RITHVIK SINGH

I Don’t Love You Anymore

Moving On And Living Your Best Life

PENGUIN BOOKS
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 EBURY PRESS
I DON’T LOVE YOU ANYMORE

Rithvik Singh is one of India’s most beloved poets. With a degree in

English literature from Hansraj College, University of Delhi, and an
unceasing love of writing, he writes to give hope to those looking for it.
With over 5,00,000 followers on Instagram (@wordsofrithvik), his words
never fail to feel like home to his readers. He lives with his family in
Udaipur, but his heart and soul are married to Delhi.

If you enjoy reading this book, please write to Rithvik at @wordsofrithvik

on Instagram. He’d love to hear from you!
ALSO BY THE SAME AUTHOR

Warmth
 For my mother,

My heart is a flower at your feet.

Thank you for being the only person who always loves me, even at my
worst.
This book will make you feel too many things, all at once.

Just like life does sometimes.

Dear Reader, I love you. And I hope you love yourself enough to leave
anyone who breaks your heart. Your heart was meant to be worshipped, not
turned into a war zone.

I hope this book feels like a warm hug to you. I wrote this book for the ones
who feel everything too deeply. You’re right. I wrote this book for you.
If you ever knew someone who loved you enough to be terrified of losing
you, I hope you know how rare it is to find someone like that. Someone
who would leave flowers on your dining table, kisses on your forehead and
the scent of love in your heart. Someone who would gently hold the pieces
of your heart on days when life gets too hard. If you ever knew someone
who loved you the way the sky loves its stars, I hope you didn’t end up
breaking their heart. And if you did, I hope life breaks your heart too.
There are forests of feelings inside you. May you find someone who knows
how to water your soul. Someone who not only notices your absence but
also hates it. Someone who never lets you question if there’s something
fundamentally wrong with you—if you deserve to be loved. Someone who
loves you as if that’s what they were made for—loving you with all their
heart. Someone who makes you fall in love with the days you didn’t even
think you’d be alive to see. Someone who never lets you give up on yourself
by giving you all the love you deserve.
There’s a dying patient who has fallen in love with life. An orphan who
thinks his parents are still alive. A soldier’s wife waiting for a letter from
her husband who died. A wilted flower waiting for spring to arrive. We’re
all so different yet so alike—wanting things we cannot get and praying to a
God who refuses to listen.
Your heart is a crime scene. There are old letters stacked on the shelves. The
place reeks of memories. There’s blood in every corner, but there’s also
love. So much love.
More often than not, the person you wouldn’t mind burning cities for is the
same person who wouldn’t mind leaving you in the fire. You wouldn’t mind
taking your life for someone who wouldn’t stop taking you for granted.
My heart is a monastery in the land of atheists. Prayers don’t make sense to
them, but all my prayers aren’t for them anyway. They’ve always been for
you, only you.
It takes years to let go, they say, but how many years?

How many years before I finally make coffee in the morning and don’t add
extra sugar to it because you liked it that way? When will I go to the mall
and not spend an hour at the bookstore because you loved books more than
you loved me? When will I stop taking pictures of the sky as it changes
colour and saving them to a folder I wish I could send you? When will I
start loving roses more than sunflowers? When will I stop letting my life be
yours, knowing you’re not mine anymore? It’s not the same for everyone,
you see. It took you a few seconds to let go, but it’s taking me a lifetime.
The flowers you gave me are kept between the pages of books I’ve loved all
my life. I pretend not to love you anymore but catch myself opening those
books every once in a while.
They treat you like a room they visit on random days.
You don’t have to lose yourself for someone
whose love comes in waves.
Some people are like songs stuck in your head. You miss them like you hum
that song—unknowingly but constantly. You don’t remember the lyrics, and
you don’t know them well either. All you know is that you cannot get them
out of your head.
Without me,
you’ll never run out
of mouths to kiss,
but you’ll always
run out of love.
Always.
Honeybees would
be jealous,
you’ve got a voice
so sweet.

There are flowers

in our irises
that bloom
every time
we meet.
May your grief leave you with empathy—enough to make kindness your
home, come what may.
You’re not the kind of flower
that can be plucked
and put in someone’s hair.

You’re the kind of flower

people find too pretty to pluck.

The kind of flower that deserves

to keep blooming.
We’re in a pastry shop, and your voice is the sweetest thing here. There are
mulberry trees outside, but I cannot shift focus from your eyes. Love is
overflowing inside you; I see it shining through your eyes.
Sometimes, loving someone feels like an autumn that refuses to leave.
That’s when you know it’s time to let go.
You’re a letter of hope in a concentration camp. A solitary flower in a
barren land. There are poems stitched into your soul. Flowers blush when
you touch them, I’ve been told. You’re everything magic in a world too
ordinary. The kind of person people write novels about.
I will always be a stranger to what goes on in your heart.
I’ll always keep wondering if there’s room for me in it.
It’s no less than magic, you see,
what your presence does to me.
Things are hard with people who don’t love you hard. People whose love
isn’t the ocean but its waves. The ones who always leave you confused.
They don’t tell you that they love you, but they also don’t accept that they
don’t. They hold your hand but refuse to hold your heart. They lend you
space in their heart, but they don’t let you stay in it.
There are people who will come back to you only after the world has
pushed them away, and there’ll be someone waiting with flowers at your
doorstep despite hundreds of voices around them begging them to stay.
Choose wisely.
You’re at the airport, hugging them goodbye. You knew it would hurt, but it
hurt a lot less when you had imagined it. Each step is taking them away
from you. You’ve left your fragrance in the scarf they’re wearing. In their
hands, which you wouldn’t be holding for a long, long time. Behind their
ear, where you blew them kisses. In that blue shirt they wore way too often
because you loved it. There’s so much of you they’re taking away with
them, but you cannot go with them. You want them to stay, but you feel like
a bird with feet wrapped in wires. There’s more sadness in you than the
morning paper. You love them too much to not let them grow.
May your healing turn you into a river after rain.
I run out of words when you’re around—it’s true.
I write for a living, but I live for you.
I remember everything about you, but nothing that I loved you for. I
remember you laughing after seeing me in pain, hanging up calls and
smashing the door in my face. Throwing hot tea at me and watching me sit
in a corner, drenched in anxiety. I remember you sleeping in my arms and
talking about someone else. Taking me to the movies and using a dating app
while holding my hand. Trust me, I have a hard time letting go of people,
even after they show me they don’t want me anymore, but my heart
remembers everything you did to me. All because I loved you. All because I
believed, for once, that someone wouldn’t choose to break my heart. But
it’s been long since I’ve been sad, months since I’ve cried on the bathroom
floor. Trust me, I’m glad I don’t love you anymore.
There’s a little sadness in your heart when you hang up the phone after
talking to them for hours. You hug them for a few more minutes at the
metro station before saying goodbye. You spend ten days with them but
cannot stop wishing for an eleventh. You’re in love with them—the way
they move their eyebrows mid-conversations, the way their crooked teeth
make the most beautiful smile, the way they laugh for hours about the
silliest jokes, and the way their eyes widen and shine when they see your
face. Never let them go, okay?
There are poems I’ve written
about being in love,
and poems I’ve written
about being in pain,
it’s strange how
they all read
exactly the same.
Love for you has always been a person,
it’s tragic how
that person has never been you.
I’ll watch nine episodes of a show in one day, but keep postponing the last
one. When things change. When fate changes. I avoid watching it. I try not
to make it to the end. I bury my curiosity and start another show. I go out
and meet a friend. I do everything I can to not let the show end. But I know
I’ve got to face the ending, no matter how much it terrifies me, or how far I
try to run away from it. I know the show has already ended. I know the
ending won’t change. This is not about the shows.
I’m not the kind of person who wishes good for people who’ve wronged
me.

My mother spoke to you with flowers in her mouth, but your words were
thorns that pierced her heart. You don’t deserve to be happy.

I held you on days when even the sun refused to bring you light, but you
abused my kindness and left me alone that night. I hate what you did to my
heart.

When I needed you the most, you left me alone with my fears and ghosts.
I’m sorry, but I’m not angelic enough to mind seeing you in pain. This is
what you deserve. This is all you’ve gained.
Love

It’s in having tea at midnight with someone who is used to having it at

night, only to give them company.

In forgetting the distance between cities and crossing it with a smile on your
face—only to put a smile on the face of the person you love.

Seeing a flower shop and immediately getting a few for someone.

Sitting on video calls at night and not talking to each other because you’re
both tired, but never being too tired to not make some time for each other.

Holding hands in busy streets and holding them tight at the end of a busy
week.

It’s in refusing to let distance change your feelings. In ensuring that love
never leaves.
You’re at a hill station, and there’s too much fog to see the sun, but that
doesn’t make the place any less beautiful. Just because your path is unclear
doesn’t mean light doesn’t exist. It doesn’t mean the journey isn’t beautiful
or worth it.
Your heart becomes the heaviest thing to carry when it’s overflowing with
love for someone who always leaves you feeling unworthy of love.
Your eyes tell me what he’s doing to your heart,
there were sunflowers in them the last time I saw you,
and now, they’re all wilting apart.
Someone who has been loved by grief all his life will, of course, fall in love
with the person who makes him smile— because you can grow roses in the
backyards of mansions full of empty people with ease, but it’s special when
the flood breaks the last flower in a garden and someone picks it up, puts it
in a vase filled with water, and looks at it with affection. The flower doesn’t
survive, but at least it feels loved again.
You ask me if I’ve ever been loved before, and I tell you I’ve loved and I’ve
been left—nobody has ever stayed long enough to ask me this question.
I detest your presence. I’m too scared of what your absence might do to me.
I’ll always be the first one to open my arms for you,
and the last one you’ll choose to hug.
I’ve been clumsier than ever
since the day we met.
I’m carefree now—
knowing I’ve found someone
who is careful with my heart.
And when you’re tired,
don’t think twice before falling into my arms.
I’m tired too,
but I’ll never run out of love for you.
You would forget to add hearts to good morning messages. Disappear for
hours without a reason. Suddenly be mad at me, mid-conversation. Go to
sleep knowing I’m anxious. I’d sit the next day in the car with you, quietly.
You wouldn’t ask me what happened, and I would be too scared to tell. I
had told you I overthink a lot, and you ensured I never stopped.
Your soul will turn into a shooting star;
every inch of your being will shine for them.
I’ve been watering a rose plant for months now, and today, I finally saw a
rose in it. But for you, I’d pluck my favourite flower, break all its petals and
arrange them to write your name. For you, I don’t mind breaking things—
be it a flower, be it my heart.
My past selves
are buried inside me.
They cry to resurrect
when I try to give
love another chance.
You’re so used to apologizing to people and begging them to stay that when
someone apologizes to you for hurting your feelings, you’ve no idea what
to say. Tragic how your feelings have never mattered to anyone before and
how people have always found it easier to walk away.
Your absence has created
cemeteries in my soul,
there’s so much of me
that doesn’t exist anymore.
Our love is a sinking ship in the middle of the ocean.
If we must stop loving each other, life must stop loving us too.
There’s a perfume bottle in my room. Mom says it smells like autumn, but I
know it smells like you. There are nights when I wish you could move your
fingers through my hair and tell me about your day. I’d wake up smelling
just like you. But I know all your days are bright without me. I know you
don’t hold onto me in fragrances, among other things, the way I do.
Your colours cover all the corners of my heart. There are shades of you in
the way I talk. There’s so much of you in the morning sky. How do you
expect me to forget you when you are synonymous with beauty for me?
When everything beautiful is everything you are. When everything
gorgeous will always remain a little less gorgeous than you. The truth is,
you’re everywhere around me and within me—even though you’re not in
love with me anymore.
Your absence did so much to me, but it couldn’t undo how I feel about you.
I want to send you the poems that rip my heart apart and write you poems
for when your heart gets too heavy. Turn your soul into a sunflower field
and ensure you never run out of light. Love you on the days when life stops
making sense and also on the days when it does. Hold you closer than the
moon holds its shine, the ocean holds its depths and temples hold statues of
the divine.
There are people who love you, but not in the way you love them. Their
love is platonic. And when you fall in love with such people, they push you
away instead of asking you to stay. Not because they don’t care, but
because they care too much. Because they know how much your heart
would break if you didn’t walk away. Because they know your feelings
aren’t butterflies that’ll die in a few weeks. Thank them for teaching you
how to save someone by not being there to save them. By letting go of
them, even if it breaks their heart—to save them from further damage while
always wishing them well, but from a distance. Trust me, staying in touch
with someone you’ve unrequited feelings for is the worst thing you can do
to your heart.
Nothing breaks hearts quite like the silence of loved ones—a quiet
declaration that they’re tired of trying to love you for who you are.
And when they refuse to choose you, choose distance. Because staying
won’t make a difference. I know those feelings are precious, but, my love,
so is your heart. So is your heart.
Loving someone shouldn’t feel like a tug of war where you’re always
fighting for their attention. It shouldn’t feel like a race you’ve to win, at the
end of which lies the trophy of affection. It shouldn’t feel like a sale at a
store where there are too many people wanting the same person you want. It
shouldn’t have to feel like a fight or war. You shouldn’t have to constantly
struggle to make space for yourself in their heart. If there are too many
people they’d rather be with than you, they don’t deserve to be with you.
Love is not a trophy you’ve to fight for but a gift someone wants to give you
every day without you having to ask them for it.
You have the spirit of a bird. Falling doesn’t stop you from flying. And
that’s what I love the most about you—you always keep trying.
You can never teach your heart to be okay with saying goodbye. Losing
them will make you cry—sometimes for weeks at a stretch. It will make
you lose a little faith in love and people. But losing them shouldn’t make
you give up on the magic of healing. Of letting hope re-enter your heart. Of
wanting to be okay again. Of learning to live without them and smiling just
the way you used to, with them and before them. They’ll always matter to
you, but you need to choose yourself for yourself, and for the people you
still matter to.
When someone is breaking someone’s heart, do they forget that the other
person loves them? Do they not think about what they’re doing to the
person’s heart? Does sleep not elude them, knowing someone isn’t okay
because of them? Are they too used to breaking people to care about how
they’re going to deal with it? Do they not have a heart?
You’re staying with them because you’re scared of being heartbroken, but
tell me, aren’t they already breaking your heart every day?
Writers think they’re too powerful until they realize they can write poems
all they want, but that person still won’t feel the same way about them.
Expressing your feelings is a superpower, you see, but sometimes your
feelings can leave you feeling powerless too.
Your life is a book of poems written in advance. You don’t get to edit, only
live. And some poems are like that—they tear your heart apart—but there
are enough poems in the book to ensure you’re okay at the end.
I found so much of me
after you left,
the shrinking of me
was the cost of staying with you.

Trust me,
I’ve been feeling my feelings so freely
since the day I stopped having
feelings for you.
My mother’s smile is so beautiful, my father must hate that about her for he
never let her smile for too long.
She buried her dreams
to make space for us to belong I wonder how much pain lives within her I
wonder how she manages to stay this strong.
My heart is made of art. The poems may not make sense to you, but they’ll
always make you feel something. Always.
If you ever miss me, know that I’ve loved you in sentences and silences,
prose and poetry, thunderstorms and the peace that eventually comes. I’ve
loved you more than I’ve loved the ones who’ve loved nobody more than
me. I’ve loved you on days when my heart was blooming and also on days
when it was breaking. I’ve loved you with the kind of sincerity that can
make anyone wonder what they have done to deserve a love like that. It was
you who couldn’t value it, any of it. And now, I can’t value you anymore.
There was a time when you were the rain to my flowers. You learned the
language of my soul, but today, we don’t care about each other anymore.
Today, you’re like rain to my desert. We seldom meet. The flowers in my
chest don’t bloom anymore.
Your sadness stopped the sunshine from entering your heart, so I walked in
instead.

—I hope you let me stay.

Some people enter your life
to teach you that
not everyone who
extends a helping hand
has their heart in the right place.
I went to a store, and a signboard there said,
‘If you break something, consider it yours.’

Things have a way of belonging to you, even after you break them. The way
I still belong to you, despite everything.
Love is in paying attention to the things that add sparkle to their eyes and
turn their cheeks flamingo pink. Love is in ensuring you do those things
more often.
Just because the darkness has stayed a little longer than you thought doesn’t
mean it’s in love with you. You were made by the sun to add light to the
world, not to surrender to the darkness and call it your home.
You sleep with a book by your side and not a laptop. You water flowers
instead of plucking them. You write poems in your journal instead of
forwarding memes. You leave notes on the dining table instead of texting
me good morning. You hold me close instead of checking your phone. You
never finish a show alone. You still wonder why I am in love with you, when
I know the stars would divorce the sky to marry you.
You deserve to be loved the way the sun loves the earth— someone who
shows up every day and brightens your day without you having to ask for it.

Someone who makes you believe that despite the storms and despite the
rain
they’ll always come back to you, they’ll always stay.
You’ve spent so much time hiding your heart and running away from
yourself that whenever someone holds you gently, you cry.
You said you loved me,
but you did nothing
to make me stay.

I told you what

others did to my heart,
and you left me feeling
exactly the same way.
It’s tragic, isn’t it? When someone new enters your life, you don’t
appreciate how much they love you, as much as you wonder if someday,
just like everyone else, they’ll stop loving you too.
It hurts me to think that it didn’t hurt you when I left. That it, in fact, made
you feel better. That my presence in people’s lives is a weight on their
shoulders, and no amount of love from my end can ever change that.
I’m not the person you left behind, the one whose heart carried nothing but
love for you, where there was no space for anyone new.

Because what they say is true, you can love someone with your whole heart
and still leave them behind, once you finally realize, ever since you gave
them your heart,
you’ve not been all right.
My heart was the snow you buried your footprints in.
You’re always with me even when you aren’t.
My favourite colour will always be
that of the sky before storms,
that of my life before you.
Letting go is hard when there’s so much love inside you, dying to belong to
them.
The way a tear drops from both our eyes when it’s time to say goodbye
shows how the only thing keeping us away from pain is each other.
When the world doesn’t want to love you, I hope you don’t stand with the
world.

There are jasmine flowers in your garden that bloom even on days when
you’re not around. Even when there’s nobody present to appreciate them.
Your mother wears her favourite sarees, even though your father never tells
her she looks pretty.

The world can refuse to love you, but may you never stop being the first
person who makes you smile.
I’m glad I didn’t end up with you,
I can’t imagine my life without this person,
who has made all my dreams come true.
When you enter a small café and everything there smells like history. A past
too deeply stitched to be separated from its existence. There are tiny
postcards kept on tables and old clocks hanging on the walls. I wonder how
many lovers have entered this place before, holding hands, madly in love
with each other. You see, some places are like that—you can’t help but
write poems about them—they just refuse to leave your heart.
When we’re together,
things can be out of place,
but our hearts are always home.
Loving me is like loving heartbreaks because that’s what I’m made of. I
carry my heart on my sleeves, and my soul dies to run in your direction, but
I’m too scared of what loving you might do to me. You see, my heart
protests against love, but also dies for it.
With you, I was drowning
and catching for breath
as you laughed at me—
always closer to death than life.

Without you, I’m the entire ocean,

brimming with endless life.
I’ve bettered the art of leaving people, but I’m yet to learn how to take my
heart with me.
You serve your heart to them on a platter once again, hoping they’ve
changed, but the only thing that changes is the way they choose to crush
your heart. The method changes, but the pain remains.
‘It’s going to rain tomorrow,’ my mom says, and it definitely rains the next
day. Ma is good at predicting who is going to break my heart too. But I am
always too in love to listen.
Loving the wrong person
can feel like a storm to some,
and when they cannot escape it,
sometimes, they end up
spending their entire lives
hopelessly waiting for the sun.
Let your love for yourself be the tapestry that decorates your heart.
You know you don’t want them in your life, but you still can’t help but
reach out to them. You send them that text, you call them on random days
and you miss them anyway. You know, even if they came and put all the
love in the world at your feet, you still wouldn’t want to be with them.
They’ve hurt you enough to make you stop wanting them, but you just need
enough distance to make you stop loving them too.
My life with you was a half-sunlit room. Your love always brought me
darkness in an equal measure as light. And the pain never fully left, so I did.
In love, we must turn into flowers.
Withering isn’t a part of love,
only blooming is.
I would sew a whole new sky if this one refused to let us fly together. I’d do
anything to be with you.
I’d sit down one day and not use a semicolon to talk about us. I’d use a full
stop. I’d accept that there’s nothing more left to our story.
Let me be the petals that adorn your soul,
and don’t ask me to leave,
the world finds us beautiful together
and I’m terrified of being alone.
I’m not ready, but it’s time,
to leave you where you are,
and love myself as I am.

I’ve lost countless summers

trying to be the sun
to your soul,
but you’ve made me feel
too terribly lonely
to ever regret leaving you alone.
The happiest moments of my life were with you sleeping in my arms—eyes
closed and hands wrapped around my waist. This is what my arms were
made for, you see, holding you close to me and never letting you go.
When you enter a bookstore and unexpectedly find that one book you’ve
been looking for forever—that smile that covers your face on seeing it—if
the same smile doesn’t cover their face whenever they look into your eyes,
it’s not worth it.
It’s not easy to say goodbye to someone who has stayed with you while you
said your hardest goodbyes. When love breaks your heart, you go to your
best friend, but when your best friend breaks your heart, you’re left with
nowhere to go.
Seeing you with someone else still suffocates my heart. I want you to feel
loved, but I don’t have the courage to see your hands holding someone
else’s when my fingers are dying to intertwine with yours. If I were a
flower, you could see my petals fall apart one at a time, seeing you look into
his eyes. You cannot see my heart break, but that doesn’t mean I’m all right.
It’s like you’ve swallowed mountains of pain and they’re now a part of you.
Why do your eyes have so much pain in them? Tell me, what do I do to take
it all away?
I’ve grown because of people I’ve grown apart from.

I still love with my whole heart, but I no longer let loving someone leave
me feeling lifeless.

At the end of the day, the stars in the sky

and the stars in my soul will continue to shine, with or without someone.
If you’d let me, I’d love you more than all the fictional characters you’re so
deeply in love with. Pluck all the flowers in the world and turn them into an
endless carpet for you to walk on. Cage stars into boxes, gift-wrap them and
send them to you. Love you in oceans and always fathom your depths. If
you’d lend me a little space in your heart, trust me, I’d make space for us in
every literature textbook. There are poets dying to write about a love like
ours; let’s make their wishes come true?
I’m incredibly good at goodbyes, I told you.
To convince myself that it won’t hurt when you leave.
To convince you that I’m not too madly in love with you to let you go.
The person you’re running towards has run out of love for you. You can run
all you want, but that version of them doesn’t exist anymore. And I know it
hurts, but it’s time for you to stop loving them too.
To find someone who isn’t afraid of your storms.
To find someone who was always meant to be your sun.
Moving on isn’t about learning to love someone else. It’s about going about
your day without thinking if that person is thinking about you.
When feelings are flooding inside you,
remember that floods consume and break things.
Don’t let your heart be one of them.
You’re not the light that guides people back home. You deserve to be the
person who is someone’s home. Not a glimmer of hope to take them out of
the dark, but a permanent place brimming with warmth for both of you to
stay.
Spending even a day without you terrifies me. As if my life is a game of
Jenga and you are the only wooden block keeping it from falling apart. I’m
learning to accept that falling is a part of my journey, but you’re definitely
not my destination. And I’ll let go of you, even if that means having to start
from scratch all over again.
Someone can have the biggest heart but still refuse to make even a little
space for you in it. They can be capable of loving someone enough to turn
them into a Pablo Neruda poem, but not feel anything for you at all. You
can love them enough to decorate your heart with everything they love,
paint every inch of your soul with their favourite colours, but that won’t
change how they feel about you. Sometimes, people don’t want your love
even when you believe there’s nobody capable of loving them as intensely
as you do. The truth is, there are some feelings you’ll always feel alone, and
one day, you’ll stop trying to make them feel the same way as you do and
give your love to someone else—someone who knows how to value your
heart.
Remember that one break-up text you didn’t send for the longest time
because you cared about that person more than yourself?

They were taking you for granted, but you didn’t want to break their heart.
You kept saving them, at your expense, until one day you decided to hit
‘send’ and let it go—only for them to say that it was you who never cared
about them.
The people you love are often the ones who end up making you feel horrible
about yourself.

You were in fifth grade when that relative told you your skin tone isn’t
ideal; you’re not smart like your sister and don’t have much to offer. You
were in seventh grade, and by that time, the message had been repeated so
many times that you started believing it. That friend who ‘jokingly’ told you
that you cannot get dates and kept talking about how she, on the contrary,
could get anybody she wants. You were at a wedding, and your father told
you how that outfit looked funny on you.

Nobody talks about how difficult it is to love yourself when the people
around you constantly make you feel unworthy. You may be the kindest
person in the world, but that won’t ensure the world is kind to you too. Self-
love doesn’t come easily to most people, and in most cases, the person has
nothing to do with it—it’s the people around them who are responsible for
the same.
Funny how we love to hate the people who failed to love us back.
What good is this heart if it cannot be with the person it beats for?
You lose friends and you don’t even notice it until you see an old
photograph of you and them, and realize that they’re not in your life
anymore. That friend who sat next to you every day in middle school. That
friend whose landline number you still remember. Friends with whom you
played during the games periods in school. Friends you shared your lunch
with. The ones you invited to your birthday parties when you were little. It’s
strange how we just lose people over time—even the ones who were once
closest to us.
Unrequited love is painful, but sometimes, you make the pain grow deeper
by not accepting that there are thousands of stars in the universe, but some
stars just aren’t yours to wish upon.
Healing isn’t about love as much as learning to deal with the absence of it.
There’s so much learning that takes place because of leaving.
But there’s so much loving one has to do before finally learning to leave.
Waking up without you kills the sun in my soul.
Only darkness is here to embrace me in your absence,
please come back home?
Sometimes, reminders of lost love would pelt you like a sudden downpour,
and it would become tough to hold yourself together. In such times, you’ll
learn how even the most beautiful memories can grip you by the throat and
strangle you. But you can still hold onto hope and go on to live because
you’re stronger than you think.

—note to self
I’ve gotten better at saying goodbye ever since you left. Funny how
someone who didn’t have feelings for you can make you stop feeling too
deeply for anyone ever again. Funny how someone you didn’t want to let go
of taught you how to be okay with watching people leave.
You’re so used to their presence that, despite knowing it’s been months since
they told you they don’t love you anymore, you wake up in the middle of the
night hoping to find them sleeping next to you.

You miss their arm around your waist. It’s been a while since they’ve pulled
you closer to themselves, but you’ve never allowed your heart to be pulled
away from them. You’re not used to dreams anymore because sleeping
without them is a nightmare nobody prepared you for. You want them to
reach out to you, but you know they’ve moved on. You want them to see the
love dying to slip through your fingertips and fall into their heart. You want
them to know that every night hurts a little more than the previous one, and
you don’t know how many more nights you can afford to spend without
them before it hurts too much to survive. What nobody tells you is that
when you’ve to let go of someone you still have so much love for, it kills
you from the inside.
I may never find the kind of love you offered to me, but I hope I find the
kind of love I’ve always dreamt of having—the kind of love that was too
much for you to give me. The kind of love that’s greater than a bird’s love
for her wings. The kind of love that transcends everything you were too
scared of. The kind of love that doesn’t leave you yearning for more but
ensures you’ve got a wide smile on your face every day. You told me that
you loved me, but you couldn’t ever love me the way I deserve to be loved.
My heart can’t belong to you if you choose to make it feel heavy on some
days and lighter on others. My heart can’t bloom in places where storms
seldom stop and the sun shines only when it’s convenient. I’ve got a heart
that has loved gentleness for too long to settle for a love that makes me feel
heavy.
I’m afraid there was never a space
in your heart reserved for me.
There was just space,
and you’d be okay
with anybody else
staying there too.
Whenever I’ve fallen in love, it’s been one-sided. I’ve dated people. I’ve
lived with them. I’ve spent Valentine’s Day with them and taken trips with
them. But whenever I’ve fallen in love with them, it’s been one-sided. I’ve
got the habit of always feeling more than the other person. I author my own
pain by always giving out more than I ever receive.
What terrifies me is the possibility of feeling so deeply for someone once
again that I’m physically incapable of not talking to them or reaching out to
them despite knowing things are over. I don’t want to feel the kind of love
that ends with me trying to cope with a seemingly endless autumn that I’ve
almost died coping with before.
I hate how now whenever someone tells me that they love me, I tell them
that they don’t. I’ve started considering the words ‘I love you’ as something
people say to each other way too often without being certain if they’re
going to stay with each other.
When there’s too much sadness inside you, you try to go back to the source
of your sadness because they were once your happiest place. Please don’t
go back to them. Reaching out to them will only water your sadness; it
won’t make it wither away. Sometimes the person who used to be your
happy place doesn’t want you to be happy anymore, and you can’t do
anything about it other than slowly learn how to be happy alone.
You’ve kept hundreds of books, movie cassettes, old perfume bottles, and
thousands of photographs. There’s room for so many things, but no space
for me. You’re capable of so much love, but you still choose not to love me.
I’d cry in front of you, and you’d hug me so I’d stop.
If you cared about me enough to hug me,
why didn’t you care enough to stop hurting me?
When someone asks me what I am most afraid of, it’s not the things that
have never happened, but the ones that I’m scared will happen again. Like
my father not being nice to us. My relatives telling me all those things I
wouldn’t say to someone, even if they broke my heart. Being loved and left
again. Crying silently—head buried in my pillow, so nobody would figure
out I’m in pain. I’m not scared of the unfamiliar, but of the things that have
happened too many times to me to ever get over them.
The intimacy of lying in bed together and doing nothing. There’s music
playing on the laptop, but you couldn’t care less. Your head rests in their
arms as if it’s the only place it was meant to be. You realize you’ve not felt
this safe since you were little. You realize this is all you’ve ever wanted—
the comfort of being held by someone who you know won’t hurt you.
I love the questions that begin with, ‘Remember when’.

Remember when we were too drunk to even walk straight? Remember when
I called you at 3 a.m. to ask about how you make your special noodles?
Remember when we stayed up all night trying to find a movie but ended up
rewatching episodes from our favourite sitcoms all over again?

Such questions are proof that someone remembers us. That the memories
we create with some people mean just as much to them as they mean to us.
That they also cherish the bond we share.
I think your first heartbreak happens when, as a kid, you watch people
around you be mean to your mother. That’s your first meeting with
helplessness and pain—watching the person closest to you be hurt
repeatedly and not being able to do anything about it.
Sometimes, you need to remind yourself that your heart doesn’t deserve to
ache this much. You need to remind yourself that pain isn’t the currency for
ensuring someone continues to love you.
I want the kind of comfort where we can say anything that comes to mind
without thinking twice. Let’s make mistakes, mess up recipes, say the
wrong things at the wrong place and speak our hearts out during arguments.
Let’s fall in love with everything that we’re used to hiding from the world. I
want to be myself around you, knowing I’ll be loved the same regardless.
Knowing that you wouldn’t want me to hide my heart. Knowing that you’ll
always love me despite all my flaws.
You would say the meanest things to me during every fight, and I would
wonder how someone who claimed to love me could hurt my heart like that
over and over again.

With time, I understood that I’m physically incapable of being mean to

someone I love. With time, I understood that I deserve someone who
chooses not to hurt me. I deserve someone who doesn’t forget that they love
me, even in the middle of a fight. Especially in the middle of a fight.
I spend my time wondering what I’ll do without you. And that’s my
problem. I don’t appreciate people as much as I wonder how I’ll glue the
pieces of my heart back together after they’re gone.
Growing up is about realizing that there’ll be too many moments when
you’ll be all alone. You’ll take the metro for the first time in a new city and
miss your best friend from school. You’ll celebrate your birthday away from
your parents and find yourself missing that small cake your mother would
bake despite all the music and booze. You’ll fall sick and go to the hospital
alone. You’ll fail a test and not have someone to hug immediately. I hope
you understand that the absence of people in specific moments of your life
doesn’t equate to not being loved. It’s just a part of life. A major part of
growing up is learning to be on your own.
You don’t deserve an anxious heart, sleepless nights, pillows drenched in
tears and a crushed self-esteem. You don’t deserve someone who doesn’t
love you enough to choose not to consciously hurt you. You don’t deserve
someone who discards your feelings like people discard dead flowers in the
trash. Your feelings are flowers that deserve to be preserved between the
pages of journals. You deserve someone who waters your feelings every
day. You deserve someone who holds your heart so gently that you forget
how terribly lonely it once felt.
You’ll try for months to make them understand your love language. You’ll
beg for reassurance, and they’ll make you feel like you’re asking for too
much. You’ll ask them to hug you because you know you wouldn’t get one
otherwise. You’ll try to find moments to kiss them, hold them, and
constantly yearn to be loved the way you want to be loved. Years later,
you’ll find someone who’ll enter your life with arms full of love, sunshine
in the pocket of their jeans and a heart full of affection, and you’ll realize
how foolish you were for trying to make a soulmate out of someone who
didn’t understand your soul.
Painkillers replace lullabies as you grow up. But what do you do when you
carry pain in places where diclofenac cannot reach?
Trying to understand you was like reading Shakespeare’s sonnets for the
first time. You wore ambiguity the way butterflies wear their wings. Over
time, I understood that understanding you was about reading between the
lines. Re-reading your heart is my favourite thing of all time.
There’s an old man who lives next door and loves express trains. He tells
me how he’d go to his hometown every time he didn’t feel okay. He tells
me he would travel back and forth between Jaipur and Ajmer every day.
He’d work in Jaipur but leave his heart back in Ajmer. He tells me he has
spent more time travelling than he thought he would. But I can’t help but
wonder if his kids don’t love express trains as much as he does. He’s too old
to travel, and they never visit him.
Some memories are like old film cassettes that play in your heart.

You can’t help but feel too many things all at once when they play on
random days. It’s a summer afternoon and you’re having pancakes. You’re
running late for work and all you can hear is traffic. You’re sitting with your
friends and laughing about something you can’t focus on. The cassettes play
anytime. Mostly when you least expect it.
I remember the moles on your cheeks that looked like stars in the night sky.
I remember how your torso felt like you carried oceans in you; if I held you
a little longer, I’d drown and never come back to myself again. I remember
how you breathed life into me merely by calling out my name. Your voice
was a prayer that could bring atheists to churches, and persuade time to
stand still, breathe and simply listen. It was as if all the sunflowers had fled
from the fields to sit in your soul, so you could add light to an otherwise
lifeless world.
On days when life stops making sense, I hold your face in my palms and
caress your hair gently. I remind myself that even if everything falls apart,
our hearts will remain in place—always next to each other. We’ll always be
slow dancing together amidst all the chaos.
Will loneliness and abandonment always be the aftermath of expressing
how I feel? Will my feelings always be too much for people, even the ones
who promise they won’t ever leave?
You grow up and your mother isn’t your best friend anymore. And that
breaks her heart more than it breaks yours.

Because she thought she’d be that person for you forever—the one you’d
come to after every heartbreak or bad day. The one who’d happily put all
the pieces of your heart together. Over time, she lost a best friend because
you thought she wasn’t ‘cool’ enough for you to pour your heart out to her.
Because you assumed she wouldn’t understand you. If your mother
genuinely loves you and was once your best friend, please don’t do that to
her. Please don’t forget who was there for you when you weren’t ‘cool’
enough.
I laugh my heart out to convince myself that I can be happy without you.
But I know if you were here, you’d ask me if I’m alright. You’d know the
laugh isn’t real, and you’d hold me tight.
With time, you’ll learn how to read books in cafés alone. You won’t miss
being held by them. Your irises won’t carry confessions of still being in
love with them. Sadness won’t stay stitched into your soul. With time,
you’ll start saying goodbye with a smile on your face. You won’t bother
about who left and who stayed.
You’re scared because you know you’ll never stop feeling this way for
them. The way you wouldn’t blink your eyes in front of them if you could
because every millisecond spent watching them heals your soul. The way
because of them, there’s a sunflower field in your heart that’s so gorgeous,
Van Gogh would be jealous. The way they make you feel secure, and
you’ve yearned to feel this way your entire life. You’re scared because you
know they feel the same way about you, but you are too used to watching
people fall out of love with you.
I want to leave sunflowers at your doorstep to remind you that there’s light,
hope and beauty outside, no matter how hurt you’ve been. That the world
isn’t a bad place just because you fell in love with someone who never
ceased to make you feel bad about yourself.
To the next person who falls in love with me:

Please don’t be reckless with my heart is all I can say. People leave when
they realize that I overthink and feel everything too deeply, but I really hope
you stay.
My best friend once told me, ‘I don’t think anyone can ever love me.’ The
‘can’ broke my heart.

How heartbreaking it is to feel that it’s impossible for someone to fall in

love with you. That just because you don’t fit into a box, you don’t deserve
to be held with love and warmth. That love comes with looking a certain
way, and if you cannot change your appearance, people cannot choose to
love you either.
Your heart is the size of a fist, but there are mountains of grief growing
inside it. Your heart has a memory that suffocates you. When your father
tore apart your mother’s poetry books. When your grandfather told you that
you’d always be unhappy. When that teacher in tenth grade told you that
you’d never get better academically. There’s so much more in your heart
than you think. And that’s why it always feels heavy. That’s why every time
your heart breaks, you feel like the entire world is breaking too.
There are flowers dying on your dining table waiting to be given to the
person you say you’re not in love with.

Collect the pieces of your heart the way birds collect tit-bits of food from
neighbourhoods that reek of sadness, gift-wrap them all and give it to the
person you love.
Because winter is the most
gorgeous thing to experience as long as
someone keeps your heart warm, and love sometimes leaves no room for
sadness,
because there’s a soulmate
to hold you gently through it all.
It’s okay to watch sunsets alone, have a pizza at your favourite place
without company or travel to the places you’ve always wanted to go
without taking anyone along. Dreaming about meeting your soulmate
shouldn’t come at the cost of postponing your dream life.
Houses without windows can’t suffocate you like homes without love. When
you’ve dinner-table arguments but never dinner-table conversations. When
your father doesn’t laugh when you accidentally drop maple syrup on your
shirt but punches you in the throat. When the pieces of your heart make the
carpet in the living room. You don’t understand love until you get out of the
places with people that don’t want to love you. You don’t find love until
you realize warmth can’t ever radiate from places and people that have only
ever made you feel unlovable.
Hearing your heartbeat is like hearing the universe asking me to stay a little
longer. A sign that someone loves me so deeply, my little heart is finally
healing.
I wish you could literally wear your heart on your sleeve.
I want to be sure you feel the same way as I do.
Some people are like that. They don’t like mushrooms on their pizza like
you do. They don’t listen to music while taking a shower. They don’t use
cursive letters. They are okay with missing a comma here and there. They
don’t cry to songs like you. They’re nothing like you, but there’s nobody
you’d rather be with than them. Because while everything’s different, your
hearts are alike. Nobody can ever make you feel the way they do.
When you hurt me, I keep it to myself. I don’t cry. I don’t yell back at you.
Instead, I ask you to hold my hand and pull me closer to you. Because I
know if I told you that you’re hurting me, you’d stop holding me instead.
Girls like you deserve picnic dates and kisses in dusty libraries. Books
wrapped in old newspapers with handmade bookmarks inside them. You
deserve little flowers in your hair and a lot of hope in your heart. Long
walks on silent streets. Dancing in the rain after the world has fallen asleep.
‘Good morning’ messages and random ‘I miss you’ texts. Girls like you
deserve a love that turns you into the sky after the rain. Don’t settle for
anything less.
Boys like you deserve flowers and soft kisses on your cheeks. Handwritten
notes and snapshots on your refrigerator. Coffee that’s a little too sweet and
pancakes with extra maple syrup. You deserve love in its softest form—
someone who holds your hand on busy streets, hugs you on nights when
you cannot sleep and tells you you’re going to be all right when life gets too
overwhelming. Boys like you deserve a love that feels like sunshine. Don’t
settle for anything less.
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