Space Buns or Pigtails: The Power of Routine in Storytelling (and Parenting)

Storytelling and morning hair styling have more in common than you might think. Both rely on structure, a sense of familiarity, and the occasional creative flourish to keep things engaging. In our house, routines rule the day—especially when it comes to getting out the door on time with two 6-year-old twins in tow.

Every morning begins with a simple yet powerful question: space buns or pigtails? It’s a small ritual that keeps the chaos at bay, narrows the infinite possibilities of six-year-old fashion dreams, and sets the tone for the day. Occasionally, we shake things up with a new style (a braid crown here, a fancy clip there), but sticking to the tried-and-true options makes life easier for everyone.

Interestingly, this little family tradition mirrors the way routine works in storytelling. Let’s explore how routines—whether in hairdos or narratives—create a sense of calm, connection, and creativity, proving that familiar patterns are anything but boring.

Princess Leia or Wednesday Addams: Why Routines Reduce Anxiety

Let’s face it: 6-year-olds with an endless catalog of “dress-to-impress” hairstyle ideas can be intimidating. Without a routine, the morning could easily descend into chaos. Limiting the options to space buns or pigtails removes the decision-making stress and makes the process manageable for all of us.

Storytelling works the same way. Familiar structures, like the classic three-act plot or the hero’s journey, give audiences something to hold onto. They know what to expect, which reduces anxiety and keeps them engaged. When we provide a clear framework, creativity thrives because the basics are already sorted—whether we’re styling hair or crafting a story.

Routine Builds Connection (Hair Ties Optional)

In our house, the daily styling decision isn’t just about hair—it’s a ritual. It’s a moment of connection where my girls know they have a say, and I’m there to help bring their vision to life (without letting them get carried away with glitter gel).

Storytelling routines do the same thing. When audiences encounter recurring elements—whether it’s a beloved character, a familiar phrase, or a thematic motif—it builds trust. They feel connected to the storyteller and invested in the journey. Just like my daughters feel heard when choosing their hairstyle, audiences feel included when stories meet their expectations in comforting and predictable ways.

Creativity Thrives Within Routine

Of course, we don’t always stick to simple styles. Some mornings, we throw in a wild card—maybe a fancy fishtail braid or a new accessory. The beauty of routine is that it gives us a stable foundation to experiment from.

In storytelling, routine doesn’t stifle creativity—it enables it. Familiar frameworks allow room for unexpected twists and turns. Think of a story that starts with a classic setup but delivers a surprising punchline. That mix of structure and innovation is what keeps audiences engaged and coming back for more.

The Moral of the (Hair) Story

Whether it’s managing hairstyles or crafting compelling narratives, routine isn’t a crutch—it’s a tool. It reduces stress, strengthens connections, and leaves plenty of room for creativity to shine.

So, the next time you find yourself sticking to a routine, remember: familiarity isn’t the enemy of originality. It’s the secret sauce that makes even the wildest ideas work.

And if you’re curious—today was a Bubbles from the Powerpuff Girls day (pigtails). Tomorrow? Maybe Vanellope von Schweetz from Wreck-It Ralph? Or maybe we’ll shake things up. Either way, the routine will keep us grounded, and the story will be worth telling.

What’s your go-to routine that keeps life (or storytelling) running smoothly? Share your stories in the comments below!