The Art of Mindfulness Ebook PDF
The Art of Mindfulness Ebook PDF
The Art of Mindfulness Ebook PDF
mindfulness
A PRACTICAL GUIDE TO LIVING IN THE MOMENT
| Lachlan Brown
This eBook contains information that is intended
to help the readers be better informed about their
own health and wellness. It is presented as general
advice on the topic of mindfulness, rather than
medical advice.
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Yet at the same time, you do not involve yourself in any of these sensa-
tions you may feel. You simply notice, observe, and accept.
Mindfulness is a somewhat elusive concept because you can’t see it.
Yet when you practice it, you feel differently.
While this concept has ancient origins, it has now become mainstream
in the modern world. Celebrities, athletes, and CEOs alike endorse
“mindfulness training.” Doctors and therapists integrate mindfulness
into treatment plans. And countless apps such as Insight Timer, Head-
space, and Calm have emerged to fill the demand for instruction in
mindfulness meditation.
What is the hype all about? How has an ancient concept connected to
Hinduism and Buddhism so captivated the modern world, gaining fol-
lowers among many people who are otherwise secular or non-religious?
And practically speaking, what do you need to know about mindfulness
to lead a happier and more peaceful life?
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Whatever your starting point, however mindful you currently are, you
can get something out of this book.
Try imagining a world in which you feel no stress about the past or the
future. You exist fully in the right now without regret, dread, self-re-
crimination, or anxiety.
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This alternative world is closer than you think. While there is no magic
wand that can erase all of your life’s struggles and woes, mindfulness
can provide you with powerful tools to brave the inevitable storms that
arise.
Mindfulness is one of several methods for living in the moment.
For instance, there’s also the concept of “flow,” a state you may have ex-
perienced if you play sports. In a state of flow, you’re wholly engrossed
in what you’re doing, your senses heightened and ready to take on a
physical or intellectual challenge. This sense of challenge and move-
ment is what separates flow from the stillness and calm of mindfulness.
Mindfulness may not be the only way to live in the moment, but I find
that it is one of the best and most relaxing methods to learn. It’s close-
ly connected to Buddhist ethics of kindness, compassion, and care for
yourself and others. Cultivating a practice of mindfulness often goes
hand in hand with developing a more generous outlook on the world.
This book will go into detail about how mindfulness works, and how
it can benefit those who practice it. Where other guides to mindfulness
can be esoteric and technical, this book will offer a no-nonsense guide
to the topic. In it, we will discuss exactly what you need to know to
bring mindfulness into your life, even if this is your first time hearing
about the concept.
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By the end of this eBook, you will have the knowledge and skills to live
mindfully, and ultimately lead a happier, healthier and more satisfying
life.
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Chapter 2
Achieving Mindfulness
Through Meditation
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Perhaps you’re eating breakfast, and your mind has jumped forward
several hours into the future, dreading that presentation you have to
give. Or you’re walking to a café and ruminating on a fight you had
with your mother. Now you’re sitting down to eat dinner with your
family, but your mind is once again far away, dwelling in the past or the
future instead of the present moment.
What will you miss? How much time do you spend every day focused
on something other than where you are and what you are doing? What
if you could increase the amount of time you spend in the present?
Mindfulness pulls your mind back into the here and now, and trains you
to let go of past regrets and future worries, rather than ruminating on
them.
Say hello to the voice in your mind. Just internally say hello. Who
says hello and who hears hello? It’s you who’s talking and it’s you
who’s listening.
The best way to become free from the constant chatter that’s feed-
ing you terrible ideas is to step back. Look at each thought ob-
jectively. Thoughts are just an object of the mind, something that
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An introduction to meditation
You might wonder, Isn’t it boring? Am I just supposed to sit here? What
does this actually accomplish? I have more important things to do!
Often, people think that they’re too busy, that meditation is pointless, or
that it’s just too weird and spiritual. And still more people are afraid of
the deep feelings and emotions that may rise to the surface if they take
a moment to themselves.
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Start with just 10 or 15 minutes per day. The more you practice, the
more you’ll look forward to having that time to yourself. Think of it as
spending a day at the spa, or getting a massage. Once you get into it,
that centered feeling makes you feel as relaxed as 30 minutes in a sau-
na. You’ll begin to experience benefits almost right away. And the more
you practice mindfulness, the greater the benefits will be.
Mindfulness meditation is not about changing who you are. It’s about
becoming aware of who you are. As you sit in silence, thoughts and
feelings will come up. As you look within yourself, memories may arise
as though they are a movie on a screen. Let those memories come and
go, neither clinging to them nor pushing them away.
There are a variety of ways to meditate, so you can try different posi-
tions and methods and see what feels right to you.
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Ideally, you can find a quiet room without too much background noise
or distraction. You can sit on a chair or on the ground, using a cushion
as needed for comfort. Especially when starting out, it’s important to
find a comfortable, relaxed position that you can maintain for the length
of your meditation, or about 15 minutes. You might try a cross-legged,
lotus, or kneeling position.
Keep your posture upright, your back flat and shoulders relaxed and
down. Think about a long string pulling all the way through your body
and out the top of your head, as if you’re a marionette puppet. That
string keeps your body lifted and tall, with your head, shoulders, and
hips forming a straight line.
Many new meditators, especially those who work desk jobs, struggle
to settle into a comfortable meditation posture. We’re so accustomed
to slouching in our chairs and craning our necks to stare at laptops and
phones. Yet with a little deliberate practice, these habits can be un-
learned. Try a few minutes of gentle stretching before your meditation
to prepare your muscles for their new position.
Once seated, what do you do? Again, there are multiple paths.
One method involves focusing on the breath. Close your eyes, and pay
attention to the air that enters and leaves your lungs. Notice the rise and
fall of your chest and torso.
It’s natural for the mind to wander a bit. We get bored and start looking
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for things to think about other than our breath. When you notice this
happening, don’t worry. Remember that it’s perfectly normal, and sim-
ply bring the mind back.
Now is the time to listen in on all that construction noise: How loud is
it? What other sounds can you hear? Are they near or far away?
Then return to your body: Feel your body pressing into your chair or the
floor, and feel the air moving through your lungs. Practicing these sim-
ple steps can help you find the peace of mind that comes with mindful
meditation...even if it’s your first time trying it.
Sometimes, life is uncomfortable like an itch.
Sitting with the experience will allow you to see that sensations come
and go. Anxiety can creep up in your belly, or you may experience tight-
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ness in your throat while you meditate. The mind is telling the body that
there are too many things to do. When you do experience tension in the
body, you can touch that area with your hands and internally say, This
too.
This is mindfulness.
Say you’re sitting outside in a park. Everything is fine, until you see two
people who are clearly in love. Suddenly, a feeling of loneliness hits
you, and there’s nobody around to help ease the feeling.
This sliver of loneliness has always been in your heart. It’s not always
activated, but can arise at any moment once triggered. You become
weak, and your heart sinks. You remember all the other times you’ve
felt alone or abandoned.
What can you do? Simply notice that you noticed. You are the subject
and you are the one who notices.
Those feelings of emptiness are just objects. Your way out is to notice
and observe those objects without participating, without stoking those
feelings. Let the feelings pass through without running away or avoid-
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ing them.
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Chapter 3
Seven Other Practical Exercises for
Achieving Mindfulness
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Meditation is a method to bring your body, mind, and spirit into align-
ment in the present. This promotes mindfulness.
Here are seven practical exercises you can do to bring mindfulness into
your life - starting today.
You can perform this exercise during your regular meditation practice,
or even when you have a spare five minutes at home. It gives you the
opportunity to identify any points of tension or soreness without judg-
ment. There’s no need to “fix” anything. Instead, the goal is to focus on
how different parts of your body feel in the moment.
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You might prefer to do your body scan while lying on your back.
If you begin with your head: How is it feeling today? How are
your neck and shoulders? Continue moving down, lingering for
several moments on each part of your body and noticing any stiff-
ness, tension, soreness, or any other sensations. Now is not the
time to try to fix those feelings. Simply notice them and move on.
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Once you have scanned your entire body, you can return once
again to your breath, then slowly come out of your meditation.
As famed Buddhist teacher Thich Nhat Hanh notes, a simple item such
as a flower can deepen your mindfulness practice. If you take the time to
look—really look—at a flower, you will come to appreciate its beauty
and intricacy, while at the same time honing your mind’s concentration.
Try this with an item in your own home, such as a flower or a piece
of fruit. Truly look at this item (say, a strawberry) with your full
attention. What does it look like? Notice its colors and textures.
Observe how it feels in your hand, against your skin. Is it warm or
cold? Soft, smooth, or rough? Bring it to your nose and observe
how it smells. If you’ve chosen an edible item, take a bite, and pay
close attention to the taste and feel of it in your mouth.
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If you follow these instructions, you cannot help but be mindful: Your
complete focus is in the present moment, on an object at hand and your
experience of it. This exercise will give your mind a break from worry-
ing or ruminating. Instead, your attention will be taken up in the work
of focused observation.
You can also practice mindfulness in this way whenever you go for a
walk.
Look around you and see what’s going on, instead of our natural ten-
dency to walk around without noticing. See the changing colors of the
leaves. Admire the flowers in your neighbor’s garden. Notice a growing
crack in the sidewalk. Look at the sky and clouds overhead. Regular
walks are wonderful for your health (both physical and mental), and all
the more so if you incorporate a spirit of mindfulness into them.
3 Dissipate your anger
“May all those who have harmed us be free from greed, anger, aversion,
hatred, jealousy, and fear. Let these thoughts of loving friendliness embrace
them, envelop them…Let them relax their bodies. Let them relax their minds.
Let the peace and tranquility pervade their entire being.”
Bhante Henepola Gunaratana, Mindfulness in Plain English
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Close your eyes. Center your mind within your body, noticing all
the sensations that your body feels, from the hardness of the floor
to the softness of a breeze through an open window. Breathe deep-
ly and count your breaths, noticing the air as it moves in and out.
Can you remember how it felt? How is your body responding now
to the memory? I recommend beginning with an episode that is
only mildly to moderately anger-inducing for now. Gradually, as
you continue practicing, you’ll work through more difficult mem-
ories and feelings.
Continue breathing and noticing how your body is reacting to
memories of anger. You can even use the scanning technique de-
scribed above to take stock of your body’s responses.
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Here comes the hard part: Try to approach your anger with a
sense of compassion and loving kindness. First, direct those warm
thoughts toward yourself and your own anger. Look upon yourself
as a compassionate observer. You might envision a ball of warmth
like the sun filling your heart and spreading through the rest of
your body.
Now, forgive yourself for feeling anger. Then, wish your anger
goodbye.
You are moving on from it for the time being. You might repeat
a simple focus phrase such as, “May I do no harm to others, and
may they do no harm to me.” Wish good things for yourself. Wish
good things for others. Lay your anger aside and return to your
breath.
You can repeat this exercise as often as you like, and you can apply it
to a range of life situations. This kind of meditation gives you a struc-
ture for engaging productively with sensitive parts of your psyche and
remaining kind to yourself as you work to dissipate anger.
During this exercise, you might also direct feelings of warmth, compas-
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4 Just be
Our society has created this need to be something more than you al-
ready are. While there’s nothing wrong with setting and pursuing goals,
it’s okay to step back and accept where we are, to take a break from
striving.
To “just be” means you’re giving yourself permission to feel content
with yourself, and your place in the world.
Whatever your job is, you accept it for now, until something flows into
your life and forces you to grow. You don’t complain about what could
have been, overthink what is happening now, or worry about what might
happen in the future. When you can truly just be, you don’t have a care
in the world. This is what it means to be free.
When you’re in a relaxed state of mind, it’s easy to be yourself and be
in the moment. Being on a tropical beach with the waves lapping up to
shore immediately puts us in a place of acceptance. Imagine yourself
on that beach. It’s not hard to just be when you feel happy and fulfilled
in the moment.
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It does take practice to just sit there and be in your own body.
When you’re sitting in contemplation, feelings like loneliness and
boredom can arise. The more you practice, the better equipped
you’ll be to process those feelings, completely free of judgment.
5 Eat mindfully
We all have to eat. But are we paying attention to what and how we are
eating?
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So, when you eat quickly, you’re not giving the body time to do its job.
This is where that stuffed feeling comes from, not while eating, but
once you’re done.
Mealtime is an ideal time to practice mindfulness and apply it to your
daily life. Moreover, mindful eating can help you improve your nutri-
tion and learn about the way your body responds to food. It transforms
food into something to be enjoyed and celebrated. It becomes nourish-
ment for both your body and your soul.
When you engage your sense of taste to enjoy the food in your mouth,
you’ll eat less and feel more satisfied. You’ll allow your body to digest
properly, which will give you more energy and reduce the chance of
heartburn or indigestion.
Mindful eating means you’re fully aware. You notice the colors and
textures of your food. Eating in a slower, more thoughtful way helps
you steer away from processed food and unhealthy choices. When you
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eat mindfully, you gain a deeper appreciation for the complex, often
subtle tastes of natural foods. Many of us have become accustomed to
food with a lot of sugar and various additives; foods such as fruits and
vegetables might seem bland and boring by comparison. Yet when you
slow down and eat mindfully, you recapture the enjoyment of simple,
fresh, quality ingredients.
To eat mindfully, you shouldn’t have any distractions. Turn off the TV,
put your phone away, and don’t read the paper. Having a nice conversa-
tion with those at the dinner table is totally acceptable, of course.
6 Show gratitude and compassion
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The more you practice mindfulness and live in the moment, the fewer
regrets you’ll have.
You’ll listen to people intently when they speak. You’ll hug the people
you love more often. You’ll enjoy meals instead of simply scarfing food
down. You’ll stop and smell the roses, literally and figuratively.
When you start to become truly mindful, you’ll learn to recognize those
sweet things more vividly. You’ll notice the smiles and laughs of your
loved ones. You’ll hear what they say and pay attention to how it makes
you feel when all is good and right in your world.
Being grateful is a part of mindfulness, because if you see your life for
what it truly is, you can’t help but feel gratitude for it.
To become grateful, you can start the habit of writing down a few
thoughts daily – things you’re happy for, or things you’ve accom-
plished. The blue sky. A surprise postcard from a friend. Noticing the
good things will make you feel grateful.
Compassion can be a really handy tool when things aren’t working quite
right. If you’re mindful and experience moments of anger or sadness,
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Next, turn to your sense of touch: What can you feel? Which sensations
are interacting with your body right now?
Next: Hearing. What kinds of sounds are you able to hear? Don’t worry
too much about identifying what exactly is making the noise; just listen.
You can walk through these exercises one sense at a time. They offer a
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relatively quick way of bringing your mind back to your body and ex-
isting in the present.
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The more you practice this, the more you become equipped to let
all “objects of thought” float through you, instead of causing you
distress. To go even deeper into yourself, ask, “Who is experienc-
ing these thoughts?”
Mindfulness is courageous. It’s about sitting with yourself and owning
all the feelings and thoughts that roll through.
It’s not always an easy journey. Thoughts and feelings might arise that
cause you pain. Don’t try to hold onto or control these feelings; just let
things go when they come up.
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doubt. You are unlimited. As you chip away at your old beliefs through
the process of mindfulness, you’ll realize that you can do anything.
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Chapter 4
Letting Your Attachments Go
‘Let it go, let it go, can’t hold it back anymore / Let it go, let it go, turn
away and slam the door / I don’t care what they’re going to say / Let
the storm rage on / The cold never bothered me anyway.’
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The exercises in the previous chapters will help you make mindfulness
a regular part of your day. Over time, you’ll find that your practice will
help you move on from negative thoughts and harmful behaviors.
So how can you learn to let go, while going about your life in the ma-
terial world?
Try letting go of unhealthy attachments to the past and the future. For
example, maybe you grew up in an idyllic little neighborhood, and you
look back with fondness on your childhood there.
But imagine you find out that your old neighborhood has changed. Your
favorite park has been turned into a sprawling housing development.
Several of your old favorite restaurants have gone out of business and
there are now fewer options. That big oak tree you used to climb in the
park near your house has been chopped down.
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This transformation might cause you some distress, which is only nat-
ural. You might try to assign blame for why this has happened, and you
might feel angry and helpless.
This kind of problem is very common. We tend to grow comfortable
with familiar things and resist change. We grow too attached to a con-
stant, unchanging image of what someone, something, or someplace
was or should be, rather than accepting it for what it is.
Making this small but significant shift in mindset will help you adapt to
all sorts of changes in your life – whether your best friend moves away,
you start a new job, or you adjust to a new medical diagnosis. We are
so often tempted to remain firmly attached to the past, to idealized ver-
sions of ourselves and our loved ones, to future plans.
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Here are some examples of methods you can use to learn to let go:
Grab a pen and paper and take a few minutes to think about your
own attachments.
Here’s another exercise that can prove useful in learning how to let go:
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Next, bring your attention back to your mind. Engage with your
conscious self, and tell yourself you want to let go. Repeat the
words “Let go” as many times as you feel comfortable doing. Then
bring your attention back to your breath. However many times
you’ve told yourself to let go, take the same number of breaths --
three and three, 10 and 10, etc. Now imagine your mind softening,
relaxing, and releasing.
Start with your eyes. How do they feel? What are they doing? Take
the time to attune yourself to any and all sensations they might be
transmitting. Then invite your eyes to let go, as many times as you
like. After that, take the same number of breaths. Now imagine
your eyes softening, relaxing, and releasing.
Next, move your awareness to other body parts. Your cheeks. Your
tongue. Your neck. Your shoulders. Your chest. Your belly. Your
legs. All the way down to the tips of your toes.
Every step of the way, run through the same exercise. Practice tell-
ing every part of your body to let go. Then take the same number
of breaths, feeling your breath through your belly as it expands
and retracts.
When you’ve run through your entire body, slowly allow yourself
to open your eyes and let your mind re-enter the room.
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This is when you have to say internally, “Whoa, whoa, wait a minute.”
Feel the tension in your body, and observe the thoughts rolling through
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your head. When you stay centered and take a breath, you have the op-
portunity to find where the jealousy comes from. Maybe it stems from
a past relationship and if it is, you now know you have more healing
to do. Maybe you’ll realize that your self-esteem isn’t as high as you
thought. Or maybe your partner really is behaving inappropriately.
Again, you now have the opportunity to improve your life because
you’ve pinpointed the problem.
When you learn mindfulness, you take control of moments that would
usually have a strong hold on you. Moments of insecurity, anger, jeal-
ousy, or overwhelming sadness can be managed.
Remember that it’s often not the situation itself that’s the problem; it’s
your attachment to it. Teaching yourself how to let go can become one
of the most powerful lessons you’ll learn in your entire life.
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Chapter 5
The Important Benefits of Mindfulness
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You may not realize it, but your mind is constantly taking in new infor-
mation and giving you feedback. It has a job to do, after all, which is to
protect you.
Thousands of years ago, that protection was crucial, given all the physi-
cal dangers that humans faced back then. Our hard-wired fight-to-flight
response allowed us to deal with such life-or-death threats as approach-
ing saber-toothed tigers.
Today, we no longer need to run away from (or fight) saber-toothed ti-
gers. But we still have that fight-or-flight response hard-wired into our
brains.
This response system now manifests itself in situations that aren’t life-
or-death. For instance, when you get nervous as you walk into a room
full of strangers, that’s your fight-or-flight system alerting you to dan-
ger, even if the danger is relatively mild compared to what our ancestors
had to go through.
Now, as before, your mind perceives any threat -- even in the form of a
potentially awkward social situation -- as a time when you should either
run or hide. It then sends messages to your nervous system. Adrenaline
is then released, and your mind starts to race even more.
All of this activity is happening in your body, creating all sorts of natu-
ral responses.
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That’s why you sweat when you’re nervous. Your brain is sending mes-
sages to the body that it’s time to fight or run. Yet all of these signals
can become overwhelming, and living in a state of chronic stress and
tension is bad for your health.
When you begin to find presence in the moment, you will become more
aware of the messages your brain is sending you. Your mind is con-
stantly looking back on your past to find familiar situations to help you
cope with current circumstances.
A familiar past situation might simply be the smell in the air, trigger-
ing some nervous reaction to a non-threatening event. Maybe you were
scratched by a cat at age three, and still experience fear and anxiety
even around your friends’ docile and well-trained pets.
Sounds weird, right? Well, it happens to all of us. We give the brain this
impossible job. We tell it to protect us, and it works day and night to
fulfill its job. It doesn’t like the unfamiliar, and you might act out if your
brain becomes overwhelmed.
There is a way out, though. That way out is mindfulness.
When you begin to watch over your thoughts, you don’t react to thoughts
and feelings the same way you once did. You can observe the uncom-
fortable feelings your brain creates, and not react in a counterproductive
way. This becomes a new, more peaceful way of dealing with life. Your
mind then develops a new frame of reference. This is how mindfulness
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allows you to cope and puts you back in control of your life.
Here are some of the key benefits of mindfulness.
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When you’re more mindful, you chip away at the inner voices of your
“monkey mind,” the part of your brain that leaps from thought to thought
just as a monkey swings from vine to vine. Mindfulness helps to quiet
your monkey mind.
Let me assure you, you’re not missing anything. These thought process-
es are only causing you misery and grief.
There have been several dozen studies exploring mindfulness-based
stress reduction. Researchers have found that mindfulness-based cogni-
tive therapy is an effective treatment for many clinical disorders. Prac-
ticing mindfulness at home for smaller issues you face daily is advanta-
geous for your mental health.
With the help of mindfulness, you can even prevent the onset of clini-
cal mental disorders and reduce negative emotions that decrease your
quality of life.
The next time you start to feel angry, anxious, or frustrated, try explor-
ing the feelings that come up rather than feeding them by ruminating on
them. Where does the tightness sit? In your throat or belly? Scan down
your body, noticing tense muscles. Notice your breath: Is it deep and
even, or shallow and ragged?
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them. Once you’ve found the ability to reach that state of mindfulness,
you’ll also find yourself better equipped to handle all the challenges
that life might throw at you.
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As you practice this more and more, you don’t hit those emotional edg-
es that trigger hurt, anger, and sadness. Once you gain that handle on
your emotions, your everyday life will become so much easier.
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When you hide away past emotions, you essentially put yourself in a
cage of your own making. The only way out is to push through the un-
comfortable truths you’ve been repressing. If you go near the edge of
the cage, you feel extreme discomfort. In that place of discomfort, you
can finally deal with past trauma and pain.
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Let’s face it, relationships aren’t always easy, but when you incorporate
mindfulness, you can help ease conflict. Even if there is no immediate
or obvious solution, you won’t become anxious. You won’t fall into the
storytelling of your ego and cause an unnecessary fight.
What you will do is truly listen to what the person is saying without im-
mediately lashing out in defense. Instead, you mindfully consider how
you can help your partner and strengthen the relationship you’ve built.
When you’re willing to look inside yourself, you can see what is and
isn’t working. When you feel insecure, instead of avoiding the feeling,
you can investigate.
As you practice more and more, your mind will begin to reveal where
these feelings really come from. You may recall a moment in your child-
hood where you felt abandoned or ignored, or realize that you never
learned a particular skill.
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When you can grasp what is really going on and which emotions are
stuck in your body, you can get rid of them for good. It only takes con-
fronting these old bits of energy to truly kiss them goodbye forever.
This is how you evolve and move forward with your life without fears
that make very little sense. You can become calm in a situation that
would normally stress you out.
Life is always changing. But when you’re open to changing too, it’s
not so uncomfortable. You can quickly adjust, and even benefit from
those changes. Soon, you might even find yourself looking forward to
challenges, knowing that every one of them offers an opportunity for
growth.
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Chapter 6
Why You Can’t Afford To Not Be
Mindful How to Live in the Moment
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Imagine what happens when the years go by and you are not mindful.
You might struggle to get over the loss of loved ones, accumulate a
growing list of regrets, and struggle to adapt to change. You might wish
you’d said this or that. New technology and social media can further
distort your attention span and ability to live in the moment, making
mindfulness even more difficult to achieve. Thus, retreating from the
world and appreciating the present moment in front of you can become
that much tougher.
When you aren’t paying attention to the patterns of your life, you’re
more susceptible to falling into addiction, experiencing mood disor-
ders, or dabbling in self-destructive behaviors.
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The question is, how do you switch off your mind’s inner voices and
live in the here and now?
Practices such as meditation encourage mindfulness and allow you to
see what you otherwise cannot see. It’s hard to start a project when your
main objective is invisible. Mindfulness-based practices and tools have
been tried and tested by countless practitioners. In fact, practices like
meditation have been around for thousands of years.
Remember that while your mind can go virtually anywhere, you are
always right here. Mindfulness meditation gives you the skills to sync
your attention, so that your mind and body are in the same place at the
same time.
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Think about the last conversation you had with someone when you were
fully present. Perhaps even when you said, “I do” in your wedding cer-
emony, in the back of your mind you were thinking about something
else.
When was the last time you looked at someone in the eye as they spoke
to you? That you fully focused on what they were saying, without pick-
ing up your phone or daydreaming?
Consider how you approach your interpersonal relationships.
When you really listen to your kids’ philosophy of what’s fair, or an-
swer their questions about life, you will feel that real connection that
perhaps you’ve been missing in your life.
When you look at your partner in the eyes and tell them you love him
or her, that is an extremely powerful moment. If your relationship has
grown stagnant over the years, channeling a more mindful spirit can
reinvigorate your love and appreciation for each other.
Being in the present moment means having full awareness of what is
happening with you right now. You smell, see, hear, and touch your
experience. When you focus on the moment you’re in, it’s all so much
more meaningful and intense.
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Chapter 7
A Brief History of Mindfulness
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Pro athletes, actors, and many of the most successful people on Earth
practice mindfulness every day. Due to its benefits, mindfulness has be-
come a form of therapy for even the most challenging human disorders.
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Anxiety, OCD, ADHD, and Bipolar Disorder can often become debil-
itating mental conditions. Mindfulness therapy has shown to be effec-
tive in reducing symptoms caused by clinical disorders. It also helps
with addiction issues, regulating emotions, and offering a stable sensory
pathway in the brain. At a cellular level, we can all benefit from mind-
fulness. This is why it’s effective for anyone from anywhere for well...
anything.
As mindfulness becomes more and more recognized for its powerful
effects, people who are otherwise not spiritual have begun practicing
it daily. Professionals are finding out that they can transform many of
their counterproductive habits, which enables them to be more focused,
leading to greater success.
Above all, they experience the fulfillment of such success because they
also learn to celebrate life.
Kobe Bryant, a basketball star who dominated the game for two de-
cades with the Los Angeles Lakers, meditates daily.
Bryant said that during his playing career he focused on keeping his
mind free of distractions, so he could excel at the highest level on a dai-
ly basis in the high-pressure environment of professional sports. Mind-
fulness helped open the door for that success to materialize.
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The actor Russell Brand has meditated for years. After struggling for
years with substance abuse, Brand kicked his bad habits with the help
of a mindfulness-based routine. He also inspired talk-show giant Ellen
DeGeneres to start meditating. DeGeneres says that practicing medita-
tion has helped her find a sense of true peace.
Back in the day, The Beatles learned how to meditate from Maharishi
Mahesh Yogi, providing the inspiration for their White Album. Paul Mc-
Cartney had this to say about meditation:
Other famous people who meditate include Australian model Miranda
Kerr and British actress Naomi Watts.
Ray Dalio is the billionaire founder of Bridgewater Associates, which is
the world’s largest hedge fund firm. He says this about meditation,
There are many successful leaders who agree with Dalio. More and
more corporate leaders are avid meditators, realizing that meditation
lowers stress. It can also improve focus, creative thinking, and produc-
tivity, as well as physical health.
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“I walked away feeling fuller than when I’d come in. Full of hope,
a sense of contentment, and deep joy. Knowing for sure that even in
the daily craziness that bombards us from every direction, there is –
still – the constancy of stillness. Only from that space can you create
your best work and your best life.”
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Mindfulness at its heart does not demand that you change who you are.
Rather, it allows you to uncover who you are, and live your life more
freely and with integrity.
As Oprah says, it helps you live your best life, whatever that may be.
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Chapter 8
Conclusion
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There are many ways to practice mindfulness. We can focus our atten-
tion on our senses. On the sandwich that we’re eating. On the conver-
sation that we’re having. On any and all external and internal stimuli.
Through the practice of mindfulness and the act of meditation, you can
learn how to let go of your attachments. Learning to let go will open up
worlds of new possibilities in your life. You’ll see angles you never saw
before. Paths you never imagined. Outcomes you would have never
expected.
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You’ll learn how to manage your feelings. You’ll learn how to increase
your focus. And you’ll learn the path to increased resiliency and emo-
tional strength.
All you need to do is open your heart, embrace the present, and be.
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