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How can you move from feeling stuck and powerless to feeling motivated and optimistic? Evolution means we're hard-wired to experience negative thoughts and feelings. It's natural to want to avoid those feelings. But your negative feelings are never as bad as your fight to avoid them. We are intellectual beings, which means you can choose how to respond to events and circumstances. Observe and accept your feelings willingly. When you get clarity around your core values, you can start to act in alignment with them, and then commit to positive change. This means you don't have to let your feelings directly influence your behaviour. When you do things according to who you are and who you want to be regardless of temporary feelings, you tend to move towards what you want in life. ________________________________ Get Clarity, Direction and Balance in your Life & Career. Transformational 8-week Life Empowerment programme. 100% guaranteed. 100% confidential. DM or call me on 027 349 2520, or use the booking calendar on the Eclipse Life Coaching website to book a FREE consultation.

Do you PROCRASTINATE? 😬 Do this. 😎 ▶️ Identify your priorities ▶️ Schedule regular, specific time blocks to work on them that are not too burdensome (make it easy for yourself) ▶️ Let go of perfectionism ▶️ Break up large projects into small tasks and schedule them ▶️ Think about how you can make tasks more enjoyable ▶️ Practise mindfulness when doing them (focus) ▶️ See your tasks as just "something I do", as part of your routine ▶️ Now they're just habits you do automatically When you have good systems in place, procrastination tends to become irrelevant. ________________________________ Get Clarity, Direction and Balance in your Life & Career. Transformational 8-week Life Empowerment programme. 100% guaranteed. 100% confidential. DM or call me on 027 349 2520, or use the booking calendar on the Eclipse Life Coaching website to book a FREE consultation.

Stephen Fry once said he wanted to publish a book that's all blank pages, apart from the first page that would just say "Stop feeling sorry for yourself - and you will be happy". This may be true, but it's damned hard to do! Your self-pitying thoughts may have been entrenched over many years, reinforced by your upbringing, events and circumstances, and then embedded as unconscious habits. The key to changing this self-destructive thinking pattern is to consciously become more aware of your thoughts when faced with challenges and problems. Then you can label and deal with them more effectively. Self-pitying thoughts tend to be either blunt statements (whether true or not) or rhetorical questions (where you're not actually seeking an answer). For example: 🛑 It's so unfair 🛑 I always have bad luck 🛑 Why does this always happen to me? 🛑 When is this ever going to end? Self-pitying thoughts are a dead-end. They don't lead you anywhere except a bad mood. The good news is you can re-train your brain, by learning to recognise and re-frame them into more rational, constructive (and true) thoughts that get you moving forward, such as: ✅ How can I make things better from here? ✅ I have bad luck and good luck, so what am I grateful for? ✅ This happens to many people, so what can I learn from it? ✅ What steps can I take to overcome this? These thoughts get you out of your self-obsession, and direct you towards a focus on process and action. You're NOT denying reality or ignoring your feelings. You're simply adjusting the language of your thoughts. Your self-pitying mindset won't change overnight, and nurturing healthier thinking habits requires effort over time, but the rewards will be huge. What do you think? ________________________________ Get Clarity, Direction and Balance in your Life & Career. Transformational 8-week Life Empowerment programme. 100% guaranteed. 100% confidential. DM or call me on 027 349 2520, or use the booking calendar on the Eclipse Life Coaching website to book a FREE consultation. Hit the notification bell 🔔 in my profile for more posts like this.

I help my clients discover how to feel better mentally and emotionally so they can live more fulfilling, purposeful and enjoyable lives, in a nutshell.⁠ ⁠ Moving from a place of feeling stuck, stressed out and overwhelmed to having purpose, a strategic plan for life and enjoying being present is a transformational journey.⁠ ⁠ It's not a journey for everyone because it takes courage, tenacity, grit and inner work which not everyone is prepared to do. ⁠ ⁠ My job is to facilitate the work, but I cannot do it for you.⁠ ⁠ One of the first steps along the journey of transformation is learning the skill of resilience.⁠ ⁠ Resilience is the ability to adapt to and recover from stressful life stuff and it starts with befriending your nervous system.⁠ ⁠ When you understand what it feels like to for your nervous system to be activated and how your unique stress response manifests, you can work with your body and learn to calm its response to stressful situations on demand.⁠ ⁠ I teach a variety of tools to my clients to help them develop and master resilience.⁠ ⁠ Resilience is also supported by:⁠ ⁠ - Self-compassion: adjusting your self-talk and taming your inner critic⁠ ⁠ - Self-care: making sure you're managing your energy levels and resting properly⁠ ⁠ - Connection with other people: feeling supported by friends and family is crucial for resilience building⁠ ⁠ - Re-framing 'failures'⁠ and looking for the learning opportunity when things go wrong⁠ ⁠ - Viewing challenging situations through a lens of curiosity⁠ ⁠ - Knowing how to get your needs met and being able to speak up for yourself⁠ ⁠ Ultimately when you learn to steer the ship of your life rather than sitting back and being a passenger, your personal and professional life will change for the better⁠ ⁠ If you're curious to know more about how I can help you with 1:1 coaching to get unstuck and back on track, please send me a DM.⁠ ⁠ Have you registered for my Stress Less workshop yet? I'll be covering what I've shared here in more detail on Tuesday 1st October - sign up here: https://lnkd.in/dCTfVVX2⁠ ⁠ ⁠ ⁠

UPDATE: I've decided to keep my current branding of "The Stress Less Coach" but emphasizing that I help with the "Big Five": overwhelm, anxiety, procrastination, perfectionism, and imposter syndrome. 📌 If you or anyone else you know is feeling overstressed, I invite you to get on a free 1-hour "Stress LESS" Call with me. On the call you get to tell me what's getting in the way of you feeling great about your life - and I'll give you clarity on how to address what's challenging you! I guarantee you will feel better by the end of the call. 📲 Schedule the call here: https://lnkd.in/ewVeWFGQ --------- Friends: I’ve been thinking about niching down my general life coaching to instead focus on being a procrastination coach. It was my biggest issue most of my life, and I’m really good at helping people change the self-sabotaging patterns in a way that’s not shaming and is actually FUN! Thoughts? P.S. Professional on top, party on the bottom! 😂

12 things to remember today 💗 •Self-love is your super power. •Kindness starts with you. •Believe in yourself. •Trust the process, it will happen. •Radiate positivity and make other smile. •Breathe in calm, exhale stress. •Your voice matters, speak up. •Celebrate your progress, even small wins. •Happiness is found in simple moments.(wait for tomorrow's post) •Embrace change, it's growth. •You are worthy of all good things. •Master your emotions, take help if you can't. Hii, this is Sheetal your life coach, if you are someone who want to master your emotions. Dm "life" for 1:1 free clarity session.

As a man, you may face unique challenges when overcoming self-doubt, anxiety, or relationship issues. However, rescripting can be a powerful tool to help you cultivate a more positive and empowering mindset that enables you to achieve your goals and live a fulfilling life. By reframing negative thoughts and beliefs, you can tap into your innate resilience and strength to create your desired life. So why not check out rescripting and see how it can transform your life? https://lnkd.in/e8t4ZTwR

Feeling unmotivated? So what? Systems eat motivation for breakfast. When you have good systems in place, "motivation" and "procrastination" tend to become irrelevant. ➡ Set clear goals that align with your values and purpose ➡ Create smart actions and habits that move you towards your goals ➡ Write down your plans and schedule your tasks ➡ Make them as easy as possible ➡ Take consistent and imperfect action ➡ Get into a routine ➡ Keep analysing your strategies and adjust them as you go ➡ Focus on process When you start to see results, your motivation levels will increase naturally and you'll want to keep going. Have you experienced this? ________________________________ Get Clarity, Direction and Balance in your Life & Work. Transformational 8-week Life Empowerment programme. 100% guaranteed. 100% confidential. DM or call me on 027 349 2520, or use the booking calendar on the Eclipse Life Coaching website to book a FREE clarity session. Hit the notification bell 🔔 in my profile for more posts like this.

Coaching that uses positive psychology is different because it looks at what is already going right. (Although often my clients will start off struggling to see their situation that way! Which is completely normal) It leans towards what resources you already have to build on, what strengths you have, what skills and support systems. As your coach I have a focus on always helping you to increase your life satisfaction. That means using different well-being theories and tools in the process. It means that none of the goals you want to achieve should sacrifice your well-being. It means increasing positive emotions and looking at; Connection Meaning Flow Finding your purpose To mention a few! It is about taking into consideration positively impacting your happiness and well-being with every decision you make and every goal you set from today. It’s about getting your sights on +10 life satisfaction. Exciting no?! It is my belief that goals can be achieved without sacrifice. We’ve just been told for so long that this is not the case, that we have to ‘earn’ our happiness in any way that you can ~ essentially meaning pain! No. Not so. I am a coach that begins with YOU, all that you are ALREADY (magical) we don’t start with a foot in lack, but a foot in gratitude. We move from there. Even if you don’t see the magic in yourself, I promise you, I DO. ✨ Sending love! Summer XX ☀️ #positivepsychology #positivepsychologycoach #coachingforsuccess #coachingforwomen #wellbeingmatters #happiness

How do you handle the toughest of challenges? Every person I know, up close or distantly, shares one common phenomenon in life. Difficult and painful times. We all have gone through. And even as I type this my brain is already reacting to memories of my own adverse situations. Eyes are fighting back tears, fingers are trembling, heart is in a frenzy and a knot has placed itself in my gut. The mere thought did this, so imagine what the real situation can do to us. Why imagine We all have lived through it. In this moment Understand yourself. Adversity brings the most resilient aspects of your existence alive. Who are you after all? Pay attention to your own self. You hold the key to your own survival. Do what you do best. Your inherent and core kind of best. Observe this fish in video. It's simply doing what it's best at. Swimming movements even though it's not on water at that moment. Remember there are a numerous factors influencing the moment in time. But the worst way we can respond is by surrendering and not doing our bit. Ask yourself what I can do in this moment of challenge. And give that moment your very best. Tough times teach us to accept our vulnerability. And also reveals a part of you, that even you were oblivious of. The energy to persist and fight..... Remember that thought for day in school Tough times don't last, tough people do! Makes a lot of sense now. Isn't it Because 💪ITS NOT OVER TILL ITS TRULY OVER I hope you enjoyed reading this post as much as I enjoyed writing it. The video is sourced from X Follow me 😊 Dr Simmi Roy Mishra if you like my posts. I write everyday. 😊 🦚🦚🦚🦚🦚🦚🦚🦚🦚🦚🦚🦚🦚🦚 I am Dr Simmi Roy Mishra. Physician, Mindset Coach.  I offer curated life coaching programs to women in all ages and phases of life. My programs are neuroscience based and focus on principles of positive psychology to bring about emotional regulation, self discovery and connect to purpose DM for more details