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Ask Ugly

Ask Ugly is the Guardian’s beauty advice column, written by Jessica DeFino

  • An illustration of a girl reading a book titled 'Being That Girl'

    I want to ignore beauty culture. But I’ll never get anywhere if I don’t look a certain way

    Beauty improves only some qualities of life and demands high investment of time, money and energy, writes advice columnist Jessica DeFino
  • An illustration showing mirror images of a woman, one her normal self, the other with her face covered with a mask and pills flying out of a bottle held in the palm of the hand

    Ask Ugly: I was prescribed medicine for a zit. Should I take it?

    Acne medication can be effective. But watch out for ‘beauty culture masquerading as health’, writes Jessica DeFino
  • An illustration of a woman slightly frowning. Her hair appears to be turning white and there are bolts of lightning over it

    Ask Ugly: all of the ‘iffy’ comments about my gray hair bother me. Should I start dyeing it again?

    In her monthly column about beauty culture, our columnist talks about our desire for ‘outside approval’ and letting silver take over
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    Ask Ugly: I hate my big, ugly feet. How can I come to terms with them?

    Throughout history, women have been taught to want beautiful feet. It’s more about femininity than prettiness
  • Illustration of a woman holding a scalpel to her face

    Ask Ugly: my mother is pressuring me to get plastic surgery. How do I deal with imperfection?

    Surgery isn’t a guarantee. Many who’ve gone under the knife to eliminate an ‘imperfection’ can attest to this
  • A graphic illustration in sepia tones of a light-skinned woman with long, dark hair, kneeling in a sexually suggestive manner wearing a bathing suit.

    Ask Ugly: the state of the bush – how should I be styling my pubic hair?

    I polled thousands of women about their pubic hair. This is what they told me
  • ‘Take a fraction of what you’d spend on Le Labo Rose 31 and buy yourself a bouquet; meditate on your own impermanence as it wilts.’

    Ask Ugly: signature scents are deeply appealing – but how else can I express ‘the self’?

    In her monthly column about beauty culture, our columnist takes on the power of perfume and how we should leave an impression beyond store-bought smell
  • Graphic illustration in shades of ochre, light pink and light blue, of a fit woman (cropped below the neck) in halter top and yoga leggings sitting cross-legged on a yoga mat, surrounded by makeup bottles and holding one in each hand on her knees, each of which emanates colored steam.

    Ask Ugly: Is a makeup routine really mindfulness?

    In her monthly column about beauty culture, our columnist takes on the blurring of the line between the beauty and wellness industries
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    Ask Ugly: I’m addicted to lip balm – but it doesn’t work. What’s a better alternative?

    In her monthly column about beauty culture, our columnist lists the ways to care for your kisser that don’t involve a plastic tube of petrochemical goo
  • ASK UGLY BABIES

    Ask Ugly: I’m getting ads for beauty products for my baby. Infants don’t need skincare – do they?

    In her third monthly column about beauty culture, our columnist says the best thing a parent can do for their baby’s developing skin is leave it alone
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    Ask Ugly: now that I’m a mother, I’m mourning my old, ‘pretty’ self. Is this normal?

    In her second monthly column about beauty culture, our columnist talks about the pressure to ‘feel like yourself again’ after having a baby
  • For what it’s worth, anti-ageing beauty behaviors don’t seem to truly help ageing women.

    Should you be getting Botox? Welcome to Ask Ugly, our new beauty column!

    In the inaugural edition, our expert answers if one should be ‘proactive about anti-ageing’