Effect of Pre-Marriage Counseling

Effect of Pre-Marriage Counseling on Marital Satisfaction of Iranian Newly-
Wed Couples
Phyu Sin Yadanar Thein
Abstract: This report essayed sexuality essences and non-sexual facets selected
by premarital counseling on the marriage satisfaction of Iran's new partner. The
GI couple participated in four conference sessions contributed by researchers,
which consists of birth control, health, various sexuality facets, skills of
communication and battle declaration. The courses took place a few months
before the wedding, then 4 months later after the wedding, the satisfaction of the
marriage was evaluated from the enrich questionnaire.
Keywords: pre-marital counseling, Iran, satisfaction of marriage, partners

Introduction
The high level of dissatisfaction with marriage and divorcement has progressively
directed to various marriage programmes preparation. The rate of divorce
excluding 2006 in Iran is up 10% on 2005 and reaches a rate of above 12%. The
rate in Tehran is 21% with 23,000 and above divorce instances per year,
additionally Iran has the highest rate (Statistics and Information Centre of
Population 2006). There is a divorce impact which is physical and psychological
in people and communities. With more than 30 million people in Iran between the
ages of 15 and 35 out of 70 million years, we will see many divorce cases every
year.
Over the past two decades, extensive findings have shown that greater
quality and timely programmes can decrease pressure of marriage and increase
satisfaction of marriage (Silliman and Schumm, 2000). Carroll and Doherty
(2003) in a metanalytical critique of the 23 prenuptial agreements, a contract that
partners innovate priority to celebrate a legal marriage, that have been designed
searched those, although a single of these reports suggests that partners, in
general, report that they had received a helpful experience. They found that
crucial factors like duration of education, sampling etc. could have a direct impact
on the outcome. A prenuptial agreement in Iran is compulsory to obtain a wedding
license, though it consists of a separate hour for males and females who include
birth control and health, that is of course, insufficient for men and young women.
For instance, Hejazi et al. (2004) assessed premarital consulting in three states
situated in Iran. They indiscriminately chose twenty married partners a year after
consultation and asked them about their satisfaction with counseling, attitudes and
knowledge to birth control, STI (sexually transmitted infection) protection and
personal health. They encountered that only between 14 to 43% of knowledge of
sexuality had been acquired by a couple in this class, and that 93% of the couple
showed that they required a full education concerning with sex. They also noted
that only 14% of partners have received the essential sex knowledge from a
prenuptial agreement and that the main problem is the lack of adequate context
and the lack of possibilities for people who participate to have their questionnaires
or problematic situations. Since this agreement uncovers premarital consulting
facets, like communication, battle declaration, etc., we do not have judgment on
this issue in counseling of pre-marital.
Lately, the government of Iran acknowledged the necessity of addressing

the sexuality needs and marriage of young people. When drawing up an effective
agreement, account must be taken of the real needs and problems of the spouses
(Silliman and Schumm 1999). Sex education in Iran is a partner's most essential
need, as it is not officially included in a school or university, or in a formal or
private organization. In addition, the discussion about sexuality in society often
includes feelings of fright, disgracefulness and taboos, also assesses the
knowledge of sexuality of a hundred and fifty young partners in Tehran. Only
twelve percent of males and females have adequate knowledge of how to have
pleasurable, responsible and safe love-making.
Females in Iran are afraid of sex and many partners about eighty-one
percent agree that sex pedagogy programs are required and evaluates the sexual
knowledge of about 100 couples who are working. They selected a hundred
random partners who live in Mashhad which is the biggest city in Iran before
receiving premarital counselling. The goal of this research is to make the
assessment of the spouse's sexual cycles knowledge, differences which are
physical and emotional between males and females, and the vision of an important
counselling couple before marriage. They indicate that forty percent of males and
thirty percent of females know the stage of the sexual reaction cycle, and fifteen
percent of male and eleven percent of females know the difference in orgasm of
their partners. In both parties, eleven percent were aware of the arousal
differences between males and females, eighty-one percent of females and
seventy-three percent of males said that their knowledge of sexuality was not high
which means they required proper training. Moreover, eighteen percent of females
do not disclose their needs or problems of sexuality to their husbands, whilst
forty-eight percent rarely or almost express their feelings. Thus, for males, the
ranges are ten percent and thirty one percent respectively. Communication
performs an important play in marital. Studies of three hundred and eighty-seven
married partners show communication and satisfaction of sexuality foretell the
satisfactory of marriage. The necessity of competence increase in the readying
programme of marriage has been shown in many studies. Communication is one
of the important factors for the successfulness and stableness of marriage (Caroll
and Doherty, 2003).
Lack of knowledge and skill seems to be the main reason for

misunderstanding, dissatisfaction and, therefore, sexual dissatisfaction and
marriage. To be imparted about sex facets which are physical and psychological,
their consequences are different between males and females and communication
which is effectual, these are essential to the marriage successfulness. In Iran,
although the proof that the readying programme of marriage do not have fecundity
in general, that does not have more findings on the development of adequate
programs in terms of needs, problems, cultures, and spiritual traits. The goal of
the report is to assess the pre-wedding program impact on the impressive
satisfactory of pre-marriage. The programme focuses on sex, communication and
skills of battle declaration.
Discussion
The activity of sexuality in Iran formally begins after being married, we

can recognize that this autonomous variable quantity might not demonstrate
important differentiation in pre-marriage, however according to the researchers, a
non-meaningless difference has been demonstrated amongst the two parties. A
researcher named Westheimer (2005) demonstrated that deficiency of information
of sex which stated about the response sexuality cycle affected sex disfunction,
dissatisfaction of sex, and anatomy. Moreover, Hosseini (2003) demonstrated that
though the satisfaction of sex is not quite different to begin with, but after three-
month sex education satisfaction of sex would be considered higher.
Communication education and skills of battle declaration is quite possible

to affect the development of sex satisfaction. With efficient communication,
couples can be capable to communicate about their sex requirements, likes,
dislikes, and expectancies (Larson, 1998).
Social skills develop satisfaction of non-sexuality. Durana (1997)

researched that six-month communication education and skills of battle
declaration can make satisfaction of non-sexuality be importantly higher than in
the period of pretest. Communication skills, for example, active listening, self-
expression, and empathy affected a higher intimacy in partners that accordingly
directs to an essence of mutual relationship.
Eventually, satisfaction of marriage demonstrated an important

development which is dependent upon encouraging satisfaction of sexuality and
non-sexuality. About fifty-three percent of women in Iran offers a divorce because
of dissatisfaction with their sexuality relationships and sixty-eight percent of
women did not experience the desire of sexuality for their partners, sixty-five
percent of women demonstrated that they did not feel the joy of foreplay, sixty-
four percent had not experience orgasm, and fifty-nine percent experienced anger
after love-making, whereas dissatisfaction of sex was importantly decreased in
these Iran women compared with a controllable group. A researcher named
Yousefi (2006) researched that knowledge of sexuality and its attitude acquire a
positive and non-meaningless correlativity with satisfaction of marriage. Silliman
and Schumm (1999) considered that the most significant element of a programme
of pre-marital is communication and battle declaration skills because it leads to
effective satisfaction of marriage and, in an indirect way, it also resolves
financially, sex, or differences of personality. Schneewind and Gerhard (2002)
demonstrated that partners’ battle declaration method has been an expert in
foretelling satisfaction of marriage influentially. Burlson and Denton showed that
the relationship between skills of communication and satisfaction of marriage is
sometimes indirect and complex. The most significant researchers in Iran have
demonstrated a positivity in relationships between skills of communication and
satisfaction of marriage. Yousefi and Adhamiyan (2006) demonstrated that
effectuate communication is an important factor in a partner’s satisfaction of
marriage. Amongst the partners pertained to a consulting center, sixty partners
were chosen by non-complex sampling method. Their satisfaction of marriage
was measured by using the enrich questionnaire. About 20 partners visited an
attendance in 6 sessions on skills of communication and the rest forty partners
were examined as a controllable party. Partners who have more effectual skills of
communication demonstrated a greater satisfaction. According to Foroghanfar,
about ninety-three students who are married demonstrated that battle declaration
skills are powerful and foretelling factors for satisfaction of marriage. Jalali and
Jalavand (2006) showed that each session takes ninety minutes with ten sessions
about skills of communication.
Conclusion
Moreover, educational programmes have an important impact on the

satisfaction of marriage. This claims that with no much attention to the
requirements, demands, and problematic issues of the participants, these stratums
are practically useless. Schumm (1998) demonstrated that early marriage
counseling with low-quality was bad for developing satisfaction of marriage than
with no counseling. Additionally, these requirements cannot be the same. For
example, studies have indicated that partners did not see sex as a utilitarian tool in
early marriage counseling in some countries (Williams, 1999; Russell and Lyster,
1992; Silliman and Schumm, 1989). Because in many countries people have
studied about these matters and do not consider this as needed or new data
(Williams, 1999). Studies have indicated that, in Iran, the partners’ opinions,
sexuality, and relative occasions are utmost useful tools. Because they have not
acquired official data about those tools and not have achieved sex experiences
before marriage; when they find questions and problems. Evidently, those courses
will not acquire same positive impact on satisfaction of sex in most improved
countries and in countries with no same cultures and religions. This is because in
any sex relationships outside or before marriage is prohibited by law in Iran, and
evaluation and education of sex behavior and satisfaction of sex should be begun
currently.
According to some researches, sexual education is the prior and most

crucial requirement in partners. Additionally, communication and battle
declarations skills must be implemented to the prenup program. Some classes
must be set up with males and females both giving attendance. For example, in the
class of social skills, the hearing of differed thoughts and problematic issues of the
opposite sexuality assists people to study objectively about one another.
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Effect of Pre-Marriage Counseling on Marital Satisfaction of Iranian Newly-

Phyu Sin Yadanar Thein

Keywords: pre-marital counseling, Iran, satisfaction of marriage, partners

Lately, the government of Iran acknowledged the necessity of addressing

Lack of knowledge and skill seems to be the main reason for

The activity of sexuality in Iran formally begins after being married, we

Communication education and skills of battle declaration is quite possible

Social skills develop satisfaction of non-sexuality. Durana (1997)

Eventually, satisfaction of marriage demonstrated an important

Moreover, educational programmes have an important impact on the

According to some researches, sexual education is the prior and most

Farnaz Farnam, Minoo Pakgohar & Mandana Mir-mohammadali,

Khaleghinejad K, Abbaspour Z, Afshari P, Attari Y, Rasekh A. , 2008. IJME.

Mahmoodi, G., 2016. Semantic Scholar. [Online] Available at:

Mohammad Hossein Mehrolhassani, Vahid Yazdi-Feyzabadi, Afsaneh Rajizadeh,

Ozra Parhizgar , Sara Esmaelzadeh-Saeieh , Mahnaz Akbari Kamrani, Mitra

S. Noohi, M Azar, AR Shafiee Kandjani, A Tajik, 2007. Journal of Hayat.

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