Confidence is our best accessory

Confidence is an important attribute of life. It’s a state of mind which makes you believe in yourself.Everyone will tell you that with confidence you can achieve success but not many will tell you how to build your confidence. It’s not something which can be learned and implemented within a day. It’s something which needs to be learned, practiced and mastered just like any other skills. Building confidence isn’t a cake walk.It’s very tough regime which should be followed everyday. These are the things which I did to gain confidence.

Stress Management: It’s a mandatory aspect to build confidence. To achieve this do meditation, exercises and try to always be surrounded by positive people ,who will help you or support you towards betterment. Discard negative people.Negative people are like a glue stick, who keep on buzzing around to pull you down. Attitude: Be always positive and self motivated. Always be optimistic and allow ideologies to do experiment in your mind. Doing what you believe to be right, even if others mock or criticize you for it.Do not give any hoot to what others say or do. It’s one of the least concerned subject.Even if you fail, accept the failure ,learn from it and rise to epitome.

Take a stand for yourself: For the first time it’s tough. But you will get used to it. Never let anyone degrade you. By the way, criticism is a different thing. It helps you to grow. This can be articulated from the politics of India. If there is no opposition then how would a government do better? Read books, newspapers: By doing so ,you will not only come across a number of life stories but you will also learn from them. This will help you to stay motivated.

Always do the right thing: Do the right. The intention of doing right is neither appreciation nor depreciation. But, it will surely eliminate your fear. Saying and writing is way more easier than implementing the above principles. But, day by day practice will surely help you achieve this. Once you believe in yourself…the real magic starts happening..Love yourself. Be totally comfortable with who you are, a useful place to start is forgiving yourself for any and everything. Know that you intend to do your best at all times, but don’t hold any grudges against yourself.

When you love yourself, you show compassion to everyone. Try to feel if you can generate compassion. You will literally feel it in your heart. I once read about a doctor who tried to measure changes in some monks physically as they meditated. He placed sensors on their heads, and the monks began to laugh. How was he going to measure compassion in the head? They all knew it came from the heart. Here’s a good place to start: imagine other people as you in a different life. You already love yourself, so you must love this person in front of you.

Now take it one thought further: you actually are this person. An important concept to meditate on is the interdependence of all things, especially life. If there were no other life on the Earth, even the greatest skeptic could not disagree that no human could survive. What will you eat? How could human life ever have developed to this scale without every other life form to support us as we built our tools? That means that mathematically your life depends on those around you to an extent, however minimal it may seem.

And think about the collective unconscious… eerie. In my Organization and Management class, we learned that people in power tend to be better at abstract thought. The professor made this point by showing a photograph in which two people were walking through the woods next to a river on a nice day. She asked us what we saw. Some people said “people hiking” or “a river,” but she encouraged us to think about it more generally about it. Recreation. Nature. The outdoors. I have since been practicing asking myself, what do I see right now? Some of the best answers I think I’ve come up with are institution, existence, and rhetoric.

Well ask yourself this question: what do I see right now? But now zoom out, like a drone hovering overhead flying straight up. And it goes so high, it becomes a satellite that can see your country, continent, and soon the whole Earth. Now ask again what you see. I think the best answer has to be life. There is life in every drop of water and on every inch of land. On this scale, you do not distinguish and say I see billions of people and however many insects, plants, mammals, reptiles, fish… it goes on and on. No, you just see life like a giant slime mold, oozing across a rock in space.

Now look deeply. Doesn’t every bit of the slime mold depend on every other bit continuing to function? Life is like one giant organism, or better yet a property that rocks in space in this universe can possess. How can you ever say you are other than one with all the life around you? You are just a part of the life on this planet. Now you will be acting from a compassionate place, and believe me people will register this immediately when you have it going on. People don’t want to be mean to someone who is immediately trusting and friendly, and if they do, well, that’s just a nice person having a bad day. What would kind of day would you have to be having to do the same to someone else? Feel sorry for this person who has wronged you.

When you act confidently, openly, and offer someone else good energy, they will love it. People will be nice to you if you give them a good chance, and you can happily express exactly who you are at the same time. Trust and offer value and good energy to everyone, and other people offering those things will literally be drawn to you by the Law of attraction. You’ll make happy friends that you like and feel comfortable expressing yourself around them. Then you’ll grow to feel comfortable with people you don’t know, and trust that you’ll like them.

By a self fulfilling prophecy, which we learned, also in O&M, is a legitimate phenomenon in human behavior, if you act like you love everyone and everyone should love you, people will be much more inclined to actually act that way. This guy seems to think that both he and I are awesome, special people. I should spend more time around him. Everyone will like you, you won’t miss the few holdouts, and you’ll build more positive reference experiences, causing you to continue acting in these ways, and you will only grow to have more compassion for everyone around you, express yourself more, and be happier. If that isn’t confidence, I don’t know what is. Cheers!