A 23-year-old had sex with 101 men in a day — feminist, or damaging to women?

On Saturday October 19, 23-year-old Lily Phillips says she had sex with 101 men in 14 hours.

It sounds like the plot of a B-list adult movie, but the self-proclaimed ‘mattress actress’ claims she consensually filmed every encounter.

One video, which has been viewed more than one million times on X, shows Lily having oral and penetrative sex with five men — allegedly numbers 11 to 16. Another clip captures the aftermath, a bed strewn with used tissues and empty condom wrappers, and bottles of lubricant seeping onto stained sheets.

‘When you’re in sex positions for hours, my actual body, like my limbs, were aching. I felt like I’d been hit by a bus,’ Lily tells Metro.

‘But I enjoy it and I’m passionate about it. I don’t think I’d do these crazy things if I wasn’t.’

‘It’ has earned her a huge amount of backlash on TikTok, with many of the 12 million viewers who have watched her videos suggesting she get some ‘self respect’ and branding her ‘vile’.

There has been, however, notably little vitriol toward the 500 men who had applied to be one of the 101 to have sex with Lily.

Some have since responded to her videos, bragging about their involvement. Metro found five men publicly claiming to be ‘number 54’, ‘number 98’, as well as 48, 67 and 87 in social media posts. Their comments did not attract any form of condemnation.

Who is Lily Phillips?

Originally from Derbyshire, Lily got her start in the adult entertainment industry at the age of 18, when she signed up to OnlyFans and earned £2,000 in just 24 hours doing solo play.

She dropped out of Sheffield University shortly after that, but only began filming porn with men at the start of this year. She says her recent TikTok videos about sleeping with dozens of men a day earn her six figures a month, but declined to be more specific.

Her popularity has grown largely thanks to her association with Bonnie Blue, a fellow OnlyFans adult content creator who went viral after claiming that she slept with 158 men in two weeks. What you might call Bonnie’s ‘unique selling point’ in the over-saturated world of porn is that she sleeps with teenagers who she describes as ‘barely legal’, setting herself up in student-heavy areas during freshers’ weeks across the UK.

Bonnie’s antics have sparked controversy from Mexico to Australia, where she invited 18 and 19-year-olds to sleep with her on Schoolies, a week-long holiday where Year 12 graduates party together after finishing school.

Together, Lily and Bonnie arranged to sleep with a large group of men in a single sitting. That day alone, they say they each had sex with nearly 40 men.

But the pair’s relationship has since soured, with Lily distancing herself after Bonnie was condemned for making misogynistic comments.

Speaking on the popular Australian radio show Kyle and Jackie O, Bonnie sparked a firestorm by claiming that men cheating makes them a ‘better partner’.

‘You can come home, deal with your wife’s whinging, look after the kids… but you’re just sneaking off elsewhere to get pleasured,’ she told a visibly offended Jackie.

‘If [men] are going to work and do a hard day’s shift, they need to be treated. If the women aren’t doing that… they should be listening to my advice, put some underwear on.’

She also claimed men would never cheat on her because she was ‘too hot’ and ‘too good in bed’. When Jackie O called her out on the misogyny, Bonnie told her to ‘open her legs up more’.

Lily disagrees with this view, saying on TikTok: ‘I don’t believe any woman owes a man [sex]. If you are doing it because you believe that is expected of you and that you owe someone, to me that is non-consensual.’

Kink or damaging to feminism?

When it comes to her ‘extreme’ sex challenges, Lily’s response to critics is that she simply enjoys sex.

‘I love sex, I love everything about it. It’s almost addictive,’ she tells Metro. ‘Plus I love entertaining – I want to make unique content that my subscribers appreciate.’

Lily says she is also driven by a desire to ‘be the best’ in the adult industry.

‘I’m wildly competitive. When I filmed my 101 guys in 14 hours, it felt like my biggest sexual fantasy come true, and now I want to do bigger and better feats,’ she says. ‘The thrill of it drives me crazy – I would never do something I don’t want to do. Maybe it’s a kink? Who knows.’

For those who say Lily is doing it purely for the money, the OnlyFans star says: ‘People can think what they want, that’s totally fine. I earned a stable income from OnlyFans before – I didn’t need to sleep with 101 random men, I did that out of enjoyment.’

Logistics…

When Lily slept with 101 men, she did it solo. Her personal assistant, Claudie-Louis, who is 25 and has worked with Lily for three years, booked in 200 men to account for dropouts. They scheduled 15 guys an hour from 9am to 7pm (that’s 4 minutes per man).

‘When Lily came to me with this idea, initially I thought she was joking or meant it as a publicity stunt,’ Claudie-Louise tells Metro. ‘But when I realised she genuinely wanted to do it, we had a lot of serious conversations and I came to the conclusion that Lily would do this with or without my help.

‘I just want her safe, happy, and progressing in life the way she wishes. So I did the best I could to make this happen for her, and I really don’t think we could have done this in a more comfortable and safer way for Lily and the men who made this possible.’

Lily says she prioritised groups of men because ‘a big group of lads would get the numbers up a lot quicker than doing one-to-one sessions’.

The venue was an Airbnb with security on the door checking IDs to keep Lily safe, as well as four staff members who were Lily’s social media and content assistants and her admin assistant, who had men sign all the necessary consent forms in order for OnlyFans to allow the content to be uploaded.

Metro made Airbnb aware of this activity. A spokesperson told us the filming of commercial pornography is explicitly prohibited and said there is no evidence the videos were filmed in an Airbnb without seeing booking confirmation.

On the day, men who did have one-on-one time with Lily only had a five-minute slot, which was later reduced to two minutes when she began to run out of time.

‘I just stuck to the bedroom the whole day – I think I left once or twice for a shower,’ she says. ‘I just waited for the next guy and then would say to the security guard “send one in”.

‘It became a conveyor belt of c**ks at that point, in out, in out. We ran over by about four hours, but we got there in the end. I wasn’t going to go through all that and not make it to 100.’

The youngest person Lily slept with was an 18-year-old boy and the oldest was a man in his sixties. Alarmingly, an STD test wasn’t a requirement for men to partake, and the videos make it clear that Lily did not use condoms with every participant.

One man specifically requested to be her 100th partner. Lily says he performed oral sex on her, then gave her an oily massage, although it’s not clear how given he likely only had a two-minute slot.

‘I think he was into the fact that I’d been sleeping around with 99 other guys – he kept asking me questions about it,’ she says.

Another man showed up to take the total to 101, before Lily relaxed with a nice shower and a Nandos after a strenuous day – although she insists she wasn’t too worse for wear.

‘I wasn’t actually in pain down there at all. I think because a lot of the guys were quite excited, they finished a lot earlier than we anticipated,’ she adds.

The backlash…

But comments under TikTok videos of Lily’s experience tell a different story. The responses are full of hate and judgment, as well as concern for her wellbeing.

‘You were made for so much more than this,’ wrote @faithholden_, while @cooooks said: ‘This is actually really sad and I hope you are okay.’

Many said they hoped that young women who saw Lily’s videos didn’t think it was ‘normal behaviour’ to sleep with that many men. Some suggested that no one would ever want to marry her, while others said her parents should be ashamed.

But the 23-year-old disagrees. ‘People just need to be a little bit more open minded to the fact that not everyone thinks like them,’ she says. ‘Obviously, there are a lot of people that don’t know about kink groups and sex parties – there’s huge communities that really enjoy stuff like this.

‘It shouldn’t be a shameful thing. It’s quite sad how much backlash and hate I’ve got on this, because we’re just going back in time to where we used to slut shame girls, which is so silly, when this feels enjoyable.’

While Lily explains she would never encourage any girls to sleep with so many men, she wants young women to know that ‘you can sleep around and it’s not disgusting and dirty’.

Lily says her mother supports her career choice as long as she is ‘safe’. She claims her mother even helps her manage her finances, but declined Metro’s request to speak to her directly.

Her father does appear to be equally supportive. In a recent TikTok where he appears off camera, he can be heard telling his daughter: ‘I’m more than happy, if you’re happy, and I know you are happy. Both me and your mum are really, really proud of you.’

With her parents’ backing, Lily is now aiming to have sex with 1,000 men in 24 hours – although it’s not clear how that is physically possible, given you would need to sleep with roughly 42 men every hour of the day.

Does this help or hinder women?

The ripple effect of these viral sex challenges have been felt far and wide online. Critics and women’s rights commentators say they perpetuate the outdated misconception that women’s bodies exist exclusively for male pleasure.

It also begs the question of just how damaging this type of porn is when accessed by younger people. However sex therapist and qualified youth sex educator, Ness Cooper, says branding Lily’s activity as ‘extreme porn’ isn’t necessarily helpful.

‘Porn is stigmatised due to it going against social norms, but this doesn’t always mean that the sex portrayed in porn is something people don’t desire or actively engage in outside of porn,’ Ness tells Metro.

‘Porn has been used as an accessible way of social learning around sex and eroticism when other formats of sex education have been censored.

‘We need to stop censoring sex education material from other resources, such as healthy sex education support in schools and colleges, as this will give youth more knowledge and autonomy to safely workout their sex and erotic lives and allow them to judge what is healthy and what isn’t for them.’

Dr Tara, an intimacy and relationships expert, tells Metro that this sexual agency in porn shouldn’t necessarily fuel misogynistic views of women.

‘To each their own. Saying f**k it and having a lot of sex is very anti-patriarchy,’ she says.

But Dr Tara warns there could be serious health implications, both physical and emotional. She says: ‘Sexual health factors such as tearing in the vagina and sexually transmitted infections could be an issue. There’s also the fact of trauma to the body.’

Youth sex educator Ness points out that the idea emotional intimacy is at play in all sexual interactions isn’t true – just like Lily’s interactions.

‘There are a lot of consensual and safe sexual interactions which do not involve emotional intimacy and are still healthy for those involved,’ she says. ‘But porn needs to make covering safe sex, discussions on boundaries and consent the norm.’

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