The 3-Step Formula I Follow to Stop and Change Negative Thoughts

Your monkey mind will take control of your life and life energy unless you learn to control it. Act now.

Your brain is nothing but a miraculous transformer of energy and consciousness science could not fully explain yet. 70 to 100 thousand thoughts appear and disappear in our minds within a day and 90% of them are the same thoughts coming in different disguises. An untrained mind chases these random series of thoughts and cannot stay in the moment. Garbage in garbage out — simple. Unless you learn to put an end to that vicious and you will become the victim of your unconscious mental mechanisms. Learn The 3-Step Formula to Stop and Change Your Negative Thoughts.

No worries. There is a solution to everything.

For thousands of years, thought leaders, philosophers, and mainly the masters of the Far-Eastern teachings have thought about it. Buddha was the first one to call this process of uncontrolled thoughts the “monkey mind”.

How does the monkey mind work?

• You think about your child`s university graduation ceremony let`s say and you are worried about what she will wear that day.
• In a few seconds, you recall how you dressed in your own graduation ceremony 30 years ago and become happy with the great words you had heard from your friends about your dress that day.
• Your happiness mixed with pride makes you think that this is the emotional energy your daughter must have in her work life to be successful.
• You immediately remember how toxic your work environment is recently and think about the recent issues at work due to the miscode of conduct and mistreatment of others you have witnessed.
• Your new manager who is bullish and strong makes you concerned about doing the right thing.
• You immediately go to your childhood to the very first moment when you were ridiculed in 6th grade by other girls around you when your family had to relocate to a new state and that it had taken you a year to build some friendships despite the bullying of a gang of girls who did not like a newcomer city girl to that rural town.
• You get angry and regret not having stood up for yourself and even for others those days.
• You remember your yoga teacher`s words about self-esteem and managing your frustration and immediately figure out that you will not make it to your yoga class tomorrow because some of your friends will be coming to your house.
• You have not prepared anything yet for the dinner tomorrow evening and try to remember whether your friends were vegetarian or not.
• Your memories haunt your mind again about your summer vacations in the Mediterranean city where your grandparents lived and how magnificent the vegetables and food were.
• You think about your grandparents who died a few years ago and think about how you will age and whether you will die alone or not.

Al this happens in a few minutes. If it happens as you drive, you may not even remember where you passed and still find yourself driving the car in your lane. I am sure many of you had bad days when you left your house for work and found yourself packing your car in the parking lot without remembering the road you drove.

This money mind practice can go on and on for more and believe me, you will find yourself thinking even about the quantum mechanisms or how Homo Sapiens lived 65,000 years ago.

Yes, the mind is a powerful vehicle unless you use it right. An untrained mind will distract you and pull you away from your own track like an untamed wild horse riding his unfortunate rider to places he did not want to go to.

I assume you have understood what I mean about the nature of the mind.

Then the question is how will you tame it? How can you stop and change your negative thoughts?

As you can see the mind has a tendency to be concerned and think negatively when faced with volatility, uncertainty, complexity, and ambiguity. It is a VUCA world indeed.

STEP 1 RECOGNIZE

The first step is to RECOGNIZE that your monkey mind has taken control of you. This is called catching yourself in action.

You should have made a decision to fight this battle and developed the awareness and the willpower to fight it till the end so that you can overcome the mental resistance that will come with the fight. The mind is clever and will find ways to distract and discharge you.

STEP 2 STOP

The second step is to STOP the chain of uncontrolled thoughts.

Do this by closing your eyes, and moving your eyes 20 degrees upward to look in a spot between your eyebrows.

This will immediately help your brain switch from the Beta state to the Alpha state which is the mental stage where the brain is creative and open to change.

Then, take a deep breath and exaggerate it a little bit to anchor your monkey mind to this inhaling process and to pull it back from the train of uncontrolled thoughts.

The process of a deep breath should feel like you are cleaning up your mental attic and sweeping your negative thoughts. It is better if you use your hand as a brush. That will help your visualization process. Sweep your hair gently but decisively as if you are using it to clean your mind. Then exhale visualizing that your negative thoughts are gone as you exhale. Visualize the air you are breathing as white when you inhale and as black when you exhale. Fill your body with white light when you inhale. Spread that white light to every corner of your body and visualize all negativity disapper silently.

If your mind is really attached to your thoughts a lot, then resist the urge to quit and try again. Your mind is like an untamed wild horse and will listen to you soon if you try. Don`t be harsh on your self though.

STEP 3 REPLACE

Third and the last step is to REPLACE your negative thoughts with the right or positive ones.

Still keep your eyes closed.

Do it by first of all saying CANCELLED, CANCELLED, CANCELLED. say CANCELLED three times and visualize that you are stopping a train of thoughts like a superhero with your bare hands.

Visualize as it is real and charge your emotions to make it real.

Immediately replace the new thought using the present tense because the mind follows the subconscious programming and there is no past or future for it — there is just the moment, that is now.

With eyes closed, tell in the present tense the new positive that will replace the negative one.

For example, if you were thinking that you did not deserve to buy a dress that you like to buy for a long time, replace it as below.

CANCELLED, CANCELLED, CANCELLED. I am now cancelling thinking that I do not deserve to buy this beautiful dress.

I am now choosing to think that I deserve it and to buy this dress.

It seems simple but it is effective.

The more you repeat the more effective it will become. With practice, your untamed mind will learn to listen to you as its master. It was not obeying you because you never asked for it and resisted the urge to follow your monkey mind blindly.

Just watch out before we end the story.

Practicing only once will not help you establish permanent results. You need to try. Sustainability comes with practice and resisting the urge to not do it. Your mind will challenge you with so many tricks and will find your weak spots. Have faith in yourself and the process. Practice, practice, practice.

Unless you solidify your new thought pattern with a courageous action to go and buy that dress, in our example, you will still be a captive of your old thought pattern. You must crown your new thinking with your brave actions.

As Master Yoda says. There is no try. Just do it.

But make sure you do not do something stupid — do the right thing.

With love,

Kenan

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