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Date Like A Spartan

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Table of Contents

Introduction: 04

Chapter 1: The Road to Sparta 07

Chapter 2: The Pre-Date Battle Plan 13

Chapter 3: Date Night Domination 21

Chapter 4: Mastering the First Date 35

Chapter 5: How to Ask the Right Questions 49

Chapter 6: Post Date Do’s 57

Chapter 7: Post Date Don’ts 67

Chapter 8: Is His Dick Spartan Proof 81

Chapter 9: Slaying the Second Date 87

Chapter 10: Keep Him or Curve Him 98

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Introduction:
Why Your Relationships Have Failed

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ou don’t really want to date. You don’t have the time, the energy, nor the patience to
meet new people, chitchat about shit like the school you went to or the city you were
born in, and spend your free time wondering if they really like you or just want to fuck
you. Dating sucks because you’ve been down this road before and all it did was lead you right
back to this starting point. It’s not you, it’s your city. It’s not you, it’s the quality of men you
attract. There isn’t a problem with the way you date; the problem is that men today don’t date.
You are a good women in a world where men value bad bitches, that’s why you will no longer
waste your time with dating. “I haven’t found a good man because there are no good men to
find.” Ahahahahaha! I love that! I love when weak women make excuses for losing and then set
out to rectify their losing ways by not even trying… because they’re “tired and don’t have the
energy.” You don’t have time to win because you’re agitated and annoyed with the entire
dating process. Good, be tired and settle into a mediocre love life where you end up settling for
one of these oatmeal guys who has a steady job, a limp dick, and who will develop a drinking
problem by the time you two are married because he’s just as bored as you will become. You
don’t want to find a knight you to find nice enough, because every time you aim for greatness
you fail. Anytime a girl tells me, “I’m tired of dating,” I hear the agony of defeat in her voice.
Napoleon Hill once said, “When defeat overtakes a person, the easiest and most logical thing to
do is quit. That’s exactly what the majority do.” He’s right. The majority of people in this world
are quitters. Excuse making, finger pointing, tired minds, who just want to skip ahead to the
part where they hit the jackpot because they don’t have the fucking guts to work at success.
Women in particular seem to have a hard time dealing with the seemingly random
adversity of finding love. You go to school, and even if you aren’t that smart, all you have to do
is study to get good grades, which insures that you graduate near the top of the class, and from
there you can get a decent job. That process is easy because all a school wants you to do is
follow the steps. Real life isn’t like school, it challenges you to learn without the benefit of a
textbook, adapt quickly, and be unapologetically ruthless. So many women ask me, “What
exactly do I do to win?” Those girls are still attempting to use a cut and dry academic mind, not
a warrior’s ingenuity. There is no cheat sheet for dating—do this, do that, now do this,
congratulations get the man. Love is war and those women who aren’t afraid to stand up and do
battle with men, will win. He didn’t call you after you gave him your number, Spartans don’t
cry, they shrug. You went out to dinner and he was corny as fuck, Spartans don’t give second
chances, they curve. You’ve been having great dates and now he’s pushing hard for sex,
Spartans don’t give in to make him happy, fuck his happy, just for applying pressure he can
wait even longer or go fuck the bottom bitch he has on the side. Relationships fail because

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women forget that they should be at the center of the universe. Spartans don’t get tired of
dating because it’s through dating that she proves her mastery over her solar system!
Men play too many games, and I don’t have time for that. Okay, Tina Typical, what do you
actually have time for? From where I’m sitting all you have is time because all you do is work,
gossip, and check timelines. Men today will always play some sort of game, because they aren’t
stupid enough to treat every girl like a Queen. There are so many peasants pretending to be
royal, and all he has to do is swipe on Tinder, meet up that night for a Mojito, and she’ll drain
his sack because “he had good conversation.” Why would a male walk around offering filet
mignon to a burrito bitch? Dating is about exposing. From the day a man gets your number,
he’s trying to expose you as regular, because handcuffing thots with low standards isn’t what
real men do. Spartans have the same mentality, from the day a man gets her number, or vice
versa, she is trying to expose him as regular because she will never give her heart to a man who
isn’t exceptional. People are rarely who they pretend to be. Men are often times exaggerating to
get pussy. Women are often times yapping about what they don’t do so they don’t come off as
pussy. Only through dating, can you prove what’s in a heart of a man, and only through dating
(or the lack of real dating) does a man prove what’s in a woman’s head. Most women are afraid
to expose men by being tough because they feel they will scare him off and lose out on a
potential boyfriend. Fuck his potential. You can’t go ring shopping with potential!
It’s time to take off the nice girl gloves and show men that you aren’t like the rest. I’m
not referring to having an attitude or trying to overcompensate for your lack of confidence by
being bossy. That hoodrat shit doesn’t work. This dating guide is for Spartans who understand
that power comes from truly being confident. Only through the Spartan way of mind, can you
take control from the beginning and ride that chariot all the way into a relationship. I’m not
referring to one of these lame ass relationships where you spend most of the time trying to hold
it together, but a real relationship defined by mutual respect. How many women do you know
in relationships get real respect? Not many, because most women are trying to keep a sinking
ship afloat so they won’t have to go back to the supposed shame of being single. Spartans don’t
struggle with false-start relationships, because when they choose to start one, they make sure
he’s already passed the tests! This guide isn’t about getting you through the first date, the
second date, and the third date, it’s about changing the way you date forever. No more giving
dudes a chance to show you more, when his actions already showed you he was full of shit. No
more being open off of some tall dude that fed you a lie about how he plays ball overseas, yet
really plays games from his baby mama’s basement. No more misjudging jealousy for attention.
No more guessing his intentions. By the end of this read, you will know how to expose a man
the right way and more importantly, how to set your value without threats and ultimatums.
Weak Bitches have a slogan, “You must not know who I am,” this is usually said after a
man insults her, plays her for a fool, or has already succeeded in manipulating her. Too many
women object after the harm has been done because the fear of losing a man from the jump
made them wait too long to set their rules. The only women that give ultimatums are those that
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within the first two weeks of knowing a man. Then she suddenly tries to boss up and reverse
the current of that basic bitch river she’s speeding down... How Sway? Your entire hustle to win
love has made you tired because you’ve spent all your energy doing it the wrong way, you silly
bird! Men don’t respect women who allow themselves to be robbed then say, “Don’t rob me, I
don’t allow that shit.” It’s too late, and you now sound stupid! A woman that sets her value
from the onset, even before the actual date, will never have her back forced against the wall and
made to come out with threats about “if you don’t treat me like this then…” Spartans don’t
make threats; they set expectations, and dismiss any man that doesn’t meet them.
What do you say to make him think highly of you, what do you wear so he finds you
sexy, what topics do you talk about to make him see you as the wifey type, should you spend
your own money to show him that you bring something to the table? YAWN! It’s time to grow
the fuck up and stop dating like a child. You are a Queen. Queens don’t interview to be some
motherfucker’s girlfriend; they are the ones holding the audition. Why should he get access to
your Friday night? Why should he get the pleasure of spending hours talking to you over
dinner? What makes this man worthy of you putting your heels on and leaving your house?
What makes this man so special that you would ever press your lips against his at the end of the
night, let alone grant him access to the best pussy he’s ever smelled? You are always in control,
and when you date like a Spartan, you separate the boys from the men. It also gives you an
opportunity to sharpen your wit, and an excuse to share your knowledge via conversation.
Dating isn’t some scary concept where you should be nervous or feel the need to impress. You
are a Spartan, and that makes you impressive by default. When you go on a date, you’re not just
putting on lipstick and eyeliner; you’re placing that Spartan warrior helmet on. That helmet is
an invisible piece of armor that gives you the confidence to settle any nerves, and attack that
date like a woman in control. Unlike the basicas who can’t dominate the mind of Dick, if you
follow this guide, the question of “what are we,” will never come up; he will already be trying
to be more even before you go on a third date. If you’re ready to be reborn, ready to Spartan up,
and ready to exercise your power through the process of dating, then turn the page and let’s get
you ready for war.

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Chapter 1:
The Road to Sparta

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re you Typical or are you a Spartan? That’s not rhetorical, answer that honestly based
on your last two relationships. How did you get a man, did you pull or get pulled?
How did you get a date, did you wait for him to ask or did you let that dude know
that you needed to be taken out? Did you sit around guessing if a man liked you for you or did
you not give a fuck about what he wanted and went about dominating him as if he had no
choice in the matter? Spartans seduce and conquer; Typicals beat around the bush and get lead.
A man will establish who you are by the end of the first date, and he will never revise those
feelings. That means that even if he likes you enough to be with you in a monogamous
relationship, he will never respect you more than that first date. If anything, his respect will
lower to the point where you’re like most women in relationships these days, a prisoner who
cries about “Why can’t he treat me like I deserve to be treated.” As a Spartan you don’t circle
back and gain respect, you start strong, and take your respect from Day 1 so there is never any
room for confusion about what you’re made of, Steel and Ice, never Sugar & Spice.
Before you set your first date, you have to Spartan up and give your mind over to the
fire that will forge you into a warrior, and erase that soft ass Kitchen bitch side of you that just
wants to be loved. You must allow real confidence to wash over you. Everyone has areas where
they will be weak, but you can’t afford to date with gaping holes that will allow you to be
exploited by good looking or smooth talking men. Your father wasn’t there for you, if he didn’t
love you, why would any man—Fuck your father, no man defines you past or present. You
don’t feel like you’re pretty enough to make a man settle down… you weight too much… your
skin isn’t clear… you need braces… blah blah blah—Kill those weak bitch thoughts now! Have
you seen the women that are really winning out here, not the Instagram thots hiding their
insecurity behind ass shots and Sephora, I’m talking real superpowers like Michelle, Hillary,
Oprah… It’s not that they are flawless, it’s that they feel flawless and project flawless.
Wake the hell up and embrace who you are and stop waiting for a waist trainer to kick
in, money for new tits to fall from the sky, or acne scars to heal, and prove that you can conquer
any man you set your mind on using the one thing more powerful than IG filters—your brain!
The moment you take the Spartan Oath is the day you leave the past in the past. No more
stories about what happened to you in high school, how men treated you in college, or the
laundry list of rejections that continue to hold you back. Women scarred by their past will
always be timid, scared to go all out in the present because they remember the failures of the
past. The word “scared” isn’t in a Spartan’s vocabulary, as a matter of fact you can’t even

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pronounce words with “sca—“ because you would feel basic. From now on, you won’t just go
on dates, you will destroy dates. These men aren’t bigger than you, they aren’t smarter than
you, and they don’t have more game than you do. Even if they have more money, more social
status, or more education, none of these dudes are better than you! Therefore, there will no
longer be a shrinking of your personality, a dumbing down of your attitude, or a censoring of
your questions in an attempt to get these little boys to think more of you. You are a Spartan
Queen, you don’t need to impress, you must be impressed, or off with his fucking head.
Spartans don’t date out of boredom, they don’t date for love, and they don’t date for
money… They date for sport. They create a roster of stallions, and then see which one will ride
the hardest to win her hand. Typicals don’t date, they chase, as if the man is the prize. Typicals
are lonely… over there with a dry phone, wet vagina, and no one to love. Typicals dream of
being a Disney Princess who is only one day away from being discovered by a prince. You
aren’t a fucking princess; you’re a Spartan Queen who isn’t waiting on any man to discover
something that is as bright as the sun. Typicals love to overthink… oh no I’m getting older, will I
ever find a husband? I said I would be married by 2017, should I just find an Apollo looking nigga to
donate sperm so I can get pregnant and give up on real love. Basic bitches worry because long-
winded and negative thoughts always dominate their simple brains. A Spartan is not on a clock,
afraid that she has until a certain age to find her King, she’s confident that she will always end
up with what she needs as opposed to what she wants 100% of the time. Faith in success is more
powerful than fear of failure, but you will never see results until you give yourself over to the
Spartan life and erase all traces of the fear that will continue to make you overthink these steps
and shrink your confidence. Either step into the fire fully and be reborn or continue to be one of
these typical birds that get half-ass results based off their half-ass efforts.

Spartan Strong
Before we get into this process, let’s dispel the myth about what it means to be strong. Spartan
strength has nothing to do with masculinity or being some emotionally unavailable Tank Girl
who acts cold in order to protect her own raw emotions. Spartans are dismissive in the face of
frauds, and they are guarded to an extent only because a man is a stranger, not because he has
the potential to hurt her. A Spartan is never worried about heartbreak because she knows that it
will be a long journey for any man to get to the point where he is seen as more than Dick.
Falling in love fast is fairytale that Spartans don’t believe in. It is to her benefit to weed through
the butterflies at the honeymoon stage and truly know this man before she allows her heart to
take control of her mind. For those of you who have read Solving Single, you understand that
the main focus was teaching you how to read men and poke holes in their game. 99.9% of men
react the same way, tell the same lies, complain about the same lack of attention, and try to gain
control using the same basic methods. As a Spartan you know male game, you understand
what the male mission is, and you don’t pout, “Guys are full of shit,” you laugh at their savage
nature, and you train them. Not by trying to change them, but by showing these men what you
will and won’t do in very clear ways. This guide is all about dominating dates by being one-step

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ahead of the men you will be going out with. This doesn’t require 24-7 meanness or even a
constant cold shoulder. Much like Ho Tactics, you have to give a man your warmness to expose
his wickedness, but when he shows you positives instead, you have to know how to respond
with a full heart, and not be caught up in the paranoia that he’s just gaming you.
There is nothing weak about a woman wanting a partner or wishing to be inspired by
someone just as great as she is. The ultimate goal when dating is to find a suitable boyfriend
with the same qualities you have who exhibits the emotional potential to grow with you. You
can’t bitch a man into loving you, that’s not what Spartan life is about. Through the talks, the
outside of the house bonding activities, between date communicating, your mission is to peel
back the various layers of men, insuring that they are who they are pretending to be. In addition
to the exploration of a man emotionally and mentally, you must also field test him by placing
him in calculated scenarios in order to observe how he reacts. I’m not talking about dumb shit
like “does he open the door for you or hit the unlock button,” but real things that defines his
character. Ike Turner has been photographed opening doors for Tina Turner, that didn’t make
him less of an abusive asshole.
The mission is to bait these men into exposing the good, bad, and ugly, in less than two
weeks. “Wait, you mean I can find love in less than two weeks?” Fuck love! You don’t construct
a pyramid in a day and expect it to survive the test of time, but you can scout the land to
quickly to surmise if there is a strong foundation available to build. Stop thirsting for this
endgame called “love” and focus on exposing these men early and often to see if there is true
compatibility there. Dating isn’t about falling in love, that comes at the relationship level, dating
is merely a test to see if that person is worthy of your exclusivity. Dating isn’t about finding out
every secret a man is hiding, again, that’s relationship work that comes later, it’s about seeing
how much of the truth you can pull from those initial lies that all men tell. What must been
done at the dating level is the establishment of who you are as a woman, what your
expectations are if you were to become his woman, and the observation of how well a man
responds to your rules in a short period of time.

The Spartan Mastermind

Basic bitches have a burning need to be wanted because they think it is through a man that they
are made complete. Basica Alba goes into a date with these things in mind: I hope he likes how I
look. I hope he likes how I talk. I don’t want to sound stupid. I don’t want to come off as a know-it-all. I
can’t come off as quiet. I can’t seem too loud and ratchet. I need him to have fun so I can go out again. But
how much flirting is too much without coming off like a cock tease? I need him to try to kiss me at the end
of the night so he knows I’m interested. But how much interest do I show without coming off like a ho?
All of these needy thoughts swirl around in those women who aren’t in control. When you
make yourself out to be the one auditioning as opposed to the one who is casting, you feel
pressure. Pressure creates nerves, nerves spread fear, and fear makes you weak. It is time to
turn the tables, and understand that it is you who are casting the role of Prince Charming, not
these men who casting for the role of Cinderella. This idea that a woman has to put her foot in a

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glass slipper to be chosen by a man is Disney bullshit. You are a Queen, not because a man puts
that crown on your head, but because you have mastered your own inner Kingdom! No matter
your flaws, this man has to be able to see through them and want you that much more, that’s
how you know it’s special. No one is perfect, but everyone is perfect for someone. This is why
you must never fake who you are when dating. When you’re trying to pass off a counterfeit
version of yourself for the approval of a man, you fail to realize that if this actually works, he
will fall in love with the watered down personality, not the actual you. You can’t spend 48
hours before a date trying to say words correctly, learn about current events, or change that
annoying laugh. Who you are is who you are. Not every man has to love your qualities, but the
one that wants to get to a second date has to accept those things without some bullshit “what do
men like” filter.
When you have been dating Cinderella style your entire life, trying to fit into that
slipper, you can’t suddenly flip that switch and be a boss, which is why you must get your
mind Spartan strong before you even start dating. What do you like to eat? “I don’t know
whatever you like.” That’s weak bitch talk. You like chicken, you know you like chicken, so
why are you waiting to hear what he likes before you answer? I use that as a metaphor for
women who just want to say all the right things. I was once on a date where this girl literally
would respond with, “What do you think about it,” every time I asked her opinion. Confident
women aren’t afraid to express their views. If that man doesn’t agree with your opinions, so
what. Be an individual, because in the end if you don’t really mesh well with him the way
you’re pretending to, then the relationship you enter will be built on personality lies. Know
who you are, and never waiver. Dating isn’t about having everything in common; it’s about
opposing half’s coming together to elevate one another. The best thing that can ever happen is
that you find a man that can teach you and who you can teach, and together, both of you can
share your opinions with interesting conversation as opposed to timid agreements for the sake
of fitting into that glass slipper.
What do men want to talk about on dates? How do men like women to act on dates? A
Spartan does not worry herself with these basic bitch burdens. Typical women see men as these
scary beasts that love sports, like to make offensive jokes, and who live to be nasty. In reality,
they don’t know shit about the opposite sex, which is why their relationships are always in
turmoil. Never try to be what you think men want, be who you are! If he thinks you’re dry then
it will be evident in the quick conversations he uses to dismiss you or infrequent text backs you
begin to get. If this happens routinely, then you do have a problem, not with men, but with
your own weak ass persona. Not every woman has a great personality, not every woman has
interesting things to talk about… sadly there are so many Zombies with Pussies walking
around just trying to find a dick, and all they will ever get is dick because they don’t have
anything a man wants other than that vagina. Basic bitches trot around talking about sports
teams they don’t really follow, ask redundant questions about a man’s work hoping he enjoys
talking about that, and then falls into the habit of sending nudes because they have zero real
game to keep a man focused. Zombies with Pussies! As a Spartan, you don’t fall into this

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category because you are always improving your worldview. You don’t sit in the house, you go
out. You don’t just watch TV, you absorb all culture. You don’t just see things from your POV,
you try to understand other perspectives be it political parties, religions, or unfamiliar music
genres. A Spartan grows herself in order to have a rich lifestyle to pull from when dating; she is
never a one trick Pussy there to KeeKee and bat her eyes for a man.
What makes a girl boring versus enticing to a man? I don’t want to sit in front of a
woman whose most passionate topic on a Tuesday is Real Housewives, when the shit aired on
Sunday. I don’t care about the workplace drama that she pretends to be fed up with, but
secretly gets off on and can’t stop bringing up. I don’t want to ask where she’s been and have
the answer be “Atlantic City.” No man wants to direct a late night conversation towards sex
and hear a grown woman shy away with, “You nasty, boy stop.” As a woman what life have
you lived on your own that makes you fascinating? What thoughts do you think that truly
make you unique? If you set in front of Oprah, how long would it take before she checked her
watch due to your dry ass character? Have you traveled, and can you bring up the culture of
other cities in a real way to create an engrossing discussion? Can you reference book topics that
you want my opinion on? Do you actually go out and create experiences beyond what
happened during your shift at work, which proves that you aren’t a worker bee who lives for
gossip and her social media timeline? Have you actually had relationships where you held your
own with men, and can now flirt and mindfuck in a way that would keep any male engaged?
Be it deep conversation, sexual teasing, or goofing around, you should have already been living
your life to the point where you were developing these skills. A Queen is a master of many
trades, not just work gossip, timeline drama, Scandal Thursdays, or what Happy Hour is
popping. Ask yourself if you are indeed well rounded, before you even agree to go on a date. If
the answer is “No” then mentally you are a Zombie with a Pussy not a Spartan Queen.

Spartan-Mart
Let’s say you are a store manager hiring for an assistant store manager job at Walgreens. You
make sure the store looks its best visually when this applicant comes in, but you don’t
reconstruct the place. You are warm and friendly, but you’re not being extra. It doesn’t matter if
this applicant likes you; it only matters if you like him in terms of presentation, experience, and
attitude. When offering the position you don’t say, “I’m the best boss ever, I will let you get
away with damn near anything, please work here!” You are the one that has to be won over.
Your job is to see how tough that candidate is by giving him the hard truth. The hours are long,
I do things a certain way, and the pay isn’t negotiable, but I like to have fun and if you work
hard you can move up. Applicants are forced to share strengths, weaknesses, and past work
experience because as the person hiring, you need to be clear that they can work within your
system. Dating is the same thing as interviewing applicants! From now on that’s exactly how
you must look at these men, just one of many trying to do and say anything to get on the team.
Let’s not get anything misconstrued, there is only room for one official boyfriend, but until a
man is hired for that role, these are merely interviews. While this guide will take you through

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an example using one man, take note that you should always be in the habit of dating multiple
men until one climbs your corporate ladder to the top.
Dating refers to dating, not fucking, sucking, kissing, getting head, giving messages, or
any sexual activity. You go outside of the home and participate in bonding activities in order to
learn about this applicant on a personal level. That’s dating. All of these steps that follow can be
done one at a time, or they can be done with as many men as your schedule will allow. It’s your
choice, but the one warning I always give is that options create competition. A woman who
knows what she wants can decide to pick that one guy out that has good initial qualities and
just focus on him, however picking one man, and seeing where it goes is a waste, given that you
could be multitasking with at least one more. Just because you decide that he deserves your full
attention doesn’t mean he’s worthy of it, this process will decide how worthy he truly is by
vetting him properly. When hiring, you don’t pull one application and schedule one interview
based on, “Oh he went to Harvard,” or “Oh he knows my best friend,” you must discriminate!
Endless amounts of women are stuck on men they have dated for three weeks, not because that
man has blown them away, but because he’s the only male attention she’s getting off line. To
bring at least one other just as handsome or just as successful man into your store to interview,
means that you keep your heart in balance. You will inevitably like one man more than the next
based on how you vibe. However, this way you will be able to cross-reference both of their
actions against one another to see who is really performing versus merely talking good game.
I have read far too many emails that say something along the lines of, “I wish my ex
treated me the way this new guy treats me, it would be perfect.” You can’t combine two men, so
the goal becomes to find one man that encompasses both the passion and the behavior that you
need. If you think that’s too hard or impossible, then you aren’t a Spartan, you’re just another
fearful bird who doesn’t have the confidence to know that impossible is a myth. Treatment is
the ultimate goal when you date for sport. It doesn’t matter how tall, how funny, or how paid a
man is that you’re dating; how does he treat you in regards to value? If Jim looks a little better
than Henry but keeps ignoring your calls or forgetting the days you are supposed to meet up,
that means Jim doesn’t take you serious. In work terms, he’s that dude that comes to work
without his name badge, the wrong shoes on, and leaves after lunch with some bullshit excuse.
That type of person doesn’t make it past the probationary period just because he’s funny and
cute, he gets fired! If any man you date doesn’t meet the bar we are about to set in the following
pages, he’s not right for this job as your boyfriend. It’s that simple. Certain women have a nasty
habit of giving the bad candidates chance after chance, because they want to make him fit for
whatever reason. Never give any of these men second opportunities to treat you the way you
know you deserved to be treated the first time around. The first date is the first interview. The
time between the second date becomes a second interview. The second date becomes that on the
job training. By the end of your second date, you will have dominated this man to the point
where he will realize that you are the store manager, you are the boss, and you don’t need him,
but he now needs you!

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Chapter 2:
The Pre-Date Battle Plan

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ou only get one chance at a first impression, so let’s start with the easiest way to tattoo a
man’s brain, with pre-date game. The first contact after exchanging information is
where the magic starts, not the actual moment you meet, so we’re going to start there.
For those of you that struggle with actually meeting men, be it being approached or
approaching, this would be a good time to go read the first few chapters of Ho Tactics (even
when not running Ho Game, it’s a proven and confident boosting way to go about meeting
men). This will not be a refresher course on the basics of pulling a man. At the Spartan level,
luring a man into your web should be as automatic as breathing. The steps that follow do not
require you to meet a guy a certain way. I don’t care if you met him by swiping on an app, if he
slide in your inbox, if he was introduced by a family friend, or if you sat next to him on the train
and asked the time. The moment a man comes into your orbit, the battle begins. This guide will
clearly show you how to disarm his shields and crack him open like a true warrior Queen.
People tell these “how we met” stories and those are great, but it doesn’t matter if you
meet at something as simple as a bar or a cookout or something as serendipitous as the
aftermath of a car accident. That “how we met” story only becomes legendary if you two
actually go on a date and connect. I don’t know how any of you are going to meet your special
someone because no one controls those circumstances. What you do control is how you react
after getting or giving a number. Therefore, the starting point for this guide is: The day after
you meet the person you are interested in dating. As in Ho Tactics, I’m going to use a composite
of various women that I have gathered dating stories from whose example you can follow. Let’s
call this Spartan Dater—Cali. Through Cali, we will go over the most common scenarios that
today’s women face. The introduction. The initial reach out. The setting of the date. The dates. Don’t
picture some super woman in your mind physically, what Cali is about to do isn’t because her
ass is a certain size, breasts are perfect, eyebrows are on fleek, none of that shit matters when
pulling this off. Everything she does is due to two things: Supreme Confidence & the ability to
open her mouth and use that confidence to get what she wants. That’s all any women needs.

DAY 0: Setting the Bait

Cali the Spartan happened to be in Starbucks when a man walked in and instantly got her
attention. Handsome, but not overly pretty, business casual, but with his own style added on.
This was her type visually. Unfortunately, this guy was too focused on his iPhone to scan the

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line, so Cali missed her opportunity to eye fuck him like a fat kid eye fucks a Krispy Kreme box.
Not one to chase, Cali simply waited for life to provide her with an opportunity to take. As Cali
stepped out of line to wait for her macchiato, she again glanced over to the line; this cute guy
was still missing his shot by overly eyeballing his phone. Cali remained patient, her own phone
still in her bag, because no one in her current inbox was as important as adding a new member
to her shrinking roster. Cali’s macchiato was ready just as her guy finished ordering so she
waited a moment to see if he would stand near her as she picked up her cup, but again he shied
a few feet away, not once noticing her. Cali stayed poised, walked over to the condiment table
to add an extra sugar in the raw to her drink, and then there it was… her shot.
The barista called his name, “Latte for Stephen.” Cali put the lid back on her drink, and
turned ready to conquer. In a page out of Maria the Ho’s playbook, she invaded Stephen’s
personal space and went to work with her pull game. “Stephen, did they ruin your name on
your cup like they did mine?” Cali was now in his face with a slight grin. Stephen didn’t know
if she’s serious or joking, so like any man that’s not used to women speaking first, he fumbled
around for a second before regaining his cool. He checked his cup to see if his name was indeed
fucked up. Stephen was sad to say they did ruin his name by spelling it, “Steven.” From there,
Cali confesses that’s how she would have spelled it as well, poking fun at the actual spelling of
his name. The two shared a slight laugh, and at that moment, Cali used her God given
opportunity to eye fuck him. A woman who masters proper eye fucking doesn’t have to say
she’s interested, a man knows. After that it became elementary, the “So are you on your way to
work,” chit. The “Do you live in the area,” chat. In the end, Cali walked out of there with
Stephen’s business card, and a half-promise to give him a call sometime.
Cali could call Stephen that night and start a getting to know him conversation or she
could send a cute, “it was nice running into,” text before bed. However she isn’t in a rush and
realizes that giving him a day to wonder if she was actually interested, will make her that much
more desirable. Cali is a Spartan; she isn’t worried about looking thirsty by calling or texting too
soon. This is a man she actually wants; she’s not going to let gender sanctions turn her into
some shy mouse. She’s a lioness and she’s going to eat him alive, but it’s always good to play
with the prey before sinking your teeth in. Therefore, Cali waits until the next afternoon to
reach out. On her lunch break, she sends him a quick text, “Did I have you in Starbucks daring
them to misspell your name this morning?” Questions are always the best forms of texts, they
exist to be answered, unlike a basic, “Hey, this is Cali from yesterday. Hope everything is good
with you.” That shit is sandpaper dry! Cali has set the bait by asking a question and making a
joke at the same time. Any man who reads that will grin. Within five minutes, Cali has a
response back from Stephen, “I started to go hard, but I looked around and didn’t have you as
back up in case things went south.” Cali herself grins; he’s both witty and handsome. At this
moment, Cali has all the power. Before he fires off a, “How’s your day going…” text that leads
to further chitchat, she retains control by hitting him with a To Be Continued reply. Cali LOL’s
and tells Stephen that she will give him a call tonight after she’s off the clock… unless his
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she has also girlfriend checked him. Stephen responds with, “I don’t have one of those (smiley
sunglasses emoji). Cool. I’m usually home after 7.” Mission completed. Cali only has to write,
“K” and keep it moving. Stephen meanwhile is at work thinking about this new aggressive
female, and assuming that it’s going to be easy pussy… he has no idea he just crossed paths
with a Spartan who is in complete control.
We’re now firmly on Day 0: Pre-date mind control. Regardless if you are the type that
reaches out before you first call or the type that waits for that actual call, your pre-date
impression doesn’t begin until you call or are called. Cali is a Spartan, but that doesn’t mean
she’s a robot. She feels the nerves that any woman will feel when about to call a new man for
the first time. Stephen could be her next boyfriend, a potential husband, or he could be just
another guy she tests out for a month and then blocks when he starts to disappoint. Cali isn’t
going to hide her feelings like a weak bitch and front as if she doesn’t care. She hopes Stephen is
a quality dude and mentally she’s being positive about his potential as opposed to negative and
self-defeating. At the same time, her want for him to work is controlled because the ball is in his
court, not hers. Cali knows she’s about to bring the fire and do her part in presenting this man
with someone who acts like a Queen, it will be on him to respond like a King. If Stephen comes
off as corny, overly sexual, dry, or starts to preach to her about Rand Paul, then he fails, not her.
Remember, even when you are in pursuit, you are still the prize, and any man crush is merely
the latest contender trying to capture a spot beside you. This Spartan rule brings Cali back into
focus. The nerves have been calmed, and now she can begin to visualize where she wants to
take the conversation when she calls him tonight. Ladies, you must know where you want to
end the conversation. You are not calling a man for the first time just to talk him to death. You
need a date. After you get that date then you can begin the deep conversation stage. There is no
reason to spill your life story a day after meeting a man while on the phone. Becoming fast
friends is one of the tricks men use to bypass dates. Not here. Cali is a student of the Spartan
game and she has visualized and laid out three points she will hit when they are on the phone.

A: Put Him At Ease With Personality.

B: Recon His Life.
C: Date Bait.

Cali calls Stephen and he picks up in his best smooth voice, which lets Cali know he was
already doing pre-game himself. Cali doesn’t care about Stephen’s game or how he thinks he’s
going to lay it down. She’s a fucking Spartan, and she’s going to control the pace of the
conversation and lead him where she needs him to be by the time this call ends. Cali isn’t a
comedian; she doesn’t have the insane wit of some geek girl that hooks men from behind her
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about teasing Stephen in order to break the ice. She asks if he let the phone ring an extra time
just to show he wasn’t thirsty. Stephen fires back that he actually didn’t have his phone by him
to play it cool. Cali doesn’t let up, she fires back that she’s disappointed that scheduling a call
didn’t get him so excited that he had that phone glued to his hand. Voice emphasis on
“Excited.” The voice is sensual, the tone is playful, Cali may be a Spartan, but she’s mastered
the Ho Tactics that get a dick hard via inflection. From that playful banter, she transitions into
the nuances of how his day was, what he actually does at work, and if he enjoys it or is this just
a stepping-stone in his career. These aren’t big questions, just recon to see who this man is. Cali
finds out that Stephen is an account rep for a heating company, just as his card said. It’s boring
work but gets him the experience and connections to branch out in a year or two. There is no
need to talk about ambition or life’s ultimate goal at this point. Stephen understandably fires
back with his own brand of recon, “So what about you, what do you do?” Cali doesn’t have the
world’s most fascinating job, so after she tells him point blank her position, she follows up with
more personality. Cali laments that she doesn’t have her own business card yet but she’s
thinking about jacking his design. Again, sidestep questions about herself, redirects back to the
man by keeping it light and flirty. Next, Cali does what few women do; she admits her
attraction in a real way. She openly tells him how sexy he looked walking into that Starbucks,
then brings it to, “I figured that you were texting your baby mama, the way your eyes were on
that phone.” Bam! She’s telling this man that she finds him attractive on the highest level “sexy”
which translate in male language to: She’ll fuck me. Once a man thinks he has the green light,
he’s like a puppy on a leash, excited and trying to lead you, but still under your control. The
sneak comment about a baby mama also opens it up to another recon; does he have children?
Stephen is passing the test. He has a decent job and ambition to get an even better one.
Now he reveals that he doesn’t have any children, right now, but slides in that he would love to
when the time is right. If Cali were a basic bitch, she would say something like, “With the right
woman?” However, she doesn’t have to relationship bait, she’s not trying to put the pressure of
being the right woman, having kids, or any long term thoughts in the mind of this man. All she
wanted to know is if he had little crumb snatchers walking around. Finished with the recon,
and having showed off her flirty personality, Cali goes in for the kill. She asks, “So what’s
taking you so long to ask me out, sir?” Again, this is said in the right tone, with the sexual and
submissive word of “sir” added to show him she’s not being bitchy or matter-of-fact. Stephen,
like most men, responds obediently and asks when she’s free. Cali works a nontraditional
schedule and her midweek is her weekend. She doesn’t date for Stephen’s Friday/Saturday
convenience, so she tells her new man crush that Thursday she’s free. Stephen is nervous, he’s
not sure if he should take control or let her pick a place. He steps lightly, asking her where she
wants to go. Cali doesn’t like that, he’s the man, thus he should pick. She pretends to think
about it, and settles on a dinner date. Then she sinks her fangs in. “Let’s have dinner this
Thursday, but I’m going to let you pick the place so I can see how good your taste is, babe.”
Stephen begins to think, but Cali’s job is done, so it’s time to exit. “How about you call me back
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and Cali tells him that she looks forward to his choice. After one last exchange of flirty banter,
she laments that she has to go, but she’ll be waiting for his dinner choice. End of call.
Although it was Cali who went for Stephen in the store, texted him first, and even called
first, it is now Stephen who is put in the position to show if he’s truly interested. If Stephen
doesn’t call the next day, then his number is deleted, no second chance. That’s how a Spartan
rolls. If Stephen calls with some excuse as to why he can’t go out, but suggests a house date
alternative. Cali will say she’ll get back to him. Not really. Number deleted, no Come Over &
Chill here, you fuck boy! That’s how a Spartan rolls. Anything other than, “I picked such and
such... is that cool… what time will you be ready…” and Stephen gets deleted from her phone
without mercy. It doesn’t matter how cool he comes off, how attractive he is, or how witty his
conversation. A man’s seriousness must be proved via his actions before the dating even starts.
That’s how a Spartan fucking rolls!
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Day 0: Recap
You may have gotten that, or you may be nervous and unsure if your verbal skills are on par to
do any of the things Cali did. Let’s rewind and walk you through this as slowly as Floyd
Mayweather reading Hamlet. It doesn’t matter where you meet a man. I gave an example of Cali
meeting her guy at an ordinary place, randomly; to show you just how easy it is even when the
circumstances aren’t ideal. Forget the meet up part because it all leads into Day 0. If you meet a
man on Tinder, meet a man on Plenty of Fish, had a guy who slid in your DMs, or was asked by
your bff if you mind that she gave your number out to some cute guy, it’s all the same. You
have to talk to him first before you actually agree to go on a date! There is no, “Text Text Text,
let’s meet here,” bullshit. There is no blind date surprise. You control your environment always,
and put these men through your test. What Cali did when she got home is where you will
always start. Most of you will have your number taken, and be in the position where you have
to wait for the man to call or text you first. The same thing applies. If a guy texts you a few
hours later telling you that he was glad to have met you. Text back and tell him the same, but
put some personality on it. Say something about the way you met him to make it seem more
personal as if this isn’t just one of many guys you’re getting texts from. Follow up and ask if
he’s free to talk later on. This is where many women make the mistake; they say something like,
“Are you going to be around in an hour to talk?” Then leave it to the man to call them back.
Texting is horrible because you can’t read the tone most of the time. Men are just as
nervous as you are when first reaching out. To tell him to hit you later translates to you’re too
busy for him. He doesn’t know if you are brushing him off or being serious. Therefore, you
have to take control of the situation. Again, this is a man you are actually interested in, not some
scrub that you gave your number to in order to get him out of your face, so don’t be shy.
Instead of putting it on him to call you later, tell him you’re going to hit him back, and then
throw in words like, “Looking forward to it,” or even a smiley face, to show him the tone. The
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preferred because buy time to calm down and get your mind right. If he doesn’t pick up, leave a
message, it’s not that serious. Remember, your ego and pride have no place when hunting.
Alternatively, if the man calls you first, don’t say you have to call him back. You may
not be totally ready, but from the moment you give him your number as opposed to take his
number, you must realize that he could call in two hours or in two days. Know what you want
to say in case of either situation. If he takes the lead to call you first, great, talk to him. The same
rules apply regardless of who does the calling: Put him at ease with personality, recon, and then
date bait. The call shouldn’t last more than thirty minutes at most. If you find yourself on the
phone laughing and carrying on, snatch yourself away because you’re doing too much. The
point is to find out enough to know he’s not some creep, that he’s employed, and that he’s safe
enough to meet in public. There is no need for long conversations yet. Remember, if you two are
hitting it off neither one of you will want to get off the phone, but you have to exit in the time I
outlined. Men have their own game plan; they get in your ear, flirt, put you at ease, and then get
real familiar. Here’s where that has benefited me. By the time I once got off a three hour phone
conversation with this girl I met the day before, we had bonded so much that all I had to say is,
“I need to see you as soon as possible, this chemistry is crazy.” It wasn’t chemistry it was my
dick. To her it was a guy actually being blown away enough to want to skip work and see her,
and it made her feel like hot shit. It wasn’t so much my game; it was her ego that lead her to
meet up with me the next day. No date, no real recon, but real sex. Be smarter than that! Don’t
let a man lullaby you with phone boning the first time out or any time before you go on an
actual date.
In terms of the questions, they won’t all be picture perfect like Stephen’s responses. You
may meet a man who may not have a great job or maybe doesn’t want to tell you what he does.
It’s very important to know these things before you go on a date, so don’t be afraid to press. No
woman should agree to meet out in public with “Tavon who does a bit of everything.” If your
friend were to try to file a missing person’s report it’s better that she knows that you were going
out with Tavon who worked at General Motors. Not saying all men will be truthful, but at least
do your part. Next up, you may get a man who has children. You have to decide if that is a deal
breaker for you right then and there. My friend Viv once told me how she dated a guy who met
all her qualifications and then some, but he had one child. She thought he looked so good that
at first, she was willing to admit, “I’ll be a step mama for this nigga, he’s that fine!” After a few
weeks of dating, she realized that it was a deal breaker, and her lust for him would never
change that she was not about that, “My man has kids by other women,” life. She wasted
weeks, when she should have kept it real the moment he said he had a son. It’s okay to have
selfish standards, and it’s even better to own up to them starting out at Day 0, then front as if
you can deal with it, and have to back out after you put in this work. Be honest! It’s not fair to
the man and it’s not fair to you to begin dating knowing a child is something you really can’t
have in your life.
What if you are the one with children and he does his own recon? In Solving Single I
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that until he at earns a first date. However, it’s never good to start out on a lie if directly asked.
If he brings it up during this first call, keep it real, and give him the same opportunity to back
out that you would want. No need to get defensive and say, “Yes I do, is that going to be a
problem,” because if he agrees to this date, it’s not. Some men will lie to your face and say they
don’t mind, but then fallback. Leave room for that. If he chooses not to call you back to officially
set the date, good, it means he didn’t want to waste your time. Men won’t always speak up, so
allow their actions to communicate what’s real.
The final part is the Date Bait. Men don’t always ask to take you out by default because
we live in a world where guys now realize they don’t have to court for pussy the same way men
of the past did. It is not that modern men won’t date; it’s that they would be foolish to offer to
spend money when you may be a Come Over & Chill type of girl. How does a man know that
you aren’t Fast Food Pussy? The only way is to test you by seeing what you allow them to get
away with. Therefore, don’t feel disrespected that they aren’t offering up a date, understand
that other women have lowered the bar and in response, you must raise yours. This doesn’t
mean you ask to take him out or beg, it means you establish the rules and lay the carpet out for
him to follow your lead. Cali used her sensuality to tease her prey into jumping at a chance to
take her out. Depending on the type of woman you are, there are literally dozens of ways you
can date bait. Assertive: Check your texts, I’m about to send you the place you’re taking me this
weekend. Witty: Describe your perfect date with me, so I can tell you the day and time this will happen.
Cookie from Empire: I hope you’re not one of this niggas that think you going to get by with Netflix and
a home cooked meal! Whoever you are, let it come out naturally.
When you are sitting there thinking about this guy and visualizing where you are going
to lead the conversation when he calls, don’t try to fake your personality. Even if you’re a shy
woman, embrace your Spartanhood and be bold enough to say, “I’m free on Saturday, let’s do
something fun.” Don’t spend too much time trying to be overly creative to the point where you
begin to get nervous. The reality of this situation is that he may open up asking when can he see
you, or he may hesitate. Be prepared to go wherever the conversation leads you while still
maintaining control. Don’t be some little girl that gets offended that a man doesn’t ask for a
date, take it into your hands. You can’t assume that he’s not asking because he doesn’t like you.
Those are negative thoughts that have no place in your head at this point. If the cat has his
tongue, then use your own damn mouth to tell him how it’s going to go down. In the end if he
doesn’t want to take you to that place you suggest, doesn’t give you his own suggestion, or acts
as if he’s going to be suddenly busy to go out for anything other than a quick drink or a house
pop up, then he is not the man for you. I repeat, if he doesn’t respond to the date bait by
actually setting up a date like a man, then his contact information leaves your phone that night!
There will be women who find a man they really like and get over eager while waiting
to test this out. The paranoia will be, “but he didn’t call at all for me to do any of this! When will
his sexy ass call me!?” If you meet a man and give him your number and he never hits you up.
He doesn’t want you. If you text him and he never responds back. He doesn’t want you. If he
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If you go to call him and he doesn’t answer or return that call. Say it with me—he doesn’t want
your ass. This isn’t about making every man take an interest in you; it’s about exploiting the
interest that a man has from the start. You can’t win over a man that doesn’t see you as his type.
Many males will flirt with you, talk that talk, even ask for your number, but never follow up.
Spartans don’t sit around and sulk about what went wrong. Who cares? He didn’t want your
ass, just like there’s been plenty of guys you didn’t want the next day. All of these men out here
to be pulled, you can’t let the ones who don’t respond be a speed bump. Day 0 ends with you
setting that first date. If he doesn’t make it to that part then he doesn’t count! Now that you
know the steps to getting to the first date, let’s get into the Day 1 activity.

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Chapter 3:
Date Night Domination

W
here should we go? What should we do? What should I wear? I’m not going to be
specific in terms of the place or the activity because I want this guide to be used no
matter the woman, no matter the city, and no matter the time of year. All of you will
be asked out on various dates that cover a wide net of creativity. Be it a dinner, a play, drinks,
fight party, bowling, movie, lunch picnic, etc… I want you to understand that it doesn’t matter
the backdrop, the actual conversation is what defines the success of a first date. In a perfect
world, your first date should be a dinner date some place quiet where you can use that corner
booth or table as if it’s a police interrogation room. You won’t get the full truth from a man on
the first date, but you will get glimpses of the real him if you are smart enough to push beyond
the jokes, the work talk, and those bias stories that make him seem Batman cool. The mission of
a first date is to hear this man out in order to see where he’s coming from with his sales pitch. Is
he trying hard to impress you, or is he half-assing because he thinks he’s already won? Is he
trying too hard to seem perfect, or is he being a real dude who can poke fun at himself? The best
way to complete this mission is to look at him eye-to-eye with your bullshit filter set to high.
You can’t do that in a crowded room, while a movie is playing in front of you, or on a group
date. Keep in mind that while a date is social and you will have fun, the primary focus as a
Spartan is sport. The Arena has to benefit your mission or you risk spending a night with a man
whom you learn absolutely nothing about, just reacting to outside events of the date.
Where should you go? Out where at least half of the date allows for private
conversation. You can agree to a Go Kart racing date if you want to, but make sure that before
or after that race there is someplace, not at his home or your home, where you can talk. The
same rules apply with a movie date. Find time to get in conversation; don’t be cool with sitting
in the dark and holding hands. What should you do? I understand that women love to plan and
prepare, but push the pressure of coming up with a good date night out of your head. Your
presence makes it a good date. All the romance and elegance should be left up to him. If you are
dealing with a man that wants you to make all the choices, Yelp search a romantic restaurant in
the area, decide on the one with the best ambiance, and wash your hands with any big
decisions. This isn’t your friend from out of town who you need to show a good time. The first
date is his interview not your interview. A Spartan doesn’t need to perform like a monkey in
order to get a man to take her out again. You aren’t even worried about going out again at this
point; he still has to prove that he’s compatible. You aren’t one of these nervous women who
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a Spartan, getting a man to take you out isn’t a rarity it’s common. Never forget that it’s his job
to step up and hit a homerun, not yours. You don’t actually have to do anything. This Basica
once told me, “I don’t want to go out and sit in front of him, won’t he find that boring?” The
reason she said that was because she was boring and scared of being exposed as such. This is a
battle of the mind, a dance of wits, one long conversation that will reveal nearly everything you
need to know about this man. Insecure women prefer the distraction of a movie, the cover of a
double date, or the filler of a physical activity because she can get by with laughs and chitchat.
This is Sparta; you want to strip away the diversions so you can get to know this man.
What should you wear? If you look good you feel good, correction, you already look
good; now you feel even better because you get to express your personality through your style.
Dressing for your date is extremely important, not because you want that man to like you, or
you want other people to turn their heads when you walk by. Your outfit is your armor.
Christians wear crosses to feel that holy protection. Ratchets wear fake septum rings to feel
Cleopatra bomb. Spartans too need something external to provide that extra confidence boost. I
wrote earlier about having invisible armor around you. The right outfit creates a force field that
no hater can burst, and even if nerves start to build, all you have to do is look in the mirror and
be instantly reminded, “I’m bad as fuck!” It’s not enough to know that you’re invincible, it
always help to physically see this every time you sneak a look at your reflection. The outfit you
choose will also set the tone for the date. What color makes you feel good? What kind of shoe
makes you feel tall? What message does your entire outfit send to that man in terms of your
confidence, sexuality, and style? You project how you feel. If you feel unsure about what you’re
wearing, you will stumble, so don’t wait until the last minute to throw something together,
embrace dressing up like you’re Vivian on Rodeo with Richard Gere’s credit card.
Visualize the morning you wake up for that date; picture him and then picture yourself.
He can have the fashion sense of Kanye West, but next to you, he won’t get any attention. How
do you go about doing this? How can you steal the show, while making it seem effortless as
opposed to extra? Additionally, what can you wear that says who you are as an individual? I
always laugh at this idea of women shopping at these super-secret boutiques so they won’t
wear something another woman has on. It’s not the dress; it’s the woman in that dress that
makes it special. Having style and being dressed, aren’t the same damn thing. Even in a Forever
21 off the rack pantsuit, how are you going to impose your style? Some of you get it; others are
going to feel bad you’re not stylish or fancy. You’re missing the point. You don’t need to be
Anna Wintour you need to be yourself. No matter your budget, you can create a look that
makes you feel like a goddess. If you’re 80’s rocker girl, even when rocking a little black dress,
throw some accessory on that says Joan Jett. If you’re a goofy girl, don’t try to front. Take that
same black dress, and wear some Looney Tune Chucks, yeah people will look, but that’s you! I
have a homegirl who is a huge Tomboy, but when she steps out she always has heels that look
like they were created by Zeus, and even in denim pants makes sure her ass is cuffed in a way
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Perfect your date look, the morning of your date or even a day before. You’re superwoman
without the cape, but that doesn’t mean you forget to show up with the “S” on your chest.
Let me address the male mindset and how overthinking about what a man likes or
doesn’t like leads to women stressing about what to wear. Tight, says sex. Cleavage, says sex.
Shoulders revealed, says sex. Even heels say sex. You have a vagina underneath your clothes; as
a man, all he sees is sex. You can’t bend to this idea of, “I don’t want to look like a thot,” and
sabotage your own sense of style to come off virgin pure. You will always be objectified! “Men
don’t want a woman that dresses like a slut.” Don’t believe the hype. Even if you’re wearing a
Christmas sweater with pleather pants, a man will find something filthy to think about you. The
idea that you have to curtail your sex appeal to be taken serious is faker than the lips on Kylie
Jenner. You are going to be looked at like sex regardless, so instead of trying to fight
objectification, embrace it, own it, and weaponized your femininity. What look turns you on?
That’s what you go with. Some men will try to slut shame you and some women will try to set a
standard of what’s classy for you to wear. Here’s the thing, you don’t dress for the men who
wish they could fuck you, nor do you dress for the women who are afraid that you will take
attention away from them. You dress for your own sense of style. All jokes aside, if you want to
wear some low cut skirt that keeps rising and spiked heels, because that makes you feel good,
do you! I’m not here to tell you to be safe; I’m here to tell you to be the ultimate version of
yourself. The one warning I will give is that if you don’t know how to properly do your own
makeup, have someone do it for you, or go minimal. Your outfit will inspire lust even if it is
hoochie stank, but there is nothing sexy about a woman who walks in looking like Puddles the
Clown. Now that’s out of the way let’s check in with Cali.

The Date
Stephen has made reservations at an Italian restaurant downtown, nothing too fancy, but a level
above the 2 for $20 chain restaurants like Applebee’s. Cali begins her mental check list by giving
Stephen a gold star for being creative enough not to suggest some generic place that everyone
has been to before. Picking a place off the beaten path tells her he’s actually trying to impress
her rather than reaching for an easy place twenty minutes away from his home. Cali has
deferred being picked up, she’s not ready for Stephen to know her address, nor does she want
to feel dependent on him dropping her back off when he’s ready. Although her car is in the
shop and it would be easier for him to scoop her, she’s still going to meet him there on her own
dime to maintain her privacy. In terms of wardrobe, Cali’s outfit has been picked out for a few
days before. She doesn’t have money to waste buying something new, so she went into her
closet to make something old look Easter fresh. A fitted pair of red leather pants, a drape neck
black blouse, and a pair of six-inch open toe heels that she’s been holding off wearing for
months now. She’s casual chic, and her makeup adds just enough, “Nigga I’m grown” sex
appeal by highlighting her thick lips and seducing eyes. Cali is not over dressed for this type of
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much just because she’s been let out of the house. Cali isn’t giving off a “he’s just a friend,” vibe
by dressing down, she knows that men like candy, so she’s happy to show her wrapper as if he
has a shot at first night sex. Cali knows she looks like sex because she feels like sex, but her
attitude is always that of a lady on the surface. The date is set at 7pm, so Cali figures she will get
there at 7:10pm. She’s not trying to be immature and make Stephen sweat it out, she wants to
see what he’s made of. There are men who will wait in front of the establishment unsure if they
should go in. There are men who will go to the bar and order two drinks, one for him, and one
for his arriving date. Then there are men who take this time to make sure the table available is
the perfect one for his lady. Cali isn’t expecting anything other than the truth. When she arrives,
Stephen will have revealed one of many personality traits based on how he deals with her
tardiness, and given Cali easy intel on his character.
Cali exits her Uber at 7:10 on the dot and walks up to the restaurant. Before she even
gets to the hostess, Stephen is there to greet her. She apologizes for being late, but doesn’t mean
it of course. Stephen compliments her outfit, and Cali responds with her own admiration of the
shirt that he’s picked out for this evening. Cali slyly pokes Stephen’s chest, seeing how hard
body he is, then shoots a seductive smile. She’s already under Stephen’s skin: Touch him, eye
fuck him, and draw attention to her epic lips currently painted devil red. The date hasn’t even
started and Stephen’s blood pressure is already on the rise. Stephen tells Cali that it may be
another minute as he requested a booth instead of the table they tried to sit them. Another Gold
Star. Stephen arrived early and made sure to set the mood as he saw fit. He took control like a
man and insured they had a good seat, not a table tightly fitted next to another couple. Cali
appreciates that take-charge attitude, and while she won’t say this, Stephen is already winning
in her book. The two are seated in the booth across from each other and like a referee starting a
championship fight; the waiter excuses himself to allow time for the couple to look over the
menu. Ding. Ding. This is the official start of the first date and Cali came prepared to fight.

Break the Ice

Stephen is anxious, nervous, and a bit excited, Cali can see it all over his face as his eyes dart all
around her, not sure if he should give another compliment or let the first one stand as good
enough. He will reach for conversation about the restaurant first, asking if he picked something
up to her standards. Next, he’ll scan over the menu, looking for something funny to bring up,
maybe a strange name of a drink or entrée that will make Cali laugh. This is how most men
come off on dates; they try hard in an attempt not to seem as if they are trying at all. Stephen’s
grin hides his lack of control. He’s unsure if he should be funny, serious or a combination of
both. In short, Stephen is trying to find the mask he should wear that will most impress Cali. A
typical woman will sit and wait for a man to move his pawn first, and then go into a reactive
mode trying to be a “Cool Girl.” Cool Girls laugh at any jokes; answer all questions, and
generally, only focus on following the man’s lead so he likes her that much more. By the time
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the Cool Girl. He will control the pace, control the date, and if he’s smooth enough, control her
mind. Cool Girls don’t understand male psychology; their only objective is to not fuck it up by
being rude, opinionated, or goofy. Cali is far from typical. She doesn’t need to be a Cool Girl,
because she’s not trying to earn brownie points. She sees through the fake coolness Stephen is
trying to exude, and like any Spartan, she’s going to use that hidden nervousness to control
him. There will be no winning her over with slick talk, making her uncomfortable with
questions, or causing her to submit with flirting. Cali is about to go on the offensive and
unbeknownst to Stephen, Cali is about to take this date in a direction few women dare.
Men are little boys. Little boys like to play games. After the waiter leaves, Cali puts out
her pinky finger, “Let’s make a bet that you can’t guess what I’ll order.” Stephen is a bit
intrigued, “You want me to guess now?” Cali shakes her head and fills him in, “I’m going to
text you right now what I want. But don’t look. When the waiter comes, order for me. After you
do, then look at your text to see if you chose right.” Now Stephen is charmed. He sits up in his
chair, dropping all the fake cool shit that he was thinking to do in his head. This girl has already
proven interesting, and he has to match her intrigue. Stephen, now super open, asks what he
gets when he wins the bet. Cali is now prepared to fully break the ice that exists between all
people that are physically attracted to each other. She leans in and says, “You get a kiss. Full
tongue.” Stephen jokes that he was already going to get one of those, and Cali says that she only
hugs on the first date, never kisses. Cali hasn’t gone full blown Ho Tactics with her flirting, but
she still wants to plant the seed in this man’s head that he may get something that no other man
gets. Stephen of course wants to play cat and mouse, “So why don’t you kiss on the first date?”
Stephen doesn’t know that he’s the mouse, not the cat. Cali ignores his question and goes about
texting him her order to start the game. After she’s done, she rubs her foot against his foot, and
tells him not to cheat and look. Stephen has gone from confused date trying to throw on his
playboy mask to giddy little kid. His cool is off, and the ice has been broken.
Meanwhile Cali’s supposed game is not really a game at all by more recon. She gave this
man the right to order her food for her under the guise of a joke. Will he order the cheap ass
chicken dish, go for the sexy salmon, or cash out with the Lobster-Steak combo? This game
gives insight into how much money Stephen is prepared to spend. What kind of class level he
sees Cali at in terms of food. Even the metaphysical idea of, even as strangers can this man pick
up on your vibes in terms of what you like. In terms of drinking, Cali will not push for a
cocktail. If he wants to ball out and order a bottle of wine, she will be forced to partake, but
even then, she’ll display her skill in terms of the fake sip. It’s important to stay mentally sharp
on a first date and not get too turnt. While Cali can drink with the best of them, she knows that
sexual chemistry and alcohol can cloud the mind. Stephen orders a Manhattan and asks Cali
what she’s going to have. Cali gives the excuse that she just took her allergy medicine and has
to pass. Throughout the night, Cali will make sure Stephen stays with a full glass, because
liquor can be a truth serum. While he may think that she’s being a prude, in actuality she’s
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slightly inebriated, and by the middle of the date, he will be open to her mind control. Now that
the ice is melting, it’s time to break this man down.

Let Him Talk

Random questions that come with long stories are a woman’s bread and butter when on a first
date. Cali is ready to settle Stephen down with some seriousness, now that she’s shown her
playful side. Asking questions with personality as opposed to reading off generic inquiries as if
you’re going off a teleprompter is key. A basic bitch would begin with, “So how long have you
been on your job.” Who gives a fuck really? “Where did you grow up?” That’s a one-sentence
answer that will tell you zilch. “What’s the longest relationship you’ve been in?” No man wants
to talk about his old bitch, but all men are prepared to talk about it in a way that makes him
seem innocent. Cali understands that a man is always thinking about how to sound perfect. All
of his answers about past women will come off as if he was the victim and old bae was a villain.
Most women want to hear that the man they are crushing on has been the right man for the
wrong woman for all of these years, and finally destiny has brought them to each other. Blah!
These women don’t want to hear the truth about this Blue Chipper being just as flawed as the
girl he chose, just as prone to mistakes as other men, or anything that raises red flags. The same
is true for the ultra-basic question, “So what are you looking for?” Really, bitch? Do you
honestly expect any man to tell you that he’s looking for no strings attached pussy from a
woman that won’t call him too much, over text, or stalk his timeline? Typical women ask typical
questions that men are prepared to answer with preplanned responses that make them sound
great. “But he said he was looking for something serious on our first date, but a month later
that’s not what he seems to want because he hasn’t asked me to be official.” Do you want to be
the moronic woman that says that or do you want to expose the wants of this man in a real
way? It’s all about the line of questions you ask, the more creative the more revealing! Cali is
not a simpleton, and she’s not about to lose the momentum she has and say something that will
make Stephen retreat into his “representative” who says the right things. She wants to see the
real him.
Cali asks, “What’s the closest you ever came to smacking a bitch?” Stephen laughs. Cali
is serious and expands. “I’m talking high school and above, not some little cunt that teased you
in elementary school. Who pushed your buttons to the point that you stepped out of character?”
Stephen will try to be politically correct, and say he would never do that. Cali pushes forward,
“Bored now! C’mon give me some fire, baby.” Cali has just called this man out on several levels.
She’s the Queen waiting to be entertained, and Stephen now feels the pressure to answer. The
problem is this isn’t something he rehearsed. He has to actually think and tell the truth because
there is no time to make up something. Stephen submits and talks about a girl his first year of
college who was the girlfriend of his roommate. She hung in their room all the time, eating their
food, and acting as if she owned the place. Now as Stephen remembers her he starts to get into
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relive that moment. If a man’s eyes doesn’t widen or hands don’t move when telling a story,
he’s making it up. Stephen is actually recalling that moment and Cali feels the realness. Stephen
and this girl got into over her freeloading, and she reacted like a bitch. He wanted to smack the
hell out of her, but it wasn’t worth it in terms of jail or ending his friendship with his roommate.
Cali has him open; it’s not about this college story from years ago. She’s being a therapist,
getting this man comfortable enough to start telling things that are more personal.

Be Oprah, Not Ellen

Cali’s random question now leads into if Stephen really wanted to fuck that girl. Was his anger
really a result of sexual tension? Stephen denies it, saying the girl wasn’t his type. This opens
him up to what his type is without being too forward. Cali doesn’t have to ask, “So what’s your
type?” and have Stephen be PC. By framing it within a past story she can say, “Why wasn’t this
girl your type,” with the focus on that girl yet still telling her how Stephen really feels about all
women. Cali teases, “in college I thought pussy is the default type for men, don’t tell me you
were one of those, I’m looking for wifey types in undergrad?” Again, Cali is challenging
Stephen to be different, not some sweetheart. Men want to be men, but on dates, they are forced
to protect how savage they come off for fear of turning a girl off. Cali is unleashing this man’s
realness by daring him to be a bad boy. Stephen admits he hooked up with a few girls he would
never take home to his mother, and that while his roommate’s girlfriend wasn’t ugly, she didn’t
have the attitude that turned him on. Stephen has been lead to talk, and like any man, he will
explain his wants without any further questions because Cali triggered a topic that this man
actually wants to expand upon. Stephen will go into how he doesn’t like ghetto girls, his
problem with women around his age, and even get on a soapbox about how women today
don’t know how to be women. This isn’t offensive to Cali, because she too knows how annoying
most women can be. She simply sits and nods, allowing Stephen to vent. As he winds down,
Cali hits him again, “What’s the nastiest thing you did in college sexually, and if you say
something corny like doggy style, I’m walking out right now.” Stephen again is faced with a
random question. He was prepared to talk more about his “type” or “attitude” but Cali threw
him a curve ball and made it about sex. Stephen has no idea who this woman is, and he’s
sweating. The waiter comes back for the order; Stephen is saved by the bell.
Stephen loses the bet, by choosing fish. Cali reveals that she’s a lamb girl. Stephen
checks the text with the right answer, and it confirms that she wanted the lamb, no kiss. His
spirits drop, but Cali rubs her foot against his, teasing him, but also giving him some physical
touch that makes it seem as if the door is still open for that kiss. Back to the conversation, Cali
doesn’t care about how nasty Stephen was in college, and the breakup in conversation gave him
time to think about a lie, so she once again goes random. This time it’s about something she
needs to know about his character, as opposed to just warm up questions. Stephen is now
drinking, and it’s time to get deep. Cali doesn’t want to make the same mistakes she made in
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Cali’s relationship history includes two serious boyfriends. The one with the biggest red
flag was her boyfriend of two years who felt held back by being in a relationship. Although he
wasn’t ready to be committed, he knew that was the only way Cali would fuck him, so he gave
her an empty title, which resulted in a hollow relationship that had more downs than ups. Cali
had blamed herself for forcing a man to enter into a relationship when he didn’t want it, and
imagined after the breakup that if she would have lowered her bar and allowed him to play the
role of “friend” with a little sex it could have developed into something stronger. That was old
pre-Spartan Cali; Spartan Cali knows that nothing she could have did would have changed that
man’s inability to be in a loyal monogamous relationship. Her only mistake was picking a
boyfriend whose character she didn’t research. She was too busy being Ellen DeGeneres, fun
loving, sweet, and only asking softball questions that kept things upbeat and chill. As a result,
she got in a relationship with a man that never really wanted her on a deep level. This could
have been prevented if Cali went for the character instead of focusing on the title. Cali back in
those days was working at being the cool, stress free, zero pressure girl that didn’t scare men
off. Thus Cali allowed a non-serious man to give her a non-serious relationship, because in her
mind any relationship meant that she was wanted and that he would act accordingly once in a
relationship. Cali is no longer Ellen she’s Oprah. She’s going to challenge these men to open up,
and reveal their story before she even thinks about a relationship.
Cali becomes the devil’s advocate in order to make Stephen comfortable. “What do you
think about these title chasers?” Stephen has no clue what she’s talking about so Cali continues,
“You know, those girls that live to get a boyfriend so they can say they have a boyfriend. If you
were dating a girl who you wanted to take it slow with, but she was giving you lame ass
ultimatums, would you cave in order to shut her up? …I mean it’s not like the title really mean
anything.” Stephen shakes his head, claiming that he would never be with someone he didn’t
really want to be with and that no woman can force anything on him. Cali retorts, “I mean if it
was me with the dick and Jhené Aiko was Bae chasing, I’d tell her I would be her white knight,
fuck her, and then bounce.” Cali seems serious, she’s selling that her way is the smart way. At
the same time, she’s being totally understanding of a man’s right to put sex first. Now it’s on
Stephen to answer honestly knowing that he has an out. He could continue to say that he
wouldn’t compromise the title for sex, or he can be peer pressured into saying, he’d fuck and
run because it is just a title. There is no right or wrong answer, only the truth that will tell Cali
about Stephen’s true character.
Stephen remains true to himself. He says the pussy isn’t worth giving someone the title.
He takes the title serious; he’s not the type to call just anyone his girlfriend. This is the answer
Cali was hoping for, and now that Stephen is vulnerable, it’s time to go in for the kill. “Where
did you go wrong in your last relationship?” Cali needs to be giving out cars to the audience,
that’s how fucking Oprah she is right now. It’s not about his ex-girl, how they met, how long it
lasted, or any generic question. It’s about the ultimate job interview question most people
struggle with: What are your weaknesses. Stephen is exposed, and there is no way to retreat with
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of the relationship ending, or the outside forces involved. The one and only question is where
did he go wrong. At this moment, Cali has full control over this date. Not once has she talked
about her exes, her job, her family, none of that bullshit chitchat, it’s all been about Stephen’s
life. She slowly built up from small random questions that told a little and patiently built it up
to a big question that tells a lot.

Intermission
The arrival of the main course is the best time to call a truce and let the man breath. Therefore,
Cali prepares to dig into the Mahi-mahi dish that she would have never ordered, and calls a
mental timeout. At this point in the date, it’s not about Cali eating, telling Stephen how good his
dish looks, or complaining to the waiter about something being wrong. That’s all surface level
bullshit interaction. The real goal of this timeout is to ask, “Do I still like him.” That question is
something that many women are afraid to ask, but Cali can’t afford to waste her time trying to
make a man fit because he looks good. The first half of the date, from the restaurant selection, to
the way he answered those random questions, finally to the way he opened up about his
weakness in his last relationship, lead her to this moment, “Do I still like him?” When asked
“Where did you go wrong in your last relationship,” Stephen opened up about his past,
admitting that he didn’t always make as much time as he should have with his ex-girlfriend
because of his transition from junior to lead account manager was stressful. It wasn’t so much
his job, but his own obsession to do good that caused him to shut her out. He didn’t drag his ex
about being needy, Stephen took the bullet and confessed that he has to work on letting people
in even when he’s stressed and stop trying to carry it all inside. That was Stephen’s “weakness”
answer, which proved to be an honest response that wasn’t rehearsed because he was not
expecting a question about his own flaws.
When women talk about dating requiring too much “energy” it’s because most of them
pour themselves into every man 100%. Cali hasn’t given Stephen anything but flirty texts, a cute
phone call, playful icebreaking, and a series of questions. Unlike typical women she hasn’t over
shared, there has been very little emotional energy spent in terms of conversation. Stephen on
the other hand has been forced to open up. Cali isn’t in the habit of allowing a man to be
emotionally unavailable; thus, she cracked him open thirty minutes into the date. Now at this
intermission Cali will chose to put energy into Stephen by sharing a little bit more of who she is,
a reward for being honest. Alternatively, she could chose to just keep things light, finish her
food, and decide that the things Stephen has shared aren’t in line with what she’s looking for in
a mate. Ultimately, Cali is in control of going left, meaning blowing her date off, or going right
meaning that she continues to invest in her date as if he could be something real.

Going Left

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Let’s say that Stephen answered all the inquiries in a way that turned Cali off. He had long
pauses before speaking, seemed annoyed with her questions, and was dodgy with his answers.
When she hits the intermission part of the date what does she do? You can’t just get up and
leave, it’s not as if he disrespected or offended her to the point where she can’t enjoy the meal
and exit gracefully. The dislike level on a date is rarely going to be extremely negative like in
the movies where a man puts his feet on the table, calls the waiter something racist, and
demands the woman to order a salad appetizer as her entrée. Hell Dates aside, you have to be
prepared to judge this man hard on how honest and forthcoming he is being with the small
things. Most likely, the dislike is subtle, not in a petty, “I don’t like men that chew with their
mouths open,” or “He didn’t pull my seat out for me, that’s a deal breaker,” way that women
who are just looking for excuses not to date tend to use. Real life dislike could be something like
Stephen saying something offensive about the girl he wanted to smack, maybe about her race,
skin complexion, or weight. It could be about Stephen confessing that if a girl is ready to give
herself away just for a title, he’d take it, she’s the dumb ass that’s prostituting herself for the
label of girlfriend. Finally it could be one of the most common reasons I’ve seen women give in
terms of turn offs, cockiness. That final question about weakness could have been answered not
with honesty and humility, but with, “I didn’t do anything wrong, the problem isn’t with me,
it’s with the way the internet is raising these chicks to want too much. You work hard and give
your all to these broads and they expect you to lay up under them and not live your life!” If
Stephen had let his ego and elite attitude throw himself a pity party that would have
automatically shown Cali that their personalities were going to clash down the line. Yes they
could finish the date with no problem, go on another, even have sex, but in the end she can’t
stand a man that thinks his shit doesn’t stink, so it’s best to stop at one date with a man like this
rather than risk him hanging around and growing on her.
So at intermission Cali asked, “Do I still like him,” and the answer was a “not really.”
Cali is being honest. She wants to like him because he’s handsome, funny, and has his life going
in the right direction, but he’s not it, so fuck him. The rest of the date plays out with less
random questions that dig, and moves into general chitchat. Cali no longer needs to interview
this potential employee; no way is he getting the job. Nevertheless, she’s taken this break in her
schedule so she’s going to enjoy the entertainment of general conversation and this free meal.
Going Left, Cali talks about basic shit just to get a giggle, TV shows, his opinion on Amber and
Wiz, or whatever is topical in entertainment. By the time the meal ends, Cali won’t have shared
anything too deep or feel as if she spent energy and should at least give him a second chance.
The date died at the intermission, this is just the funeral. By the time she gets in her Uber she
won’t be thinking of Stephen, he’s literally dead. Alternatively, if Cali was feeling frisky she
could use this dead date as practice. It’s always smart to test out new tricks and new ways to
flirt with men who don’t mean anything. When you have reached a point in the date when you
know you will not go out with the man again, it becomes like a comedian at an open mic, just
trying out new material to prepare for the real gig down the line. Cali and Stephen share laughs,
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he’ll set something up for the weekend… little does he know that all he will get is a hug and,
“I’ll call you.” Stephen will be blocked the next morning. Cali doesn’t date for potential; she has
to feel that fire throughout.

Going Right
Let’s go the alternative route, where our guy Stephen has answered the same way as earlier in
this chapter. He has been honest, funny, and showed vulnerability. Cali asks herself at the
intermission, “Do I still like him,” and the answer is, “I like him even more.” This is what we
call a “Good Date,” in Sparta. So many people say the date was good based on basic shit or the
fact that he didn’t do something ignorant or come off as cheap. It is not about a man holding
serve by being entertaining while you get to eat food; it’s about him being impressive and
candid. Has this man shown signs of being different from the rest? Yes. Stephen has answered
every question with flying colors so now it’s up to Cali to keep the positive energy flowing in a
different direction. The entire date can’t be a series of random questions, it’s about vetting
character always, but there is also a need to see if you connect. Cali isn’t a serious person, she’s
serious about her heart and whom she lets in, but she loves to have fun in general. It’s time to
give Stephen glimpses of the things she’s passionate about, to see if there is something in
common besides sexual chemistry. Music is big in Cali’s life more so than movies or TV. Cali’s a
book nerd; she’s always reading things about spirituality. Her goofy side revolves around her
love of ratchet vine videos. Her celebrity Stan relationship is with Chris Brown who she will
never say a cross word about no matter what bitch he has to lay hands on. These are all the
random things that make up the everyday Cali. She doesn’t know what the top movie at the box
office is, who won the Super bowl, nor is she up on any racially charge political movements.
The next part of the date will lay the foundation for future dates in terms of is there real
chemistry. Which of Cali’s passions interest Stephen? Which of Stephen’s passions interest Cali?
What can Cali teach Stephen? What can Cali learn from Stephen? This is the next hurdle to see
how far Stephen makes it after this date.
As Cali waits for the waiter to bring her fresh pepper for her bland ass fish, she poses the
question, “Three songs on repeat for an entire five hour flight. Which ones would you pick?” A
music head can’t be with someone who would put Young Thug on their playlist above Tupac or
The Beatles, so Cali waits for Stephen to finish chewing and answer. He begins to smile because
he’s afraid to be judged, but he goes for it. Two rap songs that Cali’s never heard of and Marvin
Gaye and Tammi Terrell’s “You’re All I Need to Get By,” this is the track that leads to further
discussion. Once again, Stephen opens up about real shit, how it reminds him of his mother as
opposed to a romantic relationship because she would always listen to it when he was younger.
They then get into the old versus new debate, what era had the best music... Finally ending on
Stephen reversing it back on Cali about her favorite songs. Music talk doesn’t fizzle out, it goes
from learning to debating, to each suggesting albums the other should listen to immediately. By
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topics. Cali just finished reading The Tipping Point, she throws that out as a feeler, and Stephen
suggests that she reads The New Jim Crow. Stephen gives a rundown of the theme, and she can
tell he has a lot to teach her about this area of sociology. Things are going great, but Cali isn’t
about to sit on a four hour dinner date.
There’s a lot more to be talked about that hasn’t even been touched, and even though
Cali finds Stephen easy to talk to and fun, she knows that those discussions needs to be saved
for later. Always leave a man wanting more, not struggling to think of more to say once you’ve
exhausted the conversation. Cali doesn’t have work the next day, but she’s created a busy
morning scenario. She has to be up at the crack of dawn, so she needs to go. Stephen, like any
man, will try to squeeze more time in. Cali hasn’t said anything sexual, shared anything deeper
than her love of music, but here this man is wanting to cage her all night. Cali is in control and
Stephen is smitten. He hasn’t gotten her open yet, and he knows it. If men fail to enchant on the
level they are used to enchanting they will always want to keep going until they win. Male ego
is fueled by the sense of winning every time out, but no matter how “perfect” Stephen is, this
game was rigged. Cali had no intention of letting him win no matter how smooth, honest, and
open he came off. Cali sees the sadness in his eyes, rubs his hands, and says, “Next week I’ll
pick the place, and I’ll make sure I don’t have a curfew.” Kill shot. She’s like a Marvel Comics
movie, just when you think it’s over; seeds are laid for the upcoming sequel. Stephen can dig
that, and the no curfew line makes him think “pussy next time” so now in addition to enjoying
her company he has the motivation of possibly enjoying her body if he repeats this
performance. This dog isn’t quite on the leash, but he has just been collared.

Wrap It Up
A man is water, your personality is Kool-Aid, and sexual chemistry is the sugar. At the end of
the date, if things have gone great, there has to be a moment when you solidify the idea that
you would fuck him by mixing in the sugar. The bill comes. Stephen grabs it to see the damage.
Spartan Cali doesn’t reach to pay half or offer a tip. This is the first date, it’s on Stephen to roll
out the carpet, and therefore any generosity on Cali’s end has to be held back until at least the
third date. Cali does what any woman should, she says “Thank you, baby,” and smiles. That
thank you goes a long way. Cali exits to the restroom while Stephen pays the bill and figures
out the tip. Cali hasn’t decided if she’s going to kiss Stephen or not, but she’s going to make
sure her breath is fresh just in case. She exits the restroom, and asks Stephen if he’s ready. The
two exits. Stephen doesn’t know how Cali got to the restaurant and offers to walk her to the car.
Cali tells him that her Uber ride will be there soon. The truth is she hasn’t even ordered it yet.
Cali wants at least ten minutes to pour her sugar on him.
Outside, Cali declines Stephen offer to drive her, again she doesn’t know this man
enough to be allowing him to pop up at her crib. Not to be mean, Cali moves in closer to him,
“I’m fine, but you can keep me warm while we wait.” When two mutually attractive men and
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an arm around Cali; again, he’s trying to be a gentleman. Cali moves even closer, her arms
folded at her stomach, she pushes against his chest and lays a head on his shoulder. To wrap
her arms around Stephen and stare into his face while talking would be too much for a first
date, and at this point Cali isn’t sure that she truly is that dick disciplined to walk away if things
get too heavy. This position puts them close, the bodies are jumping, but it’s not overly sexual.
From here, Cali begins to reward Stephen for the date. Men have egos, if they spend any
amount of money without getting anything physical a part of them will question if this was a
hustle. Cali isn’t running Ho Game, but Stephen doesn’t know this. With her head nuzzled on
his shoulder, Cali begins to tell Stephen how fun it was. She really feels as if they connected and
that he’s interesting. Cali is sure to use the key words, “Connect,” “Fun,” “Interesting,” because
that’s what men want. They want to be a good time, they want to be unique in their
presentation, and they want to feel as if a woman felt a deeper connection. Cali didn’t find out
the meaning of fucking life from this dude, but that’s not the point. This is an ego stroke done
with her body close to his dick. Cali is taming the snake by going through the earlobes instead
of the zipper, and that’s what makes her so good at what she does.
After Cali and Stephen gas each other about how great the date went, Cali waits for the
sign to go. The sign is either going to be verbal or physical. The verbal sign would be Stephen
waking up from the daze and asking about the Uber location. The physical is when a man loses
all track of time and is praying that the car doesn’t show up because he believes he’s a minute
away from getting her to come back to the crib. Stephen has been chatting with Cali for about
ten minutes and now he’s taken to moving his hands lower and lower, finally he goes in and
squeezes her butt. Cali doesn’t slap his hands off; she has to make this man believe that his foot
is in the door. She giggles at the ass grab, “Is it soft enough for you?” This makes Stephen
believe he’s in there, but Cali breaks the moment by “suddenly” remembering that she never hit
the button for the Uber. She steps away and reorders, apologizing that she had him waiting for
nothing. Stephen is good with waiting, he thinks Cali is going to go back to snuggling up, but
she’s not. She just gave this man as much as she’s willing to give for a meal. Stephen’s body is
on fire. Cali’s smell, the way her body heat made his dick get rock hard, and finally the touch of
her booty, it’s too much to contain, but he has to because Cali is in control.
The car arrives and Cali gives Stephen a deep hug. She already knows that he’s going to
go in for a kiss. Cali isn’t above a kiss, but she can’t have him trying to steal control at the end.
Cali quickly pecks Stephen on the lips. Stephen wants to keep going. Cali smiles, gives one
quicker peck, and pulls away as if it’s breaking her heart to do so. “Next time…” Cali backs
away still smiling at him, and then enters the car. She controlled that goodnight kiss because
she moved first and moved fast. Stephen knows that Cali likes him, he feels as if he’s one more
night away from having her, and any thoughts of her “bluffing” are long gone. This is all a
mindfuck, Cali does like him but he’s nowhere close to fucking, he’s on her string and over the
next weeks she’s going to keep pulling until he reveals who he truly is.

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Any decent man is going to hit a girl up to make sure she arrived safely, but this is never to be
used to have an After-Date. Text conversations about, “Did you make it home,” shouldn’t last
more than two texts. Cali made it home, she’s not going to front, this date was better than she
thought it would be; she’s actually excited… and a bit moist. However, this is just the first lap;
there have been people who have failed after this point so she can’t get ahead of herself.
Stephen texts her that he’s home and asks if she’s in bed? Cali responds that she is, thanks him
again, kiss emoji. Stephen is home alone with a hard dick; he’s going to try to test the waters. “I
didn’t want to leave tbh.” Cali can’t just ignore as if she suddenly feel asleep, she responds.
“Don’t worry I’m not going anywhere, sexy.” Followed up by a final good night text. That
“good night” is a door. Stephen can respond back, but it’s clear that good night is Cali’s final
words for the night. Cali isn’t going to be able to go to sleep, she’s revved up, but she’ll chill out
and stay away from social media. She doesn’t know if Stephen is up e-stalking, but she isn’t
going to suddenly pop online tweeting about how her date was great or what kind of meal she
ate. Not only is there no need to e-brag about basic shit, there is no need to let a man know that
he blew your mind to the point where you’re on Instagram all smiles because of him. Cali is
going to lay back, chill, and get ready mentally for the next part of the game.

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Chapter 4:
Mastering the First Date

C
an you do what Cali just did? I’m not talking about the specifics of where she went,
what she wore, or the questions she asked. Can you stay in control, set the tempo while
on the date, remain offensive, peel those onion layers back, expose him as a turn off or
even more of a turn on, seduce him, and then walk away without compromising that control?
That’s what a first date should be, and it doesn’t take much effort if you remember that Spartans
are effortless in their ability to show personality and speak up. None of these things requires
being overly intelligent or even quick witted. It depends on knowing the points to hit as laid out
above. Hitting those things from A-Z will open any man up in short time. I’m going to recap the
big points you need to hit once again, but this time using your own self-doubt to show you how
easy it is to dominate any man on your first date.

Date Goal: Be Sexy

Rebuttal: But I’m Not Sexy
If you don’t see yourself as anything special then why the fuck would anyone else? I’m not
promoting unrealistic thoughts like “all women are equally pretty,” I’m promoting realistic
thoughts that you aren’t competing with other women of the world, only the woman looking
back at you in the mirror. Your feelings on your reflection is the only thing you need to win
over. The goal isn’t to hold yourself up against Scarlett Johansson and take a poll on who men
think looks the best. The goal is to appreciate your brand of sexy. Not every woman has a
Spartan mindset when it comes to their physical appearance, it may be one of the hardest things
to develop, but it must be done. Being unhappy with your look will sabotage this entire mission
because you will feel awkward instead of sexy. When you feel awkward, you hold back. When
you hold back, you come off basic. We do not date with that weak bitch outlook on physical
appearance, so no matter how long it takes for you to fall in love with that person staring back
at you in the mirror, put in that time!
The first thing Cali hit on day one was her look. In terms of actual outfit, Cali dressed in
a way that made her sexiness obvious, tight clothes, tall heels, boobies sitting in a way that says,
“Put them in your mouth, big boy.” That was on purpose. Cali knows how her body looks, she
accentuated the positives and hid those parts she still is trying to chisel, but if she were to check
that mirror, all she saw was the bad bitch parts. Some women dress for a date the same way
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leave it.” That’s a cop out. Dressing in a way that makes you feel like a Queen is just as
important as acting like a Queen. Key word being “you.” I don’t want you rushing out and
buying some Instagram thot dress because you think men want that, forget the men, it’s about
you expressing your own version of sexy. When you look in that mirror with the clothes you
think are cute enough to hang with Karen, that isn’t the same feeling you get when you look in
that mirror wearing an outfit you would rock to a Diddy’s party. For those of you who aren’t
Fashionistas don’t skip this step because you don’t want to invest time and money into dressing
up. It’s just a date, but you need your armor to be that of a slayer not someone’s sister.
Makeup products are at an all-time high, not because women need it more than any
other time in history, it’s because just like cellphones, the innovations being done are incredible.
Do not think of makeup as hiding. If you have bags under your eyes that you hate or scars that
take your own opinion down a notch, cover it! If that gets you mentally where you need to be
on this date, use it because your own mind is where the battle takes place. However, don’t use
makeup as a crutch. If you’re only covering things for fear of a man’s opinion knowing that
your blemishes don’t bother you or that your nose being contoured doesn’t make you feel any
different, then you’re placating. If you are comfortable in your skin then show up without the
concealer because if you love it, fuck what he thinks. This is you 24-7, so better he see it now
than be surprised later. The point is to be armed for that first date with a look that makes you as
confident as possible, but that real confidence should already be in place.

Date Goal: Protect Your Privacy

Rebuttal: But I’m Okay with Him Picking Me Up
A big rule my female friends have is, “these niggas aren’t seeing my crib, I don’t know if he’s
crazy yet.” That’s a great rule because access to someone’s home can lead to problems if the
date doesn’t go well and your suitor isn’t mentally stable. If you have a car, it’s better to meet
up at the location. Spending money on gas is a small price to pay for privacy. Someone popping
up on you because you block them after the first or second date is not a situation that I want any
woman to experience. Some of you live in cities where you don’t need cars to get to work;
others don’t have vehicles in the budget. Don’t feel ashamed if you do not have a car. Cali’s
example shows you how easy it is to still date. A lot of dating anxiety comes from women not
feeling as if they are not on “that level” where a man would want them in terms of money and
possession. Men do not give a damn about you not having a car, unless they are bums looking
to get rides or get you to come through late night so he doesn’t have to spend his gas money.
Don’t let society force you to refuse a date because you don’t have transportation, nor should
you depend on men to pick you up and drop you off and sacrifice your privacy. Taxis are in
every city. Uber is even cheaper. Having a friend drop you off doesn’t make you look young.
There are alternatives that protect your home life, so never feel cornered it you don’t drive.
Let’s say you do have a car, but you prefer the man to come pick you up like in an
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your personality. I don’t want to make it seem as if all men are going to be waiting to Sharon
Tate you the night after your date. There are more sane people than lunatics, so if you are
comfortable and prefer the traditional, “Meet me at my address, bring flowers” method you are
allowed to do that. In this case, the only thing that changes is that you don’t arrive late and see
how he responds to waiting. When he arrives at your house, be ready. This isn’t prom; he
doesn’t have to park, come in, and talk to your parents. This man may not make it to a second
date, so avoid any family or roommate introductions that don’t have to be made. He can meet
you at the door, walk you to his car, open the door, and drive off. Treat actual entry to your
house, apartment, trailer, bando, or wherever you live, as special. A man only enters if he earns
it later on, not the first night because he has to use the bathroom.

Date Goal: Break the Ice

Rebuttal: But How Do I Break The Ice If…
There are dozens of different date scenarios that don’t have a clear start like the beginning of a
meal. Even at a dinner date, it may not be in your character to create a fun game like, “guess my
order for a treat.” Before we get into variations of how to break the ice, understand why you
must break the ice. As a man that’s been on various levels of dates, from girls that I wanted
more than oxygen to girls that were only pussy, there is always nerves. A man that thinks you
may be “The One” is just as masked as a man trying to fuck and fallback. Removing that mask
by taking things from formal to casual early on will help make it easier for him to open up.
Even if you’ve talked when you first exchanged numbers, and talked when setting the date, you
are still strangers. I had a woman who spent an hour at a BBQ talking to a guy, and then their
actual date was horribly dry. Don’t get cocky and think that the date is just a continuation of
what you talked about when you first met. The stakes have changed! He doesn’t know what
you really think of him, therefore he has to come off the best way possible to either get sex or
get you on his team. Who is this woman, and how do I act around her to impress? That’s the anxiety
that men don’t talk about because we have to seem as if we are cooler than a cucumber in
Calgary. Just like Cali put Stephen at ease before digging into his psyche, you have to literally
make that man feel as if he has nothing to worry about, while still using that nervous energy as
fuel for you to tease him. A great dentist develops a gift for chitchat because a comfortable
patient allows that dentist to stick that needle in their mouth without even realizing they were
being suckered into opening wide. You are about to molest a man’s brain, that takes relaxation
on his part, via your sly disposition.
Improvising will be a big part of any date, so be prepared to break the ice no matter the
scenario. Let’s go back to the date where he would pick you up from home. If it’s about twenty
minutes to get to the restaurant then that’s twenty minutes you use to break the ice. Don’t sit
there listening to music talking about how your day went, that’s nothing more than
pleasantries. “Do you let women drive your car and by women I mean me later tonight?” That
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it’s just something fun to say to get him loose about a subject most men enjoy—cars. If you two
are at a bowling alley just drinking, then break the ice by giving the game steaks like, “Loser has
to give a lap dance to the winner right in front of all these people.” You two could meet at a
park to walk and grab a snack, use your environment to spark an initial silly conversation that
shows him this isn’t some serious meeting. There is no such thing as being too goofy at first
because as the conversation continues you will show your serious side. Walking through that
park and asking to hear his best Squirrel Call doesn’t make you seem crazy, it makes him know
that it’s okay to drop that cool and call out to that dirty ass Squirrel. If you’re wearing
something revealing, don’t let it be an elephant in the room. If the girls are being displayed with
insane cleavage, own up to it, “If one pops out, will you tell me or just throw it back in the
shirt?” If you have a wagon behind you, don’t make it awkward, you already know he sees all
that ass so make it fun. “If my dress gets stuck in my booty, you have permission to pull it out.”
It’s all about making the mood light, so he doesn’t feel like a stranger.
The same works the opposite way when going from a guy that’s too lighthearted trying
to get him to take you seriously. Most men are jokers by nature, so if you have a guy that’s
being overly clownish to try and win you over, let him know it’s okay to drop the Kevin Hart
shtick. Let’s say that you are grabbling cocktails with a guy that is hitting you with joke after
joke, trying way too hard to win you over via the funny bone. Counter that humor with
something real. “I bet you’re the type that only calls his mother once a week,” he’ll joke that he
calls her so much that she threatened to block him. Follow up and ask about that relationship,
how they get along. Things like family are serious, and even a clown will take off his red nose to
tell you that his mother has been his rock or to regret that he and his mother don’t get along.
The Ice breaking doesn’t always need to be silly it can also be heartfelt. If this man says he and
his mother don’t talk, don’t bring up the pain, show him that it’s all good, “Her lost, more of
your time for me, right?” There is no need to pry or get out the violins. You see an opportunity
to connect and be a friend, go for it in a warm way. Humans react to kindness in a positive way
even if they don’t verbalize it, a minute later he’s thinking, “She’s a cool,” and now he doesn’t
need to try so hard to be hilarious so you like him, he can be free to be a bit more real.
If you’re on any date, there will always be that opportunity within the first ten minutes
to break a man from his cool, fact. I can give you examples to use, but there is no definitive
script to read off because your personality and the date background have to allow you to do this
step organically. Please don’t get to a point where you get lazy and say, “I cracked a joke, the ice
seems broken, let me just move on to other steps.” Remind yourself about my Dentist metaphor.
You need to unwind a man in a real way that makes him comfortable, so he can open up later
on. If a man doesn’t fully break, it’s most likely because he’s a serious type. A guy who remains
stone faced in the lobby of a movie theater after you dare him to throw popcorn at the next
person that walks by, is probably a stick in the mud all the time. A guy who doesn’t want to
agree to any bets, because he’s not a betting man, is probably a hardcore conservative. There’s
nothing wrong with that. Maybe a serious man compliments you better. Remember, a man not
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way you reveal his personality and are able to lead him accordingly. Everything you do on this
date will tell you who this man is, even something as silly as ice breaking. Go for it, commit to
your idea, and then make note of his reaction because it can and will be used later on.

Date Goal: Stay Sharp

Rebuttal: I Love To Drink
Drinking calms nerves, unwinds, and drops inhibitions in a short period. It also slows thoughts
and disrupts your train of thought. So what’s more important, feeling “nice” or being on your A
game? This isn’t a social visit with an old friend, a celebration with girlfriends, or any other
excuse to get buzzed. This man is a stranger who you’re trying to unravel by using your wits,
why the hell would you want to dull them. I get it, drinking is fun and you can hold your liquor
no matter if we’re talking shots or Tequila or sipping glasses of Prosecco. Don’t get cocky.
Although you may not be the type of chick that would ever get thot sloppy in front of new
company, the real damage comes when you start feeling warm, he starts smiling hard, and the
pleasure side of the brain gets you too open. Instead of being on offense, you’re now on defense
as he distracts you from your mission in order to bring you back to the world of a typical date,
where he sets the questions and controls the sexual innuendo. Next thing you know you’re
talking too much about your last date and hinting about the last guy that broke your heart. Men
are used to girls talking too fucking much, although annoying, it proves that she’s comfortable
and he’s that much closer to the pussy without having to weed through a bunch of invasive
questions. No matter how much you study this guide, understand that you may be one and a
half drinks from transforming back to that girl who spills her soul about what guy did horrible
things to her in the past. What people hate on her daily. The drama with various sides of your
family. How you hate dating and just want a relationship but can’t find a good man. Don’t
become some pathetic half-drunk that exposes your flaws because you can’t say “no” to alcohol.
The risk is not worth the reward. Buy a bottle and have it waiting at home, if you’re that
concerned with drinking.

Date Goal: Don’t Pay For Shit

Rebuttal: But I Feel Guilty Spending a Man’s Money
Cali’s date didn’t show any internal dialogue about what to order or being prepared to offer
money when the check comes. Spartans don’t think about money, they expect what they want
to be paid for, to have free range to order whatever on the menu, and knows any man who
objects to any of those things is automatically disqualified. Let me delve into it regardless
because this is a touchy subject for women who refuse to think like a Spartan or even with the
mentality of a Smart Ho. You are the woman, even if you pushed for the date, you don’t take a
man out, that man takes you out. Oh, you said, “Hey, let’s meet at Cheesecake Factory, when
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the idea of equality to be cheap or downplay the tradition of being a gentleman. I believe that
woman and men are equal, and that a woman doesn’t need a man to do anything for her
because she can do it on her own. However, we’re not talking about work politics or social
dynamics. We are focused on courting, and in terms of romance, traditions like a man opening a
door, treating a woman on that date, and getting down on one knee to propose, stand the test of
time no matter how independent the woman. A man doesn’t need to pay your way and take
care of everything on a date; he should want to in order to show you that you are worth that
effort in his eyes. When a man wants a woman, the effort will always come off as effortless!
There is no debate about price or who did what. If he takes you to a movie, he pays for both
tickets. If he takes you to a dinner, he pays for that meal and he had better leave a good tip. If he
takes you Go Kart racing, he buys those laps. Not because he expects pussy or a kiss at the end
of the night, but because he sees you as a beautiful woman and wants to express his
appreciation. Those men who are only doing things to get a return on an investment are bums,
and they don’t deserve to date a Lady they deserve to be mindfucked by a Ho for all he’s worth.
It may appeal to your nurturing side to help in some way to show him you aren’t a Ho
that wants to eat on a man’s dime. There’s this sense of guilt that some women have because
although they aren’t using a man, they feel as if they are exploiting him when they accept
special treatment. You like him but you know that you may not even reward him with even a
kiss, and that makes you feel as if you’re doing something trifling. It’s called a date, ladies. A
man is trying to win your approval by going beyond what other men are doing. In return, all he
gets is your company. To date a guy you don’t really find attractive or feel zero sparks with,
that would be using a man. In this case, there is some sort of attraction, some chance, so erase
that weak bitch thought that you’re a bad girl for ordering a $40 entrée and not putting twenty
up. Do not push that guilt down, eliminate it all together. You deserve to be treated. It’s not
your job to earn brownie points from a man, to show him how nice you are, or how different
you are from other women. “So many girls just want to use a man to go out, I have my own. I
will show him that it’s not about his money.” What the fuck are you smoking? You’re letting
your own ego get in the way of romance. You’re letting your heart interfere with your brain,
because you are tied to this idealism that if you act low maintenance that you will be respected.
If you act low maintenance, you become low maintenance, and you will never raise
above that in his mind. Don’t believe me? Still want to play the role of Socialist Dater, go test it
out. Offer to buy the popcorn because he got the tickets. Pay the tip because he treated you to a
meal. The first round of drinks was on him, the next is on you. Watch how that becomes a habit
for the rest of the relationship once you set that standard. We’ve already established that men
are already trying to get more for less by nature, to introduce yourself under the guise of
helping him pay for things on the first date is an irreversible mistake. He’s going to get pussy
and half off these dates, shit in a few months he may even start getting free meals all together.
Stop trying to prove that you have it to spend, and allow him to prove that he believes in you
enough to spend! You don’t train a worker on the cash register, then say, “Do the first five
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job. Train that man to date you as if you are special, not Go Dutch Diane, and watch how that
treatment translate to other areas of the relationship. You can’t promote yourself as a prize then
automatically give yourself a discount. Set that price on the first date and keep it.

Date Goal: Let Him Talk

Rebuttal: But the Conversation Stalls
Shut up and listen. That’s the best advice anyone could ever give you about life in general, but
how many of you actually do this? I was at my grandmother’s home and both of my aunts came
into the living room to talk to me. They asked me a question about Los Angeles, and by the time
I was half way through my answer, one aunt was talking about something she heard about LA
on TV. Before she could complete that mini-story, my other Aunt interrupted her and brought
up her co-worker’s husband’s opinion on LA. What followed was two grown women talking
above each other about something they wanted me to talk about. My Granny looked over to me
and gave a slight eye roll. That is the habit of many women, young and old. They want to be
heard, more than they want to listen. When you’re on a date, you don’t want to be boring or
seem too shy. However, the alternative isn’t to just keep talking. Most women who over-talk do
so because they have all this stuff bottled up that they never get to talk about. I did this… I’m the
type that... I once went… That wouldn’t have been me because I… Let me tell you what I would have
done if… I know a person who… People love to turn other people’s stories and anecdotes back on
themselves in general. Don’t be the woman that stops a man mid-story when he’s talking about
Cancun, to say, “Oh, I went there to, I loved it. We stayed at…” He doesn’t give a fuck. A man
is trying to share his experience with you. That experience could reveal character traits about
him if you listen. If you hijack his story then he shuts up and lets you go on about your
experience. Now, instead of letting him open up and learn, it becomes a trip comparison as
opposed to character study. There will be a time to interject your own life story later, but never
do it at the expense of your mission.
The next chapter goes into the ends and outs of asking random or indirect questions that
Cali used to open Stephen up. For now let’s focus on the silence that may set in on your date if
you ask a question that doesn’t warrant a long response or you’re face with uncomfortable
silence anytime during the date. Remember that men like to talk too! If you haven’t experienced
this in your life, then you probably talk too damn much and don’t promote an environment
where guys feel comfortable talking to you. I have a friend who is very quiet and laid back, but
ask him about 90’s hip hop and he will not only talk about that subject, he will engage others
about their opinions, sometimes to debate sometimes to listen. His introverted side fades away
the moment you give him a bone he likes to chew on. Every man has triggers that make him
open up and show his insight on certain subjects. A male’s position when on a date isn’t to open
up about the things he’s passionate about, he simply wants to get through the date having made
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All of the steps I’m telling you to do on a date, men do these things naturally, which is
why they end up getting so much easy pussy without ever opening up! The biggest one is, “Let
her talk,” because for a man to set a woman off about her ex-boyfriend, her job, her family, even
her opinion on Kim Kardashian, takes the pressure off of him to impress. 9 out of 10 of you
reading this could date yourself, that’s how much you talk. Meaning that you go out, a guy asks
some trivial questions, tells a joke or two, and then triggers a big issue that has you reading
your biography. A girl will go back home after the date and be on cloud nine, “Oh he
understood me,” he didn’t understand shit; all he did was nod his head in a positive direction
while you talked and talked and talked. When you came up for air with a, “So what do you
think,” all he had to do was check you with a, “You were right, I don’t know why they treated
you like that… you still talk to them?” That sends you back into more of the same story that no
one gives a fuck about. Women don’t remember any of that, they just remember that a man was
receptive and attribute that to her being so interesting. …there was nothing interesting said,
he’s playing the same role I’m attempting to get you to now play.
Here’s a real life example. I have a friend who was nervous about a date where he and
this extremely pretty girl had agreed to get drinks. This girl lives in LA and is what people call
“internet” famous because of her looks. I told my buddy the same thing I’m telling you: Let
them do the talking and see how much they love you by the end of the night for letting them
talk. My friend asked two questions that night, one regarding the girl’s son and the other about
the last guy she was dating. The son question only lasted for a few minutes, most likely because
she didn’t want to bring her little boy up and begin to miss him, or make herself seem un-sexy
because here she is a mom on a date talking about mom things. The conversation hit a hiccup,
the son inquiry went nowhere, and it left my friend staring at his drink struggling to come up
with something witty to say. He later told me that I popped up in his head like Obi Wan
Kenobi, and he actually thought, “NC would say something crazy.” He did just that, I can’t
remember the specific question he asked but it revolved around her last relationship. The mood
changed instantly. This girl poured out her feelings on that guy, transitioned into modern men
wanting to be your boyfriend physically but not in title, and then by the time the drinks kicked
in she was even talking about how the sex was weak but the head made her cum. They literally
went from silence to her sharing stories about what it takes to make her cum. By the end of the
night, my friend had his hands on her ass, telling her how he would treat her so much better
than that last dude. His game was not built on anything he said, it was built on him listening to
see what this woman needed out of life, nodding his head in agreement, and then once her
guard was down he invaded her personal space and made her feel special.
This is what most men do. They shut up and listen! As a result of listening, they figure
out the best way to endear themselves to that woman. By the time a woman goes home, she’s
under the impression that she found a man that gets her, is sweet, and inspiring. All based on
him listening and feeding her what she wanted to hear in terms of, “That’s fucked up… I can’t
believe he did that… then what happened… that dude’s crazy; I would never have reacted like
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emotional bond. He looked good, he took you out, and he was easy to talk to… Check. Check.
Check! This is perfect! You found Mr. Right, drop the balloons, and unfreeze your eggs! In
reality, you just went on a date with yourself, and this man didn’t prove a damn thing. All you
wanted was a therapy session that ended with someone kissing your neck and telling you how
sexy you are. That’s not how a Spartan dates! A Spartan uses that same technique and flips it on
a man, because while men know how it looks to pull it off, they have no clue how it looks when
it’s being pulled on them.
When you go out you are going to do what my friend did. You will hit roadblocks
where your first question misses and reveals nothing. Don’t choke and go on the defensive. A
man will respond to his dry answer with panic, “Shit, that wasn’t very interesting; let me ask
her about Drake so we can get back on track.” Don’t let a drop in conversation serve as a change
in who controls the conversation. Let’s say that you two have a good laugh about something
fun, then after that laughter, it’s quiet. He asks you about the last time you went on a date. How
do you respond? Tina Typical will go into detail breaking down the guy, the date, how she felt,
and forty minutes later when you finally finish your dissertation; he has enough knowledge to
push more triggers that keep you going. This is Sparta, therefore you respond with, “It wasn’t
that interesting actually. Oh! Tell me the worst date you’ve ever been on.” That’s how you
redirect a question and get him talking again about something that could be fun. The same
thing goes for general conversation. Let’s say your topic of Lil Wayne doesn’t go anywhere,
grab his hand. “Let me see your thumbs… Weak! You must didn’t grow up a gamer. I was the
Queen of Goldeneye.” If he’s a video game geek, he will go HAM trying to dismiss your diss. If
he was never into games, he’ll tell you what he spent his free time doing. Be ready to flow form
topic to topic, like a professional. That’s how you control these men even when faced with a
drop off in conversation. There is always something to be said so long as you don’t panic. If you
ever find yourself stuck, just ask yourself what I would say, and use The Force.

Date Goal: Decide If You Still Like Him

Rebuttal: I Need More Time
I’m a firm believer in mental chemistry. There is a universal force stronger than gravity that
vibrates when a person is speaking to your soul. It doesn’t take weeks or even months to feel
this powerful force. One conversation can serve as the catalyst. Mind you, this isn’t the same as
the physical, “you take my breath away,” feeling. Butterflies are merely nerves, excitement at
the prospect of a person. This mental force is very adult, it’s the next level of nerves, and the
adrenaline is based on something more substantial than eye color or hair texture. This fire lights
when that man is saying things that mesh with your worldview or bringing a new point of view
that sparks your brain. To have this chemistry and then to end the night with being close to
each other is the marriage of intellectual and sexual energy. If you experience that emotional
bond, then you know you’re onto something special. This feeling may last or it may disappear
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feel a hint of that fire. Some of you will claim to have felt that connection with a guy on a date,
yet it lead nowhere. Most likely, what you felt was not created by real conversation, just small
talk followed by your thirst for him sexually. Men tend to be Used Car Salesmen on the first
date; you ask simple questions, they give complex answers that have already been practiced.
You’re asking him about a Nissans after he’s already prepared to talk about it, when you need
to switch the subject to Jaguars to see if he can think on his feet and still be smooth. A person
doesn’t have to think about the truth. People don’t have to try hard to be themselves. When you
date properly then you are on the offensive daring a man to impress you by using questions
that aren’t cookie cutter, never really talking about yourself, and that’s when the truth is forced
out. You judge him on those conversations. The stories he tells you, his viewpoints on himself,
the examination in front of you about why he reacted a certain way in the past and what he
learned. That’s the candid conversation that sparks the brain, not just the vagina.
Near the end of the date, you have to ask yourself, “Do I still like him,” don’t wait until
you get home, do it while you’re in the process because by the time you get home you’ll look
back at even the okay dates as cool dates based on the fact that he didn’t do anything annoying.
I remember I took this girl out and she was being super bitchy and I let her know about herself.
It was a bad date. However, she called me that night and we ended up cupcaking. It was weird
as hell even when I was in the midst of it. We ended up going out again, i.e. a Come Over &
Chill date because I wasn’t ever going to spend money on her again. We ended up being house
date cut buddies that summer, but we never liked each other. She knew on that first date that
we didn’t really mesh. The thing was that she allowed her own post-date revisionist mind to
make me seem as if I was good for her, because I was an option already there. She wasted time
having some half ass relationship with me, when she should have took control, never called me
again, and went and found the type of man she needed. Ask yourself if you truly like this man
while on the date. I have to stress that. I don’t care about how nice he was, how well spoken, or
the smile he flashed that made your clit quiver. Did you feel that fire mentally? Most of you will
be mid-date and say, “He’s alright.” If he’s just all right then you haven’t felt that fire, own up
to that. He hasn’t said anything that really stuck, but you’re trying to give him the benefit of the
doubt. Give him that extra time. Keep talking and allow him to continue to impress or prove
that he’s unimpressive. However, by the time you two get up to exit, that needle should have
moved. If you can honestly say your opinion of him didn’t change by the time the check comes
then he didn’t do his job. Scoring 0 isn’t winning. A man like that doesn’t deserve a second date,
because being vanilla is the same thing as being corny.

Date Goal: End the Date on a High

Rebuttal: He Asks Me to Pay Half
By the time the check comes, you should be on a high. You did all the steps right and he
responded like a man you can grow to really like. There’s no need to have a poker face, or try to
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yourself, don’t be one of these girls who keep a resting bitch face as not to seem too extra. If
there is any time to cheese, it’s at the end of a great date. Therefore, be all smiles and sad that
you have to go, stop trying to overthink this as if you have to seem mad or a man will think
you’re open. Who cares what he thinks, you did have a good time, so project that energy. This is
the easiest part, but there may be a hiccup due to finances that you didn’t see coming. Maybe
during Day 0 you were the one to ask him on a date, and he thought you were going to pay.
Maybe he’s used to going Dutch. Maybe you’re dealing with, “Damn, my wallet is at home,”
guy. No matter the reason, the result is that when the check comes and you tell him thank you,
he pops for some kind of money from you. What to do?
Pay it. There is no need to argue your stance on how men should do things. I don’t care
if he sticks you with the entire bill or just the tip. Keep your cool and smile as you slide your
card or cash in the fold. Internally, he has now committed suicide. RIP, because this nigga is
officially dead to you once you leave that restaurant. In the end, he revealed how much he
values a woman like you. Ignorance or tradition does not factor into the equation. Every man
knows how to treat a woman, every single one. He chose to try you the first date as if you are
one of these basic downgraded ass women that goes into pocket for men—he has the wrong
one! Couples go Dutch when they are in a relationship. Platonic friends go Dutch. When a
friend treats you, it’s always proper to offer the tip. If this was a man that had treated you
spectacularly over time, you pick up the bill to show him your appreciation. This is not one of
those scenarios, this is a man that wants to be your man, and should have stepped up as such.
The only way he will ever reach that level is to bow down, and court you like the royalty you
are. I bought you a drink now buy my drink? Is he crazy? I paid for these movie tickets now buy me
some snowcaps. Nigga what? I once went to a business dinner with a company that wanted to
work with me. When the bill came I reached into my pocket, the President looked at me and
said, “Don’t disrespect us.” There is proper etiquette in business, and there is proper etiquette
in dating—the one seeking the services pays. In romance that is always the man, thus the man
always pays. Never allow a man to guilt you into thinking any different or let some faux-
feminist convince you that you should pay half to endear yourself. This isn’t Ho Tactics hustle
where you have to sucker a man by treating him to things to set him up for the hit, this is
romance, and refusing to treat you all the way is not how a man gets a second date. So pay what
he asks you to pay, and block him on the way home. Next!

Date Goal: Seduce

Rebuttal: I Will End Up Sleeping With Him
If a man doesn’t see you as sex then there is no hope for anything serious. How you seduce lets
a man know if he has a shot at you or if he should leave now before he ends up in the friend
zone. On the first date especially, you need to give a little lust to inspire a lot of lust. The
simplest part of a man to exploit is his dick, and no great romance ever began with a man
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counterproductive to come off as a sexual object is 4+4=9—false! I have seen the internet trying
to brainwash women into being less sexual, as if being in touch with your sexual nature is
something a man should control like a faucet. I loathe slut shamming no matter what someone
tries to relabel it. No man has ever sat across from a woman that’s dressed sexy and said, “This
is too much for me, I wish she wore a sweater.” No man has ever thought of a girl as sweet, and
then was turned off because she played footsies under the table. The only instance where I have
ever been personally turned off by a woman is where a female felt the need to list her sex skills
in a way that tells you that she gives even the non-exclusive lovers all the dirty deeds. There is
no need to talk about how good you suck dick during a first date. Those things don’t turn a
man on in the way you think, it’s more of, “damn I want to fuck, but I would definitely wear a
condom because she sounds like she pops off on the regular.” The mystery of your sex life is
much more enticing than promoting your skills. Look, you have a vagina, as men we don’t need
any more reason than that to lust after you. This idea that you need pussy propaganda is ratchet
in every sense of the word and reeks of insecurity. A woman with great sex skills doesn’t need
to put that on her resume, because her pussy isn’t the reason she wants to keep a man around.
You are more than your pussy, but you can’t throw the baby out with the bathwater. There does
need to be some dirty talk or sensual flirting, but there is an art to seduction.
Let a man think of you as sex, let him get close enough to smell your perfume, and touch
your skin. None of this compromises your virtue. If you don’t actually have sex with him, you
retain the same respect as any other woman because to tease but hold off proves your character.
A few women have told me, “I don’t usually do this,” but they did it for me… but I didn’t do
shit special, so you don’t usually do that but you did just now for regular treatment? How does
that make you different? This is only dating, you aren’t going to fuck him under any
circumstances, so don’t worry about how he will perceive your seduction. Are you easy?
Clearly you aren’t, because your panties will remain up at the end of the night and your hands
or mouth won’t touch his dick. Unleash your inner Gypsy Rose Lee, and seduce with the
knowledge that less is more. Don’t feel guilty about teasing a man; this is what he signed up for.
Your greatest weapon on a date is sex appeal because a man with a hard dick is easy to
lead. So how do you seduce subtly? You’re not sitting there eating your Caesar salad saying, “I
like this dressing, it reminds me of my favorite pass time—giving head.” Nor are you making
inside jokes about how most guys can’t last more than five minutes inside you. That’s high
school level teasing, be more creative! Even if you think to say those silly things because that’s
your personality, you have to show discipline and hold back until this man earns your filth
mode. Let’s say the subject of sex comes up in his story, and you make a side comment about
how you haven’t had an orgasm in 4 months. That’ll get his ears perked, but that’s something
that paints you as, “oh she doesn’t let guys fuck often, I want that.” The object is to show him
that you aren’t a prude. You can make jokes about the chocolate on the banana split dessert;
hint that red wine brings out your own version of Sasha Fierce, or any sexual innuendo that
hints without giving everything away. However, you do so in a way that also gives him the
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a difficult thing for some women to figure out in terms of presentation because when they try to
play good on dates they come off as boring, when they come off as too nasty they turn a man
off. It’s not hard at all. A man on a date is sitting across from you wondering how you look
naked, if you’re good at sucking dick, and how you sound during sex. Call that savage, but it’s
the truth. To know this is to know that you don’t have to try hard to push his buttons, and keep
him erect. The small things ring loud in terms of sex. So always stay semi-dirty, never overt.
Seduction is a double-edged sword, it’s not just the man you are turning on you also risk
getting yourself worked up. Dick Discipline for women is harder than men understand. Some of
you fall on the side of the coin where you are always cool on sex because you can contain your
thoughts because you require an emotional connection not just the physical to make you crave
dick. That other side of the coin is filled to capacity because many grown women have needs
that a vibrator can’t satisfy, and they know that they have the power to fuck whenever they
want to. An emotional connection is preferred but real talk, having a good date is enough proof
for you to eat that man alive. You can fake flirting like a stripper trying to get a fat guy into the
champagne room, but to flirt for real, will take your mind and body to the point where you are
imagining all the things you can do with your date ASAP. Your mind may be patient, but your
hormones have ADD. “Should I fuck him…? I mean he’s doing everything right, and I would
like some dick.” You have to check yourself and not break this dick diet based on a good date.
I don’t think sex ruins anything if you are mentally strong enough to play the post-sex
game and continue to vet him. However, I have only met a small percentage of women who are
built like that. I want you to throw that Spartan pussy on him and give him a preview of what
his life could be like, but for these steps to work universally, I’m going to insist that you hold off
on complicating things with sex at this point. Sex on the first date is an entire other monster
with other steps that need to be hit, so for now act as if that isn’t an option, show discipline and
do it, the simple way as I’ve laid out here. You have to go home alone. That’s just the facts of
this date no matter how wet you are. When you’re saying your goodbye and he’s trying to get
his sneak feels on, and trying to kiss you, it will be hard to resist. Not only have you been
flirting, now you’re throwing your body heat all over him and those pheromones are working
overtime. I don’t care if you hand accidentally brushes up against his hard dick by “accident”
you have to keep your focus on the bigger picture, not the easy nut.
How do you walk away? Let’s say you two are in the parking lot, he’s walked you to
your car. Like Cali waiting for the Uber, you take this time to get closer to him and mindfuck
him with a tight hug while you continue to talk. That man isn’t going to walk away when you
say, “okay, let me get in the car.” He’s going to say all kinds of shit to keep you in his arms.
He’s going to offer all kinds of incentives for you to follow him back to his crib or to let him
drop you back at your car later on. The date has to end right there. You don’t need to go get
coffee with him, you don’t need to see the artwork at his crib, and you don’t need him to sit in
the car with you while it warms up. The edge is slippery when dealing with new dick, if you
play around you will fall. As a classy woman you have to set the tone for future dates by
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would regret. A thought may cross your mind where you think that to deny him will make him
feel as if you don’t really like him. This is why you’re allowing him to hug against you; this is
why you give him a small kiss. That’s the proof. If you think giving a man head, fucking him, or
even letting him sit in your car and feel you up, is how you keep him interested, then you’ve
already lost this battle. Have some respect for yourself and set boundaries. A man won’t like it,
but he will respect it, always.

Date Goal: Go To Sleep

Rebuttal: I Still Want To Talk To Him
After you say your goodnights there will most likely be one final communication before you go
to sleep, and that’s the, “Made it home, baby. Good night.” The adrenaline of a date doesn’t end
there. If this was one of the best dates you’ve been on and the chemistry was crazy, going right
to sleep becomes harder than trying to eat just one French fry. Once again, you will have the
man attempting to continue the flirting and now that you’re home and lonely you may be even
more open than you were while on the date. I remember telling a story on Black Girls Are Easy
about how a girl I took out brought her friend along to cock block. Then after the date I was
texting her, attempting to get her back out the house without her friend, and she wisely refused
my arm twist. I only wanted pussy from that girl, which is why I never went out with her again,
so it’s in your interest to stay strong and do the same thing. The days after a date is where you
find out if the feeling are mutual, not on the phone while he has a hard dick and is willing to
come pick you up. The same goes for FaceTime, Skype, and texting in general. You went on a
date; it was good, put it to rest by putting your hormones to bed. I don’t care if you stay up
thinking about him for the next hour, it’s better to crave than to cave.

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Chapter 5:
How to Ask the Right Questions

I
hope he doesn’t say anything to ruin it! For those whom aren’t familiar with that saying, let
me break it down in a way that shows how men have been getting by for years without
really talking to women. A woman will focus in on a man she likes, and in order for him
to win her over in terms of a second date or even fast sex, all this man has to do is avoid saying
things that turn her off. Think about that, a man isn’t judged on the way he opens up,
impresses, and states his case for why he likes that woman. He’s judged on how well he
remains inoffensive. If you’re a dude who has radical political thoughts, anger management
issues, or even a nerd who tells repeated corny jokes… all you need to do is turn your
personality down, and keep things light. A woman is often looking for reasons not to fuck a
man, meaning that she’s already decided to fuck him even before the date. He’s won in her
eyes; all he has to do is get around the last lap without crashing. Ladies, put yourself in a man’s
shoes. All you have to do is hold serve with basic conversations, come off as mysterious as
opposed to annoying or abrasive, and she will sleep with you. Would you gamble on that date
by being yourself or would you come in with jokes and levity as you sit there and let the
woman do all the talking? You would put on a mask too, because why work for something that
someone is going to give you based on doing nothing?
In high school, we called this “Talking yourself out of pussy.” As grown men, this
concept survives to a certain extent in the form of withholding information to fuck. If you’ve
ever asked, “Why do men lie so much over nothing,” in regards to the things they withheld on a
date that you later find out about, then this sheds light on that. He didn’t tell you about his
girlfriend, he didn’t tell you he was unemployed, he didn’t tell you he still lived with his ex-girl;
he didn’t tell you he doesn’t actually want a relationship, etc… Although these men are grown
and shouldn’t be afraid of scaring you off, they are controlled by habit. Logic tells a man, “This
woman doesn’t even know me from Paul, but she likes me a lot anyway. Let me keep my
mouth closed and collect what she wants to give me, because if I am forthcoming with the truth,
my ‘complications’ will come off as deal breakers.” Most of you reading this have been in
relationships that you would have never entered into if you knew the whole truth from the first
date. Let’s pretend that you fell in like with the looks of a man that had a girl pregnant at the
time you were first dating. He didn’t tell you this and you didn’t think to ask anything real, you
just enjoyed your nights out with this fine guy. After a few weeks, sex entered the picture, and
now you like him even more. Next thing you know he’s calling you his girl, and although you
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you and this man still haven’t talked about anything real, and now you see him tagged on
Facebook picture congratulating him on the birth of his first child. You don’t want to be with a
man who has a baby. You don’t want to go down to the courthouse and stand with him as he
takes a paternity test. You don’t want to beef with a woman that you don’t know because this
man failed to mention her. This is how smart women end up being that dumb woman whose in
a ratchet situation called: My boyfriend has a newborn but we going to get through this. You got
hustled by a dude with a bright eyes and closed lips. All women should ask questions! Men are
never going to be totally honest because just like those teenage years no man is going to
purposely talk himself out of pussy.
Far too many women want the image to match up to the personality so bad that they
avoid intrusive questions. I asked a girl what her boyfriend did, and she told me, “I don’t really
know, he works with his Uncle.” What the fuck does that mean? This is proof that certain
women don’t even want to know if he’s a piece of shit or not. The reason why so many bad liars
get deep in your life is that you fear finding out the truth, you push it off to the side, keep things
light, and refuse to uncover a man’s character during the dating stage because you don’t want
your questions to ruin him. If you ruin him, then that means you have to do the process all over
again. You don’t want to start over with a man that’s not as cute or paid, so your not so
subconscious mind allows this applicant to get through without being vetted. Who is that man
across the table from you? He’s not the smile that makes you want to kiss him. He’s not the
arms that you imagined wrapped around your body making you feel protected. He’s not the
watch on his arm or the car keys in his pocket. A man is defined by his conversation. For your
date to sit there and not say anything real, merely promotes the image that you like. That image
is what you want, thus you will reward him with pussy, time, and a relationship. Six months
later you’re in love with a man who was never who you though he was and you’re silently
unhappy… This problem could have easily been avoided in one fucking date if you did your
job! A Spartan doesn’t want a man to shut up and be perfect. A Spartan wants a man who
shows her how imperfect he has been throughout his life so she can now determine if he’s
perfect for her now. This is what Spartan dating is all about. The questions that Cali asked are
the most important part of the date, and going forward they become the foundation of the
things you test him against over the following weeks to see if his story remains or changes.
After a few weeks of not only asking questions but also observing a man’s actions you can take
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“James is a mama’s boy that comes off as a bit of a control freak but he is genuinely
sweet without being a trick. He takes pride in his relationship with his nephew and
the way he looked at that baby in the stroller tells me he wants fatherhood. I assume
that his father not being around has given him a complex where he wants to be the
man of a house and right those wrongs. Looking at how his last relationship ended I
can tell that he’s done playing games and has matured to the point where he wants
what I want. However, I can also tell that James is afraid that I may be out to use
him, based on the way he always initiates questions about how strongly I feel about
him. He hasn’t talked about being heartbroken yet, but something definitely
happened that hurt him, I will bring this up on our next date.”

Any woman who has been on two dates should be able to read a man in this way. The
scary part is that there are women in actual relationships that can’t even break down their
boyfriends in that way. I was emailing with one woman and she couldn’t even answer simple
questions about her man’s personality other than what makes him mad, what makes him laugh,
and the music he loves. The reason why the mind of her man was a mystery, the reason why
most of you reading this don’t understand how men think beyond, “they all want pussy,” is
that you don’t interview these guys properly! You go into a date with this mentality that if a
man wants to share he will share, if he doesn’t share then that’s his business. No! If you aren’t
trying to know that man’s business enough to understand his current intentions, his past story,
and his future plans then why date him? Do you just want dick? Go on Snapchat and thirst trap,
you can be fucking any decent looking guy by tomorrow. Do you just want a free meal? Then
Go read Ho Tactics and upgrade your basic ass to something bigger than a bite to eat. If you are
reading this, it is because you want a real connection. This is the dirty work that must be done;
there is no magic microwave version. You are too old to date for fun or sex, you are a Spartan,
and you date for sport. You get in a man’s head and pick him a part until you can answer,
“What does he really want,” on your own in very little time. All of these men are trying to win
your pussy, half of them are trying to win your love, be smart enough to determine who
deserves to win both by putting these men through the wringer. The only way this guide will
work for you is if you ask the right questions.

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Expose Him by Making Him Expose Himself

You get it now, you understand why questions are important and you’re ready to get to the root
of these men, no matter how much you like them… but you don’t know what to ask. You fear
going on a date and freezing up. Non-Spartan thoughts will start small then grow louder: What
if that’s too personal… What if that offends him… What if he thinks I’m weird for asking that... What if I
don’t like his answer? Nothing is off limits to a Spartan, no judgement is worth keeping your
mouth closed, and no question is too personal. It is more important to prove him incompatible
now with answers you don’t like than let him slide with lies you do. When a woman says she
can’t think of anything to say, it means that she can’t think of anything safe and neat to say. Safe
and neat are how typical women walk through life. Your entire dating habits were formed due
to myths about what men want. Men are painted as these priceless Gods who you can’t upset or
it’s back to the slums. Ratchet aunts and other basic associates always tell you to tread lightly
with men. “Girl, don’t be in a man’s business! They don’t like that.” So what? Refusing to be
nosey and walking on eggshells for fear of scaring a man away is a recipe for failure. You want
to know about this man’s ex-relationships but you don’t want to seem like you’re fishing. You
want to see if he is stuck up and cocky, but you don’t want to challenge his views on anything
to see if that attitude rears its ugly head. You want to make sure he’s not some good-looking
idiot, but you don’t want to make him feel foolish by questioning about something intellectual.
Fuck these men, their feelings, their egos, and your fear of offending them.
The exact questions you need to ask are similar to the ice-breaking example. It’s specific
to your life and your personality. “What do I need to know about a man to trust him,” is what
you should ask yourself before the date, during the date, and after the date. I’m talking
specifics. Women tell me generic shit like, “I want him to be loyal, honest, goal orientated, and
God fearing.” None of that crap means anything. It’s literally like saying I like my pizza hot. No
shit, really? How do you get to know if he has been loyal? It’s not as if you can’t test it right
now on a date. How do you get the sense that he’s mostly honest? Asking a liar to tell the truth
about himself is like asking a 5th grader to grade his own test. How do you know that he’s goal
orientated? Because dude went to school and has a job? His religious side, what’s really there?
Simply asking if he goes to church won’t stop him from turning Judas on you. Conversation is a
dance and everything is subtext, so let’s create a list that helps you stay light on your feet.

The List
What exactly do you need from a man? Let’s say that you are coming from a relationship where
your man was arrogant, tried to get at your cousin behind your back, and was selling weed on
the low and nearly got you arrested because you didn’t know. Now you want a man that you
can trust, who won’t hold you making more money than he does over your head, and wants a
family sooner than later. You don’t just go on a date knowing you want A, B, C, and D, and ask
if he can be that. Humans don’t respond to directness. So taking that example let’s break it
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he wants children? What proves that he isn’t misogynistic? What proves that he isn’t a criminal?
What proves that he won’t be offended by a woman with a good job and dreams? What proves
that he isn’t overly jealous? There is no magic question that will tell you that in a year, a man
will fall out of love with you and choose another girl. Growing with a person in a relationship
can lead to the development of all kinds of behavior that wasn’t there prior. This isn’t about
predicting the future; it’s about seeing the present clearly in order to make the smart choice for
a relationship that has a fighting chance. You can find out what kind of man he is currently by
asking questions that make him reveal how he’s treated the women before you.

A Loyal Man = Old Him Vs New Him: If you want to learn about loyalty, you don’t lead with,
“Do you ever think it’s right for a man to cheat, even if he’s not being satisfied at home?” How
do you think any man who wants to fuck you will respond? “Yeah, cheating doesn’t mean
anything it’s just my dick in some random who I’ll never see again. Who cares?” Men aren’t that
dumb or that honest when they are attempting to get something from a woman. If you want to
know about loyalty a better line of questioning revolves around him “back in the day” or him as
a friend. For example, ask him if he would ever cover for one of his boys if he were also cool
with his girlfriend. A man will answer that question quickly and with emotion because he has a
friend in mind who he would ride for. Most men will ride for their brothers even if the girl he’s
cheating on is his own cousin, because males truly do belong to a fraternity of loyalty. That’s
just the set up. From there you can use the example of his friend cheating to ask indirect
questions about his own thoughts on the subject that won’t make him seem like a villain.
In Cali’s story, we saw her play the devil’s advocate, and now you can do the same
thing. “If my brother wanted me to cover for him, I would, fuck these hoes.” This gives him bait
either to go with the typical male response or to show you something deeper. A man may never
go along with covering for someone because his Dad cheated on his Mother. He may have been
cheated on, and while he may not confess this, his mentality may be “fuck anyone that cheats,”
because he knows personally how it hurts. Those responses start to establish a morality based
on something deeper than just sex being sex. He’s thinking about home and family being ruined
or the personal pain. A man who sees the bigger picture is already showing his loyalty. In the
end, you won’t know if he will or won’t down the line, but in terms of this pre-relationship, you
do prove that two-timing isn’t a part of his current nature.

A Secure Man = Bitter Test: This may be the easiest thing to expose because men don’t hide
resentment. When you are dating, you need a partner who isn’t going to be intimidated by your
Spartan nature. You make your own money, can pay your own bills, men love that part.
However, when you are making more, have more, or come off as smarter than he is, that can
cause drama. It’s the 21st century but men still love to keep women down to make themselves
feel bigger. You don’t wait until he starts putting you down after you’re together; poke him to
see if he has it inside now. I watched a documentary on the Ku Klux Klan, and one historian
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they needed someone lower than them to take out their failures on. Men who are working dead
end jobs, who are constantly trying to make it but face setbacks, or any man in a struggle that he
can’t own up to will look to others to take his frustrations out on. On a date, bring up the subject
of athletes making so much money, the 1%, even the Kardashians, then observe.
A normal person may joke about the success of others or have some anti-capitalist
sentiments; however, a bitter person will be venomous. If your date goes on and on about how
life is bullshit, that the system is rigged, that unrelated things are holding him back, then that
exposes his “I deserve what everyone else has,” mentality not a “I’m good, I’m still going to do
me,” optimism. A man that feels like life is keeping him down will never progress in a real way.
Therefore, if you were to become a couple and he sees that you are progressing in this “rigged
system,” you expose him as a fraud. He will now be forced to find other reasons for your
success, you’re a woman so you get breaks, you probably flirt, etc… or he may work to bring
you down to his level, saying that you work too much and can’t spend time with him, that if
you want a family you’re going to need to switch careers, etc… Misery loves company, so on
the first date check to see how miserable this man is.

A Man that is Ambitious = Resting or Climbing: Another easy feeler question is about
ambition. A driven man isn’t one that says, “I work two jobs and I go to school.” I know dudes
that have been working on Associates for four years and work two jobs, because they drag their
feet. There are people who aren’t doing anything real with their lives but love the protection of
saying, “I’m working on a degree.” What degree are they working on, and how long? Another
area to touch is actual work. Asking positions, not just assuming, is quick work. “He has a Benz
so he’s doing something right.” Wrong. I know three guys with Mercedes who don’t work…
but they do get pussy. Don’t let the smokescreen of what he’s driving or where he works stand
as proof of hustle. What does he actually do, how long has he been doing it, and where is it
going? You can ask those easy questions on the phone. The date is where you delve deeper into
true ambition beyond just a work position.
“Where do you see yourself in five years?” What kind of 17-year-old, smoking a blunt in
the basement, question is that to ask a grown man? The reason women ask that dense question
is because it’s safe and sounds deep. That shit is about as deep as a Nun’s vagina. If you want to
measure a man’s ambition ask him something outside the box about life-goals and see if he
inspires you. The most important part about finding a partner, and not just finding a dick, is
how they grow you in return. No matter if you’re a college student reading this or a woman in
her 40’s that’s established in her career, the man you date should give you the feeling that he
can upgrade your ambition. Is this man about his money? About his success? About his legacy?
You don’t get that with just one answer; you feel that out as if it’s a 2008 Obama speech.
“Do you believe in the idea of having seven streams of income? I have this friend that
swears on it, he’s even selling weave out of his whip.” You don’t want someone who just agrees
with a concept, you want to see his own fire and take on that subject. “That’s cool, but I believe
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day. How many passions to have is up to that person, but life isn’t a Flea Market money grab,
I’m here to leave a mark and that’s why I’m going back to get my masters right now.” That
answer versus, “Fuck yeah, I’ll go back to selling white tee’s to get this bread,” shows the
difference in life philosophy. Again, it’s not about right versus wrong, it’s about which man
matches up with your worldview. Some men are Steve Jobs visionaries, who take action and
don’t just dream, others are Dame Dash finger in every pie types, while others could be Better
Call Sal, get paid by any means necessary hustlers. Know what you want, because if you go in
there like, “I just want a man who works,” you’re selling yourself short.

An Honest Man = Open Book: You don’t have to think about the truth, so why would any man
hesitate for more than a few “how do I frame this” moments? Random questions in general
catch a man off guard. Would you have sex on the first date? What complexion would you want
your child to be? Have you ever seen a ghost? Would you let a girl eat your ass? What do you
think we should do with homeless people? What’s the craziest thing a girl ever did for you?
What’s the most you ever spent on an ex? How many girls you think still owe you sex? What do
you think of Ray Rice’s side of the story? How would you react if a black dude in a hoody were
walking towards you? You can literally come up with all kinds of random things that get a
man’s mind working, but doesn’t really tell you much about him. The key is to follow up with
questions that actually matter to you. The bait questions open it up to deep conversations.
What was this man’s life like growing up? You can’t ask him to give you his David
Copperfield novel, and expect to learn about his life in a real way. You need to see his thoughts,
and then find out what shaped his thoughts. When’s the last time you heard something in
church that resonated with you? That’s deeper than, “So when’s the last time you went to
church.” From a real question, you get a real answer. He was raised Catholic now he’s Baptist,
and the what was powerful was when the Reverend said not all those who preach the word live
the word, which takes him back to being in Catholic school and seeing the Priest do something
to another student. People have stories that are willing to share, but they won’t volunteer them.
Be the one that gets them to turn the page.

A Man Who Is A Narcissist = Rants on His Own: You don’t even have to ask questions to tell
if a man is a narcissist because he won’t shut up about himself, the things he’s done, and the
people he knows, all in a pompous way. General conversation about music, TV, even the
waiters serving you or the guy passing you the popcorn can expose a man’s nasty and
obnoxious attitude. If you are dealing with some elitist asshole that thinks he’s better than
people his lack of, “thank you,” to people serving him or his rants on the low paying jobs
people are doing to pay their bills, easily expose his jerk nature. One of the biggest myths is
that, “Men with money are going to be assholes, just deal with it,” Money has nothing to do
with manners and humility, being abrasive comes from a dark place, and isn’t the simple result
of wealth or power. Stories about how many girls are after him, or how he has his choice of
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doesn’t need to pat itself on the back. You don’t have to spend much time trying to expose this
mentality because any question will reveal how much a man is in love with himself.

A Man Who Is Looking for Relationship = Time: A man that’s looking for a relationship is like
Big Foot, I’ve never seen it. Men don’t openly hunt for girlfriends, and if they do, they have
esteem issues. Think about those guys who offered to be your man or who chased you after
only knowing you for a short time, they don’t get you because they have holes that they are
looking for you to fill, and you know they want you for the wrong reasons. I’m not talking
about being unattractive, that may be a part of it, but there are plenty of ugly guys that still
aren’t locking women down. I’m talking about issues where they need a woman to be mommy,
be a therapist, or be an outlet after they finish doing their dirt in the street. Overly sensitive men
just want a girl to love because they don’t love themselves. Men who don’t have friends or any
other channel want companionship. Loners, weirdos, and general anti-socials want love just for
the sake of love. Socially adjusted men have romantic bones too, they aren’t against
relationships, but they enjoy their freedom. A man may say, “I’m ready to settle down,” after
getting played or getting annoyed by these fast women, but it’s like saying “I’m never going to
drink again,” after a bad hangover, he doesn’t really mean it. Therefore, you won’t see a man
out at the bar with the mission to find the perfect woman he can settle down and put his last
name on. This is what women hope for because they don’t know how men think. Males aren’t
on a shot clock. Males don’t put pressure on themselves to get married before they start to
wrinkle. It’s just not a part of the majority mind frame. Men expect love to happen, because they
know in their heart that the right woman will make herself known by being different from the
birds he’s currently chasing for ass. That want for a woman is their below the surface, and that’s
where you need to dig.
So what do you ask exactly, because you can’t be wasting your time with a person who
is five years away from wanting to be married? This is the Catch-22; you don’t have to ask a
man if he’s ready for love, he will show you by falling in love with you. In the coming days he
will clearly react to the things, you’ve done so far. By dating like a Spartan, you fulfill his
prophecy of, “I’ll know that she’s special because she’ll be special.” I often write about The Game
Changer, that woman who pops into a man’s life and makes him want to settle down, not with
ultimatums, but by showing him how exceptional she is compared to the other women he’s
currently dating or fucking. Let me confess a secret, these steps that you’re reading directly lead
you to the position of a Game Changer. By dating in a proactive way that forces a man to be
honest, open, and treat you with value, you will separate yourself from the pack. Other women
are not doing these things on dates, they aren’t doing what you’re about to do on the phone
between dates, they aren’t setting rules while also seducing dicks, they aren’t being discipline,
and they aren’t being a true shoulder a man can lean on. The question of if he is looking for a
relationship will be clear in about 12 days, maybe less if you do this properly. A man may not
be looking to settle down, but he will have no choice when presented with a Unicorn.

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Chapter 6:
Post-Date Do’s

T
he day after the date is where most women succeed their control back to the man. It’s
easy to feel powerful when you don’t know a man and you’re basing all your feelings off
the potential of what could be. He’s just another guy you sort of like the morning of the
first date. To actually go out and have not just a good time, but an excellent time, will leave you
thirsting for more “him.” The day after the date, for typical women, is filled with nerves fueled
by the unknown. Will he text or call? Will he ask me out again immediately or will he wait?
How long should I wait to reach out if he doesn’t call first? Is thanking him for the date again
too much if I did it last night? Should I add him on social media? Should I accept his request on
social media? The list goes on and on until your mind is a conflicting mess of weak bitch
thoughts. Now is not the time to unravel. You are still in control, and you have to continue to
flex those muscles and not revert to the regular habits of regular women. Did he enjoy your
date? Who gives a fuck, you enjoyed it, and now you have to be sure if this is something real or
just a good first interview. Once again, remind yourself that this process isn’t about hoping on a
man’s dick and hoping he likes you. He has no choice but to like you. You are a walking
masterpiece who he just shared the same air with, who he just exposed his soul to, and who
sent him home with a hard dick and a smile. You controlled the first date by being smart, and
now I’m going to show you how to continue this winning streak. Know that the other women
he’s dating don’t have the confidence or the playbook you have, therefore, between dates, there
is nothing to fear and nothing holding you back from this Spartan takeover.

The Reach Out

Cali is off the next day, so she doesn’t have the distraction of work to keep her mind off
Stephen. She’s talking to a few other men, but Stephen is already showing her things that they
aren’t. Cali isn’t sure if this is the new dick effect or because Stephen was really that interesting,
but she’s not about to rest on her laurels. One date doesn’t make her feelings authentic. She’s
knows a little about Stephen, but now it’s time to see how he does when he’s off the clock. Post-
date attention, how he fits her into his schedule, and further conversation are needed before the
next date. How can Stephen hope to become her boyfriend if he doesn’t have time to talk, has to
split his attention the majority of the time with work or hobbies, or isn’t able to recreate that
same good conversation from the first date? Cali has been with men who make a good showing,
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the fuck boys. Stephen had to go to work, but he knows Cali is home off, that means the ball is
in Stephen’s court to reach out. Cali figures that she should hear something by his lunch break,
but isn’t being rigid in her mind. If Stephen texts while he’s at Starbucks at 8am, cool, but she
won’t respond back until she’s up. If he calls when he first gets to his office, again that’s sweet,
but she probably won’t answer until she’s done her morning routine. Cali isn’t hard up to talk
to Stephen, she likes him, but this isn’t the first new dick she’s been around. Cali knows how to
curtail her interests and show Stephen that she’s still the prize to be chased, not a girl that’s
open off his attention or a bored basica that waits by her phone hoping it vibrates.
If Stephen doesn’t text or call throughout the day Cali isn’t going to react like some
pride filled girl, “If he was interested he should have hit me up, fuck him, he wasn’t even all
that anyway.” That’s petty bitterness, and that behavior has no place in the mind of a Spartan. If
Stephen goes the entire day without once checking in on her, she will take matters into her own
hand and reach out around 8pm. Being offended by a lack of communication is jumping the
gun. Stephen could be busy at work, have other life issues pop up, or maybe he’s the type of
person that always waits until after he’s off to be social. Cali doesn’t know the heart of this man,
all she knows is that he showed that he had a good character during their time together last
night. Based off that date alone, Cali is willing to give Stephen the benefit of the doubt, even if
he doesn’t reach out first. If he isn’t interested, she’s smart enough to pick up on the vibe during
a real conversation. She’s not going to let something as small as not calling or texting first
influence her mind and create a rejection that isn’t there.
Stephen contacts Cali around noon with a text asking her if she’s still alive. Cali isn’t
going to be dismissive of his texts the same way she was on Day 0, he’s earned text convo
because she knows she can get phone calls from him whenever she wants. The two text back
and forth about last night’s date, dropping inside jokes, flirting, and teasing each other about
generic things. Stephen asks if Cali is busy tonight. He would love to see her after he gets off...
smh oh men they are so predictable. Cali isn’t surprised or flattered like a typical bird who isn’t
used to men. Of course Stephen wants to see her again within 24 hours she’s a bad bitch with a
new vagina. Most women would jump at a chance to spend time with a man she likes, but Cali
is smarter than that. She declines Stephen’s offer, claiming she has some stuff she’s going to be
doing around her house. Stephen wants to come over and help her… again a man that got a
whiff of Spartan magic won’t let go. Cali thanks him, but says she has it covered. However she
does say that she expects a call once he’s home or she’s going to assume he just moved on to the
next girl with his date invite. Checkmate!
Stephen has no power in this situation. As a man, he wants to see her because he wants
to take it to the next level, now that he can’t see her physically he has to take what she’s giving,
conversation. His hormones are on fire, but Cali controls how fast they move. If Stephen is only
after pussy, then he doesn’t want to be stuck on the phone. He could use that time to go out
with another female friend who is sure to give up pussy. Cali is testing Stephen, is he the type
of man that only wants to see her in person because he thinks that after the first date he may get
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he will call her and that he’s not asking any other girl out on a date. Cali responds back with
one of her prettiest selfies and a kiss emoji. All women should have a default, “I’m pretty as
hell,” picture on their phones to break out for a new man. Send him something that wasn’t
posted to Instagram or any other social media, because if a man happens to follow your page
and sees it, he’ll just think, “This ho is for everybody.” Cali sends an exclusive picture she’s
been sitting on, a small reward for Stephen reaching out first.
The aim for the pre-date was specific: Let him know you are a Dater not a Come Over &
Chill or Phone Bone type of girl. The aim for the date was specific: Who is this man beyond the
bullshit mask men wear and do I like him? You set your goal and achieved your goal before
going on to the next step. It would make zero sense to slip into this “it’s whatever” attitude now
that he made it past the first date stage. What I’ve noticed in the advice I’ve given over the years
is that I will find a woman who is a great student in terms of pre-date game. She will pull men
as if it’s nothing, get dates, and have a great first date, only to say, “I’ve won, now let me do
everything wrong!” Those relationships where you start to text all day or talk all night are not
the prize. You will fall into being lazy and stop researching his character. By next weekend, he’s
over at your crib with a bottle of Ciroc, and your legs are open because you feel as if you did all
the work that was required to be smart. No! The work has just started. A second date isn’t
guaranteed yet; Stephen still has to keep climbing. Cali has to be sure that Stephen actually has
time to be something more than casual; that the personality displayed on the date is actually
who he is even when they are not face to face, and finally that she isn’t made to compete for his
time. Things like, “Does he think I’m Wifey or Pussy,” doesn’t concern Cali, she’s a fucking
Spartan she knows she’s not Pussy and hasn’t been so for a very long time. If Stephen is playing
a good game to fuck, it will be obvious over this next week. Pussy hunters aren’t good liars and
are always impatient. There will be points on the phone where Stephen tries her, but men are
supposed to try for sex, it’s how you gauge their attraction level. Cali won’t deduct points for
Stephen trying to lure her over to his crib or get her out again, because he’s merely a dog
sniffing, she has the leash and controls where this walk is headed.

The Long Phone Conversation

The day after a first date shouldn’t be used to take a break and go without contact. Unless you
are going out of town or he is indisposed of for a good reason, you have to keep the momentum
going while he’s in his feelings. Let me explain something about men to those of you that think
males are hard or unemotional. The way you like a boy and it makes your heart race, a man
feels that, double. Emotionally and sexually, a man is just as open after a first date as a woman
is, if not more. He wants to talk to you and he wants to fuck you. So not only is his heart making
him feel soft, his dick is driving him crazy to see you as well. That’s why men go so hard the 48
hours following a date, trying to get you back in his web. This is your chance to exploit those
feelings on the phone. The following day or night, whenever is a good time for both of you to
talk, you must get on the phone and let it all hang out. If a guy wants to steadily text, do what

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Cali did, redirect it after a bit to, “let’s continue this later on the phone,” don’t get caught up in
texting being good enough. Some of you are younger and you are more comfortable texting
than actually talking. I told you during the start that these steps require two things: Confidence
and the ability to open your damn mouth. Set a time for him to call you or for you to call him
and follow the blueprint.
Cali gets a call while she’s online shopping and talking to one of her friends. She clicks
over and greets Stephen with a warm hello, then tells him to hold on. Cali could have just
ended it with her bff and took the call direct, but she sees being on another call as an
opportunity to establish pecking order. She will click back and Stephen will automatically know
that she got off the phone for him, but his male ego won’t gravitate to that, that male ego with
think, “Damn she’s talking to other people?” That small act is power. A man can’t think he’s
your only source of conversation. Feeling as if all you have is him would make him too
comfortable. Cali clicks back over and apologizes, without saying whom she was talking to be it
man or woman. Mystery casts doubt. Instead, she fires off an apology for not being able to hang
out. Stephen is cool with it, and says that they should get together again soon. Cali agrees, then
changes the subject to his day, “Did anything exciting happened today that made you want to
stay in Accounts for life?” Cali, like on the date, brings it back to Stephen’s life, and in this
moment she becomes his shoulder to lean on. If the day went bad, and he had an asshole client,
he’ll share that and Cali will dig to see what exactly the client did, which allows Stephen to
vent. Venting is wonderful because it is stream of consciousness, where you allow someone to
just let loose while you listen. If Stephen had a good day, he won’t really want to talk in depth
about work. Topics are like Yelp reviews, people rarely want to go in unless it’s negative. Cali
will take this time on the phone to open up a little more about herself as well. The first date
interview is over, so like at the end of the date, she can see if her personality clicks with this
man by sharing things that she did that day and get into other topics of passion.
The true aim is for this to be a marathon session. The longer you stay on the phone with
a person the more at ease you are, and the deeper you get into conversation. I was once on the
phone with a girl and it started with chitchat subjects, transitioned to a vacation story, and then
ended on the meaning of life, literally. You can’t start a conversation with the meaning of life, if
you get my drift. Conversation has to mature as each one of you become more and more
comfortable. Cali and Stephen will stay on the phone for four hours. Cali will have to stop and
eat something, and she’s going to take Stephen with her. Stephen might have to answer an
email for work, and he’s going to take Cali with him. If Stephen has to take another call, Cali
won’t be like, “Alright call me later,” if it’s only been an hour. She will be like, “I’ll wait for you,
baby,” to show that she’s enjoying him. Again, pride can’t get in the way of connection. This
little girl attitude about being put on hold or someone saying they have to call you right back is
ashy. You don’t get your way with attitude; you get your way by showing a man that you’re
down to ride. Every man you meet will have had long phone conversations with various
women. Your mission is not to go left where other girls have gone left, but to go right. Stephen’s
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been reached. Other girls would be like, “ten more minutes,” or fake as if they don’t care, “Go
ahead, bye.” A man will notice tone and vibe. Cali isn’t going to be a spoiled brat that doesn’t
understand that he has to go to sleep nor is she going to be a rejected bitch who is being pushed
off the phone. She blows Stephen a kiss and tells him she will talk to him later, maybe says one
last witty comment or joke, and leaves it on a high note just like the date.
In the end, Cali knows several things about Stephen. What they talked about isn’t
important. Being on the phone for that long as a man (men are notorious for not liking to be on
the phone) proves that you interested him. As stated before, men love to talk about subjects
they feel they are masters of or subjects which they are emotionally connected. The reason basic
women can’t get a man to call or stay on the phone is because what they have to say is lame or
repetitive. Cali mastered the art of, “tell me stuff,” which will always have men running off at
the mouth. At the same time, she knows the secret art form of “shut the fuck up,” so even when
the conversation comes to her, she doesn’t run on about her life. She makes her point, and
throws the ball back to him. Although Cali is willing to open up more, that doesn’t mean she’s
now telling him everything. Questions about exes, enemies, child hood trauma, that stuff still
isn’t touched. Even in a long conversation, certain cards that really open you up to leaning on a
man are kept face down. The more you tell a man, the more you trust a man, and when you
develop trust too fast you will get burnt! Outside of the fact that she is easy to talk to from
Stephen’s POV, she also learned that Stephen has time for her.
Time is extremely important. There will come a point if you continue to date where you
have to ask yourself if a man has time for a girlfriend. No man is too busy for pussy, but some
are too busy for a relationship. He can get away to spend the night, but he can’t get away to
actually be there to spend quality time with you. He can get away for a morning quickie before
work, but he doesn’t want to be bothered hearing you out for a few hours if you’re going
through a rough day. “Too busy,” has become an easy excuse for men who don’t want to deal
with certain girls they don’t really like. Other times you can look at a man’s daily life, be it
school or work, and say, “Wow he barely has time to date me, no way is he going to have time
to be my man given that he works those hours.”
Relationship Girls get their panties in a bunch feeling that a man will always make time
for a woman he loves. Men are selfish, and their lives come before love. As a Spartan, you need
a partner who can split focus and give you what you deserve, not just weekends or every other
Thursday. This early in a relationship, the first week after the first date, you must observe if it’s
logical to even keep dating a man who can’t get on the phone for a few hours a night. “Oh well,
men who get money are busy,” the money he is making won’t make up for the attention
required to create a lasting bond. Don’t lie to yourself. You need a man who proves that he will
make time, that shows attention and who will be there to talk, not all the time, but at least one
hours out of his day consistently. If he can’t pull himself away for things like talking with you
and getting to know you after your first date, how is he going to pull himself away to build a
real relationship with you going forward? Cali researched Stephen’s life in terms of time with
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Check. Cali knows Stephen has time for a girlfriend because he’s opening his nights up to her
for both a date and now for a long conversation. Check. Now it’s time for the next mission.

Fit Into His Day

It’s a thin line between being annoying and being desired. Too much of anything has the
potential to become a bad thing, so there is no need to text a man every morning telling him
how you hope that he has a good day or keep in constant contact with him throughout that day.
Cali likes Stephen more than she should after one date, and she realizes that, but she won’t
allow her feelings to turn her into some weak bitch, thirsty to shower attention on a man she
just met. The next morning she’s back at work and sends a picture of her Starbucks order with
Stephen’s name spelled wrong. It’s a teasing joke that is actually interesting, not a dry ass,
“Good morning, have a great one!” Men do appreciate the sentiment of being hit up, it’s sweet,
but after two days it becomes routine and in reality it doesn’t really endear you to a man in the
same way a guy sending a good morning text or a wake-up call would earn brownie points
with a female. The majority of women get off on feeling as if they are wanted or knowing that
someone is out there thinking about them. Men prefer fun to sentiment. Cali knows this, thus a
joke picture that says clearly that she’s thinking about him but also teases him and allows for a
witty comeback, wins. It’s not the action it’s the creativity. This way of thinking goes a long way
in showing that Cali is fun as opposed to clingy like thirsty chicks or standoffish like prideful
chicks that want the man to always make the first move.
Cali’s next mission is to stay on Stephen’s mind but not in an annoying way where he
would feel as if he needs to talk to her all the time or respond back to all of her texts. This man
is working, he’s on ESPN looking up stories about his team, he’s fucking around with his boys
on social media, and maybe he’s even trying to make time for his other chick that Cali will soon
push out of the picture. If Cali were to bombard Stephen with conversation all day, he would
feel required to play along, not only to be nice because he likes her, but because new pussy
requires attention that some guys don’t mind giving in order to get it. Just because Stephen
would respond back to her texts all day, doesn’t mean she does it. Cali knows how Stephen is
thinking, she’s a Spartan, and once again, she uses her inner knowledge of how men think to
position herself as an even bigger object of affection. Every day until the next date, Cali will
make sure to have some contact with Stephen that shows that she’s not too busy for him, but
also shows that she’s not a smothering kind of girl. At night, she can always call, but during the
day how does a Spartan stay on a man’s mind?
The real life Cali (one of the girls that make up the examples I’m using) told me about
how when her guy was at work she would do a Two Minute Challenge. She called this guy and
he had one minute to say everything he was thinking and then she had another minute to say
what she was thinking and they would hang up, not to talk until later on. It was a silly and
entertaining thing to do that bonded them as if they were teenagers, not two adults because as
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thought that was a great example of fitting into someone’s day with creativity. Another
example was the email chain. Cali would see an online story that was interesting, for example,
there was a story where an Asian woman got so much plastic surgery that she looked like a
completely new person… until she had a child with her new husband who was confused as to
why his child would come out, “ugly” for lack of a better word. This man successfully sued his
wife for misleading him with her surgical looks. Cali sent this story to her Stephen and they
emailed their comments on it back between each other. Cali was on the side of the man; Stephen
thought it didn’t matter because it’s not as if his wife’s transformation would revert. It was just
a silly article but it showed their views and allowed them to email a few times throughout the
day, without the “what are you doing boo” pressure that comes with being overly romantic.
You can use a quick call, you can text Memes, you can do the email chain about
something random, it doesn’t matter so long as you aren’t sending emails that run longer than a
paragraph, texts that won’t stop, or constantly calling him with, “I’m bored, what are you up
to?” Don’t be an annoying bird. The goal is to embed yourself into a man’s life so he gets used
to you in a way that’s addictive. Give him something to look forward to when you call him that
night; don’t burn him out by being in his face all day. Fitting into his day in a low-key yet fun
way makes him comfortable fast. This isn’t about “get in where you fit in” submission; this is
about being heroin with your personality as opposed to pussy. If you do this step, then you
master how to make a man like you way more than you like him in a relatively short time.

The Decline
Cali is tripping with Stephen during her workday, and talking to him at night. It’s been three
days since their date and she does want to see him again, but she’s not ready to pull the trigger.
During the conversations, Stephen asks if she wants to meet for lunch since they don’t work too
far from one another. He just wants to look at her. This is another mistake women make, “the
quick hello” where a man is either in the area or near the office and wants to come and give her
a hug or even bring a gift. Cali is always in control, and she will only see Stephen under her
rules, even if her growing feelings are telling her, “bitch let him drive you home, that’s bae.”
Cali declines, saying that she will let him know when a good day opens up for him to come by
the office. This upsets Stephen, but the thing about men is that it is okay to piss them off; they
bark but rarely bite. A man has to learn early, before the actual relationship, that he can’t have
his way with you. Highlight that, because at this point in the process, you will be in lust, and
you will want to submit and just see him. There will be time for that when he’s your man. For
now, you have to show him who’s on the throne. This serves as another test for Stephen. If he’s
upset that Cali refuses to hang out after only three or four days, will he react like a bitch or will
he keep trying? So many basic bitches swear by, “you have to work for this,” but the guys they
date don’t do anything but order them around, and they end up giving in anyway. Cali is
literally making Stephen work to take her back out by coming up with excuses as to why he
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doesn’t want to talk to Cali anymore, good. He’s been exposed as a control freak or pussy
hunter, and it will save Cali the pain of finding this out a month in. Stephen, like most men, will
keep trying to win Cali over because Cali has done her job correctly. This isn’t a corny woman
that’s chasing him or a Cool Girl that lets him set the rules, she’s a strong personality that isn’t
overly bitchy, who takes time out of her day to hit him up. All men respect that. Stephen knows
he has something special so he will wait for his Queen to give him the green light to take her
out again.

The Day Off

Absence makes the heart grow fonder. In a weak mind, absence makes the heart panic due to
the paranoia that this person isn’t interested anymore. Women and men both go through this
and that’s where I’m going to focus. When I was dating the woman that would become my
wife, I remember not being able to get in touch with her one evening. I figured she would
return my message, but 11pm rolled around and no call back. Midnight no call back. I was up
mad as hell but it wasn’t jealous anger, it was fear. Did I say something the day before to upset
her? Was she done with me? Those are weak thoughts controlled by the fear of losing
something you want. This is often credited to women because females are known to blow up a
phone, send way too many texts, and then leave a voice message like, “If you didn’t want to
deal with me you should have just said that, pussy!” All of this insanity after not hearing from a
person for a day isn’t true lunacy, it’s a fear of rejection that everyone has. No one wants to like
someone and then have them suddenly fallback without warning. As with my story, you
understand that it works both ways, but most men suffer in silence as opposed to going
overboard and calling repeatedly or making threats. Between the first and second date, after
you build up a daily routine, take a break from his ass, so that he has time to miss you.
Cali had a nice hour-long conversation with Stephen the night before where they had
fun as always, but she got off the phone earlier than usual with the excuse that she had to be
into work earlier than normal. Not true, but Cali didn’t want to fall into marathon conversations
every night with a man that she knows she has to go on another date with. The next day Cali
purposely blocks Stephen. She doesn’t want to be tempted to see any text messages or to
answer any of his calls. She’s going to be thinking of him of course, but she needs to
decompress, maybe show some love to another guy on her roster, and give Stephen time to miss
what he has so he understands what the stakes are if he fucks this up. Cali doesn’t unblock
Stephen until that night. She has a voicemail, but doesn’t even check it. She gets a text asking if
everything is good, but she doesn’t even respond back. Cali is playing a game, an unfair game,
but this isn’t about being “nice” and “fair” she has to protect the only thing that matters, her
heart. Cali texts Stephen in the morning with an apology and a picture of her blowing him a
kiss. Yesterday was hell, and she didn’t want to call and burden him with work stress. Stephen
doesn’t believe the story, he’s still mad, but Stephen has to buy the story because he now knows
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Some of you may think, “But what if he thinks I’m seeing another man?” Let me remind
you this is only dating, he is not your guy and it’s good that he would think that, because that
further proves that you are still a free agent that answers to no man. This sets the foundation of
if he wants 24-7 access to you in the future it’s on him to lock you up or always deal with you
disappearing at times. Once again, you control his emotions, you don’t bend to his! Stephen will
not have a beef, just like I forgave and forgot when I was finally contacted by my future wife
after that day was over. You dropping off the face of the earth will not change things; it will
become water under the bridge. Now that Cali tested Stephen and trained him to understand
what a life would be like without her, it’s time to give him another reward.

The Second Date Set Up

Similar to Ho Tactics, you have to set the second date yourself in terms of how you want him to
entertain you. This means you choose the activity, the place, and the day. This isn’t about
exposing how much money he has like in that book, this is about exposing your lifestyle to see
if he can keep up. The first date was merely an interview; the second date is a day on the job to
see if he fits into your world. Before we get to the actual date, you have to complete the set up
mission. So far, you gave him good conversation, and have learned even more about his
character. You have made yourself a part of his daily life, without being annoying. You have
successfully trained this man to move at your pace by declining his offers of pop-up dates or
spontaneous meetups. Finally, you showed him that you don’t need to talk to him every day,
but he does. You, my Queen, are firmly in the driver’s seat at this point.
Now it’s time to research where you want to drive this man romantically. Do you want
to go on another dinner date, this time at a more expensive place to show him that this is the
way you expect to roll? Do you hit up a bowling alley and see how he reacts to your
competitive side? Maybe you want to go to a stage show and dress up to see if he can hit the
elegant switch. Maybe you want to go to a movie, grab a quick bite, and fuck him to get it out of
the way, so sex isn’t the elephant in the room going forward… just testing. This is the second
phase of your vetting process, the part where you put his words into action. This means the
second date will serve as a test to see if this man can be a real part of your life socially.
Some women only live to hang with their boyfriends, they go where he wants to go, and
becomes interested in what he’s interested in because their own passions in life may seem
foolish and she doesn’t want to bore him. There are too many, “I don’t care, what do you want
to do, bae” girls and not enough grown women who step up and promote their interests in a
real way. Being that Cool Girl that can watch the game, but doesn’t understand it, or who trails
behind him to tacky restaurants when she prefers to fine dine because at least it’s going
somewhere, is pathetic. Women like that will forever remain boring, Zombies with Pussies that
do find love, pop out a few kids, but most likely she and her man will live a bland and
unfulfilled existence. Never sell your soul for dick. You must find someone that shares your
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When you’re dating, it’s not about finding your place in a man’s life; it’s about him lining up
with the things you love so you can share that. Being happy together isn’t about having
someone to come home to; it’s about having someone to explore life with. I often talk to women
who tell me that they want a man they can travel with, yet when it comes to normal dating are
super basic in their wants. What’s the point of traveling with a man if he can’t event stand to do
those things you enjoy doing locally? You can’t jump to the fantasy and avoid the reality; you
have to grow with a person in order to achieve real unity. The second date is no longer about
questions and answers, you understand who he is, now he has to understand who you are.
I have a friend who had trouble finding someone because he was gay and really wasn’t
comfortable promoting that to strangers. He took to the internet, found a match, and thought
his problem was solved because this man was great on the phone. He would tell me how
different this person was and how they talked every day about wide ranging topics. This was a
long distance situation, so I warned him to wait until they spent real time before he got his
hopes up. No matter the orientation, men are men, and you never know a man’s true nature
until you drag him into a real world environment. In their case, my friend was a movie buff,
and going to the theater was something he always did. When he flew up to see this new boo,
that’s where they went. My friend wanted to share his world with this new man, because if they
were together this would be a monthly ritual. In public he found out that the person he had
fallen for on the phone was not at all someone who meshed with him in the real world. He
insulted the ticket taker, made fun of the movie while in the theater, called people fat, and made
racially insensitive remarks all in the span of two hours. It blew my friend’s mind because the
day before, when they were closed up in the apartment, it was perfect. Like being on the phone,
hanging out in closed quarters will never uncover true character. Now that they were out living
like real people, this guy’s personality was fully exposed. My friend returned home earlier than
planned and the two never spoke again. The phone and the house are not what relationships
are built on, the outside world is the baptism that all potential couples need to go through if it
to work longer than a few months.
Back to our girl Cali, she has been impressed with Stephen, they mesh on the phone, but
how does she know Stephen fits into her life socially? Cali isn’t a homebody, she loves to go out
in the city, and being a music lover her favorite pastime is to check out performances by indie
artist. This isn’t something she does with a bunch of friends usually she goes by herself.
However, if a man is going to truly connect with her, he will have to be willing to share in this
experience. Cali has to see if Stephen is perfect in private or perfect all the time. The first date
allowed him to show a little bit of his outside attitude but he was on his best behavior, not as
comfortable as he is now. Cali wants to see if Stephen is cool around new people, and if he can
deal with her when the attention’s not squarely on him the entire night. Cali asks Stephen to
take her to a show, and sends him the link to buy the tickets. Stephen isn’t into alternative
music, but he’s into Cali, so he agrees to take her out if it means spending time with her. What
happens on that date will determine if Stephen stays in her phonebook as a potential boyfriend
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Chapter 7:
Post-Date Don’ts

T
he post-date mission encompasses a lot more goals than the first date and maybe you
feel that most of the things listed in the last chapter are unnecessary or can be dwindled
down to simply having long phone calls and setting up the second date. Final warning,
if you attempt to freestyle these steps and be lazy because you are impatient then you will fail.
In order for a man to see you as unique going forward he has to get hooked on your
personality. Not your phone voice, not your nudes, not the anticipation of seeing you in four
days, he has to experience you as a part of his daily life, get accustomed, and then when he is
fully open, and only then, do you give him another in person dose. Some of you go on three
dates in one week with the same guy because you don’t know how to work a man emotionally
from afar. Some of you spend all day on the phone with these men or text all day with these
men because you don’t know how to create want through separation. Realize that these steps
aren’t made up out of thin air; these are real examples of how women dominate. As for the
women who fail to follow the post-date steps, I have two inboxes full of fuck ups that clearly
show that the old way will always be the wrong way.

Don’t Wait On Him to Reach Out

You wake up, check your phone… nothing. You try to brush it off, but an hour later your phone
is back in your hand and this time you’re growing angry. That’s pride fucking with you. “If a
man wants you he’ll rush after you,” that’s the bullshit that women pile up and lean on so they
can justify their fear. You want a man to talk to you first, call you first, and then call you after a
date so you can be sure that he likes you. For you to move first comes with the potential of
being rejected. You don’t hide from rejection you run towards it, because the fear of the
unknown is why your thoughts are keeping you imprisoned. It’s better to reach out and get
curved, then to sit around for days hoping that he actually calls. Take things into your own
hand, because when you do reach out first you exercise total control. This is the 21st century and
men think the same way as women in terms of coming off as thirsty. He took you out, fed your
ass, and shared his life story with you. For him to pop up with a morning text, an afternoon call,
or even an email makes him think, “Damn she’s going to think I’m some kind of loser that has
nothing better to do but hound her.” When a woman is too prideful to call and a man is playing
it cool waiting at least 24 hours to reach out because he read to do so in some Pick Up Artist
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check in because you’re on his mind and he wants to keep it going. However, you have to
prepare for the new age man who may be unsure if reaching out is something you will respect
or see as simp activity. Don’t overthink this. He passed your first test, the date was great, so let
him know that it’s okay to hit you up by hitting him up first. The goal is to get on the phone and
keep the conversation going so you can learn even more about his personality when he’s not
face to face with you. Your goal is not to be some, “If he wants me he knows my number,”
young ass pride demon. Fuck pride!

Don’t Be Annoying
A friend was on the phone with me one night, and what was supposed to be a ten-minute
conversation turned into 90 minutes of clowning around. Finally, his “girl” chimed in and said,
“For someone who doesn’t like talking on the phone you’ve been on that call forever.” She
caught him. Contrary to what they tell women, men do not have a problem talking on the
phone. It’s not the phone, it’s the person on the other end that makes him lie and say, “I don’t
do phones.” In terms of my friend, he doesn’t talk to that particular girl for longer than ten
minutes unless she’s in the same room. Why? Because she’s only good for pussy and light
conversation. I hope all of you reading this are on your way to being Spartans, but the truth is
that some of you will always remain Zombies who are only good for pussy and light
conversation. The type of girl that over-calls, over-texts, and annoys a man with lack of real
conversation ruins it for women who are actually interesting. Males don’t know what side of
the fence you land on, but to be safe he will make up an excuse about not being a phone person.
This is a problem that can be corrected by showing him you aren’t some Zombie, but first you
have to take a hard look at how you come off to men.
What did you do today? When is the next time I can see you? Did you see what happened today
on the timeline? The weather was crazy today, right? Men don’t give a fuck about any of that noise,
the only reason they play along is that just like my homeboy, he knows that after twenty
minutes he can lure you into sex talk, and then set up when he’s going to come over to fuck. I
refuse to believe that women in general are so dry that they can’t stimulate a man’s mind with
talk that’s beyond sex. The days following your first date you need to establish that you aren’t
typical. When you call or text he knows that it’s to say something interesting not to ask about
his boring day… in the same way you asked about his boring day the day before. In Cali’s
examples, she found ways to keep her man talking about things that he couldn’t shut up about.
This isn’t hard, if you paid attention on your first date and listened to the things he talked about
and showed the most excitement. Not every man is into the NBA, Grand Theft Auto games, or
Avengers movies, you need to listen to the way his voice shifts when he gets on a subject he
enjoys, and keep hitting those topics.
Another problem, besides being so nervous that you can’t create real conversation, is not
knowing when to chill. Let’s say that you are fun to talk to and he loved your marathon phone
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text throughout the day until he’s free to talk some more. Have a fucking life outside of talking
to this one man. You like him and he likes you, but when you won’t give him a breather to go
live your life you smother him. The ironic thing is that men don’t mind when you’re first
getting to know each other, they will happily let you over communicate. What man is going to
tell you, “Shorty, you’re texting me too much, chill,” and still get a second date or a first nut?
Just because a man isn’t objecting doesn’t mean he’s enjoying that kind of attention. As
someone who has talked to over a hundred of these “two months and done,” relationship girls,
the problem that lead to them breaking up started from the begging because they never paced
themselves. A man will get sick of you without even knowing he’s losing his taste for you, and
then he will figure out ways to avoid you because while you were a steak with lobster on top,
days upon days of eating that has made you as special as meatloaf. You may be a woman that
doesn’t believe in dating multiple men (shame on you) and outside of work or school your only
social outlet is this man you now are in like with. Check that compulsion. Where are you other
friends? Where are your other hobbies? “All I think about his him,” grow the fuck up and play
this game like an adult not a toddler. You know how kids love watching Frozen over and over
again, well when you’re hard up for a man, you are doing the same thing because that’s all you
want to see, hear, and feel. Realize that unlike a DVD, this man will get tired of you fast if you
don’t give him a break. If you can’t pace yourself during the first week or two, how will you
pace yourself during a real relationship? Make this man a part of your day, not the primary
focus of your day.

Don’t Fall Back Into Your Story

A big part of preventing burnout is to keep up with the main thing laid out on the first date. Let
him do the talking. When you get him on the phone and you get all the jokes out, you’ll most
likely be cuddled up in your bed, hair in your bonnet, and feeling all warm and fuzzy. This
cupcaking hour usually results in a woman telling too much to a man she barely knows. There
will be plenty of time for your story. Right now this is Forrest Gump, he’s Forrest, and you’re
that woman on the bench that’s asking, “So what happened to Jenny, my nigga?” Do not get so
comfortable in your environment that you feel as if you need to tell him about childhood
trauma. Do not let his smooth phone voice drop your guard and make you talk about how
worried you are about money or health. Do not revert to stories about your ex’s baby’s mother,
your father’s drinking problem, your sister’s loser husband, or anything that triggers your own
personal therapy session. There is nothing wrong with talking about things that you plan on
doing, or your views on life, politics, religion, family, etc… However, stay away from going into
your own personal life stories to prove a point. The first week of calls is about him pouring
himself out, so you can filter the bullshit. The same way you are relaxed, he’s relaxed at his
place, and men will start to snitch on themselves the later it gets on that phone call. Your job is
listen to Forrest spin his tales, only interjecting to make a joke comment or to ask for clarity on
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others talk. Expose that on your first post-date phone call, and continue to hit that each night
you two cupcake on the phone.

Don’t Social Media Stalk

Are you on Instagram? Should never come out of your mouth. Asking his @ name is off limits.
Popping up on Facebook trying to add him the next morning is not only creepy; it’s a recipe for
disaster as you move forward in this blossoming relationship. Even if the man asks you for your
social media info, have a response ready, “That’s for fun, boo, you get the real me,” or “I’m only
on Facebook for my family, I don’t really bring personal stuff online.” You have to be in control,
not pressured to hand over your username. Fuck him, he can stalk if he wants to; dare him to
hunt you down, because snakes get chopped with the quickness. I find it hilarious how some
women on twitter suddenly go private, start talking about dates, then a month later are back
public and talking about how men ain’t shit or how “bae” is so sweet. That shows that you are
the type that let’s men dictate your online image, and lack a real zero-fucks-given attitude. Why
even go through the headache of having your thirst trap pictures or your sex tweets scrutinized
by some man that most likely won’t be around next month? Even still, if he doesn’t trust
women and is willing to judge you by what you write or post, then let him bring that bullshit to
your next date or a phone call, and cut him off like you just hit that 141st character.
I’ve had a handful of women come to me after being confronted by their potential boo
about either a timeline post, a comment left on a picture, even a blog. If that man is so insecure
that he can’t deal with you being online then how the hell are you going to be in a real
relationship with him? Freedom of speech is the most important right we have, so you mean to
tell me that you’re going to let some guy come in and Hitler you because he’s cute and you
don’t want him to think you’re a ho because you tweet like one? If he can’t take the heat, then
he needs to find another kitchen, because real women don’t submit to social media bullying. If
you two were already friends online, then don’t suddenly censor yourself because you know
he’s looking. “What if he thinks that’s a sub? What if he thinks that guy who I blew kiss emoji’s
is my other bae?” You’re slipping back into typical behavior. Fuck what he thinks, the way you
act online didn’t stop him from taking you out, so it won’t bother him now. Again, if it does,
you expose him as a jealous, insecure, little boy and you don’t ever put those on your roster.
The other side of the equation is your own jealousy and insecurity working overtime
when you have that much out of context access to a person whom you don’t really know. Is that
his friend or is he trying to fuck that girl whose pictures he always likes. Is he @’ing that girl
because he agrees with the things she’s tweeting or is he trying to soften her up so he can slide
in those DMs… is he already in her DMs!? See, this is why you shouldn’t trust men they are always
trying to double dip and blah blah blah! Why are you driving yourself crazy by speculating about a
man that isn’t even your friend, let alone, boyfriend? Here’s the truth, men on social media are
never going to behave themselves. It’s an outlet where all of these women with avatar’s that
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had better be if he’s single or he’s an idiot. Is he posting some Draya looking chick as his WCW
and you don’t look a thing like Draya? Yup, because he’s trying to fuck her too. Is he on
Facebook dropping subliminals about how he enjoyed your date last night so his Ex knows he’s
moved on? Possibly, but that’s not a victory that tells you that he’s genuinely into you at this
point. Good or bad, none of what a man does from the privacy of his social media account
matters. The only focus should be on what happens between the two of you as you build. Once
you’re in an official relationship then you can police that nonsense, but for now stay away! All
social media stalking does is put ideas in your head that turn you off.
The counter may be, “What if he’s psycho, shouldn’t me or my bff do recon on his pages
to be sure he’s not two-timing me or saying weird shit?” No! You and your bff need to go join a
book club or something because you’re doing too much with your free time. The truth needs to
come to light via conversation, that’s how you prove that you are doing these steps correctly.
You aren’t with him yet; therefore, the other women he’s fucking or trying to fuck aren’t your
business at this point. I once heard of a girl making her friend go on Tinder and match with the
guy she was dating to see if he was really into her… He’s single! He’s not going to delete his
Get Pussy App based on one or even two good dates with you. In reality, you should be doing
the same thing with other men because one date does not mean you’re out of the game. Jealousy
dictates that the man you like should barricade himself away from the rest of the women in the
world and focus on you. That’s not realistic. He doesn’t know if you’re going to turn out as cool
as you were on the first date, if your compatibility is legit, or if you’re just wearing a mask
yourself. What fool cuts off his other options or potential options for something that has yet to
be disproved as a mirage? Women have a bad habit of putting all their eggs in one basket the
moment they meet a high-grade prospect, men have always known better. Chill out and leave
the internet stalking to the basic bitches. Using social media to see if he’s psychotic is pointless.
His mental stability isn’t going to be revealed in a selfie or his tirade about some person who cut
him off in traffic. It’s not as if he’s posting Charles Manson quotes and tweeting about his
history as a cutter. Any excuse as to why you want to stalk him is just that, an excuse. Don’t
complicate your mission by bringing unrelated things into the picture; focus on how he’s
treating you, that’s all.

Don’t Bring Up Other Women or Men

Staying on the subject of minding your own damn business, do not bring up other women who
may currently be in his life. In the advice I give daily, I’m often talking to women who are
dating guys who already have girlfriends, who are in situationships, or men who are on break
but not really free of their Ex. People rarely clean break from relationships before getting into
new ones, it’s clearly the world we live in, or I wouldn’t get so many emails on the subject. All
you can go off is what he tells you on Day 0. If you do the baby mama check or the “your
girlfriend” check, as I laid out earlier, you can only base the opportunity you’re giving him off
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it, but give him that much respect. If it comes up on the date or in a conversation post-date that
he was lying, then you cut him the fuck off. Some men will tell you, “I didn’t want to scare you
off.” Well, he tried the wrong one, because lying is the number one reason to be scared off! If he
lies, he has to go. No exceptions.
If he responded honestly and said, “I actually am seeing someone,” or “I’m trying to end
it with my ex, but she keeps holding on.” Then use your discretion. I don’t advise getting into a
messy situation where the last chapter isn’t closed. In a perfect world, a man will be single or at
the most, only dating, the same as you are. Personally, I would tell a woman to always keep it
moving, and let him get his situation in order. However, reality may push you towards
someone who has some baggage, but still seems worth the chance. I’m not going to tell you to
close the door if he’s being honest about that current relationship, but don’t be naïve either. For
anyone that read Solving Single you already know my stance on taking a man from a weak bitch
being easier than buying food stamps from a junkie. Nevertheless, you have to consciously
understand and accept the boat you’re climbing into. Dating a man with a previous situation is
a choice you make when he first confesses to that, not one you suddenly decide on after your
first date goes well. If you are thinking, “Well, he has a girl, I’m not really trying to get mixed
up with that, but let me see how our date goes before I decide,” then you already fucked up.
Don’t compromise yourself by being indecisive! The same way that you have to ask yourself if
you can deal with a man with a child, you have to be honest about a man with a girl or a
lingering ex. The more time you give him to win you over, the harder it will be to walk away.
Be willing to walk away if you aren’t about competing for time or waiting for a man to cut ties.
During your post-date week don’t say petty shit like, “You must have been busy with
your other chicks,” or “Let me know when you’re free, I know you’re popular.” Those are signs
of passive aggressiveness and unwarranted jealousy. His life is his life; he hasn’t earned or
accepted the position to come to work for you, so of course he’s putting in other applications. In
Ho Tactics, one of the biggest mindfucks is to be okay with him having other women, in route to
becoming that perfect unbothered fantasy woman. These steps are much different because
you’re not softening him up to buy you things; you want to earn his respect and later on his
love. To be cool with him having hos is to show him that you aren’t serious, that you’re a down
for whatever type girl. While he will enjoy that disposition, he won’t see you as anything real.
Assume that you aren’t the only girl, but carry yourself as if you are the only girl.
The same rules apply for a jealous man asking about the other people you are dating.
“This is A and B, let’s not talk about Z,” or “I’m not talking to anyone seriously right now.”
That’s all you need to do. For some reason women are way too fucking open about their “we
talk” relationships. You don’t have a boyfriend, so why bring up some other guy who you are
just dating or some random FWB who you call when the vibrator isn’t enough. Keep your
business your business, until that man becomes more to you. You aren’t a lying if you don’t
give him an answer, and you aren’t being a bitch if you tell him to worry about himself. You
don’t owe shit to this man just because he took you out, so at the first hint of jealousy, shut his
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the seriousness of the other men you entertain. This isn’t to spare his feelings; it shows him that
you aren’t one of these girls who becomes a girlfriend before she is actually a girlfriend. Some of
you are guilty of letting your own want for a man stop you from talking to other men before
that guy has even proved himself. Even if you aren’t dating other men, carry yourself as you
are. This shows a man that you are desired outside of his courting. If he wants you, he will try
to lock you down, because the thought of a woman having other men drives any truly
interested man crazy. When you get to the step where you take a day off from him, he knows
that he should be worried, because he already assumes there is other competition out there for
you based on the mystery of “I talk to other people.” At that moment, you are firmly in control
because he knows that it’s on him to take you off the market, because you aren’t a basic chick
that takes herself off the market out of thirst.

Don’t See Him

I was talking to a woman who told me about a good Tinder date she went on. This guy took her
out to eat and then surprised her with an archery activity. That’s a creative date, first you dine
like a princess, and then you get to play Katniss Everdeen for the rest of the night. How did she
reward this? She called him the next day and asked for a ride as if the man was an Uber driver.
When he didn’t respond accordingly, she then offered to pay for the ride. This is how you turn
fireworks to firecrackers. Dating is supposed to exude this feeling of magic. When you try to
bring that man into your life to do favors like drop offs, furniture moving, house painting, or
even stopping by your job to say “hello” the magic vanishes. Don’t take Prince Charming and
turn him into Ray Regular. Now I don’t deny that men will do these things, and that you can
still salvage a relationship out of it, but it’s too much too soon, and you are skipping over the
necessary steps. You’re forcing him to be a part of your life before you get to know him, and
once that seal is broken you can’t go back. This entire guide is about the proper way to vet a
man and to feel out his character so you make the right choice early on. Distribution of time is
very important to getting to know someone properly. To lock yourself in the house and just get
to know them will never be as effective as pacing yourself over weeks. The goal is to be a
special attraction, not an everyday appearance. Most of you know The Rock, former Pro
Wrestler turned movie star. Well when The Rock came back to wrestle and became the
champion people were confused, it’s like why leave 10 million a movie for 5 million a year? The
genius was that The Rock only had to show up every three months. That ended up being 5
appearances that year—which broke down to a million dollars a show. Why the hell would
Vince McMahon pay that much for one man? Because every time he showed up it meant
something! It was special. That’s how you need to be with your time. Either you’re going to be
John Cena, the great vanilla champion that’s out there every night, or you’re going to be The
fucking Rock, electric, magical, and has someone dying in anticipation of your next appearance.
Attached at the hip syndrome is the reason most college, workplace, and local
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rate, it’s like going forward in your biology textbook. You’re supposed to be learning about
DNA, truly understanding it, not glossing over it so you can rush to the chapter on the human
body. Some of you probably rushed over earlier chapters to get to this part, because you think
you get it, but when you don’t utilize patience to learn, you never get it. People are complex,
they go through moods, they have other issues that pop up, when you’re too close you don’t see
the full picture, just the slice of heaven that’s manufactured during the honeymoon stage of
dating. I don’t care if you’re in a college dorm or if you are on a military base with nowhere
varied to go, that doesn’t mean you say fuck it and just hang out each day because you can’t
date properly. You’re not calling him because you can’t see him; you’re calling him so he can
want to see you that much more. You could walk over to sit with him and talk, but where’s the
build up? Wait a week and go off base for a drink. Wait until you are done with your finals, and
then go over to the local off campus karaoke bar to trip with him. You always have options that
set the anticipation, but you have to be discipline regardless of how near or far a man is to you.
I knew a girl; we’ll call her Trina, who dated her co-worker. They went out once, and
then fell into the habit of eating lunch together every day. I gave advice to one girl, call her Eve
to stick with the female rapper theme, who dated a guy in her apartment complex. This
neighbor invited Eve out once, and then they fell into the habit of chilling in their apartments
each day. You may think, “What’s wrong with that, bonding on a date or outside of a date is
still bonding,” but let me correct your flawed logic. Both of these real life people ran into the
exact same problem. Trina’s work buddy ended up talking to another girl at the job. The
apartment guy ended up becoming official with a girl that had just moved into Eve’s building.
Both stories had this burst of never wanting to be separated attraction followed by crash and
burn boredom. These men didn’t have to work for anything outside of that first date. They
learned basic things about each other, but their relationship never grew outside of ordering in
takeout or rubbing hands in the break room. By the time Trina and Eve both had sex with those
guys, it came at a very cheap price. Just like that idiot that wins the lottery and blows the
winnings in the year, no one appreciates things that come easy.
If Trina would have went to work every day, declined lunch sessions, and established
dating and communicating as an outside of the building specialty, then Trina’s guy would have
seen Trina as something special. This co-worker would have been thirsty to get closer to Trina
because men always want things that they can’t have on their own time. A girl he’s obsessed
with is worth turning the other girls at work down because he is still in the mindset of winning
her over first, not already looking for the next piece of pussy. As it went down, he conquered
Trina without breaking a sweat, and didn’t truly appreciate her as a person, just an object of lust
during his eager honeymoon stage. Eve’s guy had stairwell pussy, he got off work, ran up the
stairwell, and there it was waiting for him. The girl he left Eve for wouldn’t even let him in her
apartment. Think about that! Eve was confused as to how a man could get everything he wants,
yet still pick the woman that tells him, “no.” It boils down to the respect the special attraction
woman is able to create, whereas the attached at the hip woman becomes stale, allowing apathy
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unless he’s sees you as a victory due to his efforts, not something handed over quickly. Dates
make you a special attraction, utilize them to build your legend, and a man will always
remember what it took for him to get you, and cherish that much longer.

Don’t Be Thirsty For Attention

A question that comes up in actual relationships is, “How do I know how much space to give
my boyfriend?” This is usually asked when the relationship is having troubles and about to end.
Men wait until it’s too late to carve out their space, and women, generally, never even think that
their men want space to begin with. There are two types of women, the ones that love being free
from their lovers and the ones that love being up under their lovers. The latter has a one-track
mind, “he doesn’t object to being around me so much, or talking to me so much, then he feels
the way I feel.” A man is scared to death to tell his woman that he needs space, so he creates it
naturally by using excuses such as work, friends, prior engagements, sporting events, etc… As a
woman, you have to understand that even those men that want to be up under you need to be
let loose. Most of the strong relationships I’ve seen revolve around the woman getting away
from her man frequently to do her own thing. One of my best friends in Los Angeles has a
super cool girlfriend that is interested in a lot of the things he is, but every other time I hang out
with him she’s missing. She takes herself out of the equation because she understands that if it
were up to him he would have her be his shadow. That’s an example of a woman knowing how
to naturally balance the attention she gets and gives, in order to push her man to go do him.
They have benefited from that over the years, and no matter how much he begs her to come out,
she will still take days off from him so she can get a peace of mind.
After your first date and following your routine of talking on the phone or texting each
other throughout the day, you may get hooked. In your mind, you expect to get a quick text
back all the time because you are used to it. You may expect him to call every night or be free to
talk every night at 8pm, because you are used to it. For a man to have other things come up may
cause weak bitch thoughts to pop up for no reasons. “Consistency” is one of the biggest desires
women have, but in real life, consistency is not about a man reacting the same way to you five
days out of the week. Don’t get addicted to the habit of communication when you are first
getting to know a man because he does have a life outside of talking to you. One of the goals is
to become a part of his life by fitting into his day, not taking over his day. You have to try to set
that routine to talk, but if you see that it’s not working, adjust. If he wants to call you at 10pm,
understand the reason don’t think that he’s losing interest. If he doesn’t respond to a text for
two hours, understand that he may have been caught up with something, and instead of
reacting with, “fine, I won’t text this fool ever again,” inquire about that when you talk to him
and see what was going on in his day. Communication is the other C that needs to used in
heavy doses. That’s what this after date mission about, seeing if you can fit into that man’s real
life and vice versa. When you are actually a couple, you need to be able to understand his
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when to fall back, and know when to set your own rules for consistency. This step will go a long
way during controlling any neurotic behavior during dating and teach you how much time
your man needs to himself when you are in an official relationship.

Don’t Have Phone Sex

I think phone sex is the greatest thing in the world, and one of the ways women can easily hook
a man during the “getting to know you” phase. However, the week after the first date is too
soon to whip it out if you’re trying to establish a legitimate relationship. You can flirt and be
seductive, but to actually get into a position where you are on the phone making a man cum for
you before you even get a second date sends the wrong message. The second date is where a
man thinks he will fuck you, and if you start talking about all the ways you’re going to suck his
dick and how you want him to bend you over and pull your hair, then sex becomes expected.
He’ll take you out on that date, tell you what you want to hear, and play his position to get that
fantasy in real life. Do not taint the mission by leading a man to believe that he’s already in
there, because then he stops being honest, and all the work you did on the first date is null and
void. When you’re about to get into a man’s pockets using Ho Tactics phone sex is a tool for
control, when you want to be respected, phone sex proves you’re out of control.
Two days after the first date, you’re having your second long conversation, and it creeps
into how you have a sexy phone voice. You play around by saying something teasing like, “Do I
really daddy, do you like when I get real low with it?” That’s cool, but when you take it to the
level of what you would do, what you’re wearing, or allow him to guide you into saying
something that will get him off, the game is over. Men are persuasive, and when a woman is
afraid to scare a man off, she allows herself to be manipulated into making him happy. Right
now, there are those of you who are reading this who love to say what you won’t do, but when
a man is asking, almost begging, you bend to his will because you are worried that if he’s
unhappy with that response, he will go find another girl to take care of his needs. You have to
be willing to say, “No” and say it often. You won’t be Jerk off Encouragement for a man you
barely know, that’s not who you are. If he wants to pout and get off the phone early with you,
let him. He can go call up his other bitch and let her talk about all the ways she likes to deep
throat. When you smack a man’s hand down and prove through actions what kind of women
you are, he may get turned off and never come back. Good! Each step of this guide is meant to
run a man off, because only the men that aren’t scared off by you coming off as a woman of
respect deserve to stay around.

Don’t Be Available 24-7

A man can be controlling even before you become his girlfriend, but don’t be flattered. Men like
to take possession of you just to prove they can. If you’re a typical bird, you love them taking
that control because it makes you feel wanted, even if the want is out of sheer male ego. If
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trip. You are your own woman, you go where you want, and with whom you want to go. Any
man who wants to have a say in those things has to actually be your boyfriend, not just some
new dick you’re talking to and going out on dates with. You have to establish that you aren’t at
a man’s beck and call, or else a man will take your free schedule for weakness. If a man calls
you, and you’re currently free to talk, you pick up. This isn’t about playing a game of let the
phone ring and then call back in an hour. The availability I’m focused on is when you aren’t free
or if a man expects you to curve your schedule to match his with little respect given for your
life. You have to get up at 6:30am, you can answer at 11pm, but it had better be to let him know
that he needs to call at a decent hour. If he has to call you back and doesn’t specify when, don’t
stop what you’re doing and wait for that call back. He’s not that important. Go live life, and if
he calls back while in the midst of something, he can get the, “I’ll call you when I get free,”
response or voicemail treatment.
You must establish that there is a window of time when he can have your attention. If
you are a woman who doesn’t do much besides go to work, then you of course you can be more
flexible, but watch how flexible. I have a buddy in Baltimore that called this girl, flirted with her
for about five minutes while I had to make a call. When I was free again, he hung up with her.
Later in the day when we were out, he called her again, and he did the same thing. Flirted with
her, talked a little shit, then rushed her off the phone when I was done doing what I was busy
doing. He was using her like a game of Candy Crush—play a little, put it down when something
more entertaining pops up. I said, “Damn, does she work?” His response was classic, “The bitch
got two jobs, but she takes a break every time I call.” He said that as if he was Alexander The
Great, and with good reason. This girl was so hard up for him that she allowed him to dictate
her time to the point where she would stop anything she was doing, even earning money, to
talk to him. I know countless stories about women taking off work, going to pick men up, even
dropping their kids off, as soon as a man who wasn’t even her boyfriend came calling. In some
female minds, being free when a man wants you free is showing him that you’re putting forth
an effort. Effort isn’t picking up no matter what, that’s being overly submissive to a man that
isn’t even yours. Like my friend Alexander The Goon, males lose respect for your time the
moment they sense that your time isn’t important.
Do not make yourself free at the expense of your livelihood. You do not turn a man off;
if anything, you make him conscious that he only has a window of time to impress you. The
reason men become inconsistent early on is that they don’t feel any pressure to win you over
after you start moving to the beat of their drum. The same way I describe dating as being a
spectacle; the time in-between those dates should be seen as coveted. If I can only talk to Baby J
from the hours of 6-8pm because of her schedule, my ass will be on that phone at 6:05pm. The
problem is that women think they are replaceable, that there is always another woman a man
has on deck that he can move to next. You underestimate the power of New Pussy and
Personality. If your date went well, you have the control. He wants to talk to you to cash in on
that date, if he can’t talk to you on his time because you have things to do, that man will adapt.
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her dating life is hopeless because men aren’t around to talk when she’s free. That’s a weak
bitch mentality. Anytime you’re free should be presented as if it’s time with Bill Gates. If the
richest man in this country has twenty minutes to hear him pitch an idea, a man won’t say, “I’m
playing 2K with my boys,” he will drop everything because that’s more important! You are Bill
Gates, and your Pussy is Microsoft. If you have a fifteen-minute break at midnight, then that
man will stay up until midnight just to talk to you. Don’t sell yourself short by assuming that a
man will only do things on his time. Be free when you feel like being free, and never be overly
available to the point where he gets comfortable.

Don’t Let Him Plan the Second Date

If you’re Maria the Ho, then you want to establish if a man is a spender on the second date by
aiming for luxury to see if he’s even worth your time in terms of hustling. If you’re more like
Cali the Spartan, then you want to use the second date to test how seamlessly a man fits into
your world. No matter if you’re using Ho Tactics or Dating like a Spartan you take control over
the second date so you can control the variables. Let’s review the first date once more. You
wanted him to give you his best shot in terms of creativity and romance. It didn’t matter if he
took you to a Yelp rated $$ restaurant or a $$$$ one, this was all about seeing how this potential
boo treats his women. He did a good job; maybe he nailed your personality with his dating
choice. Now it’s time to introduce him to your style. Think of the second date as how you
expect to be treated by a man going forward. Some of you are tomboys who don’t want to sit
and eat, you prefer to go hiking and have a picnic at the top. Some of you are hood at heart and
while you like to go out and drink, the comfort of places like Red Lobster are preferred to some
place that serves you one scallop and charges you $50 for it and an extra $12 for two pieces of
asparagus. Others are more into the culture of your city, and love doing new things and having
someone next to you to share in that. You need to show a man who you are at this point and not
a day later because this is the final date before you make your first cut.
How do you become best friends down the road? How can you create that once in a
lifetime bond that leads to marriage? You must find common loves or introduce each other to
new loves. Sitting in the house watching TV shows is cool, but that’s not a true reflection of life,
so expose him to something deeper. There are so many 19 and 20-year-olds that swear their
boyfriends are their best friends but they don’t share anything in common, they sit in the house,
watch YouTube, eat, and fuck. Those relationships always crumble because real romance
doesn’t confine itself to the house or revolve around doing what one of the two feels like doing.
You like museums, why hasn’t he taken you to any. You prefer drama films, why does he only
take you to see the comedy flicks he enjoys. You’re a family centric person, why does he always
find a way to avoid dinner at your Aunts. One of the sad things I’ve observed is that women
date around what a man wants to do. In response to a woman trying to be a Cool Girl,
relationships form with the man at the center. Months or years later women realize the hustle: I
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for yourself by not dating properly. I once received an email from this woman who said this
basic shit, “I don’t need to go anywhere, I just want to be with him.” You’re not a Zombie; you
have your own desires and interests outside of sitting on his lap. Women are not supposed to be
dogs that serve to do as their masters say. Putting a man at the center of the relationship is
outdated and overly submissive, and I refuse to see you date this way for any longer. The
second date is your date, your activity, your type of food, or your type of romance. The words,
“I don’t feel like doing that,” coming from his mouth already sets the stage for a man who will
never truly be in a two-way relationship.
I’m not promoting dating your way or the high way, I’m talking about compromise. A
man will be quick to make you sit there and watch the basketball team he likes, and you have to
find a way to make it fun; maybe you like a certain color on his team or maybe one of the
players is cute, so you can now have a rooting interest. A man will be quick to tell you he
doesn’t feel like going to a birthday party at your friends, but he will expect you to be by his
side when he has to show up at his work party. That’s what I mean by a man being the center. I
know so many women who get lead date after date and never have any say, because they are
afraid to speak up. “I don’t know what to do, you decide babe,” is a front used by cowardly
girls who don’t want to choose wrong. The fear is that men don’t enjoy the things women enjoy,
so do what he likes to pacify him. When it comes to those things you really enjoy, you push
them to the side and do them with your girlfriends or by yourself. What kind of basic bitch-a-
rade are you sipping? When you are at this second date point, before any of the “Let’s do things
I want to do,” sets in, you have to create that foundation of compromise. Do you notice that
when you first start to date, men are less dominant in terms of, “We’re going here,” and are
more in line with, “So what do you want to do?” Once you enter a real relationship it becomes
very pussy for a man to always ask you what you want to do all the time, but when you are just
starting to date he has to do that because his job is to impress you and make you happy. Exploit
that early dating kindness, because that’s how you will introduce him to the things you enjoy
and test to see if he is someone with whom you can share your passions.
Some of you may still be thinking, “I don’t care if he likes what I like, I just want him to
like me, and I will learn to like the stuff he does.” No! This is the very reason why men don’t
want you for more than a few months. You can fake the funk, but you won’t become true
friends until you can truly understand each other. When the gossip is done, the sex is over, and
it’s time to turn the TV off, where is the bond? True bonding is about getting to the point where
you can take the history of that person, the way they act, and the things they enjoy, put them all
together, and know what they are thinking before they even open their mouths. How do you do
that? You walk in their shoes! No one will ever like everything the next person likes, but if done
right you two will begin to meet in the middle. For instance, when I was first dating this young
lady who I thought was the prettiest thing I had ever seen, I would watch America’s Next Top
Model, because she seemed to be obsessed with it and I wanted to understand the appeal. I
didn’t dismiss it as some dumb show for girls. I’m into looking at women, but had no clue what
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didn’t think it was whack, but she also recognized my interest was genuine, because I didn’t
root for the same girls she would root for. That show became just one of the many things we
could use to connect. By the time I ended up marrying that young lady we had long stopped
watching ANTM, but it lead to other connections because she was never afraid to introduce me
to things that she enjoyed that may seem “girly”. You need a man that is not just willing to
pacify you for pussy, but wants to step into your world so he can get closer to the real you.
What defines you? What are the intangibles that make you unique? These are questions that
can’t be answered verbally, you have to show these men who you are at the core. The second
date can’t show everything, and it isn’t meant to, but it does allow a man access into your mind
beyond the conversations. Don’t over-think what you want to do as if you have to blow him
away, you’re missing the point if you take more than a few minutes to come up with a date
idea. The second date idea should come to you quickly. It’s the thing you would want to do the
most on any given day. It’s the personification of what you define as a good time. Show him
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Chapter 8:
Is His Dick Spartan Proof?

T
he default mentality you will come across when dating most men is all about sex and a
man feeling as if you owe him some sort of reward at this point. In a man’s mind, he got
you open on that first date then sealed the deal over the past week with his long
conversations, entertaining texts, and offers to meet up sooner. As we begin the second date, the
expectations are high. History has shown that a woman who really likes a man will either fuck
or let him come close to fucking by the end of the night. A woman who isn’t that interested, is
gaming a dude, or afraid of intimacy, will not let a man fuck or do anything sexual. Therefore, a
man is waiting for your actions at the end of the date to prove to him where he stands.
Following this train of thought, a man who feels a “she likes me” vibe, believes that he only has
to repeat what he did on the first date and collect the pussy at the end of the night because you
are already slayed. All signs point to you being into him. You showed your sexual attraction by
hugging up on him at the end of the date and giving him a kiss first. You showed your
emotional interest by staying on the phone with him at night and even checking in during the
day. Even though he suspects that you are seeing other people, his male ego makes him believe
that he’s clearly in front, and that the second date is merely the victory lap.
You may feel as if you failed if a man is still thinking about sex, but it has nothing to do
with how you have come off thus far. So where does his supreme confidence come from on the
second date? Again, let’s look at the history of men versus women. A man knows what level
he’s on socially, economically, and physically. An unattractive drug dealer knows that he can
still win because he can buy love. A handsome fast food worker knows that he can still be
treated as if he’s a perfect boyfriend candidate because he has default good looks that women
don’t pull every day. Unlike women, men can lack true confidence and still end up with the girl
of their dreams. Males take self-inventory and then lead with something that they know a
woman will respond to in terms of seeing him as desirable. In the case of your date, he will
most likely see himself as a winner on two levels. He is attractive enough and employed enough
to get most women in his city.
Mind you that we may not be talking super attractive or even a man that makes over
100k a year. He’s looking at his competition to figure out how valuable he himself is to women.
Men can guess by the area you live in and the places you go, what other men are in the race for
your heart, and then create a ranking system. The average woman may only meet one wealthy
man in her city. This upper echelon man is usually a musician or executive who doesn’t have
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expand his Ho harem. This leaves Mr. I’m a 7.5 out of 10 and make 55K a year as the default
standard for a lot of women who don’t want to branch out of their own lifestyle. The standards
in the 21st century for women are low more times than not, therefore a man at that level I just
mentioned or above will understand his own shortcomings, but still know that he has enough
to make Tina Typical thirst for a commitment. This analogy is not meant to place blame on
women, it’s an understanding of the why women who are educated and even have money
themselves, lower their bar. There just aren’t as many men on that level so girls downgrade. It
takes time to find a quality man in terms of looks and career, and non-Spartans are lazy.
Usually these men are already taken or have personality flaws that you can drive a truck
through. Thus, men become overly confident not based on their own game, but because they
know they are being graded on a curve due to the rest of the men you meet being bums,
narcissists, or undesirables. Women slave themselves to this curve because the statistics are real.
Leverage is a man knowing that a woman doesn’t have an offer on the table that’s as
good as or better than he is. She could find a more handsome man, but he will be broke or
sharing his dick with the entire city. She could find a more paid man, but he is most likely
unattractive physically or internally. She could find some guy that’s even with him in looks and
wealth, but she doesn’t want to make a lateral move and risk being single another year. These
circumstances are what gives many men the balls to walk into a date as if you owe him pussy.
First date he may try, but won’t pressure. Second date he expects the pussy, but will settle for
titties in his mouth or the blessing of your throat. Third date he expects it all or he’s prepared to
use that leverage to drop hints that he won’t be around for a fourth date. Are you really going to
deny me at this point and go back to dating men half the man I am? To say no to sex with him, or at
least a foreplay session in private, is to lose him… or so you think.
One of the biggest discoveries I’ve made since starting BGAE is that women force
themselves into having sex because, just as I wrote above, to not go through with sex, some type
of oral, or at the very least acts of foreplay, scares him off. So while you can sit there and say,
“Second date, I’m just getting to know him, I’m keeping my panties up,” fear of not rewarding
him for another date could force you to give something up that you didn’t plan to give up. Your
date knows that even though it’s only been a week or a week and a half, you like him a lot, your
body is attracted to him, and with the pressure of dating on the curve of “Few good men in this
city,” he will attempt to break you down using this secret: Girls Hate Dating.

“It’s been two weeks, we like each other. Let’s just be together so I can stop
worrying about if you like me, stop stressing about if you have other girls
ahead of me, and allow me to stop entertaining these other guys I only talk
to just so I can say I’m talking to someone.”

No girl really wants to date for weeks or even months. A woman only wants two or
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fear. Fuck raw, nurture, update her relationship status, bae brag, and most importantly drop her
guard so she can truly fall in love. Girls want to skip to love! A woman is only dating as a
precaution; she would love to look in a man’s brain, see that he has good intentions, and fuck
him right there. She doesn’t want to do the legwork of three dates, 90 days, or any tests that
could prove that she’s wasted her time. Men understand that traditionally women are in a race
to be chosen, not in a marathon to figure out what’s real and what’s fake. This is why the
handsome, wealthy, or successful men are in the habit of making seemingly strong women
move too fast or take chances too soon. Typical females want to skip to the “let’s agree to only
see each other,” monogamy. Knowing this is how the majority of women are wired, what do
you think men do? Exploit that want to be cuffed. Males understand that dating for them is
always a win if one or two dates leads to pussy or head. For women who aren’t out looking to
scratch a clit itch, dating has to lead to a relationship or they feel as if they have failed. It’s
relationship or bust for girls, thus all a man who is up on this game has to do is start dangling
the Relationship Carrot in front of your mouth on this date, and he wins. Or so he thinks…
Back in the 90’s the third date was always seen as the sex date, where a woman matched
her panties and bra and knew that it would end up as “coffee” back at someone’s place. Times
have changed and men are no longer willing to wait until the third date in most cases, so in this
millennial, post Sex and the City world, you will be tested sooner. Netflix and chill, has replaced
the first date. Come over and let me cook for you, has replaced the second date. We spent four
hours talking about our fucked up childhood, let’s fuck because this moment is magical,
happens no matter what date number you are on, because your armor has cracks. I want you to
see your cracks before you go on the first date, but I really need you to repair them before you
go on the second date because all this work you have put in will be undone if you meet a man
that comes off as Spartan Proof.

Breaking into Fort Knox

When I was in London, I was asked in that accent that sets my heart on fire, “If a girl followed
everything you told her to do, could you yourself still go after her and have sex with her in a
short time?” I’ve never thought about anything I’ve written in the terms of the person who built
the safe knowing how to break into that safe. However, it is a good point. I shouldn’t be able to
break you nor should any man thinking with my wisdom. There should be no such thing as
Spartan Proof game no matter who the man is, myself included. The only way anything I’m
writing fails is because you allow a man to expose the weakest parts of your armor, and then
chip away. I’ve seen three distinct weaknesses over the years in terms of a woman’s
vulnerability. Find the one you are hiding and reinforce it before you go on the second date.

The Girl Who Wants To Be Loved: This is the easiest type of woman to exploit while dating
because her want to be loved is worn on her sleeve. These women have had a rough upbringing
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more attention. Sexual assault of some kind that was never spoken about in a real way. Their
looks put down by kids in school or by family members. Being chosen second or not at all by an
early crush. A boyfriend that was perfect but was taken away because of death, prison, or
moving away, and now she is haunted by the thought that her one true soulmate is already
gone and she is forced to be alone. There are more examples, but you get the gist, these women
have huge holes in their hearts and psyche’s that have festered in a negative way for years.
Even if a woman like this were to try to follow the Spartan Code to a T, she would be exposed
by a man who knows where her hurt rests.
I would go on a date with a girl like this, and even if she asked me all the questions and
made me do most of the talking, I would find areas to turn it back on her life. The same way I
wrote about how bitter men are easy to expose sad women are easier. A woman who has real
pain wants to talk about that because she never had a person that cared to hear her side of the
story. Asking in a way that makes her feel as if I really want to know will get her talking a little,
then a lot. There is no “Game” or lies a man has to tell, and that’s what confuses women. Smart
men are always honest because by being honest it proves that you are already different from the
other men who try to kiss ass for pussy. A woman like that who wants someone to want her for
real, will project that onto that man who is being real. By the second date knowing that she
wants to be loved, a man will do things like wrap an arm around her, give a layered
compliment, or share something he can relate with her about to put her at ease. A man who
eases into your broken mind by giving you the compassion you feared you would never
experience becomes love. Even if it’s for one night, that love will take over, and you will fuck
him. Again, not because of game or false actions, but because you want instant love more than
you want to wait for real love to develop. He doesn’t beat you; you beat yourself.

The Girl Who Wants To Be Safe: These women are extremely common because their goal is to
be overly careful and not engage a man because they know their guard is built out of glass. The
goal is to use time to weed men out, but they aren’t prepared for a man who can make time fly.
Girls in this category include relationship advice lovers, those girls who have read every book
from Steve Harvey, Christian love guides, Law of Attraction exercises, and even Google shit
like, “How long to wait for sex after a date?” These women are afraid that they can’t get it right
with one way, so they try to master all the ways as if everything combined will work. In reality
that’s like reading twelve Get Rich This Way books and expecting to get a promotion at work by
the end of the week by complimenting your boss on his tie and using the Sun Tzu on the girl in
HR. Going back to the example of women wanting love to be as organized as academics, these
girls aren’t using the creative part of their brains when they date, they’re reading scripts based
on how “Jane found love in 30 Days” when they should be perfecting improve.
I would go on a date with a girl like this and use the same power Ho Tactics women use
to win, by quickly bonding. I would sniff out her rules and shed doubt on them, not by saying,
“The 90 day rule is for fools, here’s why,” because that does nothing. The proper way would
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would be stupid. Going back to the idea that women don’t want to really date for “A long
periodically time” I would be the man that is already talking about “this feels too strong too
fast,” or “I can’t believe I want you this much and it’s only been a week.” These women who are
playing it safe are only doing it to prevent themselves from being hurt again, they have sworn
to do things right, and want to see that a man truly is into her by using various time rules.
However, as I’ve seen with women who crashed and burned when trying to Spartan up. These
women aren’t actually vetting, they are just trying to slow down their own over eager heart. As
a man, I’m going to realize that she wants to say, “fuck dates, just be nice to me!” I will then be
nice to her, show her not only the same affection as the girl who just wanted to be loved, but
also add on my own panic about being afraid of too much too soon. Some women eat up the
fact that a man is crazy over them, and stop asking questions. These type of women don’t want
game about what you could do for them, they want to see that you got it bad. They feel that if a
man is emotionally invested then he won’t break their heart because it would in turn break his
heart even more. This is how some of you will fail because you’re thinking about his reaction to
you dating like a Spartan, not the actual process of vetting a man. Let him cry about how
different you are, let him offer a meeting with his mother, let him drop the “L” word and say,
“You don’t have to say it, I just couldn’t hold it in.” Because even if his lust is authentic, how he
feels doesn’t take you away from your mission of vetting over time. Don’t open the locks on
your heart because a man is looking through the window smiling, hands up like, “I don’t have
any weapons, and I really need to come in.” Be smart and patient, not merely safe.

The Girl Who Wants To Be Hard: Most of my female friends fall into a category where they
understand male game, they truly get it, but the thought of playing mental chess with the
opposite sex scares them. No matter how tough they pretend to be they are running from a fear
of failure they pass off as “I don’t have the energy.” These women were in deep love
previously, sometimes twice, and had their heart shattered by men they thought they
understood. There will be no more trust, no more battle of wits, none of the mental wars that
they could easily win, because like a shell shocked soldier sent back for another tour—they’ve
lost their nerve. These women date without emotion, they don’t believe anything a man says,
and their end game isn’t really love, it’s finding a dick that doesn’t annoy her so she can just get
the physical and not have to spend the energy worrying about what’s love or game.
I would go on a date with a girl like this and once I hear the telltale signs of her being
emotionally hardened, I would drop the romance. These kind of women don’t want to play the
game so why play. If she wants to treat men like men treat girls, then I have to earn her respect
as something beyond the normal man, and that happens by forming a partnership. If you want
to be Harley, I’ll be your Joker, no corny shit. You don’t want love; me neither, what the fuck
are we even putting on fronts for, let’s go have fun. Some men don’t know how to be platonic
but not platonic, so dropping their guard and not leading with, “I like you so much,” will land
them in the friend zone. However, to keep the sexual parts that created the initial connection,
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shell while still keeping the sexual chemistry on the table. She doesn’t have to be hard because
he isn’t a threat he’s an ally, an ally that grips her ass, and kisses her on the mouth when they
say goodbye. At this point, the vetting stops, the learning stops, and as a man he becomes a part
of her life in a way that doesn’t annoy her, that doesn’t scare her, but whom she remains
attracted. Now the guard is down, she has sex, because that’s what she thought she needed, and
only then will she remember what was behind that heavy armor, a big heart. The coldest
women are really the warmest, if you hit the right spots. Sadly, the way she let this man into her
heart was done with him going thought the backdoor, without ever having his bullshit filtered.
No matter how “cool” they have become, she doesn’t really know that man. When her once
frigid heart warms up, how will she deal with this man not wanting her on that level? Being too
hard to date or too exhausted to date, doesn’t mean you get to skip the steps, it means you stop
throwing yourself a pity party and do the work you understand must be done. Women who are
weighed down with heavy hearts are even easier targets because their apathy blinds them to
being attacked in other ways not used by the normal players.

In Think like a Man, the movie’s twist came when the men found Steve Harvey’s book
and used the women’s rules against them. Even if a man knows that you’re a Spartan, he can’t
beat you. There is no “say the right things, and get pussy,” game any male can use on any date
because being a Spartan isn’t about using A and B to get to Z, it’s about changing your entire
mentality to be war ready no matter what curve a man throw’s at you. Be disciplined at every
step and see all attacks before they even form! Know that you will be pressured for sex, be told
how special you are, shown generosity, or even threatened with falling back. Through all of
that, maintain your mission of needing to expose over time. To take a man who is used to easy
pussy out of those Come Over & Chill waters and make him date you properly does not mean
the battle is over, because he will continue to look for the easy way into your heart or the
shortcut to your pussy. Dating is a hunt where men use smiles instead of spears. Stand your
ground and reinforce your mind with the things that I just shared. If he doesn’t make it past this
date, it isn’t a failure it’s the final proof of his character. Remember that it’s not about making a
man stick around by giving him something at the end of the date; it’s about finding that man
who will stick around because you alone are enough to make him feel as if he’s won.

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Chapter 9:
Slaying the Second Date

T
he first date was a job interview, but the second date is an on the job tryout for a man.
No longer do you ask him who he is, you push him to show you via his actions.
Remember he is still on his best behavior, no matter how honest you feel he’s been in the
week leading up to this date, you can’t put anything past this man. Does he want the job for real
or is he just trying to get a quick paycheck aka your pussy? Is he not tripping on the benefits,
and sees this as a career aka wants to be your man for as long as you will have him? Don’t
assume anything at this point good or bad. Understand the default male mindset explained in
the last chapter going and go about implementing your plan despite that mindset.
Cali has chosen an intimate concert being headlined by a new up and coming singer she
likes which takes place at a small coffee shop/book store. This is Cali willing to show her
bohemian side. As shown on the first date she can be elegant and sexy, yet make ratchet jokes,
or sassy comments, but that’s just attitude. Now Cali is going to show another side of herself to
Stephen, her soul. She loves music and loves chilling at a cool place filled with artist types as
opposed to the hood crowd or even the buttoned up luxury folks. Cali knew this was important,
which is why she laid the foundation by asking Stephen about his taste in music on the first
date. Although they aren’t really into the same artists, Stephen says he is open to things. She
will now see how true that really is. In terms of outfit, she will dress to the crowd, casual, but as
before retain that, “I would fuck me,” image that will make her a head turner even in a room
full of other women. She’s going to allow Stephen to pick her up this time. At this point, she’s
not worried about privacy. Stephen has proven that he’s not the stalker type. The show starts at
9pm, but they will have a quick bite at 8pm, which will give Cali a chance to re-break the ice.
Stephen pulls up to Cali’s apartment, but by the time he steps out to go to the door, Cali
is already walking towards him. She doesn’t want to go through the fuss of inviting him in or
being hit with the “can I use your bathroom” excuse men use to be nosey. Stephen gives Cali a
hug, and opens the door for her. He’s all smiles because in about four hours he thinks he will be
back in front of this apartment, this time being offered to come in and chill (HA!). The ride over
is filled with compliments, and small talk about how it’s been too long since they’ve seen each
other. It’s only been six days, but Stephen is openly annoyed about not having access to her, this
isn’t a red flag however, men are big babies who will always bitch and moan when they can’t
have what they want when they want it. This isn’t Cali’s first rodeo, she plays to this man’s ego,
promising that she badly wanted to see him too, but needed it to be the right time where she
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answer, it’s mandatory. There is always a bit of a game to be played between men and women
when first getting to know each other, and right now Cali is following these dating rules in
order to vet Stephen. There is no guilt about lying in order to test this man because the ends will
justify the means.
The two decide to go to P.F. Chang’s to grab small plates at the bar and maybe a drink.
Cali could have chosen something as simple as a Buffalo Wild Wings or a TGIF’s, but as always
when given a choice, she will always pick a place more befitting her classy side over somewhere
loud and catering to a more rowdy group of people. She is a special occasion. This is still a
special occasion. To go to some basic place in a basic setting would make Cali seem like just
another girl. Even in a hurry, a Spartan never does anything generic. At the bar is where Cali
takes time to listen and observe. Whenever a man is seeing you for the first time since you’ve
communicated so much, it’s like a brand new person. No longer is Cali “some bitch” who he
took out to see what was good. Cali has become a real person, so a new set of nerves rushes
over Stephen. It’s time for re-break the ice using what I call, “Girlfriend Experience.” Cali sits at
the bar and before they can even ask for a menu, she grabs her arm around Stephen, gripping
his hand in the process, then leans into his body with a happy, “I’m so excited to see you face to
face again.” Cali doesn’t need to play it cool, act tough, or keep her eye contact limited. She
knows Stephen at this point, and she has to let him know that she is still the girl he’s been
bonding with on the phone and through emails. This turns that virtual “like” back into physical
“like” quickly, which avoids any awkwardness or long build up to get comfortable. Cali used
the oldest trick in the book, she not only touched him; she pressed her body against his. That’s
Animal Kingdom 101. The closer you are to a man, the more excited he becomes. Feeding him
an appetizer with your hands or fork… Continuing strong eye contact that either has him
engrossed or makes him laugh out of nervousness… Placing a hand on his knee… These are all
tricks Cali uses to regain the physical control. Stephen can’t help but be open, because in his
normal world all of these things point to sex, he has no idea that he’s being hypnotized.
Cali and Stephen arrive at the show on time, and the mood is romantic and fun. Cali has
been here before and like most niche activities in a city, she knew she would run into people
who know her from that scene. This is the first test, and why it’s always important to go places
that you are familiar with on the second date. How will your date react to other people you
know? A male employee greets Cali with a hug as if Stephen wasn’t even there. Cali is warm
and makes small talk, but is sure to bring Stephen into the picture and introduce him as her
“friend.” Men do not like being referred to as “friend” it sounds unimportant and doesn’t hint
at what is actually going on. To Stephen this guy may see him as some chump who’s tricking on
Cali. Stephen’s mind will race to, “Did she call me a friend because she’s dating him too? Has
she fucked this dude? Why is he smiling at her like that?” Cali could have said, “This is Stephen
we’re on a date,” or “This is my boo, he offered to take me out.” Something more ego stroking
that would have made Stephen more comfortable. However, Cali knows that this is important
to the future of the relationship. If Stephen can’t handle male associates coming up and hugging
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bitch that goes out with her phone in hand, eyes on the screen, and no one recognizes her. Cali
goes out a lot, and she’s a social woman. Men that used to date her will be out, men who she
friend zoned will be out, men who she fucked, and who still want to fuck her, will be out.
Stephen will have to deal with that and not flip out on her or make snide comments. Cali isn’t a
ho, but for an insecure man, a woman that popular with the opposite sex can be hard to deal
with. Stephen is about to show how secure he really is.
Cali asks her male employee friend if he can hook them up with closer seats, and he tells
them to hold on. Stephen hasn’t said anything, so Cali takes this moment to ask him what he
thinks of the place. Stephen is still distracted by the other man hugging “his bitch,” but says that
it’s nice. Cali could tell Stephen who that guy is and how she knows him, but it’s always don’t
ask don’t tell. If Stephen is truly a big boy and is curious then he has to ask himself, not sulk,
and act passive. Cali and her “friend” Stephen are taken to a seat closer, Cali once again hugs
her associate as thanks for the hook up, and he tells them both to have a good time, shaking
Stephen’s hand with a smile. A dap and a smile to a man who is out with a girl that you already
know is something men do often, it could mean, “Good luck, brother she’s a tough one,” or
“Nigga you tricking on a ho I already smashed for Chipotle.” Stephen has no way to know
unless he asks Cali. Once they’re seated and comfortable, Stephen man’s up and asks Cali who
that rival male was. Cali smiles internally, she is ecstatic that Stephen asked directly, opposed to
internalizing and fuming for the rest of the date. Cali explains that he works at the coffee shop,
and she would come in every morning before she began working closer to the Starbucks where
they first met. Stephen states the obvious, “He looked like he was in love with you.” Cali smiles,
“Aren’t they all?” Then follows up with, “He gave me so much free coffee trying to get me to go
on a date, but I need more than caffeine to give out my number.” This makes Stephen happy.
Without being too direct Cali is letting him know that he needs to be honored that he is even
sitting next to her, because plenty of men have tried and failed to take her out. Cali didn’t need
to pander to Stephen; she let her personality tell him that he has nothing to feel threatened
about in regards to that other man.
The show is about to start when another friend of Cali’s, a woman, comes up to say hello
(be nosey). Cali introduces Stephen in the same way, as a friend, to prove to him that she isn’t
the type of woman that acts one way in front of men and then tries to stunt in front of rival
females like, “Oh this is my baby, girl.” Cali always keeps it low key and real, she doesn’t need
to impress anyone, not her date or her girlfriends she sees out on the town. The woman is here
with some friends and asks if Cali and Stephen would like to sit with them. Cali defers to
Stephen for another test. Right now Stephen could play ball and let Cali enjoy the company of
her girlfriend, to prove that he’s cool. However, by doing that he sacrifices alone time for a
group of strangers who he doesn’t know. Stephen answers, “We had to kill the people sitting
here before us in order to get these nice seats, and plus I kind of want this young lady all to
myself.” The girlfriend raises an eyebrow excited by the romantic answer, and leaves the two
lovebirds to it. Cali promises to come over to talk at intermission. Cali turns back to Stephen,
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to share. This turns Cali on, and further makes Stephen stand out in her eyes. This man is taking
control in a good way, and not being an overly submissive little bitch who only wants to make
her happy even at the expense of his own enjoyment.
During the show, there is not much for Stephen to do except listen and attempt to stroke
Cali’s leg every now and then. Cali is caught up in the vibe and doesn’t flirt like she did at P.F.
Chang’s, and Stephen is a bit bored. Between songs, Cali asks him his opinion, if he’s having
fun, etc… and Stephen plays along and is responsive. Cali knows that this isn’t his scene, but
that’s not a deal breaker. Even uninspired Stephen has yet to pull out his phone to check a
sports score or his timeline. He’s conscious that he needs to show support for her interests, and
given all the things she learned about him over the past week, he’s proven that he may be the
type of man he’s been claiming to be. After the final set, Cali meets up with her girlfriend and
her associates to discuss. Cali makes sure to bring Stephen into the circle, to see if he’s going to
chime in, or just sit there like a bump on a log. It’s no surprise to Cali that Stephen retains his
wit and humor even in the presence of these strangers. He also keeps his eyes from gawking at
some of the pretty women in the group, another gold star effort. One of the best things about
meeting friends while out on a date is that they ask the direct questions that you shouldn’t.
Cali’s girlfriend asks how long they’ve been dating, if it’s serious, all of the invasive questions
that a Father, Mother, or Aunt would ask, but on a smaller scale. Stephen says this is only the
second date, but he hopes not the last. Cali’s girlfriend doesn’t care about embarrassing him so
she follows up with, “Do you see her as someone you can be serious with?” This isn’t a question
that a Spartan asks because it’s not going to garner a real response, but as a wing woman or
friend, it’s a perfect question because you allow your friend to see if a man has to overthink his
answer in front of others. Stephen doesn’t hesitate and says that although it’s still early he
hopes it can be something serious. PC answers, but Cali can sense the honesty in his voice.
Stephen may have earned himself a spot on the team.

The Sex Push

Stephen attempts to get Cali to grab one more drink before heading back home, and though she
is drinking more than on the first date, she still knows her limit, and declines. Stephen drives
Cali back to her apartment and pulls up as if he will be invited inside. Cali tells him how much
fun she had, and apologizes for forcing him to sit through non-rap lyrics for 90 minutes.
Stephen counters that most of it was good, and that he was there to be with her, and that’s all
that matters. Cali goes in for a kiss, a reward for Stephen doing everything right. She could have
chit chatted and waited for him to do it, but her taking the initiative is more important. To kiss a
man as opposed to allowing yourself to be kissed means that you are into him, and defuses any
worry that she’s only letting you kiss her out of politeness. While this may sound stupid to
some, numerous women tend to go with the flow in terms of things like kissing and even letting
a man feel them up, because they feel they owe it to him. Cali isn’t going to fuck Stephen, she
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and most efficient way is to kiss him first. Stephen responds like any man, as if this is an
invitation for more, and that one kiss turns into a make out session. Cali’s body is on fire, and
maybe if she was drunk she would slip up, but she’s a professional. After about five minutes of
kissing, neck sucking, and thigh rubbing, Cali backs away. “I have to go before I get you in
trouble,” again, Cali is exercising control.
One of the biggest annoyances men have are grown women who are still scared to fuck.
Maturity makes men want to chastise women that sex is sex, and say that things like “it’ll hurt,”
or “I don’t want to be judged,” aren’t reasons to keep your panties up like in high school.
Stephen isn’t the type to try and guilt trip Cali into doing more, nor is Cali the type of woman to
respond to, “What you mean you ain’t nasty?” Cali isn’t afraid of dick and doesn’t care if she
fucks tonight or next month, but Stephen hasn’t earned her pussy yet. Sexual chemistry and a
good date are normal in her dating life because she doesn’t entertain losers or lames past even a
first phone conversation. There is no pressure on Cali to have sex just to keep him around or to
have sex because she needs a nut. However, she can’t tell him, “You got a long way to go to
even eat this box,” so she turns the tables and uses reverse psychology.
It is Cali’s pussy that may whip Stephen. She’s a Spartan who has mastered the art of
retracting muscles, sucking her own breasts, and asking to see the dick go in and out. The things
she can do in that bedroom are legendary. Cali doesn’t have to go into detail; she merely states
that Stephen will fall in love if he were to fall in this pussy. This could lead to more back and
forth, where Stephen tries to play his own game of reverse psychology, calling Cali out as all
talk, offering to pull his dick out, or any other little boy tricks men use when desperate for sex.
Cali shuts down all the fast talk before Stephen can get started, she doesn’t want him wasting
his wit trying to fuck when she is 100% sure it’s not going down.
Cali gets serious, “You know it’s going to happen, baby, just keep being you.” That’s a
buzzer beater response as she took it from being nasty to being heartfelt. Just as a Ho promises
pussy, Cali predicts it in a way that shows that she’s an adult. She doesn’t need to pretend that
she doesn’t fuck. She does fuck and will most likely fuck him if he keeps doing what he’s doing.
That’s the only reward Stephen is going to get, and he can either accept that as truth or dismiss
it as bullshit and never take her out again. That’s on him, for now, Cali has done her job. She
says goodnight, gives him one last kiss, and exits. Stephen is pissed, here he is a guy with a lot
of other women trying to get at him, and he can’t even get into the home of the girl he just spent
the last week and a half tricking on. Cali turns back to the car and trots over to the driver’s seat.
Kisses him again and tells him that he’s the best. Then she hurries back to her door. Cali knows
how men think, and any man that leaves a woman without fucking is going to feel some sort of
bitterness, this last kiss turns that negative back positive and gives Stephen the one thing that all
men love, the hope of new pussy coming soon.

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Second Date Recap

The second date is not more of the same as the first date. Nor is it meant to be the same as the
week leading up on the phone with a bunch of talking and games. It’s about role-playing. You
take him out as if he’s your boyfriend and see if he sinks or swims. I’m going to continue to
stress that the reason bad relationships get a chance to become relationships is because women
and men don’t let the outside world in fast enough. Men act funny and reveal other parts of
their attitudes when forced to do things like wait, be waited on, have to interact with someone
annoying, etc... You as a woman may act standoffish and reveal the dark sides of your attitude
if someone messes up your order, bumps into you without saying “excuse me,” or if you run
into someone you know. House dating isn’t real dating; outside dating can be a baptism by fire
that can let both parties in on the stuff we as human beings keep buried. In Cali’s scenario, she
was more reactionary than her first date. She observed Stephen instead of prodding him. This is
your job now. Don’t worry about what situations will or won’t arise that will allow you to test
these things. Trust that unless you go to an abandoned warehouse for a picnic, obstacles will
pop up naturally. Be prepared to use them to benefit further vetting of your date.

Mission: Girlfriend Experience

You can’t be afraid to disarm a man with physical acts of affection. There are women who stay
in their personal space and wait for a man to do things like hold hands, place a hand on a
shoulder, or even hug. These traditional women don’t want to send the wrong message and be
a tease, but the moment you agree to date a man you already pass the tease stage. He is
assuming that by accepting a date or asking for one, it means that you want to fuck or at the
very least are attracted to him enough to consider it in the near future. Forget sending the
wrong message, who cares about the message? You aren’t going to be having sex so you must
show him that you are interested in a different way, because to stand around acting reserved
tells him that you may only be using him to finance these dates. Another thing I see is the fear
of physical rejection, as if this man that’s courting you will somehow reject those advances
because you’re not pretty enough or because he doesn’t want you touching him in public. I’ll
never forget the girl who asked me, “Is it okay to put my hand on his leg, I don’t want him to
push it off.” Think about that bullshit. Those fears are deep rooted because non-Spartans are so
consumed with being curved that they curtail their actions to the point where they are like
prisoners on their own dates. Stop carrying your insecurities on your sleeve, and understand
that no man who is out with you will push you off in any way. His goal is to get you naked by
the end of the night; you think he is going to vomit because you held his hand? Stop second-
guessing yourself with these juvenile thoughts.
The Girlfriend Experience exploits sexual chemistry in order to re-break the ice. I once
met a friend of a friend for the first time, and this girl was so smart in her flirt game that it
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hugged me tight, and then led me by the hand to sit next to her on the couch. Internally, she
already won me over in five seconds. Why? Because men, even smart ones, are simple
creatures! Show us physical affection instead of dry basic interaction where you sit there and
keep your hands to yourself and you have our attention for as long as you want it. Even if
you’re in the line at the movies, to lean your head on his shoulder while you wait, then stroke
his beard, takes you from that sterile date vibe to feeling like you’re already his girlfriend. Take
control of these men as if they already belong to you! If he were your boyfriend, you wouldn’t
be shy physically, right? You wouldn’t keep your hands away from your boyfriend’s hands or
wait for him to initiate a hug. This person isn’t your boyfriend, but you have to make him feel
as if he is at the start of the date, so he falls in love with that potential future. It doesn’t matter if
you’re at a bowling alley and do something like sit on his lap, or clown around by coming up as
he’s about to roll, and wrap your arms around his waist. The more physically free you are
around a man you’re dating, the faster you hypnotize him. You aren’t his girl, but it feels right,
it feels like something he could get used to, and once you imprint that in his brain, you become
that much more of a prize beyond your pussy.

Mission: Show You’re Wanted

Cali went to a spot where she was known, but many of you aren’t known socially or won’t
choose events where you may run into an Ex or even your female friends. That’s okay, because
there are other ways to show a man that you’re not some unwanted dandelion, but a rose that
everyone wants to smell. One of the biggest reasons not to enter a relationship is jealousy.
Nearly every woman reading this has dealt with a jealous man who started off so nice. The
thing is that jealousy or potential to show signs of abuse are always present. During the post-
date section we talked about being mysterious and insinuating that you are dating other men. A
lot of men will run away as soon as they think you’re dating other guys. It’s a double standard:
As a man he talks to four other women, probably sleeps with one of them, but as a woman you
are supposed to date one at a time. You’ve already tested him in this area by letting him know
that you have friends and showing via actions that you aren’t breaking your neck to see him or
talk to him all day every day. If he didn’t like you being a free agent but hid it, then this date
will expose him. Let’s say your date choice is something low key like a cooking class where
there are nothing but other couples. Men aren’t going to be looking at you and other women
aren’t going to be trying to chat you up, so the room to show jealousy isn’t there, right? Wrong.
You two are in a cooking class; you glance over to one of the guys to his left, and
remark, “Oh shit.” Your date asks what’s wrong. You look again, this time relieved. “I thought
that was this guy that won’t stop blowing up my phone.” It’s a total lie, but what it does is put it
in your date’s head that you are wanted out here in these streets. The same way Stephen started
to get upset and was forced to ask what was good with Cali’s coffee buddy, your date won’t be
able to hide his curiosity. “What if it was him, would you introduce us,” should be countered
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you all kinds of sluts in his head. He’s wondering if you dated any of his friends. Are you one
of those girls that always runs into a friend because you are always flirting and giving your
number out? The only way you see a man’s reaction to this is by putting him in a position to
think it by exposing him to these scenarios. The proof will be in how his mood levels out over
the course of the night. A jealous man will not be able to get over the fact that you have other
guys in your life. A man that wants to win you over, and is more competitive than jealous, will
see this as proof that he has to step his game up so that he’s in the lead. Spartans always have
interest from males, and until the day he’s your boyfriend he will have to deal with never being
solely in the lead for your affection. Making it seem that if you do have a few other men in your
life, no matter if that is true or false, is like putting gas on a fire, the jealousy will rise up and
expose this man or his confidence will rise up and prove that he is willing to work for you.
There is a risk that a man won’t like that, but as I explained earlier, your job is to weed out guys
who are jealous just for the sake of being jealous. You want a knight who will win you, not a
Gorilla who wants to beat his chest and hide you away. Know his heart by doing this test, and
save yourself from a potential abusive or controlling relationship.

Mission: Test His Engagement

It’s rude for you to play on your phone when on a date, but it’s downright disrespectful for a
man to split his attention between the spectacle of you and his phone. If Facebook is more
important than you are on date #2, imagine how more important it will be in the weeks to come
when he’s really comfortable around you. Some people may need to check emails or other
important things, but you should know by this time what kind of lifestyle this guy leads. A
dude who works in construction doesn’t need to be checking his email multiple times at night.
A man without children shouldn’t be worried about his phone vibrating. Another observation
to make revolves around other women. If you’re going to a place where you’re dressed sexy,
then other women will be there looking almost as good—almost. All men look, you can’t turn
that off, but it’s how a man look that determines his respect level. Full head turns, gazing too
long, or even the old school, “look at what she’s wearing, do you like that color,” disguised
stare, all point to a man who isn’t giving you your proper attention. The main event is in front
of his eyes, he shouldn’t be looking at the people in the crowd.

Mission: How Does He Talk Around Others

When you’re on the phone cupcaking, a man isn’t going to offend you or talk down to you.
Maybe there will be a debate on a topic that you two disagree on that may show his elitist or
narcissistic side, but usually during the first week, a man will reframe from getting on a
soapbox about a touchy subject. In terms of jokes, a man who is courting you will also keep
those above the belt. Girls can be sensitive, calling a woman teasing names like, “genius” after
she says something stupid. Making fun of an accent or how she pronounced a word. Throwing
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can ruin a man’s shot. Guys stay away from things that can be taken the wrong way, but it only
lasts until they become comfortable. This is why deep conversations followed by the second
date works so well, because you put him at ease sooner and lessen his filter so the real him
comes through in terms of how he talks. One woman told me how a dude she was seeing for
months got comfortable and called her an insulting name that referred to the size of her thighs
that I saw as a joke, but she took it to heart due to her history with men verbally checking her.
They should have crossed that bridge during the first few weeks, but they didn’t date properly
nor bond in a way that uncovered his persona, so even after knowing him for two months she
was still a stranger in terms of what his true mouth was like. When you’re out and around more
people than the waiter or the bartender you hear a man’s thoughts on society, but you also
experience his reactions to you in terms of his temper, jealousy, humor, or general disposition.
Let’s say that you want to go to a Paint and Sip, one of those events where you drink
wine and paint pictures. The conversation will be between the two of you, but it’s also about
something specific, not this “I want to see you,” “what are you wearing, bae,” bullshit that is all
nice and fuzzy when on the phone. A guy you’re dating may be super competitive and will
begin to talk down on your painting. Saying things like he can tell your parents didn’t send you
to camp or that your school must not have had funding for the arts. He may be a jokester and
start to clown you in a malicious way that you don’t like. Calling you “big dummy,” or
“retard,” because you make a mistake. These real life responses come up all the time after
you’re with someone, but rarely before you commit because people don’t spend enough time
outside of the crib observing true personality. A friend of mine was in the military and she liked
guys who would talk shit because that allowed her to break balls back. Which is ironic because I
gave advice to one girl who was dating a vet who was in the habit of calling her names that she
felt were uncalled for, and was not in the down with trading snaps. Different women thrive
with different personalities, but you need to find out your guy’s way of responding sooner than
later. A man doesn’t have to be a saint, but he does have to line up with your disposition
because after the lust wears off that’s all a man is, his opinions, and behavior that reflects those
opinions. It’s not a deal breaker if a man tells offensive jokes or is strong willed, but how does
he respond to you checking him? Is he the type that listens or the type that doesn’t respect your
objections? If you don’t like him calling Asian people derogatory names, be blunt. If he tries to
joke it off or undermines you by continuing to say similar things, then that spells out that he’s a
man that only listens to himself. You will never flourish in a relationship with a man who
doesn’t respect you enough to watch his mouth.
The final point is observing the shade a man throws at you. Snide comments that appear
to be jokes but are really judgements often come out when you’re around other people, so have
your ears open. I’ve spoken to women in what I consider abusive relationships who didn’t see
these “Bitch checks” as anything out of the ordinary. You come out the house for a date, and
he’s saying, “I thought only whores wear red.” You’re laughing at a joke the waiter makes and
he feels a need to say, “Maybe I should go and give him my seat.” You all know how shade
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you or making you feel guilty. There are many men who use their words like whips, and
because you may think it’s harmless, you don’t realize that you will start to curtail your
behavior based on how he will react. Don’t end up one of these whipped women who are like,
“Let me wear this dress because I don’t want to hear his mouth, and let me not say anything to
this bartender because he may think I’m flirting.” You can wear what you want, laugh at whom
you want, and if a man dares to chastise you, even under the cover of a joke, then that tells you
who he truly is, a controlling asshole. This test will not only expose how he talks to you in a
public setting, but how he compromises when called out. “Could I be with him? Yes, because
even when we bump heads he’s willing to explain himself to help me see what he actually
meant or he’s willing to apologize when he sees that it wasn’t appropriate.” Don’t wait until it’s
a month in and you bring him to a family cookout or a double date to see that he has a
disrespectful mouth around other people or judges you for something you’re doing around
other people. Force his hand by saying something silly or having him interact with another
couple when out, assholes can only grin and bear it for so long before they erupt.

Mission: Let Him Down Easy Without Being Easy

You want to have sex… You’re horny, frustrated, and he’s said all the right things to get you to
do more than just kiss him when he drops you off. You want to invite him in, fuck the soul from
his body, and let the chips fall where they may. Don’t do it. This isn’t about you cuming tonight
and again the next day when he wakes up next to you, this is about finding a man that can give
you that for the rest of your life. Your mission is all about defining a man’s true character in a
fast and efficient way. There is no better way to define who a man truly is then by withholding
pussy that he thinks he is going to get. To be all over him on the second date like you can’t keep
your hands to yourself, to go in and kiss him first, those things all signal that you want the dick,
and you do, but it’s not going to be that easy. Once again, you have to trust in the system and
not over-think what his reaction will be. No matter if he thinks you’re a cock tease, a Ho that
just wanted concert tickets and free drinks, or a woman that’s on the fence—let him judge.
Average women worry about what’s in the mind of men; Spartans determine what’s in the
minds of men by exercising control over those brain waves.
Cali owned up to sex by using reverse psychology to show that she wasn’t afraid of sex
with Stephen but he should be afraid of her skills. You should take that tone. Most likely, you
will be tried physically, called out as a bluff verbally, or you will get something even worse; the
silent rage. A man will either do what Stephen did, try to remain a gentlemen but test the
waters by trying to get you worked up with kissing and touching, that’s the physical. He may
tease that you are playing games or scared and goad you into doing a little bit more to prove
that you aren’t scared or bluffing. Then there are the men who will accept what you give, and
shut down like a kid that has been told he can’t stay up late. Men who rage silently may fallback
the next day and begin to distance you from their lives out of spire or they may keep dating you
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to get into the ends and outs of how to pull a man back in after you bruise his ego, because if
he’s not man enough to deal with being told “no” then fuck him. All you can do besides give up
pussy is to show him that you understand where he’s coming from. At the end of the date, you
need to be empathetic to what a man is feeling. Let this guy down slowly by showing him via
your actions that you like him in that way as well, but this is too soon.
You are sitting in his car or standing outside of your car about to end the night: He
really wants you to go back to his place. “If I go back to your place I’m going to do things to you
that will ruin all the classiness I built over the past week. Don’t worry we’ll get there soon
enough.” Kiss and exit. He really wants to come in your apartment, just to talk. “I don’t want to
talk; I want to ride you like I was down by a lap in the Kentucky Derby. But that wouldn’t be
smart right now.” Kiss and exit. He doesn’t buy your bullshit, pulls his dick out in the car, and
tells you to stop bluffing. “Don’t question my intentions when I’ve done nothing but kept it
real, and don’t disrespect my womanhood by whipping your dick out on me like I’m a thot.”
Roll eyes and exit. Be as polite and interested in him as you can possibly be. Let him know that
you are attracted to him, prove it with kissing, but don’t compromise your mission by giving
this man an inch. Don’t put up with any disrespect in terms of being overly sexual or forceful.
Trust me, I’ve heard all the war stories of girls who just let him in for fifteen minutes thinking
nothing would happen but ended up sleeping with a man just because they didn’t want to
make it awkward. Don’t become that girl who felt bad and decided to jerk him off so he
wouldn’t go home hard. Never confuse being sympathetic with giving in. The moment you
show a man that your word means nothing in the face of his sexual pressure, then you lose all
control. No man will ever take you serious if one minute you’re talking about how you don’t
get down, then the next minute you’re letting him eat you out in your living room. That’s like a
mother who says, “Eat your broccoli or no dessert,” yet still gives her son dessert. Once it’s been
established that mom will always go back on her threats, he will manipulate her for the rest of
his life. Be stern! No means no, even when you want to say yes.

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Chapter 10:
Curve Him or Keep Him

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wo successful dates out on the town and days filled with candid and consistent
communication. What’s next? Do you have “the talk” about how you see him as
someone you could be with? Do you wait for him to bring the “R” word up a few days
following the second date? Are there more questions to ask to see if he’s feeling you as much as
you are feeling him? None of that shit. You aren’t hunting a man; this man is now hunting you.
By dating in this way, you made him put himself on Front Street. He’s done more than just spit
game, he’s shared, treated, and had his hands smacked down when going for the cookie jar.
He’s done too much not to want you. Men may fake vulnerable for pussy, but he has actually
become vulnerable, and no matter how cool he comes off, his feelings have spilled into his hunt
for sex. The day after the second date, you are firmly seen as an investment. Sure, he still wants
pussy, but he’s being shown that you aren’t typical. Unlike most women, you require true
effort, and that’s the type of female he can respect enough to chase. How will you react to this
man wanting you more than he’s ever wanted another woman so fast? By not giving in. What
you’ve done is vet this man enough to know if he deserves a spot on your team, not vet him
enough to be your boyfriend. Being your boyfriend means something, correct? You don’t let
randoms come in and lay claim because they fed you and told you about their abusive Dad.
Even if this man calls you the day after the second date asking you to be his girl, the answer
would be a resounding, “no”! Why? Because that would be moving fast in a car that a man is
driving because he wants what he wants! He’s not in control of when you take a boyfriend, you
are, and this is just the beginning because after the second date the rubber hits the road.

The Corporate Ladder

Time is your best friend, yet women treat it as if it is their worst enemy. You are supposed to
like this man a lot, don’t see it as “a sign” from the universe. He’s told you his life story, but
what have you told him thus far about your life story? Nothing. These steps were meant to
protect your heart. The average woman, even those that claim to be emotionally unavailable,
will always falter by putting too much into a relationship at this point. You have avoided
oversharing your life story and avoided making him the center of your daily life, and now that’s
going to pay off. He’s not your friend, he’s not your bae, he’s not your man; he’s a new recruit
who just made it through basic training. A man doesn’t go straight from basic training to
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to me that I never felt and he’s been a perfect gentleman. Why can’t he just be my boyfriend at
this point?” If you brain waves are still set to those pathetic thoughts then you can’t read! Don’t
forget where we started, you were accepting applications not promoting a man to boyfriend
status. To even get a shot at you as his woman takes longer than two dates over the span of 7-10
days. The mission was to expose this man, find out who he was by making him drop his mask,
then see if you were compatible by pushing him to move at your pace on the second date. By
the end of the second date, you are firmly in control of this man. He won’t be happy with just
dating; he now wants to take it deeper. This is as deep as he gets. He’s in the company, now
how is he going to climb that ladder? The final step is to see how he handles his new position.
Cali and Stephen have been talking normally for the past two days since their date. They
trip during the day, talk at night, and it’s as if nothing has changed. It’s now time to see if
Stephen has been properly trained. Meaning Cali won’t ask for another date, she will allow
Stephen to offer. If Stephen is pushing coming over to his crib, then he hasn’t learned what kind
of woman Cali is, and most likely, he’ll be dropped by the end of the week if he doesn’t come
up with another suggestion that fits Cali’s status. Fast forward to day three and Stephen hasn’t
said anything about seeing her yet. Cali is wondering if Stephen is as interested as he seemed
when she was leading him. Once again, if Stephen just wants to slip into some bitch boy
relationship where Cali has to always make the plans or if he doesn’t want to put in effort to
even ask when she’s free, he’ll be gone in a week. Right now Stephen is up in brownie points,
but he’s also one week away from being cut off if he doesn’t continue to work at making himself
an option that she can’t refuse. A Spartan only leads a man to water once, if he doesn’t figure
out how to drink after that then he’s no King.
Finally, Stephen asks Cali if she’s free to meet up with his sister and her husband.
They’re in town for a day and he wants to introduce his sister to his girlfriend. Pause. Stephen
just made the first mistake of this blooming relationship. He claimed Cali as if Cali had no say
in this. Typical women would go with this and be excited, but Cali has plenty of men who want
the title, she’s not desperate to get rid of her singlehood just so she can say she’s not single,
that’s basic. More than that, what does Stephen really want? He barely knows Cali, the real
person. He knows her just as the shoulder he’s leaned on, the fun time girl that says random
things, and what hobbies she’s into. Cali hasn’t talked about her exes, her mother, her siblings,
or even her feelings on commitment and marriage. For all Stephen knows Cali could be a smart
ho, a week away from hitting him up for a tennis bracelet. Like a Ho’s mark, Stephen is open,
and when men are open, they try to regain control. By making Cali his girlfriend, he protects his
heart. Those men that Cali may or may not be talking to, gone. The fear that Cali is going to hit
him up for money, gone. Cali making excuses not to fuck, gone. So many women don’t
understand that the title isn’t always about a man wanting them; it’s about a man gaining
control of a woman he’s unsure of.
Cali doesn’t need to be rude, so she responds, “Girlfriend? I didn’t know you had one of
those.” Stephen counters that it happened so fast, but Cali is there to tell him, “too fast. Let’s
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Cali is a grown woman; she uses her fucking words without fear of hurting a man’s feelings. It
is always better to tell a man what he can’t have than to give in knowing that it can ruin
everything you’re building. A Spartan always speaks up, even if a man won’t like her response.
Stephen is a bit hurt, but tries to keep his chin up, still asking if the dinner date with his sister is
cool? Cali would have normally went, but she can tell that Stephen is wounded and to sit in
front of family and have to fake like his girlfriend will hurt him more. Men have insane egos, as
I have pointed out repeatedly. A woman who can protect his ego in a real way is more valuable
than some chick that can cook, clean, and swallow. If Cali were to make Stephen her man she
would protect his feelings in regards to how other people see him, and right now, she’s going to
show him that is her character by declining the invite. There is no need to have his sister being
blown away and asking, “So what up with that Cali girl, I liked her, don’t ruin it.” Men don’t
need the pressure of family or friends telling him to wife a check that will only be wifed on her
own terms. Cali is always on her own terms, sorry sis.
Cali counters the date offer with her own reward. “How about the next night you come
over and we’ll order something and watch that documentary that I mentioned the other day?”
Stephen was told he can’t have Cali as a girlfriend, and then was told that he can’t parade her
out as his next “one.” However, she was smart enough to reverse the momentum by giving him
an olive branch that tells him that she’s not playing him. He can see her, no money spent, no
getting dressed up, and he can come over. Stephen happily accepts, but he doesn’t know that
he’s still under Cali’s control. She’s not going over to his house. He is forced to come over to her
home field where Cali controls what they watch, where they sit, what they drink, and when he
has to go home. Stephen is thinking sex, Cali is thinking, “I hope he has a Pornhub subscription
because his dick is going to be so hard when he leaves here without fucking.”
This isn’t a Third Date test that Cali is about to embark on. Letting Stephen come over is
merely the reward for making the team. Now in addition to going out to places he picks, taking
her out to places she picks, she can throw in a house date for those nights where she doesn’t
have the energy to deal with the world. There is nothing wrong with chilling inside after a man
has proven himself. Cali couldn’t lead with that, she would never allow a man over her house
until she vetted him over two dates and he passed those tests. Only now that her value is
established and her rules followed, is coming over an option.
Stephen is doing everything right; there is no need to get in his pockets just to prove a
point or to avoid being close to him to protect her own lust. If Cali wants a gift or money, she
would just ask for it in a way where she lets him know that it’s expected of her potential men to
be generous. If Cali wants to fuck, she’ll fuck, she doesn’t struggle with dick discipline so even
sitting on a couch and kissing won’t break her will. Cali has moved Stephen into the
probationary period of outside dates, house dates, long phone calls, and kissing, but he’s not
getting any pussy. The probationary period makes Stephen special, but not exclusive. Right
now in terms of the other men in her life, Cali has one other man on this level, but he hasn’t
been acting right. She had another guy who made it to this level last month, but he got messy
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has a roster, and while she does like Stephen a lot, he has to keep proving himself to make it to
the title of boyfriend.

EARN ME
The date tests are over, but the overall test is now in full swing. Within the next three to four
weeks of Cali and Stephen dating and talking, Stephen will prove that he’s worthy of a
relationship or within that time Cali will find a reason to fallback and eventually block Stephen
from contacting her. Cali is hoping that Stephen proves that he is that person he portrayed on
the first date and the persona he displayed on the second date, but she doesn’t know and won’t
let her excitement cloud her mind. Despite the affection for this new man in her life Cali is
always prepared to cut him off, not because she’s afraid to get close, but because she knows
what she wants, and anything less than that would be selling herself short. You can’t change
who a man is or tell him how to treat you, all a woman can do is expose who a man is by how
he treats her after setting that value. Cali follows my Six Weeks to Earn Me, Spartan Rulebook.
She’s just walked you through the first two weeks of that and for most of you this part is all you
will ever need. What happens in the following four weeks with Stephen is important, but the
first two dates set the tone on how to dominate any date. If you used these steps the same way
Cali used them, then only 1 out of 5 men will make it to the point where you let him over your
house. Only 1 out of 10 will make it two weeks after that where you go over to his place. Only 1
out of 20 will even make it to week six when you allow a relationship talk. This is a sport, not
charity! There is no more asking for a man to be with you, it’s about men showing action to be
with you, know the difference, because Spartans don’t have “what are we,” talks.
The only way any woman can stop the cycle where she gets stuck with short
relationships that last only a few months, guys who only want situationships, guys who only
want pussy, guys who are littered with red flags, or guys who don’t want to ever commit, is to
date like a Spartan! Spartans do not try to make a man fit; he either fits or is discarded without
explanation or closure. Spartans don’t fall in love based off potential; they fall in love based on
specific actions. Spartans don’t have to impress men; these men exist to impress them. Spartans
expect a man to be an open book, while keeping their chapters close to chest. You may think
that it’s too much to ask, but that’s where you and a Spartan differ. You are willing to lower the
bar because you don’t think a man will work to win you. A Spartan raises the bar extremely
high because her throne must be at the top where only a King could reach!
In the following weeks, Cali will open up more and more, and with each story, she will
continue to observe how Stephen reacts to see if he is worthy to know the real woman behind
the armor. Cali had an abortion when she was younger; she doesn’t tell new dick that. Cali had
a father that died in jail who she never really knew; she doesn’t tell new dick that. Cali was
nearly raped in college; she doesn’t tell new dick that. Cali doesn’t even believe in the religion
she grew up practicing, she doesn’t tell new dick that. Cali loves giving head more than getting
head, she doesn’t tell new dick that. No man is worthy to know the secrets of a woman’s soul

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unless he clearly earns his passage over time. Time can be a scary notion for women who want
to race to the end goal of love, but anyone worth having is worth waiting for. The Spartan
rulebook is six weeks because once you master your own mind in terms of what you need; it
becomes easy to see through men in those terms. Cali isn’t some young girl, she doesn’t have
time to waste dating for months, and the Spartan way has helped her use her time most
efficiently. Read this guide over and over until the steps become second nature. There will be
men with great potential who falter, but remind yourself that you are weeding out the great
from the good. There will be times where you grow tired and want to just fuck and be loved by
some man that fails several of the tests, but remember what’s at stake. You put in all of this
work now, so you can enjoy the fruits of this labor for years to come. Do you want to vacation
on a beach with some settle Dick or do you want to vacation on an island with your name now
hyphenated?
For all of my Spartans reading this, the days of dating on a man’s terms are over. You
will never sit by your phone waiting for a man to call you. You will never sit on the phone
wondering when he’ll ask you out. You will never worry yourself with basic shit like where to
go or what to say. Your thoughts won’t be consumed with when to have sex, when to kiss,
when to allow him over, when to spend the night, or any of the trivial things that do nothing
but keep a man in control of your mind! This is Sparta and all the pressure is on these men to
earn your attention, to respect your rules, and to endear themselves by being the ones to open
their hearts first. In return you for reaching the bar you set, you can begin to open up a bit more,
begin to flirt a little harder, and begin to make space for this man in your life. You have the
confidence; now master the patience of a Spartan, because that is the ultimate lie detector. If at
any time your thoughts betray you and that inner basica attempts to overtake you, close your
eyes, and remember how far you’ve come. Visualize that old weak ass girl you used to be
standing in front of a pit and then kick that bitch in the chest. You are strength. You are Sparta.

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this ego and lists of things you don’t do. Look at her sitting there with her hand on his knee,
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