Dr. Travis Bradberry’s Post

I love this in general. It’s a great reminder to pause and reflect about what is and isn’t in our control. What I found after years of my own experience and now with clients is that most of us will let things go if we can. Where we end up festering is usually tied up in our inability to understand that emotion is a signal tied to needs. The emotion is telling us that a basal human need is either being met effectively or ineffectively. Usually, those festering type of emotions are tied back to our esteem feeling threatened. It’s subconscious - on the surface we would say that we’re “fine”. Yet, biologically we feel threatened- we are about to be thrown out of the pack and our emotions are trying to prevent this from happening. Once you realize that the festering is tied to esteem it becomes much easier to “just let go”…

The "outcome of my efforts" is out of my control? Really? Sounds like running from accountability. Outcomes are essential. Effort is just one of many inputs to maximizing outcome.

I’ve thought this very useful advice since I first read it in Stephen R. Covey’s “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” (1990) - Habit #1 Be Proactive - take action on what you can control to make your life and world better. Other than its impact on your ⭕️ of control do not let the weight of external concerns diminish the control you have within your ⭕️ of influence.

Good reminder.. but shouldn't we have a say in the future? We can't control it, but we certainly can contribute to it... any thoughts?

Where you place your attention is where you place your energy 🙌💪

good one

This is such a powerful reminder! Focusing on what’s within our control, like self-care, setting boundaries, and finding joy, can help us stay grounded and resilient. Letting go of what we can’t control is the ultimate act of peace and growth. Thank you for sharing this!

Absolutely! It's all about prioritizing our efforts on the things within our control. That's where real progress happens. Letting go of the rest frees up mental space for creativity and new opportunities.

But what about the situation room? There is a situation happening right now that I need to focus my attention on. (until the next situation that happens in the situation room)

Nice Would put ”how I react to things” in my control