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Building Real Relationships Instead of building a relationship by asking for personal information, focus on creating a genuine connection. People who constantly ask about others without sharing about themselves often don’t come across as sincere. Examples of Useless Questions: - How big is your house? - What car do you or your parents drive? - What job do you or your parents have? - How much do you earn? - How did you afford your phone? - Where have you traveled? - How much do you save a month? -How do you spend your salary? -What and what do you give to? These types of questions don’t build real connections and can even make people uncomfortable. How to Build Genuine Relationships Instead You don’t need to ask private questions to grow a friendship. Good communication means talking openly about things that feel comfortable for both people. If someone hasn’t shared something with you, it’s best not to ask especially if you wouldn’t want to answer those questions yourself. I can understand a lot about how you were brought up without asking personal questions. People’s behavior, values, and how they treat others often reveal more than any direct question could. Real connections come from observing, listening, and engaging in meaningful conversations, not from prying into details. A genuine relationship allows each person to naturally share what they feel comfortable with over time, without the need for invasive questions. Relationships built solely on questions don’t last long. When a connection relies mainly on asking for personal details rather than truly engaging, it often lacks depth and authenticity. Real bonds grow through shared experiences, mutual respect, and understanding not just by gathering facts. Lasting relationships come from genuine interest and support, not constant probing. "The ones who ask never respond when asked."

6 Powerful Ways To Get People To Say Yes to You:🤩 Here are six powerful strategies to encourage people to say "yes" to your requests: Build Rapport: Establish a genuine connection by finding common ground or shared interests. People are more likely to say yes to someone they feel comfortable with. Use the Principle of Reciprocity: Offer something of value first, whether it’s help, information, or a compliment. This can create a sense of obligation for the other person to reciprocate. Be Clear and Specific: Clearly articulate what you want and why. The more specific you are about your request, the easier it is for someone to understand and agree. Highlight Benefits: Emphasize how saying yes will benefit the other person. Whether it’s saving them time, helping them achieve a goal, or enhancing their experience, showing the value can persuade them. Create a Sense of Urgency: If applicable, introduce a time-sensitive element to your request. People are often more motivated to act quickly when they feel they might miss out on something. Use Social Proof: Share examples of others who have said yes or benefited from agreeing to similar requests. Knowing that others have taken the same step can make someone more likely to follow suit. These strategies can enhance your persuasive abilities while fostering positive relationships!

Weekend read: It's a common belief that ‘creative’ people tend to be more isolated than people in other fields/professions. This can be attributed to the fact that creative people being in their world helps them activate their creative side and bring forth ideas so they tend to favour and enjoy solitude. However, like every human being, creative people crave human connection and interaction. Visit https://lnkd.in/d67uXEJb to learn how to build meaningful relationships as a creative

It's a common belief that ‘creative’ people tend to be more isolated than people in other fields/professions. This can be attributed to the fact that creative people being in their world helps them activate their creative side and bring forth ideas so they tend to favour and enjoy solitude. However, like every human being, creative people crave human connection and interaction. Visit https://lnkd.in/d67uXEJb to learn how to build meaningful relationships as a creative.

🔍 How to Identify and Maximize the Potential of a Social Relationship Every relationship has the potential to positively impact our lives. But how do we identify this potential, and how can we maximize it? Here are some simple and effective steps: 🔑 How to Identify the Potential of a Relationship: 🛠️Shared Values – If you and the other person share similar principles or goals, the relationship has a solid foundation for growth. 🗣️Authentic Communication – A relationship that allows for open and honest communication is one that can evolve over time. 🤝Mutual Respect – If you feel valued and respected equally, this is a relationship worth investing in. 💡 How to Maximize the Potential of a Relationship: 📵Be Actively Present – Investing real time and attention strengthens the relationship. Put the phone away and be fully engaged. 🌱Create Space for Growth – Support the other person in reaching their goals. Relationships thrive when both sides feel encouraged to grow. 🛡️Set Healthy Boundaries – A relationship prospers when clear boundaries are set and respected. This builds trust and stability. 🔄Offer Continuous Feedback – Give and receive constructive feedback. This helps keep the relationship on the right track. 🔗 Social relationships are a continuous investment. Maximize them through attention, respect, and mutual development! 💫 How do you maximize the potential of the relationships you have? 💫

🌟 The Power of Relationships 🤝 Amy Shively Hawk's "Six Years in the Hanoi Hilton" & Viktor Frankl's "Man's Search for Meaning" demonstrate the profound impact of connections in times of adversity. 💪 POWs relied on each other for moral support, finding solace and strength in unity. For them, camaraderie was a lifeline stronger than torture. 🔍 Frankl's Holocaust survivor account emphasizes the significance of love and empathy in finding meaning and resilience amidst suffering. 🌿 Relationships play a key role in navigating challenges, finding purpose, and sustaining hope in unimaginable circumstances. Let's remember the power of connection, empathy, and solidarity in times of hardship. 🌈 💭 In our privileged lives, we often underestimate the importance of relationships, but in truth, people and connections are what truly matter. Material possessions fade, but relationships endure, holding significance in our hearts and minds. 🌱 We Are Wired for Relationships ✨ Tom Hanks in "Cast Away" vividly illustrates our innate need for companionship, even creating an imaginary friend to combat isolation. These dramatic examples remind us of the vital role relationships play in our existence—more essential than air, water, or food. Relationships fulfill a fundamental human need and are crucial for both personal fulfillment and professional success. Let's cherish and prioritize our connections, recognizing that we play a crucial role in meeting others' need for meaningful relationships. 🌟 Nurturing Relationships 💖 🤔 Despite the importance of relationships, we often find them challenging. Remember, cultivating and maintaining valuable connections requires time and effort. Here are behaviors that can strain relationships: ✨ Being self-absorbed ✨ Viewing others as means to an end ✨ Neglecting time and energy investment ✨ Engaging in caustic behaviors like complaining and not forgiving ✨ Lacking communication, a vital aspect of relationships. 🌱 Relationships are unpredictable, much like life itself. They require effort to nurture and grow, just like tending to a garden or running a business. Embrace the messiness and the beauty of connections, understanding that not everything is predictable or prescribed. 💡 7 Nurturing Actions for Relationships: 1. Connect with someone new 2. Express love 3. Serve generously 4. Practice kindness 5. Listen attentively 6. Demonstrate care 7. Offer forgiveness 🌈 Let's prioritize nurturing relationships through positive actions and attitudes. Look around you - who could benefit from one of these nurturing gestures today? Go on, make somebody’s day! 💫 #Connection #PowerOfRelationships #Empathy #Resilience 

🌟 "The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives." - Esther Perel 🌟 Building meaningful relationships isn't as easy as it looks. It's about being intentional, vulnerable, and consistent - key insights from this Chief article. Ah, vulnerability... the "V" word we often hear about (thank you Brene Brown). Have you ever heard of the 'beautiful mess effect'? This fascinating concept explains how embracing our vulnerability can actually make us more relatable and foster deeper connections. What's one way you've embraced vulnerability to strengthen your relationships? Share your stories in the comments! 👇

Want to unlock intentional relationships? First choose! As a 20-something, I often find myself caught in the loop of balancing the solid relationships I have, with those I admire from afar. While there's nothing inherently wrong with admiring others and drawing inspiration from them, the issue arises when I start to unknowingly neglect the solid relationships God has placed in my life. This often happens because these relationships don't appear as glamorous or successful as those I admire. I can't do life alone, not even at this age. There's a reason for the people currently in my life, and I need to first choose them, then appreciate who they are rather than what they are/have. In BoldwithKSA 'Kemi Sope-Agbebi live session today, with Emmanuel Adewale Omitiran, an indelible great teacher whose thought process I found inspiring, he mentioned (paraphrasing), "Relationships are like ships—they convey us from one point to another." If the people in my circle are contributing positively to my life, I must honor them and our connection. Instead of hopping from one person to another (a bit of a weakness for people in their 20s) and hiding behind the excuse of "not being a people person" or "finding people difficult," it’s crucial to self-reflect. Ask yourself: What are my intentions in being friends with this person? Why do I value them? Why should I value them? What value do they bring to me? Why must I make this relationship work? Answering these questions can help improve your relationships. Remember, choosing to be friends or partners with someone should be based on who they are, not what they are/have. Everyone has inherent beauty, and we can experience it by knowing they are who we need for our now, and both of us actively participating in the role we need each other for now. This also involves being present & loving genuinely and intentionally. Focus is key to making relationships work, even our relationship with God. And we can only focus on what we choose to focus on. So, I'm choosing to appreciate the people in my life right now. Grow together, learn together, and share together. By doing so, together we can become like those I admire, even if I don’t have access to them now. Often, we feel behind because we’re fixated on the external instead of building the internal. Invest in your current circle. They see you, the work you're putting in, and they're your greatest cheerleaders, even if they don’t express it often. I've learnt – People of influence are attracted to value—not just those who want to take, but those who can both take and give. So Radiance, what do you have to give? (Ask yourself😅). #Boldwithksa #selfreflection #personaldevelopment #buildingrelationships #buildingconnections #relationships #storyteller

How to Navigate Crucial Conversations to Create Win-Win Agreements. In business, parties involved sometimes find themselves teetering on the edge of a conflict. Given the stakes, parties need to know how to navigate such scenarios. Conflicts or potential conflicts lead to the need for having crucial conversations. These require emotional intelligence and social intelligence. Emotional intelligence requires that we have awareness of our emotions and know how to regulate them in service to our goals. Social intelligence on the other hand, requires that we have an awareness of other people's emotions, and that we know how to regulate them in service to our goals. The formula that combines the two in a bid to successfully navigate such conflicts involves the following: 1.Statement of the observed behavior. Conflicts are mostly as a violation of expectations. It is always good to cite an observation of how particular behavior from the other party seems to violate your expectations. For example: "When I call your office and I am told that you're not in all week and you don't return my calls..." 2.Statement of your feelings. Clearly state what the observed behavior causes you to feel. Relationships are built on mutual feeling and mutual concerns. When the feelings are violated, it is good to state how. Remember to say that you feel like that because of how the behavior makes things seem. Remember, this is not ranting. This is trying to move things from good to bad. You must leave room for the other party's story. For example: "I feel like you do not respect our business. It seems that way." 3.Statement of your needs and request. Most relationships collapse because of the parties involved making flawed assumptions about each other's needs. At this point clearly state your needs that may have been violated and connect them to your request. For example: "When I call your office and I am TOLD you're not in all week, I FEEL like you do not respect our business. When you anticipate that you wouldn't be able to meet your obligation to us, we NEED you to communicate that to us three days before. The process involving objective observation of the other party's behavior and the ability to articulate one's feelings, needs and requests clearly, involves emotional intelligence. It is mostly the aggressive part of a crucial conversation. The second part is as important. It is social intelligence at play. It involves giving an invitation and active listening. 4.The invitation. Invite the other party to state their case. This is switching from aggressive to conservative mode. Remember how you had said before, "it seems that way." This is the time to use it to invite an explanation of their behavior. "Like I had said, this is how the whole thing seems to me. Kindly let me know what is happening on your end."

Remember how to use relationship as a tool in the creation of self. Utilizing relationships as a tool in the journey of self-creation is a profound aspect of personal development. Here are some ways relationships can aid in this process: 1. Reflection and Feedback: Engaging in meaningful relationships provides insights into your strengths, weaknesses, and areas for growth. Constructive feedback from trusted individuals can help you gain self-awareness and refine your self-concept. 2. Support and Encouragement: Building supportive relationships can bolster your confidence and resilience thus providing the encouragement and motivation needed to sail through obstacles and stay committed to personal growth. 3. Learning and Growth: Interacting with diverse individuals exposes you to new perspectives, ideas, and experiences broadening your understanding of the world and facilitate personal growth. 4. Accountability and Responsibility: Healthy relationships can hold you accountable for your actions and decisions. Additionally, being responsible in your relationships fosters integrity and self-discipline, key attributes in self-creation.