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    1. The document discusses 5 mindsets that can lead to Oneitis, an unhealthy obsessive attachment to a romantic partner. These mindsets include thinking a partner is unique or different, believing you don't deserve them, assuming unconditional love, thinking a partner would never hurt you, and believing a partner is the only one who can make you happy. 2. The author argues these mindsets stem from dependency and pedestalizing a partner, which erode attraction and mental well-being. Instead, the author advocates maintaining a "prize mentality" and not assuming a partner is more valuable than you. 3. Comments on the post discuss experiences with Oneitis and ask for advice on getting over an ex

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    1. The document discusses 5 mindsets that can lead to Oneitis, an unhealthy obsessive attachment to a romantic partner. These mindsets include thinking a partner is unique or different, believing you don't deserve them, assuming unconditional love, thinking a partner would never hurt you, and believing a partner is the only one who can make you happy. 2. The author argues these mindsets stem from dependency and pedestalizing a partner, which erode attraction and mental well-being. Instead, the author advocates maintaining a "prize mentality" and not assuming a partner is more valuable than you. 3. Comments on the post discuss experiences with Oneitis and ask for advice on getting over an ex

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    1. The document discusses 5 mindsets that can lead to Oneitis, an unhealthy obsessive attachment to a romantic partner. These mindsets include thinking a partner is unique or different, believing you don't deserve them, assuming unconditional love, thinking a partner would never hurt you, and believing a partner is the only one who can make you happy. 2. The author argues these mindsets stem from dependency and pedestalizing a partner, which erode attraction and mental well-being. Instead, the author advocates maintaining a "prize mentality" and not assuming a partner is more valuable than you. 3. Comments on the post discuss experiences with Oneitis and ask for advice on getting over an ex

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    5 Mindsets That Start Oneitis

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    1. The document discusses 5 mindsets that can lead to Oneitis, an unhealthy obsessive attachment to a romantic partner. These mindsets include thinking a partner is unique or different, believing you don't deserve them, assuming unconditional love, thinking a partner would never hurt you, and believing a partner is the only one who can make you happy. 2. The author argues these mindsets stem from dependency and pedestalizing a partner, which erode attraction and mental well-being. Instead, the author advocates maintaining a "prize mentality" and not assuming a partner is more valuable than you. 3. Comments on the post discuss experiences with Oneitis and ask for advice on getting over an ex

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    5mindsetsthatstartOneitis
    OnMarch13,2011byShark
    ItsnotthatIthinklovedoesntexistorthatbeingattachedtoyourpartnerisnecessarilyaBADthing,
    Ijustbelievethattheresafinelinebetweenloveanddependency.Alargeportionofthisblogis
    dedicatedtohelpingguysgettingovertheirexgirlfriends,gettingthemback,ortryingtofixdamaged
    relationships.MostoftheseproblemsaremoreorlesssymptomsofOneitis.Parasiticlovenotonly
    corrodesloveandattraction,butalsothementalwellbeingofunknowingmartyrs.Ifinditespecially
    interestingbecauseunliketheotherproblemsmostguyshave,OneitisisNOTexclusivetobetas.Ive
    seennaturalalphaspineafterhalfasswomanandactivelytakepartintheirowndegradationevenwhile
    theywereCONSCIOUSLYawareofwhattheyweredoing.
    1.ShesdifferentfromothergirlsUnlesshervaginaisencrustedwithuncutdiamonds,sheisthe
    sameaseveryothergirlontheplanet.Thedifferencesyouseearearesultofconfirmationtheory
    youseethembecauseyouWANTtoseethem.

    getoveryourOneitis

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    2.Idontdeserveherselfeffacingattitudesmakeyouautomaticallypedestalizeagirl.Youhaveto
    maintainaprizementalitytocultivateattractionandreinforcedominanceneverstartarelationship
    assumingthatagirlhasmoreworththanyou.
    3.ShewilllovemeunconditionallyifIloveherunconditionallyItsmorelikelythatshewilllove
    youunconditionallyifyouDONTloveherunconditionally.WhenyoutellagirlIstillloveyouafter
    shescheatedonyou,shethinkstoherselfwowifheletmegetawaywiththat,hemusthavenoother
    options.Itsasubconsciousthoughtprocessthatimmediatelydestroysasignificantamountof
    attraction.Agirlwillloveyoumoreifsheneedstoworktogetyouraffectionandloyaltythanifyou
    advertiseitinfrontofher.
    4.Shewouldnever______Actually,shesprobablythinkingaboutdoingitrightnow.Theproblem
    withthismentalityistwofold.Besidestheobvioussubtletiesofdependency,italsoelicitsafreakout
    mindset.Ifyouneverthinkyourgirlfriendisgoingtolietoyouandshedoesoneday,yourlikelytoflip
    thefuckout,actlikeaparanoidbetaforthenextmonth,andotherwisefailtheshittestshethrewatyou.
    5.ShestheonlygirlthatcouldevermakemehappyInallhonesty,afloatingvaginathatfollowed
    youaroundwouldmakeyoumuchhappierthanyourcurrentgirlfriend.

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    Al
    March16,20115:24pm
    YounaileditShark.
    Ibrokeupwithmyexalmosttwomonthsago,eventhoughbothofussawitcoming(ithasbeen
    goingdownhillforawhile),itwasstillashockwhenshebroughtitup(especiallywhenIvebeen
    contemplatingdumpinghertoo).
    Sheseemstohavegottenovermealready,andhastoldmeshedoesntwanttobemyfriendyet
    b/citseemsIwouldwanttogetherback(Iknowextremelybeta),whichjustexacerbatesmyquiet
    acuteoneitis.IvetriedNCtogetoverher/possiblygettingherback,butlivinginthesame
    buildingIeventuallyranintoherandchatted,whichdestroyedallprogressmadethroughtheNC.
    IapologizeformyscrambleofwordsbutisthereanydramaticmeasureIcouldusetostopmy
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    acuteoneitis/betatude?
    Reply

    Anonymous
    June29,20118:26am
    shark,gotaseriousproblemwithoneitisthisismysecondcase,Igotinarelationshipwithagirl
    thatwaseatingoutofhandswasnochallengeatall(Imakeatonofmoneyandamoverly
    ambitious)sheisgonefor2yrsacrosstheglobetodoherMBAandiveonlydatedherfor
    3months!!!,sheisnowherenearashotasmylastgfwhowasasolid10,thisgirlattheverybestis
    an8(facewise)lowerbodywiseIjustsleptwithmyfirstoneitisthe10,thinkingitwillhelp
    changescenaryattheveryleastbutitmadeitworseImrealizingthaticareaboutmycurrent
    oneitisALOTmore,cantgetheroutofmyhead,cantfocusonanythingIhaventheardfrom
    herinover2months,oncesheendedIjustdroppedit(wetriedlongdistancefor2weeks),but
    havingbadlaspes,constantlyforcingmyselftonotcallher,textheroremailher,shesaidschoolis
    stressfulwhichInowrealizeishorseshit,focusoninterestlevel,interestlevelIwishIcame
    acrossyourwebsitebeforebutjustrecentlydid.
    Reply

    adventure_girl
    September28,201112:34pm
    justlookuphowtobecomeapua,andreadthebookthegameandallofyourquestionswillbe
    answered:)
    Reply

    Twilight
    March29,20126:04pm
    whatisitaboutadeathlysickwoman.thatamanwouldpicktobewithher?.hewaswithher
    beforeandhadhimputinjail.cheatedonhimwithhisbestfriendatthetime,thinhadhisass
    kicked,sheusedtobeoncrackandwasawhoreontopofallthat.
    theonewomanwhoisthemotherhislilgirl.loveshimtotheendsoftheworldandback.buthe
    keepsgoingbacktohisotherexandwillnotevenlookattheotherwomansway.sheisbyall
    meansa9+andwoulddohimwrightinthewaysamanshouldbedone.
    sowhydosethismanfeeltheneedtotakecareofareallyill/dieingwomanoveragreatloving
    woman?isthereaconditionforwhyhefeelstheneedtocareforasickwoman???
    Reply

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