Ayushi Shah’s Post

I completely nerded out... I spent hours researching attachment styles and s x. What I found was fascinating. We talk a lot about how attachment styles shape relationships—how people bond, communicate, and manage conflict—but what’s rarely discussed is how attachment influences sexual intimacy. And let me tell you that the science on this is mind-blowing. I took a deep dive… there’s a lot more research out there than I expected. I’m grateful to all the researchers and clinicians who graciously responded to my emails with requests for more information or their full papers. The studies on how attachment impacts sexual behaviour and satisfaction are extensive—yet, most of us never learned about this in our formal training. It was certainly never mentioned in my sexology and psychosexual therapy training - which kind of blew my mind. Unsurprisingly, secure attachment is correlated with more fulfilling sexual experiences, while insecure attachment can create patterns that leave partners feeling disconnected and unsatisfied. Insecure attachment styles (avoidant and anxious attachment styles) can influence everything from sexual desire to arousal and even the ability to fully relax and enjoy intimacy. Understanding how our attachment needs and coping strategies impact our sexual relationships could honestly change so many lives. I’ve spent years working with couples, and this insight into how attachment shapes not only emotional but sexual connection is a game-changer. In my practitioner course for therapists and healthcare professionals, we dive deep into this research and practical strategies for improving intimacy. Connect and message me for the details. #attachmentstyles #psychotherapy #relationshipcounseling #sexology #couplestherapy #mentalhealth

Understanding one of the Theories of Gender-Role Development: Gender Schema Theory! #psychology #psychologist #upseducation #arvindottasir #psychologymajor #psychologytoday #informative #GenderSchemaTheory #CognitiveDevelopment #ChildPsychology #SocialLearningTheory #GenderRoles

BDSM Partner Preferences: From Serious Lovers to Pick-Up Play Learn more at https://buff.ly/3WEHbWw #sexpositivity #sexpositive #sexualempowerment #sexscience #sexualhealth #research #sexresearcher #sexeducation #sexed #letstalkaboutsex #psychology #conscioussexuality

Few things shock me anymore, but this did... What is the one thing that seems to trend when looking at autism and relationships? I was writing a chapter over the weekend and found this popping up in searches more than actual credible information or accounts by autistic people. And, here is the problem: pseudo-science like this further pathologises many like myself. Many do not understand one trending topic is, Cassandra Affective Deprivation Disorder or CADD. This is a pseudo condition that places all the blame on a relationship to undiagnosed neurodivergence, specifically autism—nothing under the DSM-5 or via credible #psychology services that promote this, to be precise. The 'diagnostic criteria' villainises autism, and places blame on failing relationships to a reductionist view. Not to mention, it peddles tropes on autism that are out-of-date and highly gender-specific. Few are aware of the quantity of information and forums on this topic. And precisely how these are promoted via some forums. Yes, it's highly discriminatory. It's shocking to see how this idea is being shared online and how, again, autistic people become the totem of blame. It takes two to make a relationship work, but it's unfair to pin failures on autism. And, yes, I've devoted a chapter to this. But I'd love some other insights from the community. Surely, I'm not the only one shocked by this. ♻ If this resonates, please like, comment and share. #ActuallyAutistic #Autism #Autistic #Neurodiversity #Neurodivergent #Relationships #Love #Dating #LoveOnTheSpectrum

#Psychosexual Development Freud proposed that children go through a series of stages focused on different erogenous zones. Each stage is characterized by the way sexual energy (libido) is focused on specific areas of the body. The successful resolution of these stages is crucial for the development of a healthy adult personality. The stages are: 1. #Oral Stage (0-1 years): - #Sensitive Zone: Mouth - #Primary Source of Pleasure: Sucking, chewing, and swallowing - #Key Task: Weaning from breast or bottle - #Outcome: Overindulgence or frustration can lead to an oral fixation, resulting in behaviors like smoking, overeating, or nail-biting in adulthood. 2. #Anal Stage (1-3 years): #Sensitive Zone: Anus #Primary Source of Pleasure: Controlling bladder and bowel movements #Key Task: Toilet training #Outcome: Too strict or too lenient toilet training can result in an anal-retentive personality (obsessive cleanliness and orderliness) or an anal-expulsive personality (disorder and messiness). 3. #Phallic Stage (3-6 years): #Sensitive Zone: Genitals #Primary Source of Pleasure: Genital stimulation #Key Task: Identifying with the same-sex parent and resolving the Oedipus/Electra complex #Outcome: Unresolved conflicts can result in problems with sexuality and relationships in later life. 4. #Latency Stage (6-puberty): #Sensitive Zone**: Dormant sexual feelings #Primary Source of Pleasure: Social interactions and intellectual pursuits #Key Task: Developing communication skills and self-confidence #Outcome: Successful navigation of this stage leads to the development of social and communication skills and self-confidence. 5. #Genital Stage (puberty onward): #Sensitive Zone**: Genitals #Primary Source of Pleasure**: Sexual intimacy #Key Task: Developing mature sexual relationships #Outcome: Successful completion of earlier stages leads to well-balanced, mature relationships. Failure to resolve conflicts in earlier stages can result in difficulties in intimate relationships. It is believed that early childhood experiences shape an individual's personality and behavior. Unresolved conflicts during any stage can lead to psychological issues and neuroses in adulthood. #AdesinaSherifKayode #GlobalChildDeveloper #Magisterialspeaks #Development4all #Psychosexualdevelopment

8 Neurotypical Social Norms That Baffle Your Autistic Loved One If you have an autistic person in your life, you may be confused about some of their traits.  Whether it’s something they said, a tone of voice they used, or a non-verbal cue they seemed to ignore, it can be frustrating to try to communicate with someone who appears to be behaving like a jerk, and that’s understandable!  The other side of this, however, is that many of the traits that you display as a neurotypical person may be just as baffling to your autistic loved one–and the differences between the two may be what’s causing friction, not purposeful malice.  Hopefully, this article will give you some insight into your autistic loved one’s perspective and help clear up some of those frustrating miscommunications. (Click on the link below to continue reading.) https://buff.ly/3Z1qxAE #Autism #Autistic #ActuallyAutistic #Neurodivergent #AutismMom #AutismDad #AutismParent

How harmful is conversion therapy? 🏳️🌈 As someone who's been in the LGBTQ+ world for a good couple of decades, I've experienced and seen how non-accepting attitudes, stigma, shame, & attacks based on sexuality and gender identity can affect people's mental health. Conversion practices try to change someone's sexual orientation or gender identity, and they are still legal and practiced in many places. ➡️ In a new research paper in Lancet Psychiatry, Nguyen Tran & colleagues used the PRIDE study to quantify the effects of conversion practices on mental health, specifically trying to see the different effects of practices aimed at gender identity or sexual orientation. 🎧 The paper link is below, and I sat down with Nguyen and David Kinitz to talk about their work in the Lancet Psych podcast. Have a listen! Article: https://lnkd.in/eWFE_Bfh Podcast: https://lnkd.in/eUPYUzPr

For a long time now, Autistic people have been fighting to have the contested title of Autism Spectrum Disorder removed from discourse of medicine. We feel that as an emerging culture, being Autistic is an identity rather than a medical matter. When considering one's identity, we have to consider all avenues of discourse surrounding it. Today, we're going to consider politics. #actuallyautistic #Autism #autistic #government #identity #identitypolitics #neurodivergence #neurodivergent #neurodiversity #politics #psychology #psychometrics #psychometry #regulations

I keep getting asked to summarize neurodiversity and neurodivergence in a nutshell, so here it is in graphic and written form. Hope that helps! Neurodiversity is the diversity of ALL minds. We are all neurodiverse and different. There is no normal-normal is a social construct. Neurodivergent does not mean diverging from normal, it means diverging from neuronormativity and any functioning that has been labeled as disordered. We have been living within an ableist pathology paradigm where people are seen as a problem to be fixed. The Neurodiversity Paradigm is changing that narrative, for it is society that needs fixing, starting with social power inequities and the labeling of certain people as “disordered” or “deficient”. Image description: a blue square with the above words in it. #neurodiversity #neurodivergent #neuronormativity #ableism #disability #NeurodiversityParadigm #neurobelonging