Harvinder SINGH’s Post

Feeling bad about something? 🤔 Guilt and remorse are two different emotions. Let's unravel them: Guilt: Intense self-blame 💔 "I'm a bad person" 😢 Leads to shame and isolation 🥀 Can be rooted in cultural expectations and upbringing 🌍 Remorse: Feeling sorry for your actions 😥 "I made a mistake, but I can learn from it" 💪 Fosters self-compassion and growth🌱 Promotes taking responsibility and making amends 🙏 Guilt keeps you stuck. Remorse helps you move forward. 🏃 Different cultures experience guilt and remorse in unique ways. Understanding these nuances can help us heal and grow. 🌻 At Bempong Talking Therapy, we'll guide you through these complex emotions, helping you transform guilt into constructive remorse.  We honor your cultural background and provide personalized support. 🤝 Need more info? Check out our website & sign up for our newsletter! 📧 #GuiltVsRemorse #EmotionalHealing #MentalHealthForAll #CulturalCompetence #BempongTalkingTherapy

"I think we all have empathy. We may not have enough courage to display it."--Maya Angelou With due respect, I don't agree with the statement. Most people tend to confuse sympathy with empathy. Sympathy might come naturally to most people because one, it doesn't involve your entire being; it involves a minuscule portion of your emotions, if at all. And two, it occurs at a very superficial level, with no depth involved. On the other hand, empathy involves more emotions, feelings, and more depth, because you're able to relate to or connect with what someone's going through. What about pain? That's pretty challenging. You have to possess superhuman powers to be able to experience the pain someone else is experiencing. In other words, no, you cannot 'feel' their pain. I believe it's enough to place yourself in the position of the person going through a situation and ask yourself how you would react, feel, or what you'd do to deal with it. Unfortunately, today, the world has become alarmingly mechanical, so we don't have the time to feel emotions or feelings appropriately. Or more specifically, we've forgotten how to feel. What we need isn't courage but awareness. Being aware of our emotions and identifying them will help us express them clearly, and in turn, make us more empathetic. It'll come naturally, without the presence of courage. Something to think about. #sympathy #empathy #feelings #emotions #depth #superficial #pain #situation #awareness

Silence the inner critic with our Positive Self Talk Challenge! Replace negativity with affirmations: "I am confident," "I am resilient," "I am deserving." Share this with friends and spread the positivity boost! #TransformHappily . . . . . #PositiveVibes #SelfEmpowerment #MentalResilience #AffirmationChallenge #BoostYourSelfEsteem #InnerStrength #SelfWorth #MindfulAffirmations #MentalWellbeing #PositiveMindset #SelfConfidence #SelfCareRoutine #MentalHealthSupport #UpliftYourself #SelfGrowth #EmotionalWellbeing #MindsetTransformation #PositiveEnergy #BelieveInYourself #SelfCompassion #SelfAcceptance #DailyAffirmations #InnerPeace #SelfLoveJourney #WellnessWarrior #ConfidenceBoost #EmpowerYourself #MentalWellnessJourney #TransformYourMindset

One of the best, first steps to manage through a emotionally hijacking moment - is to accept our reaction, and gain distance from the emotion (we are not our emotion), by LABELING it. Get as specific as you can. (i.e., When we are young all negative emotions are either sad, bad or happy, good. When we can be granular about naming our emotions, we can then identify WHY it has triggered us.) The stronger the negative emotion, usually the greater the threat to something that we hold as important. A goal, an aim or a especially a personal value. If I value fairness and reciprocity, when you don't pull your weight I will be extra sensitive to it. Knowing the emotion, we can pause...examine it...decide if our concerns are fully rational (challenge them a bit) and continue to process through to next good step to take. > Have you ever experienced the power of pausing to label a a strong emotion? > Or asking yourself if you have full evidence to what you are feeling --that it is worth the fear or is in fact, a perceived threat? #emotionalagility #emotionmanagement #observor #intentional

We are an inconsiderate society!! How so, you may ask! A lot of people still believe that “manners” and “Etiquette” are some dusted and dated concepts that only “fancy” people need or those who want to project being fancy! We disregard and diminish the value of these terms as way of life in ways that it scares me because in reality they are the truth of our civilisation, society and relationships. Manners are a part of us. They are the gps that we all need in our lives to reach our destination without causing accidents or harm to others! This discussion is lengthy, but for today, I’d like to highlight just a few inconsiderate gestures we unintentionally do without realising how it makes others feel ⛳️ Helping yourself to or asking for a home tour without being offered one ⛳️ Asking someone to smile, take it easy or just change their mood when they are totally depressed ⛳️ Insisting someone to drink with you or judging them for choosing not to ⛳️ Relating others’ issues, stories back to yourself in a conversation ⛳️ Writing your contact details to be retrieved from a long message rather than a separate line so it could be copy pasted easily ⛳️Making someone feel small for not knowing something you do Small changes in these behaviors can significantly enhance our relationships and foster a more considerate environment. Let’s strive to be more mindful of our actions! 🌟 #Etiquette #Mindfulness #Professionalism #CommunicationSkills #PersonalDevelopment

Today's mindful affirmation: I acknowledge my feelings without judgement. They are valid and part of the human experience. Feelings of sadness, excitement, anger and joy are all part of being human. Whatever you're feeling, know that they're valid. Share this affirmation with someone who needs to hear it. 🧡 #mindfulaffirmations #positiveaffirmations #mentalhealthresources #southsouthwestmhttc #mentalhealthsupport

Emotional acceptance is the practice of recognizing and embracing one’s feelings without judgment. It involves acknowledging emotions as valid experiences, whether they’re positive or “negative” emotions, and understanding that they are a natural part of being human. This openness and acceptance towards our feelings allows us to experience and understand them on a deeper level. This sounds easy, but as most of us know…it’s not! It takes a lot of courage and vulnerability to allow and sit with emotions that feel uncomfortable. When we learn how to do this, however, we end up responding to our emotions more constructively, instead of reacting impulsively to them or becoming overwhelmed by them. We learn to have our emotions, instead of our emotions having us. #emotionfocusedtherapy #eft #emotionalawareness #emotionalintelligence #emotionalhealing #innerwork #emotionregulation

There are so many words that are weaponized Empathy is one of them.💯 'You don't have any empathy' I heard my mum say that I heard my husband say that on many occassions. This hurt But I would not have this. My refusal to believe it was the source of personal power.💪💪 My mum was like a feather in the wind, easily swayed by other people's emotions and opinions. Very often she would find herself in the middle of an emotional upheaval, created by herself. She wanted validation, got none from me. Called me 'unempathetic'. This made her feel better, obviously. My husband would create lots of drama, that happened only in his fear- filled mind. He expected permanent empathy and support. Called me unepathetic when I woudn't validate his feelings. 🙈🙈 I just didn't want to fuel his internal chaos Look how quickly you change from happy to sad, from excited to frustrated. Look how much other people sway you. Do you want to feel what they feel? Or do you want to stay in your power? Your personal power is experiencing yourself in an authentic way while others experience themselves without feeling guilty or ashamed for your authenticity. Your real power is your effortless authenticity. People who stay in their power are magnetic because they tap into their wisdom. You have every right to experience your feelings despite what others feel. You don't have to give any validation or get swayed. Your life is about you, isn't it? #personalpower #consciousness #emotionalintelligence

How many of these phrases sound familiar? • "Don't be silly" • "I'm sure they didn't mean it" • "You're just too sensitive" When we have our #emotions #denied in this way by powerful people in our childhood, we learn to #adapt; hiding those parts which are apparently not ‘allowable’. We don’t become equipped to #process and learn from them. Additional thoughts soon become attached to those emotions, which perpetuate the challenging emotions even further. So we live with an underlying #discomfort. And this underlying discomfort can rise up into our consciousness in certain situations, or even at the thought of those situations, so we avoid: Giving a speech at work. Telling a friend that we are upset with them. Going to events by ourselves. Rather than subject ourselves to the conscious discomfort, we engage in a whole lot of behaviours to avoid it, doubting our innate intuition. Totally understandable. Who wants to feel something that they have no tools to manage, because they were never taught the tools? Instead, we seek #reassurance through #peoplepleasing; we #ruminate and #procrastinate; become #hypervigilant to try and head off a situation which may escalate and trigger our discomfort; engage in #compulsive behaviour. Exhausting. Isn’t that just ironic? By avoiding, we can’t heal our wounds and we exhaust ourselves. We make it worse for ourselves. Healing from this doesn't just take a cognitive understanding of the many reasons for our behaviour (although mindful observation is an important part) We have to change the ‘felt’ sense too, the part that links back to the emotional neglect, that left us feeling isolated and ashamed for being emotionally attuned in a brutal world.

Sometimes we find ourselves holding on to negative evaluations of ourselves, others, or situations. We hold on to these so tightly that eventually we don't even realize what we are doing, we call these "Sticky Judgements". These judgments can be "sticky" because they are difficult to let go of and often lead to heightened emotional distress and damaging behavior. Recognizing sticky judgments is useful because it allows us to challenge and reframe these beliefs, promoting a more balanced and compassionate view of ourselves and those around us. Actively acknowledging sticky judgments leads us to the path of letting go of a way of thinking that doesn't serve us. For instance, if you find yourself thinking, "I always fail at everything," this is a sticky judgment that can lead to feelings of hopelessness and decreased motivation. By identifying this judgment, you can challenge it with more positive beliefs, such as, "I have faced difficulties, but I've also had successes and can learn from my experiences." Another example is when you catch yourself judging someone else harshly, like thinking, "They are so selfish." This sticky judgment can strain relationships and increase conflict. Instead, you can try to look at it from the other person's point of view: "They might be going through a tough time and didn't realize how their actions affected me". Every time you reframe these sticky judgements you make it easier for yourself not to fall into a trap of negative thoughts. By practicing this skill, you can improve your self confidence and your interactions with others. Letting go of sticky judgments allows for greater emotional resilience and a more positive outlook on life. #mindfulnesswithsasha #mindfulinsights #stickyjudgements #mentalhealth #selfcare #positivity #mindfulness https://wix.to/F0NdDM6