Girlfriend Wants Boyfriend's 'Messy' Kids to Help Her Clean Up, but Dad 'Sees No Reason'

Some messy kids are turning one woman's relationship into a mess.

In an anonymous post on Reddit, a woman writes, "I like to keep my car clean."

In fact, overall, "I like everything clean — house, outdoor space, my desk," she says. "I live in my boyfriend's house and even though we are reconstructing it I tidy everyday. I do admit I have a bit of OCD and if things aren't in their places I get nervous. Nothing crazy, but a clean space keeps me happy and content."

However, her boyfriend has two kids — ages 11 and 15 — who stay with them every second weekend.

"The girls are lovely and we get along," the Redditor continues. "My only problem is that they are quite messy. They leave stuff everywhere, food in bed, bathroom full of hair, water all over the place. I say nothing and tidy it."

She adds, "My boyfriend has two cars and so do I. His cars are a mess, which I also clean from time to time because I enjoy doing it for him." The poster has her own cars, which "are more new and fancy," she writes. "He likes to use them."

But whenever they drive the girls in her cars, "they always leave [the car] a mess. Mud on the carpets, hair and sweet wrappers all over. They get out, I vacuum, clean the carpets, wipe the seats and so on."

At this point, the woman says, "I have been doing it for over two years and I have had enough. So last week I told my boyfriend that if the girls go in my car I want them to help me clean it — a 5-minute thing. I would be doing it with them."

The boyfriend's reaction? "It was such an issue. He told me I was lame, that it's just a car and he sees no reason for them to help me. So I said fine and that we will use his car when he has the children and needs to drive them somewhere. I also pay for the petrol when we drive in my car."

The woman says she feels her boyfriend's reaction is "unfair," because she's only asking for a little help with "this one thing." She asks commenters — is she in the wrong?

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No, they all seem to agree.

"He likes your cars because they are nice. Being clean is part of that. How dare he call you lame because you want to keep them nice," one person writes. "At those ages, young people are more than capable of cleaning up after themselves. You are doing them a favour if you start teaching them this skill now."

Another concurs. "I think the girls should have been cleaning after themselves all along," they write. "Just explain that it’s part of growing up to learn to clean up your messes. Wafting through like a house cleaning ... so that their surroundings are always pleasant with no effort from them teaches them nothing. If your boyfriend can’t see this he’s failing in his duty as a parent."