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ABSTRACT

In today's generation, Millennials can be considered as one of the many users of

social media as a form of dating tactic to have a relationship, specifically on Facebook

for the Filipino Millennials. This study utilized the qualitative research method using

case study. This study focused on understanding the dating behaviors of millennials on

Facebook.

Before the gathering of data, the researchers seek the approval of the Dean of

the College of Education and the Principal of the Laboratory High School. The interview

started by explaining to the participants the purpose of the interview. The researchers

have evaluated and conducted a one-on-one interview to each participants as the main

instrument used in the study to find out how they behave online as a baseline to

propose some interventions regarding with their academic performance. An audio

recording device was employed in recording the interview. The researchers have

chosen ten (10) Millennials as participants in the study. These participants are all

students of the College of Education enrolled in the school year 2018-2019 at Naval

State University, Naval, Biliran with random genders that were born between the years

1980-1996. Emergent themes were identified and were used to discuss the results and

finding of the study. Thereupon, these emergent themes are Compulsively Heedful,

Contemporaneously Vehement and Proportionality and Integrity. The latter part of the

study, all of the gathered data were interpreted and analyzed to give a verdict.

The researchers conclude that majority of the participants when behaving online

are compulsively heedful. Most of them are utterly inspired to finish their studies whilst

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having an online relationship and some of them take it as a challenge to make their

partners proud.

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CHAPTER I

INTRODUCTION

Background

“Dating” means different things to different people, particularly across

generations. It is define as two people who are in an intimate relationship. It is also

defined as actively getting out there and meeting people and spending time with them.

“Dating someone” means you’re seeing somebody specific, with purpose and on a

regular basis. The relationship may be sexual, but it doesn’t have to be. It may be

serious or casual, straight or gay, committed or open, short-term or long-term. Dating on

the internet is reasonably new. Millions of people are currently using dating services

online. According to Gilmour (2017), people’s thinking and behavior are often the one’s

who create the pattern. Using the internet, there are several dating patterns that can set

the minds of people to follow these, including the dating pattern of people meeting

online.

In today’s generation, social media has influenced the youth both positively and

negatively, without which people cannot reside. Butler and Matook (2014) state that in

an increasingly digital world, social media systems have become deeply embedded in

many day-to-day relationships. It is clear that social media plays a big role in people’s

daily basis that is why it is seldom manipulating a person’s life, including their

relationship. Regardless of false assurance of serious dating, people appear to prefer

dating virtually rather than actually meeting him or her in person.

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The researchers want to understand the various positive and negative aspects

associated with online dating through different social media platforms. Some Millennials

can be considered as one of the many users of social media as a form of dating tactic to

have a relationship. The researchers want to understand how Filipino Millennials act or

behave when finding love online.

Objectives

This study aims to understand the dating behaviors of Millennials in the College

of Education of Naval State University.

Specifically, it seeks to:

1. Know the reasons why Millennials are fond of dating online; and

2. Understand how Millenials behave online as baseline to propose some

interventions of their academic performance.

Theoretical Framework

Millennials are widely exposed to social media. It helps build new relationships

and connections from one person to another. A theory that can best support the

researchers' study about dating patterns in social media is the social exchange theory.

According to Cherry (2018), social exchange suggests that it is the valuing of the

benefits and costs of each relationship that determine whether or not we choose to

continue a social association. One of the reasons why Millennials enjoy having online

dating is because of the cost- benefit it suggests based from the social exchange

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theory. The researcher’s interpretation from the social exchange theory is that

Millennials based their choice on whether to stop or continue a social association on

social media on how each sides value the benefit each one gets. It is giving value about

the cost one’s can offer and the befit it gets in return. Another theory that supports this

study is the Uses and Gratification Theory. According to JonKane (2015), the main idea

is that people turn to media to assist them in fulfilling certain needs that used to be filled

by just talk to other people. Interpersonal relationship is a basic human need and some

Millennials find this need using media. Interpersonal communication can take place in a

face-to-face scenario, as well as through the virtual media platforms. Some of the

Millennials’ interpersonal relationship is between whom people meet through social

media. Social media, such as Facebook and Messenger, is a place where people meet

their human need’s satisfaction level. Through social media, Millennials can build a

deeper social association like dating online. In this, people can choose whether to stop

immediately or prolong the built relationship depending on how each one value the cost

they give than the benefit people get. Through that value, some of the Millennials’

behaviors may change that can create dating patterns.

Conceptual Framework

MILLENIALS

SOCIAL MEDIA

(FACEBOOK)

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DATING PATTERNS

FOUND LOVE ONLINE

Millennials are patent and prone to using

social media which has two probable sides, either it may be advantageous or

disadvantageous. The most common social media platform is Facebook which has an

extravagant amount of people using the said platform. In using Facebook, Millennials

can build new relationships and dating patterns because through Facebook, people

freely communicate, or what Millennials call “chatting” to socialize with others. The

researchers’ goal to this study is to understand how Millennials behave on finding love

online by those relationships and dating patterns each one has created over the course

of time.

Significance of the Study

The importance of this study is to understand and gain further knowledge about

the entirety of a certain person’s behavior towards dating online.

Scope and Delimitation of the Study

The research will be conducted at Naval State University, Naval, Biliran. This

study will limit its coverage on Millennials ranging from ages twenty-two (22) to thirty-

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nine (39) years old. The study focuses on Millennials that are currently in a relationship.

The researchers use the case study Qualitative Research Method in which the

researchers observe, interview, record every details, and consider the informants’

opinion in the study.

Definition of Terms

 Dating- a state of romantic relationship

 Dating Patterns- how people behave during a relationship

 Social Media- websites and applications where people use to interact socially

 Internet- computer network that people use to search and communicate

 Virtual Relationship- where people tend to date online

 Actual Relationship- where people tend to share information, ideas and interest

 Social Media Platform- where people share information, ideas and interest.

 Cost- what a person could give or risk (may be an information/data about a

person to the one he/ she is dating with online

 Benefit- what a person may get after he/she exchange data/information about a

certain person

 Intimate Relationship – very close relationship

 Online Dating- when people create a relationship through social media

 Offline Dating- when people have an actual relationship

 Intervention- unrelated events that can cause problems or delays on their

academic performance.

 Romanically Excited- feeling in love

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 Considerate- showing kindness toward his or her partner

 Accomodating- willing to fit in with someone’s standards, needs, and wishes.

 Cybercrime- a crime that involves computer and a network

 Cyber Security- protection of computer systems from theft of the services they

provide.

 Compulsively Heedful

 Contemporaneously Vehement

 Proportionality

 Integrity

Related Literature

Mcmillan, S. J (2006) studies about the internet and young people often focus

primarily on pre-teen children rather than young adults although some studies have

examined teenagers. She frames new media use as a conduit, a language, and an

environment.

According to Russell, M. A. (2011), all SNSs support multiple modes of

communication: one-to-many and one-to-one, synchronous and asynchronous, textual

and media-based. On most social network sites, these features can be public or more

private. Features like comments on Facebook, @replies on Twitter, and shouts on

Foursquare allow people to communicate with their network of Friends in ways that are

visible to broad audiences. Meanwhile, many SNSs have private messaging or chat

features that allow for more intimate dialogue. Importantly, through features such as the

ability to comment on Friends’ content or social gaming, users are able to communicate

with the networks of their Friends.

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McKeon, M. (2010) pointed out that social network sites have become

mainstream, traversing the connections between people to view profiles is no longer the

sole—or, even primary—way of participation. Content is surfaced through streams, and

each piece of content is embedded with numerous links to other content nuggets. While

early iterations of sites like Facebook allowing people to traverse everything. Although

early social network sites provided numerous points of navigation, Friends lists were the

most notable; today, they have faded into the background as sites increasingly offer

countless alternate discovery pathway

Hall, J.A., (2010) stated that according to dating site users appear to be well

aware of the importance of self-presentation—and the role of the profile in conveying

that self-presentation—in attracting potential matches, and prior work has explored the

role that deception plays in “fudging” quantifiable metrics like height and weight.

Physical attractiveness is also an important aspect in choosing a mate, and thus the

photographs of members are highly salient to potential matches. However, previous

studies have shown that around a third of photographs are rated as being “inaccurate”

in their depiction of the member—and this deception is often a result of users’ desires to

mediate, control, and enhance their self-presentation.

The goal of online dating according to Putnam, R.D. (1996) is, ultimately, to

connect individuals in person. And, despite the concern that online dating might

separate people from their real world communities and existing social networks prior

work has demonstrated that this may not be the case. Online dating is deeply tied to the

physical world, as people use their non-dating social networks as a method to find

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potential partners as stated by Ellison, N.B. (2007), Lee, A.Y and Buckman, A.S.

(2007) , and also share their profiles with real world friends.

Jacobsen, W. C. (2011) states that there is a huge influence of electronic media

use on the academic and social lives of university students. They have explored through

time-diaries and survey data the use of various types of electronic media among first-

year students. Time-diary results suggest that majority of students use electronic media

to multitask. In addition, they have found a positive association between social-

networking-site use, cellular-phone communication, and face-to-face social interaction.

Other studies have suggested that young people’s online social life mirrors offline

relationships: computer activities provide support for offline friendships; are mainly

devoted to ordinary yet intimate topics (e.g., friends, gossip); and are motivated by a

desire for companionship (Facer et al., 2001b; Gross et al., 2002). Some studies have

also explored specific behaviors of young people such as online dating (Clark, 1998),

online musical explorations (Boiarsky, 2002), internet addiction (Hall and Parsons,

2001), and compulsive online shopping (LaRose and Eastin, 2002).

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CHAPTER II

METHODOLOGY

Research Design

This research is a case study on which the researchers will be having one-on-

one interview to ten (10) selected Millennial participants. This study is purposive

because of the set of criteria that the researchers provide and only needs limited

participants.

Research Participants

Ten (10) chosen millennial will be the research participants. The researchers will

choose the participants with random genders that were born between the years 1980-

1996 in the College of Education, Naval State University. The prticipants should also

have a growing virtual relationship that has started for a few months or years. The

researchers will evaluate and conduct a one-on-one interview in order to complete the

research study.

Research Locale

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The one-on-one interview on this research study will be conducted at the College

of Education building at Naval State University located at the Municipality of Naval,

Province of Biliran.

Data Gathering Procedure

The data will be gathered after getting the approval of the principal of Naval State

University Laboratory High School and the Dean of the College of Education to conduct

a study. Upon assurance, the researchers will have a one-on-one interview to the ten

(10) randomly selected informants during their vacant time to avoid disturbance of

classes or works. The informants will be given enough time to answer the researchers’

prepared questions to be asked. After gathering the data, the researchers will ask for

the consent of the informants to provide a screenshot or a copy of their conversation

proving that there is virtual dating happening from the informants.

Research Instrument

The researchers will provide a personal consent where the participants can

assure that their personal information will be hidden between the participants and the

researchers only. The researchers will be having guide questions to be asked for the

one-on-one interview of the partcipants. While conducting the one-on-one interview, the

researchers will use a recorder so that the researchers can interpret the responses of

the participants well.

Statistical Treatment of Data

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This study will engage standard interview sampling in choosing the ten (10)

participants. All data that will be gathered will undergo analysis and consideration

because it is only on Social Media.

CHAPTER 3

RESULTS AND DISCUSSIONS

In this case study, the researchers aimed to understand the dating behaviours of

Millennials in the College of Education in Naval State University in order to know the

reasons why Filipino Millennials are fond of dating online and how Millennials behave

online as baseline to propose some interventions in their academic performance. For

this purpose, by doing one-on-one interviews to ten (10) chosen Filipino Millennials, the

researchers seek their behavioural patterns on how they date online. What the

researchers obtained based on their answers and opinions indicated the importance of

each mentioned factor. Based on the result and findings of the study, three emergent

themes were identified, namely; Compulsively Heedful, Contemporaneously Vehement

and Proportionality and Integrity.

THEME 1: Compulsively Heedful

Millennials when dating online are compulsively heedful. They want to seek

attention from their partners, thus the attention that they need can only be satisfied if

they communicate daily. Millennials are willing to have daily communications with their

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partners and is willing to take the risk in order to get the benefit that they want, which is

the attention.

“We always communicate. Not only during evening, whether it be in school,

morning till noon; always. Video chat always-- on my birthday, on valentine’s day. We

don’t have a choice because of the distance. We were friends at first, and he started

courting me after 6 months. He proved that even though we only met each other online,

he isn’t like other men. For me, online dating is an inspiration because of how it

motivates me.” (P1; Page ; Line 4-5; Transcript 1)

“We communicate every day, but we live in different time zones because he’s

from Belgium. Chat with him at night here in the Philippines, because it’s morning

there.” (P3; Page ; Line 3-4; Transcript 3)

“We communicate everyday. We chat after he finishes his shift, because he’s a

Seaman, we only communicate during his vacant time.” (P5; Page ; Line 4; Transcript

5)

“We communicate everyday. We always chat when we’re both online.” (P6;

Page ; Line 5 & 8; Transcript 6)

“We communicate everyday. Not a day goes by that we don’t talk.” (P7; Page ;

Line 4; Transcript 7)

“Starting from morning then evening because he’s free in those times.” (P8; Page

; Line 5; Transcript 8)

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“On my vacant times in the morning, noon, and every night-- we would

communicate.” (P9; Page ; Line 4; Transcript 9)

“We communicate everyday, and not a minute goes by that we don’t chat.” (P10;
Page ; Line 4; Transcript 10)

According to the Social-Exchange theory, people have cost-benefit relationship

to their partners. In accordance to it, the participants want to have the “benefits”, which

is the attention they want from their partners, when they engage themselves during their

daily communications. They want to gain the attention from whom they want to

communicate daily. Like what Ellison, N.B. (2007) stated, online dating is deeply tied to

the physical world and may become a method on finding potential partners. Having daily

communications can affect someone’s relationship towards her partner because having

interpersonal communications can be psychologically helpful in finding

EMERGENT THEME 2: Contemporaneously Vehement

One of the main reasons why Filipino Millennials are fond on dating online is

because they are contemporaneously vehement whenever they communicate to their

partners online. One of the respondents encounter the undeniably unique feeling of

having someone who wants to embrace the aspects of her life even if they did not meet

personally.

“Yes, Of course! I’ve enjoyed it!” (P2; Page ; Line 16; Transcript 2)

“Yes, I did enjoy the process (giggles)” (P4; Page ; Line 19; Transcript 4)

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“Yes, of course I enjoy it, because I love his sweet messages.” (P5; Page ; Line

13; Transcript 5)

“Yes. I enjoy, because we chat everyday. I’m used to always chatting with him—

each morning, noon, or afternoon, there’s someone greeting me, and I enjoy it.” (P6;

Page ; Line 8; Transcript 6)

“Yes I enjoyed [having online relationship]. I can easily share what I want to tell

online and it does not make me timid. In actual, I become bashful.” (P8; Page ; Line 15;

Transcript 8)

“Yes. I enjoy it and it excites me.” (P9; Page ; Line 8; Transcript 9)

“Yes, I enjoy it even though it’s just online. We send sweet messages and flatter

each other. That’s why I enjoy it.” (P10; Page ; Line 12; Transcript 10)

Ordinary yet intimate topics are motivated by a desire for companionship as

stated by (Facer et al. 2001b; Gross et al., 2002). These topics can lead to romantic

enthusiasm towards their partners. Just like Clark (1998) stated, there are specific

behaviours of young people who dates online, and one of these is feeling

contemporaneously vehement during their conversations. Daily communication through

online plays a big role in developing one of a person’s basic human needs, the

interpersonal communication, which was encountered from the people in a romantic

way. The participants are contemporaneously vehement because of the sweet

messages and greetings that can create happiness.

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THEME 3: Proportionality and Integrity

Filipino Millennials’ proportionality and integrity are present when behaving online

in terms of the baseline to propose some interventions of their academic performance.

The participants are willing to fit in with their partner’s wants and standards. One of the

participants, described her partner as her inspiration for her academic success and

wants to be determined in finishing her studies. However, there are some interventions

that can affect the academic performance of the participants. One of it is the lack of trust

towards his or her partner and how they behave whenever they encounter problems

that might affect their academic performance. One participant stated that she is

motivated to attend class if their relationship is smooth, but if not, she loses the energy

to go to school. Some of them also want to have privacy and wants to mind their own

businesses. That is the main reason why they are not open to each other on their

academic-related activities. Still, the participants are proportional to their partners as

well as how they attend their own academic performance. Their role on being on a

romantic relationship and being a student are balanced.

“Yes, and he also helps with my homework. Because he’s in the Navy, he’s

especially helpful in ROTC.” (P1; Page ; Line 6; Transcript 1)

“When you talk about the studies, it’s not actually a hindrance but an inspiration.

Because when we talk about love there’s a feeling of attachment. In my defense, my

purpose of acknowledging him was just a sort of fun when I get bored. (In a good way)”

(P2; Page ; Line 7; Transcript 2)

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“It’s an inspiration for me in terms of studies, but it all depends in the person if

they know how to manage. I don’t open up on school related things to my online date,

because it’s personal.” (P3; Page ; Line 5-6; Transcript 3)

“For me, yes. I’d recommend it. Online is much safer, because temptation is

farther on a virtual platform compared to an actual relationship, but we should limit

ourselves on either one, because we’re still students.” (P4; Page ; Line17; Transcript 4)

“He’s an inspiration for me. Of course he makes me want to finish my studies. I

get inspired and motivated in class, because I feel happiness and love. He often asks

me about the things happening in school and he also motivates me.” (P5; Page ; Line

5-6; Transcript 5)

“For me it’s an inspiration, because I know how to balance dating and studies.”

(P7; Page ; Line 5; Transcript 7)

“Some of them (laughs) are hindrances to me since, at first, it is okay and in the

latter it becomes complicated.” (P8; Page ; Line 11; Transcript 8)

“It’s an inspiration for me to study. That feeling that you want to study more

because of it and it makes you happy, but I lose interest in studying everytime we fight.

It’s an inspiration and a hindrance at the same time. Actually, he’s already working, but

he always asks me about my studies, but I don’t open up because I don’t think he

knows what it’s about.” (P9; Page ; Line 5-6; Transcript 9)

“I do not often open up my academic errands to him but he always supports me,

like I do.” (P10; Page ; Line 6; Transcript 10)

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Like Jacobsen (2011) stated, students using electronic media multitask their

association with their academic errands. The participants are proportional or fairly

consider both their academic priorities and their dating life. They take their online

relationship as their motivation to pursue their education and would not let some

academic interventions to ruin it if they know how to manage both their relationship and

studies.

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CHAPTER 4

SUMMARY, CONCLUSION, RECOMMENDATIONS

This chapter presents the summary of findings, conclusions, and

recommendations based from the results and implications in the preceding chapters.

There are ten transcripts of the participants, one hundred twenty-five significant

statements, one hundred twenty-five formulated meanings, nine cluster themes, and

three emergent themes.

Summary

This study utilized the qualitative research method using case study. This study

is purposive because of the criteria that has been set. This was conducted in the

College of Education building at Naval State University located at the Municipality of

Naval, Province of Biliran.

Ten (10) Millennials were chosen to be the research participants. These

participants are all students of the College of Education with random genders that were

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born between the years 1980- 1996. The participants have a growing virtual relationship

that has started for a few months or years. The researchers have evaluated and

conducted one-on-one interviews to each participant. Screenshots are then given by the

participants to prove their virtual relationship.

The main instrument used in this study was the interview guide personally

prepared by the researchers containing questions that are connected to our objectives

which was validated and approved by the researchers’ adviser.

Before the gathering of data, the researchers seek the approval of the Dean of

the College of Education and the Principal of the Laboratory High School. The interview

started by explaining to the informants the purpose of the interview, the right to

voluntarily participate and their approval were asked by letting them signed the informed

consent form. In so far as ethical consideration is concern, informants’ names and

identities were kept between the researchers and the participants only.

An audio recorder was employed in recording the interview. Cell phones were

also used to record a video on the participants’ interviews. The gathered data were

transcribed, read and analysed multiple times in extracting significant statements.

These significant statements were translated and analysed in forming formulated

meanings. Similar formulated meanings were grouped in creating cluster themes. From

this clustered themes, emergent themes were identified and were used to discuss the

results and findings of the study.

CONCLUSION

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The aim of this study was to understand the dating behaviours of Filipino

Millennials in the College of Education in Naval State University. A qualitative approach

was adopted using a range of complementary methods. The study has provided insights

of how Millennials behave online as baseline to propose some interventions of their

academic performance. It has also identified one of the reasons why Millennials are

fond of dating online.

The researchers conclude that majority of the participants have a daily

communication with their partners because they are compulsively heedful, thus

compulsively heedful serves as the dating pattern and/or behavior of the Filipino

Millennials on Facebook. Wanting for attention was evident because everyone wants to

communicate with his or her partners every single day making the participants

compulsively heedful when behaving online. In addition, Millennials who date online

affects their interpersonal communication skills in both positive and negative way.

Different feelings and perspectives on how Filipino Millennials date online were shown.

Feelings of excitement and fondness are present while having conversations online, this

is because of the sweet messages and greetings received by the participants from their

partners. Contemporaneously vehement was one of the reasons why Filipino Millennials

appeared to be fond of dating online, specifically on Facebook because it is easier and

more convenient to use. As still students, the participants’ time management in handling

his/her academic performance and love life is very important. Most of the participants

want to open up their studies and other academic-related activities to their partners,

they are hitting two birds at the same time. The presence of proportionality and integrity

play a major role to the participants when behaving online as baselines to propose

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some interventions of their academic performance and love errands. Most of them are

inspired to finish their studies while having an online relationship and some of them take

it as a challenge to make their partners proud.

RECOMMENDATIONS

It is by far, one of the most reprimanding things to ever happen when you enter in

a romantic relationship. Allowing oneself to emerge to a very committed scenery.

It is unequivocal that everyone should be at ease and should achieve equilibrium.

They must practice balance in everything whether it may be in terms of dating or

otherwise. Those millennials who partake those paths of being in an online relationship

should be transparent in any way around. According to this line said by a character

namely, the Sugar Plum, as she stated this-it may not be directed to the topic however

the line can be very complex and subtle. “There is a funny little perk to these things, it

works both ways”.

Each one should be very meticulous in choosing the right person whom you can

exchange messages or SMS with. Vividly, it is also plausible for millennials to go on an

online relationship, and it may not or may hinder because it can help them

psychologically to manifest in focusing in their academic errands. On the other side of

the table, the individuality of the being should be properly perceived for it distinguishes

vigorous integrity to the utmost being of each one.

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For students who have experienced online dating in years, they should not be too

afraid of it and should take the risk. But still, they should be careful because of the

different cybercrimes that they may encounter on dating online. An example of it is

identity theft on which hackers and scammers may use fake emails to trick victims into

giving up passwords and information. According to Kazmeyer (2007), the internet is the

great tool for scammers and miscreants, since it allows them to ply their trade while

hiding behind a shield of digital anonymity. Cybercrimes may affect society both in

offline and online world. It has been proven this type of dating produces many benefits

for students but still, they cannot avoid the negative possibilities they might get. The

research shows that online dating boosts students’ morale and in most cases, gives

them incentive to study harder. Students should also open up about their school work if

they are in an online relationship, because in some cases, this has proven to be quite

helpful in to those who do, due to their partner’s helping and giving support being a

result of it. Many of the students have a close bond with their online partners, so it is

encouraged that one takes advantage of this and turn it into one of the benefits in

having an online relationship. One must not, however, whoever one comes by without

thorough knowledge of who a person is. This is commonly warned by the subjects when

talking about whether or not one should get into a relationship.

For the future researchers in connection with this study, there is a need to study

the different psychological effects of Millennials involve in dating online to understand

deeply the behaviors of Millennials dating online. Be able to widen the information about

the study and make a further explanation for it.

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Future studies should focus and learn more about Generation X and Generation

Z having different genders to find out if both generations have similar or different results

with Millennials. Since the study is only limited to Millennials, the researchers believe

that there would be lots of differences in their study.

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APPENDIX A

Republic of the Philippines


NAVAL STATE UNIVERSITY
COLLEGE OF EDUCATION

LABORATORY HIGH SCHOOL


Naval, Biliran

February ____, 2019

Dear Student Respondents,

Greetings!

STEM 11-A researchers is conducting a research work entitled “Finding Love Online: A Case
Study on Dating Patterns of Millennials on Facebook”, in partial fulfillment of the requirements
for the subject Practical Research 1.

The success of this study is dependent on your support and cooperation. In connection to this,
please answer the interview and attached questionnaires with full honesty to come up with a
verified data. The findings of this study will serve as basis to find out why Millennials are fond
of Online Dating and know if this might affect one’s academic performance.Please be assured
that your responses will be kept with utmost confidentiality.

Thank you in advance for your wholehearted support, kindness, and cooperation.

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Very truly yours,

HANAH MAE ARSOLON


Group leader, STEM 11-A

Republic of the Philippines


NAVAL STATE UNIVERSITY
COLLEGE OF EDUCATION

LABORATORY HIGH SCHOOL


Naval, Biliran

February 4, 2019

DR. ROLAND A. NIEZ


Dean, College of Education
Naval State University
Naval, Biliran

Sir:

Cordial greetings of peace and prosperity!

We, the Grade 11 STEM students of Naval State University Laboratory High School Senior
High School, are currently conducting our research for Practical Research 1 entitled “Finding
Love Online: A Case Study on Dating Patterns of Millennials on Facebook”.

In this regard, we would like to ask for your approval and support in conducting the said
research.

Thank you and God Bless!

Respectfully yours,

ADRIAN PAUL DIONGZON HANAH MAE ARSOLON

MARIA LEANNE PANCITO MARY ROSE SORRILLA

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SAMANTHA GRACE VIDAL Researchers

Noted:

RALPH ARVIC T. ARCENAL, MMS NOEL P. TANCINCO Ph. D.


Instructor, Practical Research 1 Chairman, NSU-LHS

ROLAND A. NIEZ, Ed.D.


Dean, College of Education

APPENDIX B

VOLUNTARY INFORMED CONSENT FOR RESPONDENTS

This sign of consent is to clarify my willingness to participate in the thesis entitled,


“Finding Love Online: A Case Study on Dating Patterns of Millennials on Facebook”.

1. That I understand the general purpose/objectives of the study to find out why Millennials
are fond of Online Dating and know if this might affect one’s academic performance.

2. That my participation as a subject of this research was done with my personal consent
and voluntary participation with the researcher in the conduct of this study. I further
acknowledge that my participation will not hamper or derail my daily work and activities
as well as my personal responsibilities and obligations.

3. That my information about me, obtain from the study will be strictly kept confidential by
the researchers, and none of my personal information be identified/revealed in any
report of publication without my prior consent or permission.

4. That it was agreed that if there are some questions which are offensive, discriminating,
or derogatory on part, I am free to refuse, withdraw, or terminate my participation
anytime in the course of the interview without prejudice, penalty, or loss of credibility to
the subject matter being studied.

5. That it was agreed that I may have my response audio recorded solely and exclusively
as pertinent data for the conduct of the study and of so I feel uncomfortable and
unwilling to I may freely withdraw.
6. That I am willing to share my personal online conversations by providing a screenshot,
but still wishes to secure my identity and my partner’s as well.

7. That I also acknowledge that my participation in this study involves no monetary


compensation on my part, except that whatever appropriate, I may be provided with
additional pertinent information after the result of my participation.

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With all those term and conditions, I do hereby affix my signature below to prove that I
will freely agree to participate in the conduct of this study.

Participant’s assent:

Printed Name and Signature Date

Researcher’s Signature Date

APPENDIX C

INTERVIEW GUIDE

“FINDING LOVE ONLINE: A CASE STUDY ON DATING PATTERNS OF

MILLENNIALS ON FACEBOOK”

The following are the questions for gathering information about the study:

Question 1: How long have you been dating online?

Question 2: Who approached first?

Question 3: How did you know each other?

Question 4: How often do you communicate with each other?

Question 5: How do you describe your online date? Is he or she an inspiration or a

hindrance to your academic success?

Question 6: Does your online date opens his or her homeworks or other school-related

activities to you?

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Question 7: Do you think that it’s easier to date online through Facebook?

Question 8: Did you enjoy or did you feel fondness while you and your partner

communicate online?

Question 9: Do you believe that you can find love online?

Question 10: Would you recommend Facebook as a medium of finding love online?

APPENDIX D

TRANSCRIPT OF INTERVIEW

Informant : Participant 1

Session Number :1

Date : February 7, 2019

Time Started : 1442H

Time Ended : 1448H

Duration : 3 minutes, 55 seconds

Location : Naval State University, College of Education Building

Interviewed by : Maria Leanne A. Pancito

Transcribed by : Maria Leanne A. Pancito

Reviewed by : Mary Rose S. Sorrilla

Line Responses Code

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Number
1 Baye P1
2 29 years old P1
3 In a relationship P1
4 College P1
5 Millennial P1
1 5 years P1
2 Uhm akong kachat. Usa siya ka Military Navy. Half P1

American, Half Filipino siya. Actually ning uli siya kadtong

[kuan] December.
3 [Kuan, kanang] Siya may ning-approach sa akoa, nag P1

“Hi”, “Hello” *giggles*. Yes, siya’y unang ning chat unya

mao rato.
4 Always gyud. Oo. Dili lang kada gabii, ug naa ko diri P1

magtawag ug basta, always gyud siya.


5 [Kuan] Video chat? Sa akong birthday video chat unya P1

Valentine’s Day, video chat kay layo man gyud.

Friends ra to sa una unya mga 6 months sa siya nag

sige ug panguyab unya kay iya gyung gi prove na bisag

online ra, dili siya ingon na pareha sa ubang laki.


6 Oo, oo, oo labaw na. Mutabang gad siya *giggles* Unya P1

Navy man siya di siya usahay [kakuan] sa akong

education, pero musupport lang gihapon siya sa akoa.


7 Para sa among sitwasyon? Siguro, real life? Oo, kay P1

maexpress man nimo kung unsa gyud, makita sad niya

kung unsa gyud ka love nimo ang usa ka tawo.

Okay ra pod nuon siya, bisag layo, agwanta lang gud.

Trust.
8 Syempre *laughs* Oo para sa ako oo *nods* kay ako I P1

have two kids na unya two years name unya nagplano

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siya na muuli karong June. Ambot lang, wa ko kasabot

basin, wa ko kasabot lage *smiling* Maybe? *laughs*


9 Dili, dili. Lisod kay dili ka dapat mutrust dayon sa tawo. P1
10 Oo *nodding* Pwede. Pwede muchat online although P1

ayaw gyud pagtrust dayon sa us aka tawo. More on imo

sa siyang ila ilahon pag ayo bisag online ra.


11 Inspiration siguro paras akoa. *cringe* Oo kay ma P1

motivate man ko. Ako 29 nako, siya is 45, diba? Unya

gusto ko mugraduate kay professional baya siya. Oo, so

ako pod, kinahanglan maniguro ko para ma professional

pod ko parehas iyaha.

Informant : Participant 2

Session Number :2

Date : February 7, 2019

Time Started : 1459H

Time Ended : 1504H

Duration : 4 minutes, 07 seconds

Location : Naval State University, College of Education Building

Interviewed by : Adrian Paul B. Diongzon

Transcribed by : Adrian Paul B. Diongzon

Reviewed by : Samantha Grace R. Vidal

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Line

Number Responses Code


1 Lalaki P2
2 22 years old P2
3 In an online relationship P2
4 Bachelor of Secondary Education Major in Social Studies P2
5 Millenial P2
1 Talking about really dating, well it’s not actually dating, P2

it’s just something like “char-char”(Some sort of gay lingo

where it has different meanings like ‘just kidding’) or

something when I have fun conversation with someone

else. Even though di mi related or di nako kaila.


2 Murag wa man siya niabot ug year. I think mga a month P2

lang or 2 months like that.


3 In terms of “approach-approach” [kanang] ako kasi ang P2

tipo na tawo na [kanang] dili mahilig makipag

conversation sa tawong di nako kaila but then pag nay

mu “hi”, “hi” lang pod. Chika-cika lang pero mao to siya .

Siya gud talaga muuna pero sometimes ako man pod

pero dili talaga as in murag 40% ako 60% siya.


4 Aw kaun, siyempre, online man. “Taga saan ka?”, P2

siyempre, lisod sad ug magdate-date ta diri’g ato la no?


5 Aw dili oy. [Kanang] murag sabot mo kaila man mo aning P2

“NearGroup”. Ay! *laughs* neargroup, my god!Ana na


6 Gabii. Usahay mga hapon. P2
7 When it talks about the studies, it’s not actually hindrance P2

but an inspiration. Because when we talk about love naa

gyud kay pinaghugotan sa iya. Para sa ako, ang akong

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purpose lang gyud ato kay having fun lang ba, [basta]

way lingaw.
8 Dili. Muingon lang ko nga [kanang] first year college lang P2

ko pero di ko muingon na stress ko ron.


9 Dili. Abi pa lang weak ta. Aw? *Jokingly says “Aw?!” P2
10 Obviously actual gud talaga. P2
11 We can’t [really] trust people online [easily]. P2
12 Obviously, yes! P2
13 Ah, well, nowadays, easy ra gud talaga siya. Kay alam P2

mon a communicate lang bisag dili kasaligang tawo.


14 Dili. Dili gyud talaga labi nag [kanang] dili talaga mo P2

actual gud talaga nagkita. Dili talaga. Muabot sa time na

“wa na!”. “You can’t reply to this conversation” wala na.

Diba?
15 I can’t really force them to be involoved in this online P2

dating. It’s up to them. Kung asa ta malipay, didto ta.


16 Oo gad. Enjoy gad. P2

Informant : Participant 3

Session Number :3

Date : February 7, 2019

Time Started : 1503H

Time Ended : 1506H

Duration : 3 minutes, 22 seconds

Location : Naval State University, College of Education Building

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Interviewed by : Maria Leanne A. Pancito

Transcribed by : Maria Leanne A. Pancito

Reviewed by : Mary Rose S. Sorrilla

Line Responses Code

Number
1 P3
2 From the Municipality of Kawayan, specifically on Brgy. P3

Mapuyo, Kawayan Biliran


3 22 years old P3
4 In an online relationship P3
5 Bachelor of Secondary Education, Major in Social Studies P3
6 Millennial P3
1 *thinking* 4 months? P3
2 Siya. P3
3 Through *thinking* chat. Ning approach ra gyud siya. P3

Yeah.
4 Everyday *thinking* Morning man sa ilaha pag night ari P3

so. Taga Belgium man siya.


5 In somewhat inspiration. Academics? Dili man. Di pod ko P3

muingon na inspiration because depende ra man na sa

tawo kung [kuan] ka. But for me, it’s not.


6 No. It’s personal. P3
7 I prefer both of them? Kay [kay] kaning online man kay is P3

a platform of communication, so in somewhat way kung

magkaila mo online may possibility na magkaila pod mo

sa personal, but prefer nako both.

8 Yes! Kay *thinking* love is no all about [kaning] it’s either P3

personal communication or [kanang] it’s a feeling anyway

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so, mafeel ra nimo siya.
9 No. May times na, syempre di man gyud [kaning] online, P3

may time na magbinuwa siya, may time na dili puro

*thinking* pero [kaning] okay ra man pod siya *smiles*

Kay may privacy pod ka, may privacy pod ka so.


10 Dili pod ko maka-recommend *laughs slightly* because P3

[kuan, kaning] optional kasi siya. Kung imo ng

irecommend so dapat man [kaning] evidence ka ana ana.

So I prefer not to [kuan], but depende sa person.


11 Di ko makaingon because life is a long process. So, di ko P3

makaingon na kami talaga, but kung kami, kami talaga.


12 Yes! I enjoy. *smiles* Kay [kuan] naenjoy ko kay P3

somewhat [kaning] *thinking* happy ko tungod sa iya,

ana.

Oo gad! *smiles* Kay di man ko nega.

Informant : Participant 4

Session Number :4

Date : February 7, 2019

Time Started : 1910H

Time Ended : 1914H

Duration : 4 minutes, 17 seconds

Location : Naval State University, College of Education Building

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Interviewed by : Adrian Paul B. Diongzon

Transcribed by : Adrian Paul B. Diongzon

Reviewed by : Samantha Grace R. Vidal

Line

Number Responses Code


1 Babae P4
2 23 years old P4
3 In an online relationship P4
4 BSBA in Naval State University P4
5 Millenial P4
1 It’s been [2.01 sec/s] 10 months. P4
2 Siyempre akong uyab. P4
3 *Stutters* Through messenger nagkataon lang pod ba na P4

tapos ning gamit akong…ang akong classmate ug

messenger nako nakichat siya tapos wala ko kasabot na

muchat diay siyas ako.


4 Oo. Murag siyay bridge ba. P4
5 Everyday *Giggles* P4
6 Kadalasan man gyud kay hapon. Tapos gabii kay mao P4

raman iyang free time.


7 Oo. Magtinabangay man mi. P4
8 Oo. Nag-OJT man siya. P4
9 Dili man siya maingon na “Hindrance” murag ni serve P4

siya as “inspiration” sad kay [kanang] mutabang man

siya. Musupport siya sa ako.


10 [Kanang] example [kanang[ muingon ko na “gikapoy P4

nakog eskwela karong adlawa” niya muingon siya na

“ayawg absent ako gani gikuan [gikaya] man gani nako.


11 Mas nindot man gyud nang actual gud kay murag adto P4

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nimo masabtan ug unsa gyud siya kaseryoso ba.
12 Okay rasad. Kay kung wala, siyempre, kung naa mos P4

layo mao raman inyong kuan gyud, “communication”.


13 Dili kayo *laughs* P4
14 Kay naa bayay uban maayo lang mangatik, maayo P4

musulti ana ba. Pero parehos iyaha di man pod, seryoso

man pod siya.


15 Wa ta kasabot sa panahon baya. Walang forever P4

*giggles*
16 Hmmm…Kay kadalasan baya karon no murag murag P4

torpe na ang mga lalaki unya through online murag dali

ra nila express ilang love sa babae.


17 Puydi man muchat pero dili gud ingon na kuanan gyud

nimo ba…unsa ni…mu “oo” ka dayon kay wala ka P4

kasabot sa ugali sa us aka lalaki kailangan gyud [kanang]

sa personal sad kilatison.


18 Mas nindot man gyud basta actual. P4
19 Kay kanang kuan, usahay baya [kanang] mumessage ug P4

sweet ana.

Informant : Participant 5

Session Number :5

Date : February 7, 2019

Time Started : 2029H

Time Ended : 2036H

Duration : 7 minutes, 06 seconds

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Location : Naval State University, College of Education Building

Interviewed by : Mary Rose S. Sorrilla

Transcribed by : Mary Rose S. Sorrilla

Reviewed by : Maria Leanne A. Pancito

Line Responses Code

Number
1 Baye P5
2 I live in Cebu City P5
3 23 years old P5
4 In an online relationship P5
5 Bachelor of Science, Business and Administration in P5

Naval State University


6 Millennial P5
1 Kanang di pa mi uyab? *thinking* mga 1 month? Yes. P5
2 Siyempre siya *giggles* P5
3 Yeah, nay bridge *laughs* Di kay ang una ato nay P5

birthday unya nakit-an kuno ko niya, pero wala ko

kabantay niya kay mao lage di man ko magbantay. Mao

to nangutana akong kuya sa ako kung manguli na ba mi

unya musakay nala daw mis ilaha. Mao to gipapili ko niya

kung asa ko musakay, sa kay kuya ba or sa iyang

kauban. Muto kay kuya ko kay siyempre wa ko kaila sa

iyaha tapos akong us aka igsoon sa iyang kauban. Mao

to siya human ning ingon siya kay kuya na namiling kuno

siyag babaye na [kanang] unsa na? Church-oriented ba,

buotan kuno charot *laughs* Muto naka huna huna si

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kuya sa akoa ba char *laughs* unya mao to, iya kong gi

add sa Facebook, unya nagutana si kuya sa ako kung

naa bay nag add sa akoa sa Facebook, muto wa ko ka

[kuan] ka bantay ba mutong pag [kuan] mutong

nangutana ko kung kinsa. Tapos nangutana ko sa

pangalan *giggles* mutong ako siyang giaccept. Tapos

ning chat siya sa akoa ug “Hello”, ningreply ko *giggles*


4 Kada adlaw kung may signal. *laughs* [Kuan] Kahuman P5

sa iyang duty. Seaman man siya. [Kuan] siya mumata

siya alas sais kay iyang duty kay 8-12 man, pagkatima

niyag dutty sa 12, muchat na pod na siya sa akoa.


5 [Kuan] oy, inspiration. *giggles* Siyempre maganahan tag P5

eskwela. Inspired *smiling* I feel so loved. Yeah, so

loved, my happiness *laughs*


6 Oo kay mangutana man siya. Muana man siya sa ako P5

“Paniguro ug eskwela”.
7 Pwede ra both. *laughs* Pero mas ganahan kog actual, P5

pero wa may choice kay trabaho baya.


8 Oo oy *giggles* kay diha gyud na nagsugod, naunsa ba P5

*romantic excitement* [Kuan] nalipay kuno siya kay

nakaila kuno siyas akoa charot *smiles*


9 Yes! Siyempre, [kuan] man mi [kanang unsa na?] kay P5

magcommunicate mi pirme.
10 Sa akoa, okay lang. Okay lang siya kay no choice man. P5

Pero mas angayan kung actual gud.


11 Facebook kay mao may uso. Mao may pinaka common. P5
12 No, no *laughs* Okay lang *laughs* No diay, gusto nilag P5

personal *laughs* Ila ila lang ba kay sa online, di man

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gyud sigurado kay siyempre, yah, pwede ra

makapamuwa.
13 Oo gad! *laughs* Kilig sa iyang gipang chat sa akoa P5

*smiles*

Informant : Participant 6

Session Number :6

Date : February 7, 2019

Time Started : 1422H

Time Ended : 1425H

Duration : 3 minutes, 32 seconds

Location : Naval State University, College of Education Building

Interviewed by : Samantha Grace R. Vidal

Transcribed by : Samantha Grace R. Vidal

Reviewed by : Hanah Mae B. Arsolon

Line

Number Responses Code


1 Babae P6
2 22 years old P6
3 In an online relationship P6
4 1st year college student P6

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5 BSBA P6
1 Millenial P6
2 Almost 8 months. P6
3 *Giggles*Ako. P6
4 Nakit-an ko la hiya ha Facebook… tapos akon gi sendan P6

ug friend request *smiles*


5 Ev’ry charot every---…*laughs* Everyday. Aga, udto, P6

depende kun online hiya, online ako.


6 Inspiration. Kay hiya man nagbubulig ha ak bisan hiya P6

ada bisan online la sige geap hiya akon chat na sugad

ini pagskwela tarong sugad iton. So inspiration liwat hiya.


7 Syempre, actual gihapon. Kay mamiling kaman presence P6

talaga sa usa ka tawo diri la kay online.


8 Oo, everyday…charot! Kay syempre nasanay ka naman P6

na hiya imo kachat, pag mag good morning…ganun hito.


9 Oo. P6
10 Diri. Diri talaga. Kay amo lagi eto. Di ka maaram kun P6

proket nagkachat la kamo…*pauses* basta. Diri kasi

tanan nga time na online ang inyong pag date kay may

time talaga na mamiling ka hin kaistorya mo talaga ya

magkita face to face kamo, magkita kamo talaga,

makaptan mo hiya through flesh sugad hito kaya diri gud

ha online. Pero kun LDR talaga kamo online is okay

nana.
11 Kay facebook man hiya nagkaada… Waray man hiya P6

instagram, waray man hiya twitter.


12 Oo. Kay didto man nagtikang tanan. P6
13 *Stutters* Oo kun kilala mo na it personal, diri kun di mu P6

ya kilala kay kuri man hin mag trust sa usa ka tawo kay

bangin poser ganun. Kun kilala mo na hiya pwede ka

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naman online nala basta nakit-an mon a hiya.

Informant : Participant 7

Session Number :7

Date : February 12, 2019

Time Started : 0920H

Time Ended : 0923H

Duration : 3 minutes, 12 seconds

Location : Naval State University, College of Education Building

Interviewed by : Mary Rose S. Sorrilla

Transcribed by : Mary Rose S. Sorrilla

Reviewed by : Maria Leanne A. Pancito

Line

Number Responses Code


1 Babae P7
2 22 years old P7
3 In an online relationship P7
4 1st year college student P7
5 BSBA- 2A. Nag-eskwela ko sa Naval State University P7
6 Millenial P7
1 God *thinking* Wa nako kasabot pila to *laughs* Mga 2 P7

years? *laughs* Oo.

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2 Siya. P7
3 Wala lang [ano] hing chat lang siya. P7
4 Everyday *nods* Morning usahay pero pag [ano] P7

makatulog ug sayo so usahay walay gabii. Pero everyday

gyud, wa gyud nay adlaw na [ano]. Oo.


5 *thinking* Both ra *nods* Pwede sag, same as [kuan] P7

kasi mi [kanang], diba pag ing-ana parehas sa akoa, di

pod kasi na siya hindrance sa akoa kay katigo man pod

ko, murag [ano] ba, mu balance balance, sa dating ug sa

[kuan]. Oo, inspiration sad.


6 Actual relationship. P7
7 Oo *nods* Oo, always *smiles* P7
8 Yes! Huh? *giggles* Pwede di ra nako iingon? *smiles* P7
9 Depende. Kay what if di diay siya seryoso, unya ako P7

seryoso, unya siya dili, dili gyud ma successful ba. Oo,

unya sa online ra baya.


10 Depende lang pod. Depend ra man gyud nas inyong P7

[kuan] inyohang duha. Whether ma online or ma [kuan],

kung seryoso gyud, seryoso gyud mo.


11 Yes! *smiles* Kay diba kay kung bisag through online ra P7

ug kana na siya na tawo gihatag ni God sa imo, mahimo

gyud nang [bali] matinuod gyud nang relationship ninyo

bisag through online lang siya.


12 Ah *thinking* paras ako, kung [kuan] pwede ra sad sa P7

online kay murag ug sa relationship, safe siya kay diba

layo sa temtasyon kaysa gyud sa actual gyud na [ano]

relationship. Pero mao nay ingon na limit limit lang pod

ta, kay di pod raba ta makasabot sa panahon.


Informant : Participant 8

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Session Number :8

Date: : February 7, 2019

Time Started : 1932H

Time Ended : 1938H

Duration : 6 minutes and 31 seconds

Location : Naval State University COED Building

Interviewed by : Samantha Grace R. Vidal

Transcribed by : Samantha Grace R. Vidal

Reviewed by : Hanah Mae B. Arsolon

Line Response Code

Number
1 Lalaki P8
2 22 years old P8
3 In an online relationship P8
4 A student from Naval State University P8
5 Millenial P8
1 Not online just…met him accidentally. It was a party in NSU P8

which is “Acquaintance Party” last year since my

acquaintance party that time was so depressing and very

stressed kay akong friends didto nag-away mi that time so

nag decide ko na akong mga kauban na classmate

manggawas mi mag goodvibes mi so nameet ko na ang

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lalaki, taga Almeria…charot!
2 Nagchat mi… few days after… [mga] October o November. P8
3 Mga… five months. P8
4 Siya. P8
5 Starting from morning then evening because he’s free in P8

those times.
6 Every minute P8
7 First of all, inspiration, but definitely in the last…ah lately P8

hindrance na
8 Involve na ag money P8
9 No P8
10 *Pauses* Actual. Kasi gusto ko ma… Oh my god… P8

experience ang actual kasi since ano lang naman eh kung

hindi, hanggang ano cellphone cellphone lang. I want to

experience actual.
11 No. Some of them *laughs*areano na… hindrance nas P8

akoa ha katikang ha umpisa okay lang pero pag tagal-tagal

na kung dili na.


12 No. Because dili I think.*inconsistent mumbling* P8
13 *Pau1es* Sometimes…I-express akong feelings with ano P8

lang… to chat, something like that but in actual I’m really

shy.
14 Uh *pauses* Yes, in other way but…ano ba…it depends P8

nalang sa tawo kung gusto ha akon *coughs* okay siya

pero depende ragyud sa tawo


15 Yes na-enjoy ko. Kay sa online madali ko masabi ako gusto P8

[nafeel] tapos di ako nahihiya. Kung actual naulaw ako.

Informant : Participant 9

Session Number :9

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Date : February 17, 2019

Time Started : 1824H

Time Ended : 1829H

Duration : 5 minutes, 55 seconds

Location : Naval State University, College of Education Building

Interviewed by : Hanah Mae B. Arsolon

Transcribed by : Hanah Mae B. Arsolon

Reviewed by : Adrian Paul B. Diongzon

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Number Responses Code


1 Babae P9
2 22 years old P9
3 In an online relationship P9
4 1st year college student P9
5 Bachelor of Science and Business Administration P9
6 Millenial P9
1 [Kuan, kanang] Almost *thinking* 1 year and 3 months, P9

pero [kuan] gyud siya [kanang] di siya ingon na [kuan]

permamente mi [kanang] two months murag di mi [kuan]

maayog communication munang nay usahay na

magbuwag me for pila ka months. So mga *thinking* 7

months nalang siguro.


2 [Kuan] Siya. Oo. P9
3 Gi reto siya sa [kuan] iyang barkada. Iyang barkada nag P9
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[kuan], kaila mi sa iyang barkada, unya iyang barkada

ang nagpaila-ila niya sa akoa. Unya sunod ato, nag chat

chat nami.
4 [Kuan] Kanang pag vacant. Buntag, udto, then [kuan] P9

hapon, then gabii pod.


5 Oo *smiles* [Kuan] siya [kanang] makahatag siyag P9

inspiration sa akoa unya [kanang] murag ganahan gyud

ka pag eskwela kay naa siya. Unya pirme mo mag

communicate ing ana. Pero pag mag-away pod hinoon

pod mo, wan a pod hinoon kay gana mueskwela ing ana

*laughs*
6 Actually, nagtrabaho na ni siya bale mangutana nala ni P9

siya sa akong mga assignments pero dili nako i-open up

sa iyaha kay w man pod siya kasabot. Ako ra man nang

problema.
7 [Kuan, kanang] Nagkauyab mi ana unya nanrabaho man P9

siya ug Manila so mao tong murag [kuan] ang among

[kanang] communication, online nalang.


8 Oo, naexcite ko *smiles* Unya kilig *giggles* P9
9 Maybe? *giggles* Dili sang ko makaingon karon na P9

murag [kuan] successful na gyud na siya kay [kuan] man

[kanang] unsa na? Taas pa baya ang panahon unya wa

pa ta kasabot, wa baya’y forever *laughs* Di bitaw

*laughs* Di pa ko katubag ana, exactly ba, kay [kuan]

baya.
10 [Kuan, kanang] Dili ko ganahan ug Facebook Facebook P9

lag, ganahan ko ug tawag pirme. Damo kasig [kuan] sa

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Facebook. Daghag kachat na lain *giggles* Well, para sa

akoa, mas ganahan ko mag tawag tawag ra mi.


11 [Kuan, kanang] Dili. Kay nay manloloko sa [kanang] P9

through chat chat lang, dili ko mutuo ana.


12 Uhm. Maybe *laughs* Maybe ra gyud akong matubag P9

ana kay [kanang kuan] dili man gyud ko makaingon na

makarecommend gyud sa inyoha kay [kuan] raba.

Informant : Participant 10

Session Number : 10

Date : February 17, 2019

Time Started : 1920H

Time Ended : 1925H

Duration : 4 minutes, 45 seconds

Location : Naval State University, College of Education Building

Interviewed by : Hanah Mae B. Arsolon

Transcribed by : Hanah Mae B. Arsolon

Reviewed by : Adrian Paul B. Diongzon

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Number Responses Code

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1 Babae P10
2 27 years old P10
3 From Looc, Culaba, Biliran P10
4 Naval State University Student P10
5 Millenial P10
1 *giggles* Anay la, pila ba adto? *thinking* Umm 5 P10

months? 5 months.
2 Siya, unang ning message sa akoa *smiles* P10
3 Yeah, akon [ano] akon sangkay, siya nagpaila-ila ha P10

amon.
4 *thinking* Every minute gani *giggles* [Ano] Aga hantod P10

basta permamente [ano] kung ningkaon ka na ba, ana.


5 *giggles* Inspiration *laughs* Syempe kay [ano] kung P10

pursige ka, ingon an aba. Halimbawa karon nag-eskwela

ko kay tungod man pod sa ilaha, mao nang ningbalik ko

pageskwela, mao na akong inspirasyon.


6 Oo. [Ano] Sometimes lang. Musupport man pod siya sa P10

akoa.
7 *thinking* Actual, siguro *giggles* [Ano] Kasi kung actual, P10

makilatis mo dayon ang isa ka tawo kaysa sa online.


8 *laughs* Oo gad kay dira gani ko naka[ano] *laughs* P10
9 Oo, kay nagdugay gani mi *smiles* P10
10 *thinking* Murag pareha man. [Ano] man ang personal, P10

imo mang, siyempre di man gyud nimo anay makilatis

ang us aka tawo kung diri kamo magkita, pareha pod mo

ana sa online. Dapat magkita man anay mo bago mo

makilala ang us aka tawo *smiles*


11 Para akon yana na henerasyon, diri maupay kay kasi P10

damo na bitaw [kanang] nahihinabo nga diri maupay sa

mga kabatan-an ba yana sa online. Di raba nila kilatis

kaupay.

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12 *giggles* Oo gad liwat. Kay [ano] mga sweet na mga P10

[ano] la [kanang] sweet messages, ingana ba. *giggles*

Halimbawa kung mag meet mo ani, tapos kung unsay

inyong buhaton *giggles* Basta amo la adto *smiles*

FORMULATION OF CORE MEANINGS

PARTICIPANT 1

SIGNIFICANT STATEMENTS FORMULATED MEANINGS

(5 years) Their relation lasts long because they are

5 years sincere to each other.

P1: SS1 FM1


(Uhm akong kachat. Usa siya ka Military

Navy. Half American, Half Filipino siya.

Actually ning uli siya kadtong [kuan]

December.) The participant did not hesitate to introduce

her partner, she is a proud partner.

My chat-mate approached me first. His

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name is Marco Angelo. He’s a half

Filipino, half American and he’s in the FM2

Navy.

P1: SS2
([Kuan,kanang] Siya may ning-approach sa

akoa, nag “Hi”, “Hello” *giggles*. Yes, Started with a common conversation.

siya’y unang ning chat unya mao rato.)

He first approached me through chat.

We started to greet each other with hi’s

and hello’s. FM3

P1: SS3
(Always gyud. Oo. Dili lang kada gabii, ug

naa ko diri magtawag ug basta, always Living everyday is not complete without

gyud siya.) communicating with each other.

We always communicate. Not only

during evening, whether it be in school, FM4

morning till noon; always

P1: SS4
([Kuan] Video chat? Sa akong birthday

video chat unya Valentine’s Day, video

chat kay layo man gyud.

Friends ra to sa una unya mga 6 months

sa siya nag sige ug panguyab unya kay iya

gyung gi prove na bisag online ra, dili siya

ingon na pareha sa ubang laki.)

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Video chat always-- On my birthday, on Slowly becoming one’s special someone.

valentine’s day. We don’t have a choice Making sure that each one will not miss to

because of the distance. We were greet each other during one’s special day.

friends at first, and he started courting

me after 6 months. He proved that even

though we only met each other online,

he isn’t like other men. For me, online

dating is an inspiration because of how FM5

it motivates me.

P1: SS5
(Oo, oo, oo labaw na. Mutabang gad siya

*giggles* Unya Navy man siya di siya

usahay [kakuan] sa akong education, pero Her partner accepts and helps her in every

musupport lang gihapon siya sa akoa.) aspect of her life may it be in her

Yes, and he also helps with my education.

homework. Because he’s in the Navy,

he’s especially helpful in ROTC.

P1: SS6 FM6


(Para sa among sitwasyon? Siguro, real

life? Oo, kay maexpress man nimo kung

unsa gyud, makita sad niya kung unsa

gyud ka love nimo ang usa ka tawo.

Okay ra pod nuon siya, bisag layo, Even having a good relationship through

agwanta lang gud. Trust.) online, she also prefers having a real life

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I prefer dating in real life, because you date. She’s determined in their relation as

can express your love and the amount long as trust and endurance are there

of love that you have for a person is

shown, but online dating is okay too. FM7

Trust and endurance is all that it takes

P1: SS7
(Syempre *laughs* Oo para sa ako oo

*nods* kay ako I have two kids na unya two

years name unya nagplano siya na muuli She’s romantically excited that she has

karong June. Ambot lang, wa ko kasabot someone out there who’s willing to

basin, wa ko kasabot lage *smiling* embrace her life.

Maybe? *laughs*)

Of course, yes. I already have two kids,

and our relationship has been going on

for a very long time, and my partner is FM8

planning to come home this June.

P1: SS8
(Dili, dili. Lisod kay dili ka dapat mutrust

dayon sa tawo.) Don’t want to trust that easily.

No, because it’s hard. You shouldn’t

trust anybody immediately FM9

P1: SS9
(Oo *nodding* Pwede. Pwede muchat

online although ayaw gyud pagtrust dayon Without hesitation she recommends it and

sa us aka tawo. More on imo sa siyang ila gave some advises towards trust issues.

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ilahon pag ayo bisag online ra.)

Yes, of course, but don’t just trust

anyone immediately. Be sure to know a FM10

person thoroughly first even if it’s only

online.

P1: SS10
(Inspiration siguro paras akoa. *cringe* Oo

kay ma motivate man ko. Ako 29 nako,

siya is 45, diba? Unya gusto ko

mugraduate kay professional baya siya.

Oo, so ako pod, kinahanglan maniguro ko

para ma professional pod ko parehas Romantically excited confess that he is her

iyaha.) inspiration towards her education.

For me, maybe he is an inspiration, yes

because he motivates me. I am 29 years

old and he is 45, see? In this situation, I

am really motivated to be able to FM11

graduate because he is already a

professional. In my part there is also a

need for me to be a professional like

him.

P1: SS11
PARTICIPANT 2

SIGNIFICANT STATEMENT FORMULATED MEANINGS


Talking about really dating, well it’s not
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actually dating, it’s just something like He was straight-forward for what he

“char-char” or something, when I have fun forementioned. He enjoys the company of

conversation with someone else. Even having to talk to someone else whether

though di mi related or di nako kaila. he does know the person or otherwise.

Talking about really dating, well it’s

not actually dating, it’s just something

like “char-char” or something, when I

have fun conversation with someone

else. Even though we’re not related or FM12

I don’t know them personally.

P2:SS12
Murag wa man siya niabot ug 1 year. I

think mga a month lang or 2 months like He mentioned about how long have they

that. been dating online. The interviewee was

I suppose it didn’t go as far as 1 year. muddled for a second. He was quite

Maybe 1 month or 2, something like unsure about the months.

that. FM13

P2:SS13
In terms of “approach-approach” [kanang]

ako kasi ang tipo na tawo na [kanang] dili

mahilig makipag conversation sa tawong

di nako kaila but then pag nay mu “hi”,

“hi” lang pod. Chika- chika lang pero mao Precise and unambiguous approach. He

to siya. Siya gad talaga muuna pero was getting numerical in explaining as he

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sometimes ako man pod pero dili talaga was stating who initiates first.

as in 40% ako 60% siya.

In terms of approaching [um] I’m the

type of person who’s [um] not fond of

initiating a conversation to those

people I don’t personally know but

then again if someone says “hi”, I’d

reply in return. We chat along. But FM14

most of the time he initiates the

chatting like 40% me and 60% him in

percentage.

P2:SS14
Aw kuan, syempre, online man. “Taga

saan ka?”, syempre, lisod sad ug mag They knew each other in the cyberspace.

date-date ta diri’g ato la no? He was getting a bit irrelevant .He

It’s online, of course. “Where do you seemed to be preoccupied when he

live?” It’s hard to just date on your answered.

own, you know.

P2:SS15 FM15
Aw dili oy. [kanang] Murag sabot mo kaila

man mo aning “NearGroup”. Ay! *laughs* Albert jokingly shared about Near Group

NearGroup, my god! Ana na. and he was sort of passive sharing it.

Oh, no. [um] We all know

“NearGroup”. *Jokingly says

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NearGroup* Ahh! *laughs* NearGroup,

oh my god FM16

P2:SS16
Gabii usahay mga hapon Certain and established when answering

Often at night, seldom in the this part.

afternoon.

P2:SS17 FM17
When you talk about the studies, it’s not

actually hindrance but an inspiration.

Because when we talk about love naa

gyud kay pinaghugotan sa iya. Para sa His voice whilst explaining was quite a bit

ako ang akong purpose lang gyud ato kay charged. He directed the message like he

having fun lang ba, [basta] way lingaw. would acknowledge his online date when

he got no one to talk to but in a good way.

When you talk about the studies, it’s

not actually a hindrance but an

inspiration. Because when we talk

about love there’s a feeling of

attachment. In my defense, my FM18

purpose of acknowledging him was

just a sort of fun when I get bored. (In

a good way)

P2:SS18
Dili. Muingon lang ko nga [kanang] first

year college lang ko pero di ko muingon He was getting defensive and stood for

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na stress ko run. his core beliefs that he doesn’t need help

No. I’d say [um] I’m a first year college when doing his academic errands.

student but I don’t say innuendos like

I’m stressed (this day). FM19

P2:SS19
Dili. Abi palang weak ta. Aw?! *Jokingly He wanted to stress that he’s not weak in

says “Aw?!”* doing his academic errands. He jokingly

No. They might say I’m weak. Aw?! said what he said.

*Jokingly says “Aw?!”*

P2:SS20 FM20
Obviously actual gud talaga.

Obviously I prefer actual (dating). Admitted directly.

P2:SS21 FM21
We can’t [really] trust people online He mentioned about not trusting people in

[easily]. the cyberspace easily. He was quite a bit

We can’t [really] trust people online ceremonious when he pitched the

[easily]. answer.

P2:SS2

FM22
Absolutely, yes! Loud and certain when “yes” was said.

Absolutely, yes!

P2:SS23 FM23
Ah well, nowadays, easy na gud talaga He was bothered by the fact that it is now

siya. Kay alam mo na communicate lang easy to be involved in online dating even

bisag dili kasaligang tawo. to those people who doesn’t know each

Ah well, nowadays, it’s easy to date other personally.

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online. You know, some people tend to

communicate with total strangers. FM24

P2:SS24
Dili. Dili gud talaga labi nag [kanang] dili

talaga mo actual gud talaga nagkita. Dili He addressed the concernment of how

talaga. Muabot sa time na “Wa rare it would be to have a successful

na!”…”You can’t repy to this relationship online. He was quite a bit

conversation” wala na. Diba? impassive in answering this and sort of

No. Especially when you haven’t really didn’t reveal much of what he felt.

seen each other. There will come a

time where it’s done and you don’t

chat each other anymore. FM2

P2:SS25
I can’t really force them to be involved in

this online dating. It’s up to them. Kung He was auspicious about following what

asa ta malipay didto ta. they desire. He directed it like he was

I can’t really force them to be involved obligating.

in this online dating. It’s up to them. If

that’s what makes us happy then we’d

follow what we desire FM26

P2:SS26
Oo gad, Enjoy gad.

Yes, Of course! The certainty of his answer was

P2:SS2 captivating

FM27

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PARTICIPANT 3

SIGNIFICANT STATEMENTS FORMULATED MEANINGS

(*thinking* 4 months?) Took a while before he answered.

4 months

P3:SS28 FM28
(Siya.) Proudly admits who approached first.

He approached me first through chat

P3:SS29 FM29
(Through *thinking* chat. Ning approach ra His partner was the one who drew his

gyud siya. Yeah.) attention towards him.

We only met each other through chat.

He really chatted me first

P3:SS30 FM30
(Everyday *thinking* Morning man sa ilaha

pag night ari so. Taga Belgium man siya.)

We communicate everyday, but we live Different time zones were not hindrances

in different time zones because he’s on their communication daily.

from Belgium. Chat with him at night

here in the Philippines, because it’s FM31

morning there

P3:SS31
(In somewhat inspiration. Academics? Dili

man. Di pod ko muingon na inspiration

because depende ra man na sa tawo kung One’s opinion is the main basis on how to

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[kuan] ka. But for me, it’s not.) handle a relationship.

It’s an inspiration for me in terms of

studies, but it all depends in the person

if they know how to manage. FM32

P3:SS32
(No. It’s personal.)

I don’t open up on school related things Hesitant on sharing his personal business.

to my online date, because it’s personal.

P3:SS33 FM33
(I prefer both of them? Kay [kay] kaning

online man kay is a platform of

communication, so in somewhat way kung He considered both type of dating because

magkaila mo online may possibility na there are possibilities that people who meet

magkaila pod mo sa personal, but prefer online are likely to meet in person

nako both.)

I prefer both, because online dating is a

platform of communication. In some

way, if you meet someone online, FM34

there’s a chance that you’d meet each

other in person.

P3:SS34
(Yes! Kay *thinking* love is no all about

[kaning] it’s either personal communication

or [kanang] it’s a feeling anyway so, mafeel Feeling certain that love isn’t just through

ra nimo siya. actual communication but it also involves

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Yes, of course. Love isn’t about actual how one is feeling.

communication. You just feel that you

love someone if you get to know them

properly through chat or otherwise. FM35

P3:SS35
(No. May times na, syempre di man gyud

[kaning] online, may time na magbinuwa

siya, may time na dili puro *thinking* pero

[kaning] okay ra man pod siya *smiles* Kay

may privacy pod ka, may privacy pod ka Having uncertainty of trusting somebody

so.) because he can’t spare all his time for him.

No, because there’s gonna be that time

where he’s untruthful and he won’t

update you all the time. But it’s okay FM36

because I get my privacy and he gets

his privacy.

P3:SS36
(Dili pod ko maka-recommend *laughs

slightly* because [kuan, kaning] optional

kasi siya. Kung imo ng irecommend so He considered first on how people adapt

dapat man [kaning] evidence ka ana ana. and how people will handle having an

So I prefer not to [kuan], but depende sa online relationship.

person.)

I can’t recommend, because it’s

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optional. It depends on the person if FM37

he/she can adapt.

P3:SS37
(Di ko makaingon because life is a long

process. So, di ko makaingon na kami

talaga, but kung kami, kami talaga.) Uncertain of their future depending on their

I can’t say it’s successful because life is situation right now.

a long process. I can’t say for certain

that we’ll end up with one another, but I

would like it to be that way. FM38

P3:SS38
(Yes! I enjoy. *smiles* Kay [kuan] naenjoy

ko kay somewhat [kaning] *thinking* happy

ko tungod sa iya, ana. Feeling energized, positive and happy

Oo gad! *smiles* Kay di man ko nega.) because of his partner.

Yes, I’m enjoying it. I’m happy because

of him, and I’m happy because we’re

dating. FM39

P3:SS39

PARTICIPANT 4
SIGNIFICANT STATEMENT FORMULATED MEANINGS
It’s been [2.01 sec/s] 10 months. Slightly paused but certain.

It’s been [2.01 sec/s] 10 months.

P4:SS40 FM40

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Siyempre akong uyab. He was sure that her partner was the one

Siyempre akong uyab. who approached first.

P4:SS41 FM41
*Stutters* Through messenger nagkataon

lang pod ba na tapos ning gamit akong… She was unaware that the boy sent a

ang akong classmate ug messenger nako message to her whilst her classmate was

nakichat siya tapos wala ko kasabot na using her messenger. Their acquaintance

muchat diay siyas ako. was unanticipated.

*Stutters* Through messenger. My

classmate used my messenger and by FM42

chance he sent me a message without

my knowledge.

P4:SS42
Oo. Murag siyay bridge ba. She was slightly hesitant when telling that

Yes. My classmate was somehow the her classmate was somehow the bridge.

bridge.

P4:SS43 FM43
Everyday. *Giggles* Precise and proud. They tend to keep in

Everyday. *Giggles* touch by chatting everyday.

P4:SS44 FM44
Kadalasan man gyud kay hapon. Tapos Feeling impassive. She explains even if

gabii kay mao raman iyang free time they don’t chat in a full scale, they tend to

Often in the afternoon and in the at least chat in between like free time.

evening since those times are his free

time.

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P4:SS45 FM45
Oo *nods* Oo, always *smiles* She was romanticized when she

Yes, always. answered.

P4:SS46 FM46
Depende. Kay what if di diay siya

seryoso, unya ako seryoso, unya siya dili, She tackled about the downside of having

dili gyud ma successful ba. Oo, unya sa a relationship online. She said it’s most

online ra baya. likely to fail if only one is doing effort.

It depends, because there’s always the

chance of breaking up. We can’t

predict the future. FM47

P4:SS47
Depende lang pod. Depend era man gyud

nas inyong [kuan] inyohang duha. She emphasized that no matter how

Whether ma online or ma [kuan], kung romantic your relationship is whether

seryoso gyud, seryoso gyud mo. online or actual, if you’re with each other

It depends, because even if you’re and respect and be loyal, it’ll work, for

dating online or in real life, you’re sure.

going to have a good relationship if

you’re serious with each other.

P4:SS48 FM48
Yes! *smiles* Kay diba kay kung bisag

through online ra ug kana na siya na tawo She wanted to stress that if you’re meant

gihatag ni God sa imo, mahimo gyud to be then God will always find a way to

nang [bali] matinuod gyud nang your innuendos and pave you to each

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relationship ninyo bisag through online other’s.

lang siya.

Yes, even if you met online, if God

gave you that person, your relationship

will eventually become real.

P4:SS49 FM49
Ah *thinking* paras ako, kung [kuan]

pwede ra sad sa online kay murag ug sa

relationship, safe siya kay diba layo sa

temtasyon kaysa gyud sa actual gyud na She uttered that it’s safe to say that online

[ano] relationship. Pero mao nay ingon na relationship could somehow be the choice

limit limit lang pod ta, kay di pod raba ta but but we should know boundaries.

makasabot sa panahon.

For me, yes. I’d recommend it. Online

is much safer, because temptation is

farther on a virtual platform compared

to an actual relationship, but we FM50

should limit ourselves on either one,

because we’re still students.

P4:SS50
Yes, na-enjoy ra nako ang process She loved the idea of chatting and having

*giggles* online relationship. She smiled when she

Yes, I did enjoy the process *giggles* uttered the answer.

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P4:SS51 FM51

PARTICIPANT 5
SIGNIFICANT STATEMENT FORMULATED MEANINGS
Kanang di pa mi uyab? *thinking* mga 1 Hesitated to answer directly.

month? Yes.

1 month. FM52

SS52
Siyempre siya *giggles* Proudly admits who approached first.

He approached me first.

SS53 FM53
Yeah, nay bridge *laughs* Mao to siya

human ning ingon siya kay kuya na

namiling kuno siyag babaye na [kanang]

unsa na? Church-oriented ba, buotan

kuno charot *laughs* Iya kong gi add sa

Facebook, unya nagutana si kuya sa ako

kung naa bay nag add sa akoa sa Told the story on how they met and how

Facebook, muto wa ko ka [kuan] ka they ended up chatting online without

bantay ba mutong pag [kuan] mutong hesitation. There are no secrets that are

nangutana ko kung kinsa. Tapos hidden because she proudly stated what

nangutana ko sa pangalan *giggles* happened.

mutong ako siyang giaccept. Tapos ning

chat siya sa akoa ug “Hello”, ningreply ko FM54

*giggles*

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Yeah, someone introduced us. Then he

told my Kuya that he likes good

women who always go to church, and

he immediately thought of me—I was

that type of girl. He sent me a friend

request on Facebook, then I’ve

accepted it, then he chatted and said

“Hello” then I replied.

SS54
Kada adlaw kung may signal. *laughs*

[Kuan] Kahuman sa iyang duty. Seaman They are committed with their relationship

man siya. because they always keep in touch with

each other.

We communicate everyday. We chat

after he finishes his shift, because he’s FM55

a Seaman, we only communicate

during his vacant time.

SS55
[Kuan] oy, inspiration. *giggles* Siyempre

maganahan tag eskwela. Inspired Feeling inspired, loved and happy. Always

*smiling* I feel so loved. Yeah, so loved, motivated in class because of her

my happiness *laughs* partner’s love.

He’s an inspiration for me. Of course

he makes me want to finish my FM56

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studies. I get inspired and motivated in

class, because I feel happiness and

love.

SS56
Oo kay mangutana man siya. Muana man

siya sa ako “Paniguro ug eskwela”.

Yes because he often asks me about Feeling motivated to go to school and

the things happening in school and he finish her studies.

also motivates me.

SS57 FM57
Pwede ra both. *laughs* Pero mas

ganahan kog actual, pero wa may choice

kay trabaho baya. Unsure of her thoughts because there are

I prefer both actual and online, but in no other choices and options, but still

our relationship, we really have to chat. wants an actual relationship.

We don’t have a choice, because he

has to work. FM58

SS58
Oo oy *giggles* kay diha gyud na

nagsugod, naunsa ba *romantic Romantically excited while finding love

excitement* [Kuan] nalipay kuno siya kay online. Felt happy when she knew the

nakaila kuno siyas akoa charot *smiles* reason why her partner is in love with her.

Yes, I believe that I can find love

online, because it all started there. FM59

SS59

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Yes! Siyempre, [kuan] man mi [kanang

unsa na?] kay magcommunicate mi Opens up everything to each other and

pirme. communicate always.

Yes, I believe that our relationship is

successful. We just have to FM60

communicate always.

SS60
Sa akoa, okay lang. Okay lang siya kay

no choice man. Pero mas angayan kung

actual gud. Facebook kay mao may uso. Unsure of her feelings towards having

Mao may pinaka common. what kind of relationship she really wants.

For me, it’s okay to look for a Having no other options onto what kind

relationship on facebook, but it’s better

if it’s actual. We met on Facebook FM61

because it’s the social media platform

we had in common.

SS61
Ila ila lang ba kay sa online, di man gyud

sigurado kay siyempre, yah, pwede ra

makapamuwa. Feeling doubtful because of her partner’s

Not every person you met online is inconsistency of telling the truth.

sincere, so we should know the person

we’re chatting first. FM62

SS62
Oo gad! *laughs* Kilig sa iyang gipang

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chat sa akoa *smiles* Feeling romantically excited because of

Yes, of course I enjoy it, because I love her partner’s sweet messages.

his sweet messages. FM63

SS63

PARTICIPANT 6
SIGNIFICANT STATEMENT FORMULATED MEANINGS
Almost 8 months. Answered without hesitation.

SS64 FM64
*Giggles*Ako. Feeling ashamed and took a risk to make

I approached first. the first move.

SS65 FM65
Nakit-an ko la hiya ha Facebook… tapos

akon gi sendan ug friend request *smiles* Desperate for love.

I saw his account on Facebook and I

sent a friend request. FM66

SS66
Ev’ry charot every---…*laughs* Everyday.

Aga, udto, depende kun online hiya, Hesitated to answer the question at first,

online ako. but then eventually shared after and

We communicate everyday. We always became romantically excited.

chat when we’re both online. FM67

SS67
Inspiration. Kay hiya man nagbubulig ha

ak bisan hiya ada bisan online la sige

geap hiya akon chat na sugad ini There is an existing feeling of proudness

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pagskwela tarong sugad iton. So because her partner is always motivating

inspiration liwat hiya. her to go to school and finish her studies.

He’s an inspiration for me, because he

helps me. He always gives me advice FM68

and tells me to study hard.

SS68
Syempre, actual gihapon. Kay mamiling

kaman presence talaga sa usa ka tawo

diri la kay online. Longing for an actual relationship.

Of course, still actual, because you still

want his presence, not just by chatting. FM69

SS69
Oo, everyday…charot! Kay syempre

nasanay ka naman na hiya imo kachat, Feeling excited and enthusiastic while

pag mag good morning…ganun hito. chatting. Feeling very important because

Yes. I enjoy, because we chat of the partner’s sweet messages and

everyday. I’m used to always chatting greetings.

with him—each morning, noon, or

afternoon, there’s someone greeting FM70

me, and I enjoy it.

SS70
Diri. Diri talaga. Kay amo lagi eto. Di ka

maaram kun porket nagkachat la kamo…

*pauses* basta. Diri kasi tanan nga time

na online ang inyong pag date kay may

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time talaga na mamiling ka hin kaistorya No doubts about the question and directly

mo talaga ya magkita face to face kamo, answered it. Feeling certain of her stand if

magkita kamo talaga, makaptan mo hiya it is easier to have a relationship through

through flesh sugad hito kaya diri gud ha Facebook.

online.

It isn’t easy on Facebook, because he FM71

doesn’t always find time for you,

because there are times that he’s

doing something else and he’s offline

because of it. There’s always the time

where you look for his presence—

you’d prefer to speak face to face

rather than talking online.

SS71
Yes! Siyempre, [kuan] man mi [kanang

unsa na? kay magcommunicate mi pirme. Proud and sure that their relationship will

Yes, I believe that our relationship is be successful.

successful. We just have to

communicate always. FM72

SS72
Kay facebook man hiya nagkaada…

Waray man hiya instagram, waray man Being dependent on her partner.

hiya twitter.

Yes, because he only has Facebook FM73

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account. He doesn’t have Instagram or

Twitter.

SS73
Oo. Kay didto man nagtikang tanan. Very certain on her feelings the people

Yes, because we met online. can find love online.

SS74 FM74
*Stutters* Oo kun kilala mo na it personal,

diri kun di mu ya kilala kay kuri man hin

mag trust sa usa ka tawo kay bangin Reluctant in trusting someone because of

poser ganun. Kun kilala mo na hiya being unsure of partner’s personality.

pwede ka naman online nala basta nakit-

an mon a hiya. FM75

It depends on the situation. Yes, I

recommend online dating if you know

the person you’re dating personally.

But if you met each other online, it’s

harder to trust the person you’re

dating.

SS75

PARTICIPANT 7
SIGNIFICANT STATEMENT FORMULATED MEANINGS
God *thinking* Wa nako kasabot pila to

*laughs* Mga 2 years? *laughs* Oo. Uncertain.

2 years. FM76

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SS76
Siya.

He approached me first. Direct to the point.

SS77 FM77
Wala lang [ano] hing chat lang siya. The partner initially directed a chat

He just suddenly sent a message – no towards the girl. He’s the one who seems

reference, no mutual friend. to be interested on her.

SS78 FM78

Everyday *nods* Morning usahay pero

pag [ano] makatulog ug sayo so usahay

walay gabii. Pero everyday gyud, wa gyud Feeling proud and certain.

nay adlaw na [ano]. Oo.

We communicate everyday. Not a day FM79

goes by that we don’t talk.

SS79
*thinking* Both ra *nods* Pwede sag,

same as [kuan] kasi mi [kanang], diba pag

ing-ana parehas sa akoa, di pod kasi na There is uncertainty of feelings at first, but

siya hindrance sa akoa kay katigo man eventually became sure of his partner as

pod ko, murag [ano] ba, mu balance an inspiration.

balance, sa dating ug sa [kuan]. Oo,

inspiration sad. FM80

For me it’s an inspiration, because I

know how to balance dating and

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studies.

SS80
Actual relationship. Very certain and straight to the point.

SS81 FM81
Oo *nods* Oo, always *smiles Romantically excited because she enjoys

Yes, always. dating online.

SS82 FM82
Depende. Kay what if di diay siya

seryoso, unya ako seryoso, unya siya dili, Feeling uncertain of what will happen next

dili gyud ma successful ba. Oo, unya sa and has a lack of trust to her partner

online ra baya. because the having an online relationship

It depends, because there’s always the is unpredictable.

chance of breaking up. We can’t

predict the future. FM83

SS83
Depende lang pod. Depend ra man gyud

nas inyong [kuan] inyohang duha. Online relationships last longer if you and

Whether ma online or ma [kuan], kung your partner are serious and committed

seryoso gyud, seryoso gyud mo. with each other regardless of all the

It depends, because even if you’re factors affecting it, including academic

dating online or in real life, you’re studies.

going to have a good relationship if

you’re serious with each other. FM84

SS84
Yes! *smiles* Kay diba kay kung bisag Belief has been shown. She states that

through online ra ug kana na siya na tawo whoever is going to be your partner is a

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gihatag ni God sa imo, mahimo gyud gift from above. Strong faith to find love

nang [bali] matinuod gyud nang was displayed.

relationship ninyo bisag through online

lang siya. FM85

Yes, even if you met online, if God

gave you that person, your relationship

will eventually become real.

SS85
Ah *thinking* paras ako, kung [kuan]

pwede ra sad sa online kay murag ug sa

relationship, safe siya kay diba layo sa Thinking the safety of the students’ own

temtasyon kaysa gyud sa actual gyud na life and academic studies because when

[ano] relationship. Pero mao nay ingon na someone’s relationship is virtual, they

limit limit lang pod ta, kay di pod raba ta cannot be tempted to do worse things.

makasabot sa panahon. Feeling doubtful of the upcoming

For me, yes. I’d recommend it. Online circumstances.

is much safer, because temptation is

farther on a virtual platform compared FM86

to an actual relationship, but we

should limit ourselves on either one,

because we’re still students.

SS86
PARTICIPANT 8

SIGNIFICANT STATEMENT FORMULATED MEANINGS


Not online just…met him accidentally. It
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was a party in NSU which is

“Acquaintance Party” last year since my

acquaintance party that time was so

depressing and very stressed kay akong

friends didto nag-away mi that time so

nag decide ko na akong mga kauban na They met in a very unexpected time,

classmate manggawas mi mag goodvibes scenario and parcel. The interviewee

mi so nameet ko na ang lalaki, taga underwent a very quite charged situation.

Almeria…charot!

Not online just…I met him

accidentally. It was a party held in NSU

which was the “Acquaintance Party”

which was set last year. My

acquaintance party that time was

depressing and very stressed because FM87

me and friends had a fight and so later

that night we decided to go out and I

met him which,[ by the way], he lives

in Almeria…

P8:SS87
Nagchat mi… few days after… [mga] They started chatting after the scenario.

October o November. He was quite a bit unsure about the exact

We chatted a few days after our month of when they really started

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acquaintance… Around October or chatting.

November.

P8:SS88 FM88
Mga… five months. Quite a bit reluctant. He stuttered. Five

Around…five months. months in relationship in the span is not

P8:SS89 quite bad.

FM89
Siya. He answered directly.

Him.

P8:SS90 FM90
Starting from morning then evening They tried to keep in touch as much as

because he’s free in those times. possible by chatting at those times.

Starting from morning then evening

because he’s free in those times. FM91

P8:SS91
Every minute. He directly answered. And was sure

Every minute. about their communication in a day.

P8:SS92 FM92
First of all, inspiration, but definitely in the He redirected what he said because it

last…[ah] lately hindrance na. used to be a healthy relationship but in

At first, inspiration, but definitely in the latter part it became unhealthy.

the latter part…[ah] he became a

hindrance. FM93

P8:SS93
Involve na ag money He was timid and it became complicated

Money was then involved. because money was later on involved.

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P8:SS94 FM94
No. Straight-forward when asked by this

No. question

P8:SS95 FM95
*Pauses* Actual. Kasi gusto ko ma… Oh

my god…experience ang actual kasi He wanted to experience a real one for

since ano lang naman eh kung hindi, the context suggests that dating online is

hanggang ano cellphone cellphone lang. I drastically different from dating in actual.

want to experience actual. The interviewee was quite a bit muddled

*Pauses* Actual [relationship]. when he was answering.

Because I want to…Oh my god…

experience the actuality since it’s all

not about using the phone and be in

relationship through it [virtual]. I want FM96

to experience actual [relationship].

P8:SS96
No. Some of them *laughs*are ano na…

hindrance nas akoa ha katikang ha He was reminded that it will eventually

umpisa okay lang pero pag tagal-tagal na fall into a conclusion or otherwise.

kung dili na.

No. Some of them *laughs* are a

hindrance to me since, at first, it is

okay and in the latter it becomes FM97

complicated.

P8:SS97

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No. Because dili I think.*inconsistent He was sure that online relationship

mumbling* would likely not be successful as it

No. Because I suppose it’s demands authenticity and time and

not.*inconsistent mumbling* loyalty.

P8:SS98

FM98
*Pauses* Sometimes…I-express akong

feelings with ano lang… to chat,

something like that but in actual I’m really He was saying that it’s seldom easy to

shy. date online because it is not wired and

*Pauses* Sometimes…I [can truly] aspect of actuality wasn’t there.

express my feelings when chatting,

something like that but in actual I’m

really shy. FM99

P8:SS99
[Uh] *pauses* Yes, in other way but…ano

ba…it depends nalang sa tawo kung He was quite a bit flustered when he

gusto ha akon *coughs* okay siya pero answered. According to him, it truly

depende ragyud sa tawo depends on the person’s desire whether

[Uh] *pauses* Yes, in other way but…it to be involved in online dating or to be in

really depends on the person *coughs* an actual relationship.

It really depends though. FM100

P8:SS100
Yes na-enjoy ko. Kay sa online madali ko He did enjoy the process of chatting and

masabi ako gusto [nafeel] tapos di ako dating someone online. He tends to share

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nahihiya. Kung actual naulaw ako. and according to him, there’s a feeling

Yes I enjoyed [having online where there’s so much story to be told

relationship]. I can easily share what I when you chat.

want to tell online and it does not

make me timid. In actual, I become FM101

bashful.

P8:SS101

PARTICIPANT 9

SIGNIFICANT STATEMENTS FORMULATED MEANINGS

([Kuan, kanang] Almost *thinking* 1 year

and 3 months, pero [kuan] gyud siya Relationship is inconsistent.

[kanang] di siya ingon na [kuan]

permamente mi [kanang] two months

murag di mi [kuan] maayog communication

munang nay usahay na magbuwag me for

pila ka months. So mga *thinking* 7 FM102

months nalang siguro.)

Almost 1 year and 3 months

P9: SS102
([Kuan] Siya. Oo. ) Her partner was the one who risked to

He approached me first approach her first.

P9: SS103 FM103


(Gi reto siya sa [kuan] iyang barkada.

Iyang barkada nag [kuan], kaila mi sa iyang

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barkada, unya iyang barkada ang nagpaila- Their mutual friend served as the gateway

ila niya sa akoa. Unya sunod ato, nag chat for filling up their basic human need.

chat nami.)

We were introduced to each other

through mutual friends, and we ended

up chatting each other afterwards.

P9: SS104 FM104


([Kuan] Kanang pag vacant. Buntag, udto,

then [kuan] hapon, then gabii pod.) Their relationship became stronger as they

On my vacant times in the morning, communicate always.

noon, and every night-- we would

communicate. FM105

P9: SS105
(Oo *smiles* [Kuan] siya [kanang]

makahatag siyag inspiration sa akoa unya Feeling inspired whenever their

[kanang] murag ganahan gyud ka pag relationship is smooth but whenever they

eskwela kay naa siya. Unya pirme mo mag have misunderstandings, they lose interest

communicate ing ana. Pero pag mag- towards their relationship.

away pod hinoon pod mo, wan a pod

hinoon kay gana mueskwela ing ana

*laughs* )

It’s an inspiration for me to study. That FM106

feeling that you want to study more

because of it and it makes you happy,

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but I lose interest in studying everytime

we fight. It’s an inspiration and a

hindrance at the same time.

P9: SS106
(Actually, nagtrabaho na ni siya bale

mangutana nala ni siya sa akong mga

assignments pero dili nako i-open up sa She considers her partner because she

iyaha kay w man pod siya kasabot. Ako ra thinks that it is out of her partner’s

man nang problema.) business.

No. Actually, he’s already working, but

he always asks me about my studies,

but I don’t open up because I don’t think

he knows what it’s about. FM107

P9: SS107
([Kuan, kanang] Nagkauyab mi ana unya

nanrabaho man siya ug Manila so mao Distance is not a hindrance in their

tong murag [kuan] ang among [kanang] relationship because they always

communication, online nalang.) communicate with each other.

When our relationship started, he went

to Manila and got a job. We always

communicate online. FM108

P9: SS108
(Oo, naexcite ko *smiles* Unya kilig Romantically excited of their relationship.

*giggles*)

Yes. I enjoy it and it excites me. FM109

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P9: SS109
(Maybe? *giggles* Dili sang ko makaingon

karon na murag [kuan] successful na gyud

na siya kay [kuan] man [kanang] unsa na?

Taas pa baya ang panahon unya wa pa ta Not sure on where their relationship is

kasabot, wa baya’y forever *laughs* Di leading.

bitaw *laughs* Di pa ko katubag ana,

exactly ba, kay [kuan] baya.)

Maybe. I still can’t say if our relationship

is successful, because we still have a FM110

long way to go, and we still don’t know

what’s in store us in the future.

P9: SS110
([Kuan, kanang] Dili ko ganahan ug

Facebook Facebook lag, ganahan ko ug

tawag pirme. Damo kasig [kuan] sa

Facebook. Daghag kachat na lain *giggles* Not satisfied on using Facebook as an

Well, para sa akoa, mas ganahan ko mag instrument of virtual communication

tawag tawag ra mi.) because of the lack of trust.

No, because I don’t like Facebook. I

prefer phone calls. I don’t trust

Facebook because he might have other FM111

chat-mates.

P9: SS111
([Kuan, kanang] Dili. Kay nay manloloko sa Feeling unsure because she believed that

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[kanang] through chat chat lang, dili ko people lie.

mutuo ana. )

I don’t believe in that, because there are

people who lie through chat FM112

P9: SS112
(Uhm. Maybe *laughs* Maybe ra gyud

akong matubag ana kay [kanang kuan] dili

man gyud ko makaingon na Uncertain of their future as a couple.

makarecommend gyud sa inyoha kay

[kuan] raba. )

No. I can’t recommend it yet, because

our relationship is not yet successful. FM113

P9: SS113

PARTICIPANT 10

SIGNIFICANT STATEMENTS FORMULATED MEANINGS

(*giggles* Anay la, pila ba adto? *thinking* Hesitant to answer at first.

Umm 5 months? 5 months.)

5 months FM114

P10:SS114
(Siya, unang ning message sa akoa She’s the one who gained the attention

*smiles*) first.

He approached me first.

P10:SS115 FM115
(Yeah, akon [ano] akon sangkay, siya

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nagpaila-ila ha amon.) A mutual friend became the ticket of their

We were introduced to each other relationship.

through mutual friends, and we ended

up chatting each other afterwards.

P10:SS116

FM116
(*thinking* Every minute gani *giggles*

[Ano] Aga hantod basta permamente [ano] Cannot complete a day without chatting

kung ningkaon ka na ba, ana.) with each other.

We communicate everyday, and not a

minute goes by that we don’t chat. FM117

P10:SS117
(*giggles* Inspiration *laughs* Syempe kay

[ano] kung pursige ka, ingon an aba. Feeling inspired to go to school because of

Halimbawa karon nag-eskwela ko kay her partner’s motivational words.

tungod man pod sa ilaha, mao nang

ningbalik ko pageskwela, mao na akong

inspirasyon.)

He’s an inspiration. Of course he makes

me want to continue my studies. I get

inspired and motivated in class, FM118

because I feel happiness and love.

P10:SS118
(Oo. [Ano] Sometimes lang. Musupport

man pod siya sa akoa.) Supports each other all the time including

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Yes, but it is not often. He also supports their academic success.

me like I do. FM119

P10:SS119
(*thinking* Actual, siguro *giggles* [Ano] Despite on having a good relationship

Kasi kung actual, makilatis mo dayon ang online, she still wants to have an actual

isa ka tawo kaysa sa online.) relationship because of the lack of trust

I prefer an actual relationship, because and understanding to her partner.

you can easily understand and know a

person if it is actual than an online one. FM120

P10:SS120
(*laughs* Oo gad kay dira gani ko Based on experience, she is certain to find

naka[ano] *laughs*) love online.

Of course, because I personally got a

boyfriend online, so I really do believe. FM121

P10:SS121
(Oo, kay nagdugay gani mi *smiles*) Confident and positive on their relationship.

Yes, because we even last this long. FM122

P10:SS122
(*thinking* Murag pareha man. [Ano] man

ang personal, imo mang, siyempre di man Unsure of having a sincere and serious

gyud nimo anay makilatis ang us aka tawo partner through online because real

kung diri kamo magkita, pareha pod mo personalities are not shown.

ana sa online. Dapat magkita man anay

mo bago mo makilala ang usa ka tawo

*smiles*)

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No, because you won’t fully know a

person without chatting with them first

for an extended period of time. Unlike in FM123

actual dating where you really get to

know a person because you’re with

them in person.

P10:SS123
(Para akon yana na henerasyon, diri

maupay kay kasi damo na bitaw [kanang] She considered what type of generation

nahihinabo nga diri maupay sa mga today and also the students’ safety.

kabatan-an ba yana sa online. Di raba nila

kilatis kaupay.)

No, because kids in this generation

know a lot about online things. They

should be careful on who they meet

online. You should know them properly FM124

and personally.

P10:SS124
(*giggles* Oo gad liwat. Kay [ano] mga

sweet na mga [ano] la [kanang] sweet

messages, ingana ba. *giggles* Halimbawa

kung mag meet mo ani, tapos kung unsay Romantically excited whenever they chat

inyong buhaton *giggles* Basta amo la because of the sweet messages that

adto *smiles* flatters her.

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Yes, I enjoy it even though it’s just

online. Eg. we send sweet messages

and flatter each other. That’s why I FM125

enjoy it.

P10:SS125

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Statement

Number
5 years. Uhm akong kachat. Usa siya ka

Military Navy. Half American, Half Filipino

siya. Actually ning uli siya kadtong [kuan]

December.

1 5 years. My chat-mate approached me 1 1-2

first. His name is Marco Angelo. He’s a

half Filipino, half American and he’s in

the Navy.

P1: SS1

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[Kuan, kanang] Siya may ning-approach sa

akoa, nag “Hi”, “Hello” *giggles*. Yes,

siya’y unang ning chat unya mao rato.

Always gyud. Oo. Dili lang kada gabii, ug

naa ko diri magtawag ug basta, always

gyud siya. [Kuan] Video chat? Sa akong

birthday video chat unya Valentine’s Day,

video chat kay layo man gyud. Friends ra

to sa una unya mga 6 months sa siya nag

sige ug panguyab unya kay iya gyung gi

prove na bisag online ra, dili siya ingon na

pareha sa ubang laki.

He first approached me through chat.

We started to greet each other with hi’s

and hello’s.

2 We always communicate. Not only

during evening, whether it be in school, 1 3-5

morning till noon; always.

Video chat always-- On my birthday, on

valentine’s day. We don’t have a choice

because of the distance. We were

friends at first, and he started courting

me after 6 months. He proved that even

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though we only met each other online,

he isn’t like other men. For me, online

dating is an inspiration because of how

it motivates me.

P1: SS2
(Oo, oo, oo labaw na. Mutabang gad siya

*giggles* Unya Navy man siya di siya

usahay [kakuan] sa akong education, pero 1 6

musupport lang gihapon siya sa akoa.)

Yes, and he also helps with my

3 homework. Because he’

s in the Navy, he’s especially helpful in

ROTC.

P1: SS3
Para sa among sitwasyon? Siguro, real

life? Oo, kay maexpress man nimo kung

unsa gyud, makita sad niya kung unsa

gyud ka love nimo ang usa ka tawo.

Okay ra pod nuon siya, bisag layo,

agwanta lang gud. Trust.

(Syempre *laughs* Oo para sa ako oo

*nods* kay ako I have two kids na unya

two years name unya nagplano siya na

4 muuli karong June. Ambot lang, wa ko 1 7-8

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kasabot basin, wa ko kasabot lage

*smiling* Maybe? *laughs*)

I prefer dating in real life, because you

can express your love and the amount

of love that you have for a person is

shown, but online dating is okay too.

Trust and endurance is all that it takes.

Of course, yes. I already have two kids,

and our relationship has been going on

for a very long time, and my partner is

planning to come home this June.

P1: SS4
Dili, dili. Lisod kay dili ka dapat mutrust

dayon sa tawo.

Oo *nodding* Pwede. Pwede muchat

online although ayaw gyud pagtrust dayon

sa us aka tawo. More on imo sa siyang ila

5 ilahon pag ayo bisag online ra. 1 9-10

No, because it’s hard. You shouldn’t

trust anybody immediately.

Yes, of course, but don’t just trust

anyone immediately. Be sure to know a

person thoroughly first even if it’s only

online.

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P1: SS5
Inspiration siguro paras akoa. *cringe* Oo

kay ma motivate man ko. Ako 29 nako,

siya is 45, diba? Unya gusto ko

mugraduate kay professional baya siya.

Oo, so ako pod, kinahanglan maniguro ko

6 para ma professional pod ko parehas 1 11

iyaha.

For me, maybe he is an inspiration, yes

because he motivates me. I am 29 years

old and he is 45, see? In this situation, I

am really motivated to be able to

graduate because he is already a

professional. In my part there is also a

need for me to be a professional like

him.

P1: SS6
Talking about really dating, well it’s not

actually dating, it’s just something like

“char-char” or something, when I have fun

conversation with someone else. Even

7 though di mi related or di nako kaila. 2 1-3

Murag wa man siya niabot ug 1 year. I

think mga a month lang or 2 months like

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that. In terms of “approach-approach”

[kanang] ako kasi ang tipo na tawo na

[kanang] dili mahilig makipag conversation

sa tawong di nako kaila but then pag nay

mu “hi”, “hi” lang pod. Chika- chika lang

pero mao to siya. Siya gad talaga muuna

pero sometimes ako man pod pero dili

talaga as in 40% ako 60% siya.

Talking about really dating, well it’s not

actually dating, it’s just something like

“char-char” or something, when I have

fun conversation with someone else.

Even though we’re not related or I don’t

know them personally. I suppose it

didn’t go as far as 1 year. Maybe 1

month or 2, something like that. In

terms of approaching [um] I’m the type

of person who’s [um] not fond of

initiating a conversation to those people

I don’t personally know but then again if

someone says “hi”, I’d reply in return.

We chat along. But most of the time he

initiates the chatting like 40% me and

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60% him in percentage.

P2: SS7
Aw kuan, syempre, online man. “Taga

saan ka?”, syempre, lisod sad ug mag

date-date ta diri’g ato la no? Aw dili oy.

[kanang] Murag sabot mo kaila man mo

aning “NearGroup”. Ay! *laughs*

NearGroup, my god! Ana na.

It’s online, of course. “Where do you

8 live?” It’s hard to just date on your own, 2 4-5

you know. Oh, no. [um] We all know

“NearGroup”. *Jokingly says

NearGroup* Ahh! *laughs* NearGroup,

oh my god!

P2: SS8
Gabii usahay mga hapon.

Often at night, seldom in the afternoon.

9 P2: SS9 2 6
When you talk about the studies, it’s not

actually hindrance but an inspiration.

Because when we talk about love naa

gyud kay pinaghugotan sa iya. Para sa ako

ang akong purpose lang gyud ato kay

having fun lang ba, [basta] way lingaw. Dili.

Muingon lang ko nga [kanang] first year

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college lang ko pero di ko muingon na

stress ko run. Dili. Abi palang weak ta.

10 Aw?! *Jokingly says “Aw?!”* 2 7-9

When you talk about the studies, it’s not

actually a hindrance but an inspiration.

Because when we talk about love

there’s a feeling of attachment. In my

defense, my purpose of acknowledging

him was just a sort of fun when I get

bored. (In a good way) No. I’d say [um]

I’m a first year college student but I

don’t say innuendos like I’m stressed

(this day). No. They might say I’m weak.

Aw?! *Jokingly says “Aw?!”*

P2: SS10
Obviously actual gud talaga. We can’t

[really] trust people online [easily].

Absolutely, yes! Ah well, nowadays, easy

na gud talaga siya. Kay alam mo na

communicate lang bisag dili kasaligang

11 tawo. 2 10-13

Obviously I prefer actual (dating) We

can’t [really] trust people online [easily].

Absolutely, yes! Ah well, nowadays, it’s

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easy to date online. You know, some

people tend to communicate with total

strangers.

P2: SS11
Dili. Dili gud talaga labi nag [kanang] dili

talaga mo actual gud talaga nagkita. Dili

talaga. Muabot sa time na “Wa na!”…”You

can’t repy to this conversation” wala na.

Diba? I can’t really force them to be

12 involved in this online dating. It’s up to 2 14-15

them. Kung asa ta malipay didto ta.

No. Especially when you haven’t really

seen each other. There will come a time

where it’s done and you don’t chat each

other anymore. I can’t really force them

to be involved in this online dating. It’s

up to them. If that’s what makes us

happy then we’d follow what we desire.

P1: SS12
Oo gad, Enjoy gad.

13 Yes, Of course! 2 16

P1: SS13
14 *thinking* 4 months. Siya, through 3 1-3

*thinking* chat. Ning approach ra gyud

siya. Yeah.

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4 months. He approached me first

through chat, we only met each other

through chat. He really chatted me first.

P3: SS14
15 Everyday *thinking* Mzorning man sa ilaha 3 4

pag night ari so. Taga Belgium man siya.

We communicate everyday, but we live

in different time zones because she’s

from Belgium. Chat with him at night

here in the Philippines, because it’s

morning there.

P3: SS15
16 In somewhat inspiration. Academics? Dili 3 5

man. Di pod ko muingon na inspiration

because depende ra man na sa tawo kung

[kuan] ka. But for me, it’s not.

It’s an inspiration for me in terms of

studies, but it all depends in the person

if they know how to manage.

P3: SS316
17 No. It’s personal. 3 6

I don’t open up on school related things

to my online date, because it’s personal.

P3: SS17

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18 I prefer both of them? Kay [kay] kaning 3 7-8

online man kay is a platform of

communication, so in somewhat way kung

magkaila mo online may possibility na

magkaila pod mo sa personal, but prefer

nako both.

Yes! Kay *thinking* love is no all about

[kaning] it’s either personal communication

or [kanang] it’s a feeling anyway so, mafeel

ra nimo siya.

I prefer both, because online dating is a

platform of communication. In some

way, if you meet someone online,

there’s a chance that you’d meet each

other in person.

Yes, of course. Love isn’t about actual

communication. You feel just feel that

you love someone if you get to know

them properly through chat or

otherwise.

P3: SS18
19 No. May times na, syempre di man gyud 3 9-10

[kaning] online, may time na magbinuwa

siya, may time na dili puro *thinking* pero

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[kaning] okay ra man pod siya *smiles* Kay

may privacy pod ka, may privacy pod ka

so.

Dili pod ko maka-recommend *laughs

slightly* because [kuan, kaning] optional

kasi siya. Kung imo ng irecommend so

dapat man [kaning] evidence ka ana ana.

So I prefer not to [kuan], but depende sa

person.

No, because there’s gonna be that time

where he’s untruthful and he won’t

update you all the time. But it’s okay

because I get my privacy and he gets

his privacy.

I can’t recommend, because it’s

optional. It depends on the person if

he/she can adapt.

P3: SS19
20 Di ko makaingon because life is a long 3 11-12

process. So, di ko makaingon na kami

talaga, but kung kami, kami talaga.

Yes! I enjoy. *smiles* Kay [kuan] naenjoy

ko kay somewhat [kaning] *thinking* happy

ko tungod sa iya, ana.

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Oo gad! *smiles* Kay di man ko nega.

I can’t say it’s successful because life is

a long process. I can’t say for certain

that we’ll end up with one another, but I

would like it to be that way.

Yes, I’m enjoying it. I’m happy because

of him, and I’m happy because we’re

dating.

P3: SS20

It’s been [2.01 sec/s] 10 months. Siyempre

akong uyab. *Stutters* Through

messenger nagkataon lang pod ba na

tapos ning gamit akong…ang akong

21 classmate ug messenger nako nakichat 4 1-4

siya tapos wala ko kasabot na muchat diay

siyas ako. Oo. Murag siyay bridge ba.

It’s been [2.01 sec/s] 10 months.

Siyempre akong uyab. *Stutters*

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Through messenger. My classmate

used my messenger and by chance he

sent me a message without my

knowledge. Yes. My classmate was

somehow the bridge

P4: SS21
Everyday. *Giggles* Kadalasan man gyud

kay hapon. Tapos gabii kay mao raman

iyang free time. Oo *nods* Oo, always

22 *smiles* 4 5-7

Everyday. *Giggles*

Often in the afternoon and in the

evening since those times are his free

time.Yes, always.

P4: SS22
Depende. Kay what if di diay siya seryoso,

unya ako seryoso, unya siya dili, dili gyud

23 ma successful ba. Oo, unya sa online ra 4 8-9

baya. Depende lang pod. Depend era man

gyud nas inyong [kuan] inyohang duha.

Whether ma online or ma [kuan], kung

seryoso gyud, seryoso gyud mo.

It depends, because there’s always the

chance of breaking up. We can’t predict

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the future. It depends, because even if

you’re dating online or in real life,

you’re going to have a good

relationship if you’re serious with each

other.

P4: SS23
Yes! *smiles* Kay diba kay kung bisag

through online ra ug kana na siya na tawo

gihatag ni God sa imo, mahimo gyud nang

[bali] matinuod gyud nang relationship

ninyo bisag through online lang siya. Ah

*thinking* paras ako, kung [kuan] pwede ra

sad sa online kay murag ug sa

relationship, safe siya kay diba layo sa

temtasyon kaysa gyud sa actual gyud na

24 [ano] relationship. Pero mao nay ingon na 2 10-11

limit limit lang pod ta, kay di pod raba ta

makasabot sa panahon.

Yes, even if you met online, if God gave

you that person, your relationship will

eventually become real. For me, yes. I’d

recommend it. Online is much safer,

because temptation is farther on a

virtual platform compared to an actual

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relationship, but we should limit

ourselves on either one, because we’re

still students

P4: SS24
Yes, na-enjoy ra nako ang process.

25 Yes, I did enjoy the process. 2 12-13

P2: SS25
Kanang di pa mi uyab? *thinking* mga 1

month? Yes.

Siyempre siya *giggles*

26 1 month. He approached me first. 5 1-2

P5: SS26
Yeah, nay bridge *laughs* Iya kong gi add

sa Facebook, unya nagutana si kuya sa

ako kung naa bay nag add sa akoa sa

Facebook. Tapos nangutana ko sa

pangalan *giggles* mutong ako siyang

giaccept. Tapos ning chat siya sa akoa ug

27 “Hello”, ningreply ko *giggles* 5 3

Yeah, someone introduced us. He sent

me a friend request on Facebook, then

I’ve accepted it, then he chatted and

said “Hello” then I replied.

P5: SS27
Kada adlaw kung may signal. *laughs*

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[Kuan] Kahuman sa iyang duty. Seaman

man siya.

[Kuan] oy, inspiration. *giggles* Siyempre

maganahan tag eskwela. Inspired *smiling*

I feel so loved. Yeah, so loved, my

happiness *laughs* Mangutana man siya.

Muana man siya sa ako “Paniguro ug 5 4-6

eskwela”.

28 We communicate everyday. We chat

after he finishes his shift, because he’s

a Seaman, we only communicate during

his vacant time.

He’s an inspiration for me. Of course he

makes me want to finish my studies. I

get inspired and motivated in class,

because I feel happiness and love. Yes

because he often asks me about the

things happening in school and he also

motivates me.

P5: SS28
Pwede ra both. *laughs* Pero mas

ganahan kog actual, pero wa may choice

kay trabaho baya.

Oo oy *giggles* kay diha gyud na

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nagsugod, naunsa ba *romantic

excitement* [Kuan] nalipay kuno siya kay

nakaila kuno siyas akoa charot *smiles*

Yes! Siyempre, [kuan] man mi [kanang

29 unsa na?] kay magcommunicate mi pirme.

I prefer both actual and online, but in 5 7-9

our relationship, we really have to chat.

We don’t have a choice, because he has

to work.

Yes, I believe that I can find love online,

because it all started there.

Yes, I believe that our relationship is

successful. We just have to

communicate always.

P5: SS29
Sa akoa, okay lang. Okay lang siya kay no

choice man. Pero mas angayan kung

actual gud. Facebook kay mao may uso.

Mao may pinaka common.

Ila ila lang ba kay sa online, di man gyud

sigurado kay siyempre, yah, pwede ra 5 10-11

makapamuwa.

30 For me, it’s okay to look for a

relationship on facebook, but it’s better

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if it’s actual. We met on Facebook

because it’s the social media platform

we had in common.

Not every person you met online is

sincere, so we should know the person

we’re chatting first.

P5: SS30
Oo gad! *laughs* Kilig sa iyang gipang

31 chat sa akoa *smiles* 5 12

Yes, of course I enjoy it, because I love

his sweet messages.

P5: SS31
Almost 8 months. *Giggles*Ako. Nakit-an

ko la hiya ha Facebook… tapos akon gi

sendan ug friend request *smiles*

32 Almost 8 months. I approached first. I 6 1-3

saw his account on Facebook and I sent

a friend request.

P6: SS32
Ev’ry charot every---…*laughs* Everyday.

Aga, udto, depende kun online hiya, online

ako. Inspiration. Kay hiya man nagbubulig

ha ak bisan hiya ada bisan online la sige

geap hiya akon chat na sugad ini

pagskwela tarong sugad iton. So

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33 inspiration liwat hiya. 6 4-5

We communicate everyday. We always

chat when we’re both online. He’s an

inspiration for me, because he helps

me. He always gives me advice and tells

me to study hard.

P6: SS33
Syempre, actual gihapon. Kay mamiling

kaman presence talaga sa usa ka tawo diri

la kay online.

34 Of course, still actual, because you still 6 6

want his presence, not just by chatting.

P6: SS34
Oo, everyday…charot! Kay syempre

nasanay ka naman na hiya imo kachat,

pag mag good morning…ganun hito.

Yes. I enjoy, because we chat everyday.

35 I’m used to always chatting with him— 6 7

each morning, noon, or afternoon,

there’s someone greeting me, and I

enjoy it.

P6: SS35
Diri. Diri talaga. Kay amo lagi eto. Di ka

maaram kun porket nagkachat la kamo…

*pauses* basta. Diri kasi tanan nga time na

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online ang inyong pag date kay may time

talaga na mamiling ka hin kaistorya mo

talaga ya magkita face to face kamo,

magkita kamo talaga, makaptan mo hiya 6 8

36 through flesh sugad hito kaya diri gud ha

online.

It isn’t easy on Facebook, because he

doesn’t always find time for you,

because there are times that he’s doing

something else and he’s offline because

of it. There’s always the time where you

look for his presence—you’d prefer to

speak face to face rather than talking

online.

P6: SS36
Yes! Siyempre, [kuan] man mi [kanang

unsa na? kay magcommunicate mi pirme.

Kay facebook man hiya nagkaada…

37 Waray man hiya instagram, waray man 6 9-11

hiya twitter. Oo. Kay didto man nagtikang

tanan.

Yes, I believe that our relationship is

successful. We just have to

communicate always. Yes, because he

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only has Facebook account. He doesn’t

have Instagram or Twitter. Yes, because

we met online.

P6: SS37
*Stutters* Oo kun kilala mo na it personal,

diri kun di mu ya kilala kay kuri man hin

mag trust sa usa ka tawo kay bangin poser

38 ganun. Kun kilala mo na hiya pwede ka 6 12

naman online nala basta nakit-an mon a

hiya.

It depends on the situation. Yes, I

recommend online dating if you know

the person you’re dating personally. But

if you met each other online, it’s harder

to trust the person you’re dating.

P6: SS38
God *thinking* Wa nako kasabot pila to

*laughs* Mga 2 years? *laughs* Oo. Siya.

Wala lang [ano] hing chat lang siya.

39 2 years. He approached me first. He just 7 1-3

suddenly sent a message – no

reference, no mutual friend.

P7: SS39
Everyday *nods* Morning usahay pero pag

[ano] makatulog ug sayo so usahay walay

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gabii. Pero everyday gyud, wa gyud nay

adlaw na [ano]. Oo. *thinking* Both ra

*nods* Pwede sag, same as [kuan] kasi mi

[kanang], diba pag ing-ana parehas sa

40 akoa, di pod kasi na siya hindrance sa 7 4-5

akoa kay katigo man pod ko, murag [ano]

ba, mu balance balance, sa dating ug sa

[kuan]. Oo, inspiration sad.

We communicate everyday. Not a day

goes by that we don’t talk. For me it’s

an inspiration, because I know how to

balance dating and studies.

P7: SS40
Actual Relationship. Oo *nods* Oo, always

*smiles*

41 Actual relationship. Yes, always. 7 6-7

P6: SS41
Depende. Kay what if di diay siya seryoso,

unya ako seryoso, unya siya dili, dili gyud

ma successful ba. Oo, unya sa online ra

baya. Depende lang pod. Depend ra man

42 gyud nas inyong [kuan] inyohang duha. 7 8-9

Whether ma online or ma [kuan], kung

seryoso gyud, seryoso gyud mo.

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It depends, because there’s always the

chance of breaking up. We can’t predict

the future. It depends, because even if

you’re dating online or in real life,

you’re going to have a good

relationship if you’re serious with each

other.

P6: SS42
Yes! *smiles* Kay diba kay kung bisag

through online ra ug kana na siya na tawo

gihatag ni God sa imo, mahimo gyud nang

[bali] matinuod gyud nang relationship

43 ninyo bisag through online lang siya. 7 10

Yes, even if you met online, if God gave

you that person, your relationship will

eventually become real.

P6: SS43
Ah *thinking* paras ako, kung [kuan]

pwede ra sad sa online kay murag ug sa

relationship, safe siya kay diba layo sa

44 temtasyon kaysa gyud sa actual gyud na 7 11

[ano] relationship. Pero mao nay ingon na

limit limit lang pod ta, kay di pod raba ta

makasabot sa panahon.

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For me, yes. I’d recommend it. Online is

much safer, because temptation is

farther on a virtual platform compared

to an actual relationship, but we should

limit ourselves on either one, because

we’re still students.

P6: SS44
Not online just…met him accidentally. That

time was so depressing and very stressed

kay akong friends didto nag-away mi that

time so nag decide ko na akong mga

45 kauban na classmate manggawas mi mag 8 1-4

goodvibes mi so nameet ko na ang lalaki,

taga Almeria…charot! Nagchat mi… few

days after… [mga] October o November.

Siya.Mga… five months.

Not online just…I met him accidentally.

That time was depressing and I’m very

stressed because me and friends had a

fight and so later that night we decided

to go out and I met him which,[ by the

way], he lives in Almeria… We chatted a

few days after our acquaintance…

Around October or November.

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Around…five months

Him.

P8: SS45
Starting from morning then evening

because he’s free in those times. Every

minute.

46 Starting from morning then evening 8 5-6

because he’s free in those times. Every

minute.

P8: SS46
First of all, inspiration, but definitely in the

last…[ah] lately hindrance na. Involve na

47 ang money. No. 8 7-9

At first, inspiration, but definitely in the

latter part…[ah] he became a hindrance.

Money was then involved. No.

P8: SS47
*Pauses* Actual. Kasi gusto ko ma… Oh

my god…experience ang actual kasi since

ano lang naman eh kung hindi, hanggang

ano cellphone cellphone lang. I want to

48 experience actual. 8 10

*Pauses* Actual [relationship]. Because

I want to…Oh my god…experience the

actuality since it’s all not about using

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the phone and be in relationship

through it [virtual]. I want to experience

actual [relationship].

P8: SS48
No. Some of them *laughs*are ano na…

49 hindrance nas akoa ha katikang ha umpisa 8 11-12

okay lang pero pag tagal-tagal na kung dili

na. No. Because dili I think.*inconsistent

mumbling*

No. Some of them *laughs* are a

hindrance to me since, at first, it is okay

and in the latter it becomes

complicated. No. Because I suppose it’s

not.*inconsistent mumbling*

P8: SS49
*Pauses* Sometimes…I-express akong

50 feelings with ano lang… to chat, something

like that but in actual I’m really shy. [Uh]

*pauses* Yes, in other way but…ano ba…it

depends nalang sa tawo kung gusto ha

akon *coughs* okay siya pero depende 8 13-14

ragyud sa tawo

*Pauses* Sometimes…I [can truly]

express my feelings when chatting,

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something like that but in actual I’m

really shy. [Uh] *pauses* Yes, in other

way but…it really depends on the

person *coughs* It really depends

though.

P8:SS50
Yes na-enjoy ko. Kay sa online madali ko

masabi ako gusto [nafeel] tapos di ako

nahihiya. Kung actual naulaw ako.

51 Yes I enjoyed [having online 8 15

relationship]. I can easily share what I

want to tell online and it does not make

me timid. In actual, I become bashful.

P8: SS51
52 [Kuan, kanang] Almost *thinking* 1 year 9 1-3

and 3 months, pero [kuan] gyud siya

[kanang] di siya ingon na [kuan]

permamente mi [kanang] two months

murag di mi [kuan] maayog communication

munang nay usahay na magbuwag me for

pila ka months. So mga *thinking* 7

months nalang siguro.

[Kuan] Siya. Oo. Gi reto siya sa [kuan]

iyang barkada. Iyang barkada nag [kuan],

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kaila mi sa iyang barkada, unya iyang

barkada ang nagpaila-ila niya sa akoa.

Unya sunod ato, nag chat chat nami.

Almost 1 year and 3 months. He

approached me first. We were

introduced to each other through

mutual friends, and we ended up

chatting each other afterwards.

P9: SS52
53 [Kuan] Kanang pag vacant. Buntag, udto, 9 4

then [kuan] hapon, then gabii pod.

On my vacant times in the morning,

noon, and every night-- we would

communicate

P9: SS53
54 Oo *smiles* [Kuan] siya [kanang] 9 5-6

makahatag siyag inspiration sa akoa unya

[kanang] murag ganahan gyud ka pag

eskwela kay naa siya. Unya pirme mo mag

communicate ing ana. Pero pag mag-

away pod hinoon pod mo, wan a pod

hinoon kay gana mueskwela ing ana

*laughs*

Actually, nagtrabaho na ni siya bale

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mangutana nala ni siya sa akong mga

assignments pero dili nako i-open up sa

iyaha kay w man pod siya kasabot. Ako ra

man nang problema.

It’s an inspiration for me to study. That

feeling that you want to study more

because of it and it makes you happy,

but I lose interest in studying everytime

we fight. It’s an inspiration and a

hindrance at the same time.

No. Actually, he’s already working, but

he always asks me about my studies,

but I don’t open up because I don’t

think he knows what it’s about.

P9: SS54
55 [Kuan, kanang] Nagkauyab mi ana unya 9 7-8

nanrabaho man siya ug Manila so mao

tong murag [kuan] ang among [kanang]

communication, online nalang.

Oo, naexcite ko *smiles* Unya kilig

*giggles*

When our relationship started, he went

to Manila and got a job. We always

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communicate online.

Yes. I enjoy it and it excites me

P9: SS55
56 Maybe? *giggles* Dili sang ko makaingon 9 9

karon na murag [kuan] successful na gyud

na siya kay [kuan] man [kanang] unsa na?

Taas pa baya ang panahon unya wa pa ta

kasabot, wa baya’y forever *laughs* Di

bitaw *laughs* Di pa ko katubag ana,

exactly ba, kay [kuan] baya.

Maybe. I still can’t say if our

relationship is successful, because we

still have a long way to go, and we still

don’t know what’s in store us in the

future.

P9: SS56
57 [Kuan, kanang] Dili ko ganahan ug 9 10-11

Facebook Facebook lag, ganahan ko ug

tawag pirme. Damo kasig [kuan] sa

Facebook. Daghag kachat na lain *giggles*

Well, para sa akoa, mas ganahan ko mag

tawag tawag ra mi.

[Kuan, kanang] Dili. Kay nay manloloko sa

[kanang] through chat chat lang, dili ko

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mutuo ana.

No, because I don’t like Facebook. I

prefer phone calls. I don’t trust

Facebook because he might have other

chat-mates.

I don’t believe in that, because there are

people who lie through chat

P9: SS57
58 Uhm. Maybe *laughs* Maybe ra gyud 9 12

akong matubag ana kay [kanang kuan] dili

man gyud ko makaingon na

makarecommend gyud sa inyoha kay

[kuan] raba.

No. I can’t recommend it yet, because

our relationship is not yet successful.

P9: SS58
59 *giggles* Anay la, pila ba adto? *thinking* 10 1-3

Umm 5 months? 5 months.

Siya, unang ning message sa akoa

*smiles*

Yeah, akon [ano] akon sangkay, siya

nagpaila-ila ha amon.

5 months

He approached me first.

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We were introduced to each other

through mutual friends, and we ended

up chatting each other afterwards.

P10: SS59
60 *thinking* Every minute gani *giggles* [Ano] 10 4-6

Aga hantod basta permamente [ano] kung

ningkaon ka na ba, ana.*giggles*

Inspiration *laughs* Syempe kay [ano]

kung pursige ka, ingon an aba. Halimbawa

karon nag-eskwela ko kay tungod man pod

sa ilaha, mao nang ningbalik ko

pageskwela, mao na akong inspirasyon.

Oo. [Ano] Sometimes lang. Musupport man

pod siya sa akoa.

We communicate everyday, and not a

minute goes by that we don’t chat. He’s

an inspiration. Of course he makes me

want to continue my studies. I get

inspired and motivated in class,

because I feel happiness and love. Yes,

but it is not often. He also supports me

like I do.

P10: SS60
61 *thinking* Actual, siguro *giggles* [Ano] 10 7

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Kasi kung actual, makilatis mo dayon ang

isa ka tawo kaysa sa online.

I prefer an actual relationship, because

you can easily understand and know a

person if it is actual than an online one.

P10: SS61
62 *laughs* Oo gad kay dira gani ko naka[ano] 10 8-9

*laughs* Oo, kay nagdugay gani mi

*smiles*

Of course, because I personally got a

boyfriend online, so I really do believe.

Yes, because we even last this long.

P10: SS62
63 *thinking* Murag pareha man. [Ano] man 10 10-11

ang personal, imo mang, siyempre di man

gyud nimo anay makilatis ang us aka tawo

kung diri kamo magkita, pareha pod mo

ana sa online. Dapat magkita man anay mo

bago mo makilala ang usa ka tawo *smiles*

Para akon yana na henerasyon, diri

maupay kay kasi damo na bitaw [kanang]

nahihinabo nga diri maupay sa mga

kabatan-an ba yana sa online. Di raba nila

kilatis kaupay.

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No, because you won’t fully know a

person without chatting with them first

for an extended period of time. Unlike in

actual dating where you really get to

know a person because you’re with

them in person.

No, because kids in this generation

know a lot about online things. They

should be careful on who they meet

online. You should know them properly

and personally.

P10: SS63
64 *giggles* Oo gad liwat. Kay [ano] mga 10 12

sweet na mga [ano] la [kanang] sweet

messages, ingana ba. *giggles* Halimbawa

kung mag meet mo ani, tapos kung unsay

inyong buhaton *giggles* Basta amo la

adto *smiles*

Yes, I enjoy it even though it’s just

online. Eg. we send sweet messages

and flatter each other. That’s why I enjoy

it.

P10: SS64

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DEVELOPMENT OF CLUSTER THEMES

FORMULATED MEANING CLUSTER THEMES


Their relation lasts long because they

are sincere to each other.

FM1

The participant did not hesitate to

introduce her partner, she is a proud

partner.

FM2

He was straight-forward for what he

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forementioned. He enjoys the company

of having to talk to someone else

whether he does know the person or

otherwise.

FM12

He mentioned about how long have

they been dating online. The

interviewee was muddled for a second.

He was quite unsure about the months.

FM13 Different feelings and perspectives on

Precise and unambiguous approach. He how Filipino Millennials date online were

was getting numerical in explaining as shown. Most of them had a relationship

he was stating who initiates first. for only a few months because of

FM14 uncertain feelings, but despite the

Took a while before he answered. uncertainty, still, some proudly admitted

FM2 the details about how their relationship

Proudly admits who approached first. started.

FM29

His partner was the one who drew his

attention towards him.

FM30

Slightly paused but certain.

FM40

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He was sure that her partner was the

one who approached first.

FM41

She was unaware that the boy sent a

message to her whilst her classmate

was using the her messenger. Their

acquaintance was unanticipated.

FM42

She was slightly hesitant when telling

that her classmate was somehow the

bridge

FM43

Hesitated to answer directly.

FM52

Proudly admits who approached first.

FM53

Told the story on how they met and how

they ended up chatting online without

hesitation. There are no secrets that are

hidden because she proudly stated

what happened.

FM54

Answered without hesitation.

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FM64

Feeling ashamed and took a risk to

make the first move.

FM65

Desperate for love.

FM66

Uncertain.

FM76

Direct to the point.

FM77

The partner initially directed a chat

towards the girl. He’s the one who

seems to be interested on her.

FM78

Relationship is inconsistent.

FM102

Her partner was the one who risked to

approach her first

FM103

Their mutual friend served as the

gateway for filling up their basic human

need.

FM104

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Hesitant to answer at first.

FM114

She’s the one who gained the attention

first.

FM115

A mutual friend became the ticket of

their relationship.

FM116
Started with a common conversation.

FM3

Living everyday being not complete

without communicating with each other.

FM4

Slowly becoming one’s special

someone. Making sure that each one

will not miss to greet each other during

one’s special day.

FM5

They knew each other in the

cyberspace. He was getting a bit

irrelevant. He seemed to be

preoccupied when he answered.

FM15

Albert jokingly shared about Near Group

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and he was sort of passive sharing it. Wanting for attention was evident

FM16 because everyone wants to

Different time zones were not communicate with his or her partners

hindrances on their communication every single day. Having normal

daily. conversations can greatly affect

people’s interpersonal communication


FM3
skills.
Precise and proud. They tend to keep in

touch by chatting everyday.

FM44

Feeling impassive. She explains even if

they don’t chat in a full scale, they tend

to at least chat in between like free time.

FM45

Told the story on how they met and how

they ended up chatting online without

hesitation. There are no secrets that are

hidden because she proudly stated

what happened.

FM54

They are committed with their

relationship because they always keep

in touch with each other.

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FM55

Desperate for love.

FM66

Hesitated to answer the question at first,

but then eventually shared after and

became romantically excited.

FM67

Feeling proud and certain.

FM79

They tried to keep in touch as much as

possible by chatting at those times.

FM91

He directly answered. And was sure

about their communication in a day.

FM92

Their relationship became stronger as

they communicate always.

FM105

Cannot complete a day without chatting

with each other.

FM117

Feeling inspired to go to school

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because of her partner’s motivational

words.

FM118
She’s romantically excited that she has

someone out there who’s willing to

embrace her life.

FM8

Certain and established when

answering this part.

FM17

The certainty of his answer was

captivating

FM27

Feeling energized, positive and happy

because of his partner.

FM39

She was romanticized when she

answered.

FM46

She loved the idea of chatting and Feelings of excitement and fondness

having online relationship. She smiled are present while having conversations

when she uttered the answer. online. Couples usually send sweet

FM51 messages and greetings, and often

Feeling romantically excited because of video chat so that they can express

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her partner’s sweet messages. their love for each other.

FM63

Feeling excited and enthusiastic while

chatting. Feeling very important

because of the partner’s sweet

messages and greetings.

FM70

Romantically excited because she

enjoys dating online.

FM82

He did enjoy the process of chatting and

dating someone online. He tends to

share and according to him, there’s a

feeling where there’s so much story to

be told when you chat.

FM101

Distance is not a hindrance in their

relationship because they always

communicate with each other.

FM108

Romantically excited of their

relationship.

FM109

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Romantically excited whenever they

chat because of the sweet messages

that flatters her.

FM125
Her partner accepts and helps her in

every aspect of her life may it be in her

education.

FM6

Romantically excited confess that he is

her inspiration towards her education.

FM11

Albert’s voice whilst explaining was

quite a bit charged. He directed the

message like he would acknowledge his

online date when he got no one to talk

to but in a good way.

FM18

He was getting defensive and stood for

his core beliefs that he doesn’t need

help when doing his academic errands

FM19 Students, who are involved in dating

He wanted to stress that he’s not weak online, wants to open up their study and

in doing his academic errands. He other academic-related activities, but

jokingly said what he said. they also want to have privacy. Most of

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FM20 them are open to their partners about

One’s opinion is the main basis on how school-related activities, but some of

to handle a relationship. them wants to deal with it by

FM32 themselves only.

Hesitant on sharing his personal

business. Most of them also are inspired to finish

FM33 their studies while having an online

She was romanticized when she relationship. Some of them take it as a

answered. challenge to make their partners proud.

FM46

Feeling impassive. She explains even if

they don’t chat in a full scale, they tend

to at least chat in between like free time.

FM45

Feeling inspired, loved and happy.

Always motivated in class because of

her partner’s love.

FM56

Feeling motivated to go to school and

finish her studies.

FM57

There is an existing feeling of

proudness because her partner is

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always motivating her to go to school

and finish her studies.

FM68

Feeling proud and certain.

FM79

There is uncertainty of feelings at first,

but eventually became sure of his

partner as an inspiration.

FM80

He redirected what he said because it

used to be a healthy relationship but in

the latter part it became unhealthy.

FM93

Feeling inspired whenever their

relationship is smooth but whenever

they have misunderstandings, they lose

interest towards their relationship.

FM106

She considers her partner because she

thinks that it is out of her partner’s

business.

FM107

Feeling inspired to go to school

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because of her partner’s motivational

words.

FM118

Supports each other all the time

including their academic success.

FM119
Even having a good relationship

through online, she also prefers having

a real life date. She’s determined in

their relation as long as trust and

endurance are there.

FM7

Admitted directly.

FM21

He considered both type of dating

because there are possibilities that Even though the respondents enjoy

people who meet online are likely to dating online, all of them still preferred

meet in person. actual than online relationship. Some of

FM34 them are reluctant on answering at first,

She emphasized that no matter how but eventually they still want an actual

romantic your relationship is whether relationship.

online or actual, if you’re with each

other and respect and be loyal, it’ll work,

for sure.

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FM48

Unsure of her thoughts because there

are no other choices and options, but

still wants an actual relationship.

FM58

Longing for an actual relationship.

FM69

Very certain and straight to the point.

FM81

He wanted to experience a real one for

the context suggests that dating online

is drastically different from dating in

actual. The interviewee was quite a bit

muddled when he was answering.

FM96

Despite on having a good relationship

online, she still wants to have an actual

relationship because of the lack of trust

and understanding to her partner.

FM120
Don’t want to trust that easily.

FM9

He mentioned about not trusting people

in the cyberspace easily. He was quite a

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bit ceremonious when he pitched the

answer.

FM22

He was bothered by the fact that it is

now easy to be involved in online dating

even to those people who doesn’t know

each other personally.

FM24

Having uncertainty of trusting somebody Lack of trust and uncertainty of partner’s

because he can’t spare all his time for personality are the common hindrances

him. of some respondents that date online.

FM36

She tackled about the downside of

having a relationship online. She said

it’s most likely to fail if only one is doing

effort.

FM47

Feeling doubtful because of her

partner’s inconsistency of telling the

truth.

FM62

Reluctant in trusting someone because

of being unsure of partner’s personality.

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FM75

Feeling uncertain of what will happen

next and has a lack of trust to her

partner because the having an online

relationship is unpredictable.

FM83

He was saying that it’s seldom easy to

date online because it is not wired and

aspect of actuality wasn’t there.

FM99

Not satisfied on using Facebook as an

instrument of virtual communication

because of the lack of trust.

FM111

Feeling unsure because she believed

that people lie.

FM112

Unsure of having a sincere and serious

partner through online because real

personalities are not shown.

FM123
She’s romantically excited that she has

someone out there who’s willing to

embrace her life.

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FM8

He addressed the concernment of how

rare it would be to have a successful

relationship online. He was quite a bit Mixed thoughts were answered by the

impassive in answering this and sort of respondents. Some are confident that

didn’t reveal much of what he felt. they will have a successful relationship,

FM25 but most of them think they will not.

Uncertain of their future depending on

their situation right now.

FM38

She emphasized that no matter how

romantic your relationship is whether

online or actual, if you’re with each

other and respect and be loyal, it’ll work,

for sure.

FM48

No doubts about the question and

directly answered it. Feeling certain of

her stand if it is easier to have a

relationship through Facebook.

FM71

Proud and sure that their relationship

will be successful.

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FM72

Online relationships last longer if you

and your partner are serious and

committed with each other regardless of

all the factors affecting it, including

academic studies.

FM84

He was sure that online relationship

would likely not be successful as it

demands authenticity and time and

loyalty.

FM98

Not sure on where their relationship is

leading.

FM110

Confident and positive on their

relationship.

FM122
She’s romantically excited that she has

someone out there who’s willing to

embrace her life.

FM8

Loud and certain when “yes” was said.

FM23

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Feeling certain that love isn’t just Feelings of excitement and faithfulness

through actual communication but it were shown by those who believe that

also involves how one is feeling. people can find love online.

FM35

She wanted to stress that if you’re Negative feelings were shown by those

meant to be then God will always find a who are unsure of their online

way to your innuendos and pave you to relationship.

each other’s.

FM49

Very certain on her feelings the people

can find love online.

FM74

Belief has been shown. She states that

whoever is going to be your partner is a

gift from above. Strong faith to find love

was displayed.

FM85

He was saying that it’s seldom easy to

date online because it is not wired and

aspect of actuality wasn’t there.

FM99

Feeling unsure because she believed

that people lie.

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FM112
Without hesitation she recommends it

and gave some advises towards trust

issues.

FM10

He was auspicious about following what

they desire. He directed it like he was

obligating.

FM26

He considered first on how people

adapt and how people will handle

having an online relationship. Staying safe and having boundaries are

FM37 advices that were given by the

She uttered that it’s safe to say that respondents on students dating online.

online relationship could somehow be

the choice but she choice but we should Unsure of feelings and being reluctant

know boundaries. in trusting someone are one of the

FM50 negative reasons people think during

Unsure of her feelings towards having they date online.

what kind of relationship she really

wants. Having no other options onto

what kind

FM61

Reluctant in trusting someone because

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of being unsure of partner’s personality.

FM75

Thinking the safety of the students’ own

life and academic studies because

when someone’s relationship is virtual,

they cannot be tempted to do worse

things. Feeling doubtful of the upcoming

circumstances.

FM86

Uncertain of their future as a couple.

FM113

She considered what type of generation

today and also the students’ safety.

FM124

DEVELOPMENT OF EMERGENT THEMES

CLUSTER THEMS EMERGENT THEMES


Wanting for attention was evident

because everyone wants to

communicate with his or her partners

every single day. Having normal

conversations can greatly affect

people’s interpersonal communication

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skills. Compulsively Heedful

Different feelings and perspectives on

how Filipino Millennials date online were

shown. Most of them had a relationship

for only a few months because of

uncertain feelings, but despite the

uncertainty, still, some proudly admitted

the details about how their relationship

started.

Lack of trust and uncertainty of partner’s

personality are the common hindrances

of some respondents that date online.

Even though the respondents enjoy

dating online, all of them still preferred

actual than online relationship. Some of

them are reluctant on answering at first,

but eventually they still want an actual

relationship.
Feelings of excitement and fondness

are present while having conversations

online. Couples usually send sweet

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messages and greetings, and often

video chat so that they can express Contemporaneously Vehement

their love for each other.

Feelings of excitement and faithfulness

were shown by those who believe that

people can find love online. Negative

feelings were shown by those who are

unsure of their online relationship.

Mixed thoughts were answered by the

respondents. Some are confident that

they will have a successful relationship,

but most of them think they will not.


Students, who are involved in dating

online, wants to open up their study and

other academic-related activities, but

they also want to have privacy. Most of

them are open to their partners about

school-related activities, but some of

them wants to deal with it by Proportionality and Integrity

themselves only.

Most of them also are inspired to finish

their studies while having an online

relationship. Some of them take it as a

challenge to make their partners proud.

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Staying safe and having boundaries are

advices that were given by the

respondents on students dating online.

Unsure of feelings and being reluctant

in trusting someone are one of the

negative reasons people think during

they date online.

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