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Do you tend to have a lot of blind spots and you perhaps see things about yourself a little bit differently to everybody else?  

Well, that's okay. That happens to all of us.  

Stick with me because in this week's episode, I want to help you to understand how to use something as a strength that you tend to think is a weakness. 

Throughout my entire military and my corporate careers, there were things that didn't quite go as they could have. I tended to put my head in the sand or blame everybody else and think it was all external.  

I didn't want to believe things that might be true about myself, my own beliefs and behaviour. The reason for this was that I thought that if I looked into those things, I might find out things I didn't want to know.  

As you continue to get more self-aware (working in this first area of emotional intelligence), you need to be able to accurately assess where you are with each of these competencies.  

Most people I work with either overestimate their ability in the competencies of Emotional Intelligence or they underestimate their own abilities as well.   

It doesn't matter where you are — whether you're here, there or right in the middle. The other thing to know is that where you are in your level of competence, in any of those Emotional Intelligence areas, has no bearing on where anyone else is.  

It's not a competition.  

It's not another opportunity to mark yourself down or to compare yourself with others and therefore, give yourself more evidence that you are not who you really want to be.  

The competency that we're working on here is called Accurate Self-Assessment. The key words there are “self-assessment”.  

So, why do you want to really be accurate when you assess yourself in these competencies?  

Well, the simple fact is that if you are going on a journey towards the results that you want, you need to know a true reality of where you are.   

Whenever you go on a journey, you must know your start point.  

By being able to look in a certain way at your abilities, you can accurately assess where you are in relation to where you want to go, and therefore, have a gap that you know you need to fill.  

So, you need to get an accurate assessment.  

To learn how you can further develop this competency, read the full article.

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Grant Herbert (aka The People Builder) describes himself as an ordinary guy, with an outstanding wife and 5 amazing kids, who has a passion to help people escape the performance trap and regain their authenticity in every area of life. He is a VUCA Leadership Mentor, Sustainable Performance Coach, Master Coach Trainer in Social and Emotional Intelligence, and the founder of People Builders.

Visit www.grantherbert.com to find out how you can connect.