Integration of Sex and Sexuality
Integration of Sex and Sexuality
Integration of Sex and Sexuality
In today’s Western world there is hardly anywhere you can go where sex is not a
topic of discussion. With popular books and movies such as Fifty Shades of Grey and
Magic Mike XXL, it is clear that our society is interested in sex. This places counselor
educators in the position to prepare budding counselors to discuss sexual topics in
session. For example, after substance abuse, sexual concerns are among the most
common problems reported among women to health professionals (Mize & Iantaffi,
2013). The Global Online Sexuality Survey (Shaeer & Shaeer, 2012) reported that 38%
of American men experience sexual dysfunction. Thus, the reality that Americans
experiencing sexual dysfunction will seek help from clinical mental health counseling
professionals seems likely. This is particularly true given that sexual dysfunction not only
affects individuals’ overall health and wellness, but other relationships in their lives as
well. Counselor education programs prepare students to work with a myriad of individual
concerns and dysfunctions but often leave the subject of sexual dysfunction, behavior,
and wellness untouched (Dupkoski Mallicoat, 2014).
Sexual dysfunction is not the only sexual concern that could present itself in
session; people who participate in various sexual behaviors could already be in
counseling for other concerns, or clients could be experiencing anxiety about engaging in
new, non-normative sexual activities (Pillai-Friedman, Pollitt, & Castaldo, 2015). For
instance, at least 11% of women and 14% of men have engaged in some sort of
consensual, non-normative sexual activity, including bondage and discipline (BD),
dominance and submission (Ds), sadism and masochism (SM), slave and master
relationships, fetishisms, and kink activities (Kelsey, Stiles, Spiller, & Diekhoff, 2013);
these activities fall under the all-inclusive term BDSM.
In a study conducted by Kelsey et al. (2013), therapists were asked if they had any
clients exhibiting differing sexual behaviors, and 76% of the clinicians reported having at
least one client in that category. However, only 48% of clinicians felt competent enough
to provide effective therapy (Kelsey et al., 2013). When clinicians were asked questions
concerning whether various non-normative sexual behaviors were healthy, 50% of
clinicians were uncertain about how to answer and indicated they neither disagreed nor
agreed (Kelsey et al., 2013). Due to lack of knowledge and understanding about client
lifestyles, clinicians may be providing treatment to clients with various sexual
dysfunctions and behaviors but are not confident in the treatment that they are providing.
While Kelsey et al. (2013) provided information on clinician interaction with BDSM
clients, the study is not without its limitations. The study only had a 9% participation rate
and due to the small sample size, it cannot be representative of all clinicians (Kelsey et
al., 2013). Further, the authors also believed that those who responded would have
already felt comfortable discussing non-normative sexual behavior and this could have
impacted their data (Kelsey et al., 2013).
It is clear that clients with varying sexual behaviors and dysfunctions are coming
to mental health professionals for assistance, yet clinicians may not be receiving effective
training in sexual behavior, dysfunction or therapeutic techniques in their counselor
education programs. Kelsey et al. (2013) stated “Most [programs] do not provide much
education on LGBT, polyamorous and BDSM subcultures in their curriculum, internship
training or even textbooks” (p. 257). For clinicians to gain more information on sexual
behavior or dysfunction, they must seek postgraduate training (Dupkoski Mallicoat,
2014). This is certainly a problem if clients are expecting clinicians to provide services
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for their sexual needs. Other researchers have found that the majority of clinicians
received no training in sexual diversity, including asexuality, transgender experiences,
polyamory, and other sexual behaviors viewed as non-normative by the macroculture
(Miller & Byers, 2010; Sarrel, Sarrel, & Faraclas, 1982).
Studies have shown that clinicians trained in sexuality counseling have more
positive attitudes and feel more confident working with clients presenting with those
issues (Pillai-Friedman et al., 2015). Training surrounding sexuality counseling can also
improve counselor self-efficacy. Self-efficacy refers to the extent to which an individual
believes they are capable of handling challenging situations (Pomeroy & Clark, 2015).
Clinicians who feel more capable through effective training and discussion will be more
likely to succeed in various situations (Pomeroy & Clark, 2015). Effective training
around sexual behaviors and sex therapy in counseling education programs could
increase self-efficacy among clinicians, ensuring that counselors entering the field are
prepared to work with clients in this area.
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vagina (Boyer, Pukall, & Holden, 2012). This process is triggered by female arousal and
brings about lubrication. Lubrication allows for a more comfortable and pleasurable
intercourse experience. Participation in chemotherapy can disrupt this process and can
cause vaginal dryness and atrophy, affecting a woman’s sexual function and enjoyment
(Hummel et al., 2015).
Medical changes are not the only issue with which breast cancer survivors
struggle. Women who have undergone a mastectomy can feel a loss of sexual
attractiveness and engage in negative self-talk (Hummel et al., 2015). Breast cancer
survivors also complain of loss of femininity, fatigue, anxiety, depression, and loss of
fertility. These symptoms can lead to a loss of desire and poor sexual health. Even the
diagnosis of breast cancer can affect a woman’s emotional well-being and quality of
relationship with her partner. When breast cancer survivors were asked if they were, or
had been, interested in seeking professional care about their sexual concerns, 40%
expressed interest, yet only 7% ever engaged in such care (Hummel et al., 2015). Many
of the women were uncomfortable discussing what the treatment had done to them and
even expressed feelings of shame and guilt, as well lack of knowledge about how to
return to their pre-cancer sexual lives (Hummel et al., 2015). When clinicians were asked
how comfortable they felt about addressing sexual concerns of breast cancer survivors,
mental health professionals expressed their discomfort and reluctance, this was attributed
to time constraints, embarrassment, and lack of knowledge and experience in the area
(Blair et al., 2013). Clinicians also noted that they were unaware of resources to provide
holistic care. This disparity could be due to lack of training in counseling programs and
speaks to the need for integrating sex and sexuality conversations into the counseling
curriculum. It is also worth noting that there is an inadequate amount of literature on male
sexual dysfunction and its correlation to mental health.
In a 2009 U.S. national study, only 20% of men and women reported talking to
their clinicians about sexual complaints or concerns (Blair et al., 2013). Even with these
startling numbers, 70% of respondents felt as though clinicians should be discussing
sexual issues with their patients and wished that they had spoken to a health professional
about sexual concerns (Blair et al., 2013). Due to clients feeling uncomfortable
addressing sexual concerns, it was suggested that clinicians receive training about how to
ask questions surrounding sexual history, sexual health, and sexual complaints—the
assumption being that clinicians should be more proactive in asking clients about sex, not
simply waiting for clients to offer information.
In our society, there are certain sexual storylines that lay the foundation for how
men and women talk about sex. Structural societal factors shape the ideals and
perceptions about sexual behavior and sexual interaction. Many times these structures
leave out other sexual behaviors viewed as non-normative, including sexual interaction in
the LBGTQ community, people in open relationships, and individuals engaging in
BDSM, to name a few. Clients who do not follow sexual scripts may ask themselves why
they enjoy these behaviors, why they have these feelings, and why they are left out of the
sexual and mental health conversations (Kelsey et al., 2013). When counselor educators
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incorporate sex and sexuality conversations into their curriculums it prepares clinicians to
address the aforementioned feelings and concerns.
Studies have shown that the media have a significant impact on beliefs toward
sexual responsibility and sexual expectations. Mainstream media often communicate the
expectation of an orgasm. Studies have shown that men and women anticipate achieving
an orgasm during a sexual encounter (Cabrera & Ménard, 2012). Another piece to sexual
interaction is that the male orgasm signals the end of the sexual encounter. Furthermore,
simultaneous orgasms, where both man and woman achieve an orgasm at the same time,
are often glorified in movies and books and inaccurately portrayed as “the norm.”
Although only 25% of women achieve orgasm through penile penetration (Pereira
et al., 2013), helping a woman achieve an orgasm is deemed important to the male
experience (Cabrera & Ménard, 2012). Indeed, research indicates that both men and
women will fake orgasms during intercourse in an attempt to fulfill this sexual ideal.
Cabrera and Ménard (2012) reported that men and women believe that sex without an
orgasm is pointless. The fact that men and women feel the need to fake orgasms is yet
another indicator of the discrepancy between reality and the expectation of a sexual
experience.
The Media
The media often depict partnered sexual pleasure as a function of male technique.
If a woman fails to have an orgasm from vaginal penile penetration, the impression is that
the man is inadequate as a sexual partner (Cabrera & Ménard, 2012). This expectation
can bring about male anxiety. Likewise, if women fail to achieve a single or multiple
orgasm from their partner, then women may view their bodies as faulty, resulting in
negative self-talk and anxiety about engaging in sexual acts (Blair et al., 2013; Pereira et
al., 2013). Clinicians can prepare themselves for these conversations in counseling
programs that view sex and sexuality as viable conversations for the classroom.
The media also portray women as playing a passive role in their sexual
experiences. Scenes where men are holding women down, taking the lead, removing
clothing, and controlling the speed and experience of a sexual encounter are typical
(Cabrera & Ménard, 2012). When women are shown achieving an orgasm without their
partner, there is associated shame and guilt. One line from a romance novel stated that the
woman was “selfishly taking her pleasure” (Cabrera & Ménard, 2012). This idea of
selfishly exploring one’s body alone and having a sexual experience alone is not limited
to romance novels. Fahs and Swank (2013) found that although 53% of women use
vibrators for sexual pleasure, heterosexual women are more likely to feel guilt and shame
during usage; and when using vibrators, women felt more comfortable with clitoral
stimulation than with vaginal penetration. These women cited the belief that their male
partners could not adequately compete with a sex toy (Fahs & Swank, 2013). They also
thought that inserting a dildo into the vagina for pleasure was challenging their male
partners’ sexual power. It is worth noting that lesbian women did not view dildos or
vibrators as masculine and thus found them fun and enjoyable; lesbian women also felt
less shame about using sex toys (Fahs & Swank, 2013). If clients desire to discuss the
feeling of disconnect between their personal sexual beliefs and those that the media
portrays, counselor educators need to ensure that their students are well informed and
aware of their own sexual beliefs.
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Counselors’ Biases
Crowe and Averett (2015) discovered that it is overly simplistic for mental health
professionals to think they are immune to stereotypes, stigma, and biases. Counselors are
compelled to evaluate their ideas, attitudes, and values, including those related to sexual
behaviors and activities, to lessen the threat of bias in session. Counselor bias is not a
new phenomenon. Feisthamel and Schwartz (2009) found that mental health clinicians
are more likely to diagnose African-American clients with a psychotic disorder when
reporting spiritual experiences or encounters. When European-American clients
described similar events, clinicians tended to diagnose a mood disorder—a more
“cautious” or benign approach to diagnosis not afforded clients of color. In the same
study, clinicians disproportionately diagnosed African Americans with psychotic and
childhood behavior disorders. Crowe and Averett conducted a study surrounding
counselor bias toward mental illness. They found many clinicians were biased toward
certain mental health illness disorders, attributing stereotypical characteristics even when
not present. Studies such as these show that counselor bias does exist and can have
negative consequences if not addressed.
Since client symptoms can be complex and diagnosis can contain a subjective
measure (i.e., clinical judgment), clinicians with bias are at risk of malpractice (e.g.,
inaccurate diagnosis; Feisthamel & Schwartz, 2009). A clinician’s view of and comfort
level with sexual topics can influence the therapeutic relationship (Miller & Byers, 2010;
Pillai-Friedman et al., 2015). If a clinician is uncomfortable discussing these topics or
feels professionally inadequate, the client may become uncomfortable, refusing to discuss
sexual proclivities and thus impairing the counseling process (Miller & Byers, 2010).
Counselor education includes awareness of and respect for varying cultures, but
research suggests that “sexual culture” is omitted (Zimmerman, 2012). Some counselors
believe members of the American Psychological Association should consider those
engaging in BDSM or other non-normative sexual behaviors (e.g., open relationships) as
a sexual minority group (Pillai-Friedman et al., 2015). Therapists should not only be
aware of sexual messages clients are receiving through media, the reality of sexual
interactions (including those in the LGBT community and BDSM community), but
should also be aware of the different ways individuals engage in sexual and emotional
relationships (Pillai-Friedman et al., 2015).
The literature suggests that clinicians have the opportunity to explore their biases
and become comfortable with their own sexuality through education (Zimmerman, 2012).
If clinicians fail to explore their personal biases, it could result in countertransference
(Turns, Murris, & Lentz, 2013). Only through education and exploration can clinicians
learn to avoid assumptions and stereotypes, as well as become comfortable talking about
sex, sexual behavior, non-monogamy, and open relationships (Miller & Byers, 2010).
Clinicians can be taught how to use theories and techniques to assist with client sexual
dysfunction, sexual behaviors, and open relationships (Sarrel et al., 1982). Newly-minted
counseling professionals and counselors-in-training would particularly benefit from this
education and explorative learning.
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While there is information about how to integrate sex therapy and clinical mental
health counseling, there are also limitations to the field. There is not enough information
about sexual concerns in the LGBT community. Ideas perpetuating negative stereotypes
(e.g., LGBT community and HIV/AIDS) should not serve as a foundation to counseling
sexual inquiries (Rutter, 2012). Also, while there are numerous studies about how women
view sex and their concerns regarding sexual dysfunction and expectation, this research is
lacking in regards to male sexual dysfunction.
Further research should also be conducted on cultural sexual diversity. Counselors
are taught that different cultures communicate, eat, dress and interact differently;
however, the way these cultures view sexual interaction and intimacy is lacking in
counselor education programs and in the literature. Cultural views of sexual interaction
may conflict with individual attempts to acculturate into American life. Therapists must
also consider intercultural relationships and how sex and race/ethnicity intersect and
affect sexual expression, interaction, and intimacy. Also, race and ethnicity should be
examined, as there is minimal research on how the intersectionality of race and gender
with sexuality could cause emotional anguish.
There are many factors that influence how clients think and feel about sex. First,
sexual dysfunction concerns that do not follow the script of sex are more prevalent than
we realize, occurring in both men and women. Sexual dysfunction can be brought on by
severe medical conditions, such as breast cancer or menopause, or by anxious feelings
about performance (Boyer et al., 2012; Hummel et al., 2015; Sutherland, 2012). Sexual
dysfunction occurring in men and women also comes with comorbid symptoms such as
depression or anxiety. Second, clients may not be fully educated about the differences
between real-life sexual experiences and those portrayed in the media (Cabrera &
Ménard, 2012; Fahs & Swank, 2013). All too often, clients have unrealistic sexual
expectations. Clients may find themselves confused, unsatisfied, and subject to negative
cognitions about themselves or their partner. Finally, sex therapy accompanied by
counseling and medical techniques provides the most effective and long-lasting positive
outcomes for clients (Pereira et al., 2013).
The literature suggests that clinical mental health clients are asking for assistance.
Preparing clinicians to meet this call is important, and, accordingly, counseling
professionals are compelled to engage in proper training preparation to enhance best
outcomes for their clients. Future studies should also focus on increased sample size and
diversity of the samples to ensure that the data is representative of the population of
counselors and counselor educators. Lastly, there is no research on whether counselor
educators have a bias or aversion to discussing sex and sexuality in the classroom.
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References
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Note: This paper is part of the annual VISTAS project sponsored by the American Counseling Association.
Find more information on the project at: http://www.counseling.org/knowledge-center/vistas
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