time because that is when

they feel more loved and cared. If a wife’s husband often works overtime,

then he won’t be able to do other things at home anymore. Spending time

with each other does not have to be extravagant. Actually, eating dinner

together at home or watching movies once or twice a week is enough.

Quality time is something that married couples should not take for granted.

Couples should never lose the physical connection between them.

 Do not let the relationship turn cold and distant. Even small acts of

intimacy every day can make a difference in improving the health of your

marriage. Hugs and kisses every morning before going to work or after

arriving home are usually enough to maintain the intimacy. Establish an

intimate connection. Couples should always be close and intimate to keep

their relationship strong.

Lack of connection and intimacy is the usual reason why most

couples turn to separation and divorce. If one is too busy doing other things,

he or she should try to make up for it to avoid confusion and

misunderstandings.

Couples should respect each other.

 Marriage is all about partnership. If there are decisions to make, the

two of them should be involved. If one has a problem, no matter how small

it is, he or she should tell it to the other. This is a sign that they both trust

and respect their spouse in every circumstance. They should not treat each

other like their opinions are not relevant and important. Do not forget to

take the other’s comments and suggestions into consideration.

If conflicts arise and negative words are said, it is appropriate to

apologize right away to assure the other person that it was just a mistake.

Note that petty disagreements that remain unresolved might turn into bigger

conflicts so be conscious of each other’s feelings.

Couples must show appreciation and gratitude to each other.

 It is a common misconception that right after marriage, gift giving is

no longer necessary. Most people think that these acts are only applicable

when couples are still dating. Actually, appreciation and gratitude should be

shown more in marriage. Giving gifts, preparing events and surprises will

make an impression that the spouse is loved and important. It can be small

or big as long as the thought counts.

Even the little things are very much valued in marriage. Making a

simple breakfast or doing a household chore for the husband or wife every

now and then can make the other one happy. There are special occasions

that allow you to give your gifts and prepare surprises. The best timing is

when the other celebrates his birthday or during wedding anniversaries.

Both of them should ensure that these special dates are not forgotten.
 Couples should learn and grow together.

Marriage is a wonderful experience. There will be ups and downs,

but the most important thing is that both of them grow and learn from the

journey. They will be involved with many people and they will most likely

have kids in the future. Sometimes, people will think that it is complicated

and confusing, but they do not really know until they experience the real

situation.

Every year, there will be changes with the couples’ personality,

maturity, and many other things. It can be good or bad, but the most

important thing is that they do not give up with each other. They should

always remember what they had said during their wedding day, the
promises and vows they told each other. Both of them should be

understanding about these changes because it is the key to make them stay

together for a long time.

As both the husband and wife develop maturity, they should also try

to achieve personal growth. For example, a husband should be more

responsible and aware of his accountabilities for the family. They should

have their own hobby or job that will help them be a better part of the

family.

7. Do not forget about the realities of married life

Maybe one of them will wake up one morning and ask, is this really

happening? It might give them an overwhelming feeling because what they

are experiencing right now is going to be for a lifetime. Those kinds of

thoughts may come one day and they will be surprised by how things are

progressing. There will be times when both of them need to work harder to

earn each other’s favour.

Hard work and commitment are also necessary in maintaining the

strength of their relationship. They should commit to stay in marriage

because everything that will take place is going to happen for a lifetime.

The thing is they just have to accept the reality that marriage is a lifestyle.

In marriage, there are also things that couples have to remember.

Both of them should not expect that they can change their spouse, but they

can influence them. The two of them should be aware of such fact. If they

do not accept the fact that it would be impossible to change some of the
behaviors of the other, then more conflicts and misunderstandings will most

likely arise.

They should not only expect the best things to come, but also the bad

situations that can test their teamwork and strength as a couple. They should

always remember the flaws and weaknesses of each other to help them

when they needed it. If there is a continuous bad habit, try to talk it out. It is

vital to keep communication lines open.

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