Scribd Logo
Upload

Welcome to Scribd!

  • 355 views

    1 Plan B Cheat Sheet 020419 PDF

    Uploaded by

    hd380
    This document provides a cheat sheet for implementing Plan B, a problem-solving process. It outlines 3 key steps: 1) the Empathy step, where the facilitator aims to understand the child's perspective on the problem; 2) the Define Adult Concerns step, where the adult shares their concerns; and 3) the Invitation step, where both parties generate mutually agreeable solutions. For each step, it provides example language to use, tips for effective implementation, and things to avoid. The overall goal is to solve problems in a way that addresses the concerns of both the child and adult.

    Copyright:

    © All Rights Reserved
    Download as PDF, TXT or read online from Scribd

    1 Plan B Cheat Sheet 020419 PDF

    Uploaded by

    hd380
    355 views1 page
    This document provides a cheat sheet for implementing Plan B, a problem-solving process. It outlines 3 key steps: 1) the Empathy step, where the facilitator aims to understand the child's perspective on the problem; 2) the Define Adult Concerns step, where the adult shares their concerns; and 3) the Invitation step, where both parties generate mutually agreeable solutions. For each step, it provides example language to use, tips for effective implementation, and things to avoid. The overall goal is to solve problems in a way that addresses the concerns of both the child and adult.

    Original Title

    1 Plan B Cheat Sheet 020419.pdf

    Copyright

    © © All Rights Reserved

    Available Formats

    PDF, TXT or read online from Scribd

    Did you find this document useful?

    Is this content inappropriate?

    This document provides a cheat sheet for implementing Plan B, a problem-solving process. It outlines 3 key steps: 1) the Empathy step, where the facilitator aims to understand the child's perspective on the problem; 2) the Define Adult Concerns step, where the adult shares their concerns; and 3) the Invitation step, where both parties generate mutually agreeable solutions. For each step, it provides example language to use, tips for effective implementation, and things to avoid. The overall goal is to solve problems in a way that addresses the concerns of both the child and adult.

    Copyright:

    © All Rights Reserved
    Download as PDF, TXT or read online from Scribd
    Download as pdf or txt
    355 views1 page

    1 Plan B Cheat Sheet 020419 PDF

    Uploaded by

    hd380
    This document provides a cheat sheet for implementing Plan B, a problem-solving process. It outlines 3 key steps: 1) the Empathy step, where the facilitator aims to understand the child's perspective on the problem; 2) the Define Adult Concerns step, where the adult shares their concerns; and 3) the Invitation step, where both parties generate mutually agreeable solutions. For each step, it provides example language to use, tips for effective implementation, and things to avoid. The overall goal is to solve problems in a way that addresses the concerns of both the child and adult.

    Copyright:

    © All Rights Reserved
    Download as PDF, TXT or read online from Scribd
    Download as pdf or txt
    of 1

    PLAN B CHEAT SHEET

    EMPATHY STEP | INGREDIENT/GOAL


    Gather information about and achieve a clear understanding of the kid’s concern or perspective on the unsolved problem you’re discussing.

    WORDS | Initial Inquiry (neutral observation)


    “I’ve noticed that...(insert unsolved problem)... what’s up?”
    DRILLING FOR INFORMATION
    Usually involves reflective listening and clarifying questions, gathering information related to the who, what, where, and when of the
    unsolved problem, and asking the kids what they’re thinking in the midst of the unsolved problems and why the problem occurs under
    some conditions and not others.

    MORE HELP
    If the kid doesn’t talk or says “I don’t know”, try to figure out why: • Maybe he really doesn’t know
    • Maybe the unsolved problem wasn’t free of challenging • Maybe he needs the problem broken down into its
    behavior, wasn’t specific, wasn’t free of adult theories, or was component parts
    “clumped” (instead of split) • Maybe he needs time to think
    • Maybe you’re using Emergency Plan B (instead of Proactive Plan B)
    • Maybe you’re using Plan A

    WHAT YOU'RE THINKING


    “What don’t I yet understand about the kid’s concern or perspective? What doesn’t make sense to me yet? What do I need to ask to
    understand it better?”

    DON'T
    • Skip the Empathy step • Leave the empathy step before you completely
    • Assume you already know what the kid’s concern is and treat the understand the kid's concern or perception
    Empathy step as if it is a formality • Talk about solutions yet
    • Rush through the Empathy step

    DEFINE ADULT CONCERNS STEP | INGREDIENT/GOAL


    Enter the concern of the second party (often the adult) into consideration.
    WORDS | Initial Inquiry (neutral observation)
    “The thing is (insert adult concern)….” or “My concern is (insert adult concern)…"
    MORE HELP
    Most adult concerns fall into one of two categories:
    • How the problem is affecting the kid
    • How the problem is affecting others
    WHAT YOU'RE THINKING
    "Have I been clear about my concern? Does the child understand what I have said?”

    DON'T
    • Start talking about solutions yet
    • Sermonize, judge, lecture, use sarcasm

    INVITATION STEP | INGREDIENT/GOAL


    Generate solutions that are realistic (meaning both parties can do what they are agreeing to) and mutually satisfactory (meaning the
    solution truly addresses the concerns of both parties)

    WORDS | Initial Inquiry (neutral observation)


    Restate the concerns that were identified in the first two steps, usually beginning with “I wonder if there is a way…”

    MORE HELP
    • Stick as closely to the concerns that were identified in the first two steps
    • While it’s a good idea to give the kid the first opportunity to propose a solution, generating solutions is a team effort
    • It’s a good idea to consider the odds of a given solution actually working …if you think the odds are below 60-70 percent,
    consider what it is that’s making you skeptical and talk about it
    • This step always ends with agreement to return to Plan B if the first solution doesn’t stand the test of time

    WHAT YOU'RE THINKING


    “Have I summarized both concerns accurately? Have we truly considered whether both parties can do what they’ve agreed to?
    Does the solution truly address the concerns of both parties? What’s my estimate of the odds of this solution working?”

    DON'T
    • Rush through this step either
    • Enter this step with preordained solutions
    • Sign off on solutions that both parties can’t actually perform
    • Sign off on solutions that don’t truly address the concerns of both parties
    REV 060417
    livesinthebalance.org

    You might also like