Family Upset at Newlyweds Who Live in Same Household for Not Mailing Them Thank You Cards

The honeymoon period is over for a newlywed couple who is taking some heat from their family for not sending them mailed thank you cards.

In a post on Reddit's popular "Am I the A------?" forum, a newly married woman is questioning whether or not she is in the wrong for not sending wedding thank you cards to her husband's family even though they all live in the same household.

In her post, the 28-year-old woman explained that she and her husband, also 28, mailed out thank-you's to everyone who attended their wedding, along with a few who couldn't but still sent them a card or gift. They live in a duplex with the groom's sister, which they rent from his parents, so they assumed it wasn't "necessary" to mail them thank you cards as they "see everyone almost every day" and thought it would have been "repetitive" from what they told them in person.

"We personally thanked my husband's parents for the help and his sister for everything," the woman wrote. "We’ve thanked them a handful of times after each event."

Even though verbal thank-you's were enough for the bride's family, they didn't suffice the groom's.

"Last night my husband went to see his mom and gave her the mail and she asked him if we sent out thank you cards. He told her we did and she mentioned how she didn’t get one and his sister didn’t get one for the bridal shower," said the woman, who then offered to take his family out to dinner. "We talk to his sister every day, but made sure to thank her post bridal shower 'cause we live together and said many thanks and how she didn’t need to get us anything."

The woman questions: "Were we supposed to send thank you cards to them even though we live with them?" 

Most Redditors took the side of the groom's family in the comments section.

"I would most definitely send them a very heartfelt card or letter," one person commented in part. "In fact, at this point, I would send them a letter expanding on everything they did for you, and continue to do, with providing you a home and the wedding or shower help. Written word means so much to many of us."

Another Reddit user added, "The idea that someone can’t take a couple of minutes out of their day to write a simple thank you note is mind boggling to me 🫣."

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In contrast, a few users said that the family shouldn't have expected cards when they received verbal gratitude. 

"But she did acknowledge kindness. In person. Multiple times," someone else wrote. "Why does it have to be a text or card or letter?"