THE PAST

Why can't we just leave the past behind us. Why can't we just move forward and like course supposed to without hanging on to whatever happened in the past it's already done it's already gone it makes no difference. Why do we insist on dragging the past as a piece of luggage with us everywhere we go and we just can't seem to live with out it.

 We think we have dealt with it. We think we have let it go and one day there it is! Picture yourself in the middle of a business meeting and a colleague indicates that your solution to the issue at hand is inappropriate and you are triggered! Now what? You literally are burning up inside with anger and you do not know which way to look. Is it you or them? Of course you assume it is them, yet again. He always does this and always embarrasses you in front of the boss!

  You may or may not be surprised that this is an opportunity for us to examine why has this been presented to us? It is best in this situation to get up and go to the hallway and deep breathe for a minute. Take a moment, as that is all you have, figure out how to react to this situation, get back in and show your mature awesome self! At home later you can analyze this (not to death). share you sorrow with your partner if you must. Search for what this means for you? Didn’t find it? Keep looking, I assure you it’s there. This is NOT about them! This is about you, perhaps abut you dad saying this same thing to you day after day when you were 10. It could be from you brother/sister who bullied you when you were 7. Perhaps it was you teacher in grade 5 who embarrassed you in front of the entire class. What about the girl who turned you down for a date in collage or the captain of the football team who stole her from you.

  This will sting a bit but it is always you. Life will happen to you and while everyday day is different, it will come with it’ challenges. IT IS UP TO YOU HOW YOU DEAL WITH IT!

You see, how you react is the only thing you have control over. This however is not what most of believe but it is the truth. You can freak out, you can scream, you can through objects into walls or you can remain calm. It will always be your choice. The best option, with the most favorable results will always be for you to sort out where you feel this is coming from and then of course heal this up. You may have to see a therapist! If you choose not to it will indeed rear it’s ugly head again sometime soon. Meditation is a self help solution that works well as well and many other modalities. Do what works best and do not carry this piece of luggage with you. Let it go!

 Peace and Light

Marianne