Ted Bauer’s Post

Motherhood is filled with moments of loneliness, doubt, and exhaustion. There are days when you crave connection after feeling isolated with a newborn, and others when you just want to retreat into solitude and say no to any form of socialization. Each day looks different, and that's okay. We hear you. Sometimes it's finding solace in a good book, a warm bath, or a long walk. Other times, it's reaching out to a friend for a heart-to-heart conversation, or a fun night out. Or perhaps it's seeking professional support to navigate the challenges you're facing. Neglecting to fill your bucket can lead to exhaustion, stress, and strained relationships. Filling your bucket isn't selfish—it's essential to avoid burnout and protect your well-being and the well-being of your family. Know that you are not alone in feeling the weight of motherhood on your shoulders. Your struggles are valid, your feelings are heard, and we're here to support you. 💖 #Motherhood #WeHearYou #MomLifeStruggles #SelfCareForMoms #SupportForMoms #YYCMoms #MomsSupportingMoms #EncircledTherapy

Fatherhood is often portrayed as a time of joy and fulfillment, but the reality can be far more complex. Recent studies from the UK reveal that many new fathers experience profound psychological distress during the perinatal period—often in silence. 💡 **Did You Know?** - Up to 15% of fathers suffer from anxiety and 10% from depression in the first year after their child is born. - Many dads feel intense emotions like anger, despair, and even hatred, stemming from a lack of control over their new life circumstances. What Fathers Are Going Through: Some fathers initially feel ambivalent about their new role, leading to confusion and guilt. This can evolve into extreme negative emotions, such as feeling trapped, angry, or overwhelmed by their responsibilities. Work-Life Strain: Work becomes both a necessity and an escape. While it’s a source of stress, it’s also a refuge from the challenges at home, where fathers may dread returning to face frustrated partners, crying babies, and ongoing relationship conflicts. Fear of Judgment: Fathers often fear being judged for their emotions, particularly the darker ones like anger or despair, during a time that is supposed to be joyful. This fear can lead them to bottle up their feelings, further exacerbating their mental health struggles. Lack of Support: Many fathers feel excluded from maternity services and question the legitimacy of their experiences. They worry that seeking help might detract from the support their partner needs, leading them to suffer in silence. **Why Person-Centred Therapy Can Help:** As a person-centred counsellor, I’m here to provide a safe, non-judgmental space where you can explore these emotions. This approach puts you at the centre, acknowledging your experiences and helping you find your path through this challenging time. If you’re feeling overwhelmed by the transition to fatherhood, you don’t have to go through it alone. Your feelings are valid, and support is available. 🗓 **Book a Free 20-Minute Chat:** Visit www.jplcounselling.co.uk to schedule. #fatherhood #jplcounselling #chorlton #newdads #yourenotalone #stigma #support #mentalhealth

𝐀𝐝𝐮𝐥𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐬 𝐋𝐨𝐧𝐞𝐥𝐲..𝐁𝐮𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐚𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐞. Lately, in my work with adults aged (20-30), I’ve noticed a 𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐮𝐫𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐚𝐦𝐢𝐝𝐬𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐨 𝐚𝐝𝐮𝐥𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐨𝐝. Many of my clients express feelings of isolation as they start ‘𝐚𝐝𝐮𝐥𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠’, grappling with the myriad of responsibilities and uncertainties that come with this phase. Interestingly, I’ve been feeling the same way! 𝐅𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐰𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐞 𝐚𝐝𝐮𝐥𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐬 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐦𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤. The responsibilities of adulthood, such as career demands, financial pressures, and personal growth, often lead to feelings of loneliness. 𝐈𝐭'𝐬 𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐲 𝐭𝐨 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐢𝐧 𝐚 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐥𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐠𝐥𝐨𝐫𝐢𝐟𝐢𝐞𝐬 𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐬𝐮𝐟𝐟𝐢𝐜𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐲. We're taught to stand on our own two feet, to be self-reliant and resilient in the face of adversity. 𝐁𝐮𝐭 𝐢𝐧 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐪𝐮𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐚𝐮𝐭𝐨𝐧𝐨𝐦𝐲, 𝐰𝐞 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐞𝐬 𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐮𝐧𝐢𝐭𝐲. As we navigate the choppy waters of adulthood, we often find ourselves drifting apart from old friends and struggling to forge new connections. Busy schedules, geographical distance, and the pressures of adult life can make it challenging to maintain the deep, meaningful relationships that sustain us through life's ups and downs. But here's the thing: 𝐘𝐨𝐮'𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐚𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐰𝐚𝐲. We're all in the same boat, sailing through the ups and downs of adulthood, facing similar struggles, and 𝐬𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐚𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐚𝐲. So if you're feeling isolated while adulting, know that you're not alone. Reach out to friends, family, or even seek support from a therapist or support group.

Hoi Schweiz 👋🏽 ➡️We all have a past, and many of us believe that we have our past and the emotions that come with it completely under control 🥸However, this is might not be the case… 🩵Childhood traumas can significantly impact adult relationships in several ways, such as: ⚪️ Trust issues : early traumatic experiences such as neglect or abuse , can lead to extreme difficulties in trusting others. People might feel betrayal or expect people to hurt them , which leads to insecure and challenging relationships ⚪️Trauma can also affect your attachment styles. Those who have experience childhood traumas may have anxious or avoidant attachments, which can ultimately unfold as clingy or even emotional detachment in relationships ⚪️Traumatic experiences can also affect how a person communicates. For example, they might avoid discussing certain topics in fear of the other persons reaction. Or, they might struggle to articulate their needs and feelings. This can lead to conflicts and misunderstandings in your adult relationships. ⚪️Individuals who experience trauma during childhood often struggle with regulation of their emotions. This can lead to mood swings, emotional triggers or difficulty expressing themselves which can lead to strain in their relationships ✨✨With all of this being said, it does not mean life has to always be this way. There are so many intelligent, empathetic, and caring individuals out there who are here to help you work through your traumas, and make you feel confident in yourself and your adult relationships 💙Don’t lose hope, you’re not alone. 💻Check out some of your local resources here: www.up-worldwide.com OR www.upzuri.ch Bis später tschüss 👋🏽👋🏽 #upzurich #childhoodtrauma #mentalhealth #supportlocal #swissstartup Charlene S. Naomi Wernecke

Our Motherhood Reset - Take a pause and reset 🧘♂️ Feeling depleted and wanting to understand why? 🌸 Wanting to think more carefully about your self care or is guilt a barrier? 🌻 Understand what you need feel more in balance in life 👍 Create a road map outlining the steps and possible barriers with techniques to overcome them - creating a fuller and more meaningful life. Share with those who need to take the pause and reset.

MOVING ON; Parental wounds can profoundly impact our self-esteem, leaving us scarred. While some people recognize these wounds and proactively work towards healing, others may either fail to acknowledge them or neglect to take action, perpetuating a cycle of generational trauma. Taking time to reflect on past relationships, rather than swiftly moving into new ones, can be incredibly beneficial. Investing in personal growth and self-improvement allows for meaningful transformation, empowering you to move forward with increased self-awareness and emotional resilience. Before embarking on a new relationship or reconciling with a past partner, consider taking time to address the following essential aspects of yourself: Heal parental wounds: Recognize, process, and release the emotional scars and patterns inherited from your family dynamics, ensuring they don’t influence your relationships. Achieve private victory: Overcome…

When we have experienced a significant or painful abandonment - for example, by a parent, sibling, partner or friend - we form an emotional memory around this experience. This emotional memory includes: 👉 A memory of the feeling (e.g., sadness, hurt, shame); 👉What we took away from the event (e.g., I”m not lovable,” “I can’t rely on others”); 👉A physical sensation in our body (e.g., emptiness in our stomach, anxiety in our chest); 👉A healthy need that went unmet, such as a need for love, care, or protection; and  👉A behaviour that we enact when we feel this way again (e.g., cling, pull away, or both). When these experiences aren’t resolved, they play out over and over in our relationships. Our childhood relationships, particularly with our caretakers, often create a blueprint that tell us what to expect in future relationships (until these future relationships prove us wrong, which can take a lot of repetition for those of us with early relationship injuries). In infancy, we require security, safety, and stability: We need our parental figures to be consistent, loving, secure bases from which we can explore the world. These “secure” relationships provide us with a blueprint for what healthy, stable relationships and friendships should look like as we enter into adulthood. We also tend to be more resilient when relationships hurt us in some way. In contrast, when disruptions or inconsistencies occur early in our relationship with our caretakers, we tend to be more insecure in our future relationships. We might be anxious that others will leave us and cling when there are hints in that direction, or we might avoid close relationships so as to never feel that abandonment again. Fear of abandonment can be paralyzing, but luckily, it is possible to untangle those emotional responses that keep us from connection. It’s one of the most common struggles we work with in Emotion-Focused Therapy. #emotionfocusedtherapy #eft #emotionalawareness #unfinishedbusiness #maladaptiveemotions #childhoodtrauma #traumarecovery #cptsd #complextrauma #innercritic #anxiety #bccounselling #therapybc #bcpsychologists #bccounsellor #burnaby #burnabycounselling #vancouvertherapy #counsellingvancouver #oceansidepsychologygroup

I know you believe you’ve always had it. The anxiety, chronic symptoms, low self-esteem. You believe you’ve always been this sensitive. This is not true. These less obvious childhood experiences may be be influencing your adult life more than you realise. - Parents away due to work or military service. - Having a controlling parent. - Divorce - Longer separation from a primary caregiver - Feeling pressured to excel academically or in extracurriculars. - Growing up in a super competitive or "perfect" family. - Not getting enough emotional support from caregivers. - Dealing with financial instability at home. - Seeing your parents argue often. - Feeling left out or ignored by friends or family. - Watching a sibling struggle with long-term illness or disability. - Having family members struggle with substance abuse. So if you ever wonder why you struggle with anxiety, perfectionism, or chronic symptoms as an adult. This might be your answer. It might stem from childhood experiences you never even realized were significant. Experiences like separation from a parent, being criticised, growing up in a highly competitive family, witnessed parental conflicts or feeling excluded, create an unsafe environment, they can cause chronic stress and lead to a dysregulation in the autonomic nervous system. Your body stays on high alert, frozen in the survival mode. Such high activation can manifest as chronic symptoms, anxiety, perfectionism, feeling overly sensitive. But this is a result of your upbringing. You have “a before”. Where there’s a cause, there’s a solution. Recognising and understanding these experiences is the first step toward reclaiming your emotional well-being. If any of this resonates with you, pm me “ACE” to see how I can help. 🌿 #traumasurvivor #chronicillness #chronicpainlife #survivalmode #cortisol #nervoussystemregulation #mindsetshifting #anxietyrelief #perfectionismrecovery

“Life transitions tend to put everything upside down. The things that were important before are perhaps not that important anymore. Life review helps people accept changes and also to search for new commitments.” This piece in the NYT (I've used a gift link, so you should be able to access it even without a subscription) shares some of the latest research, showing that looking back on one's life with intention has real benefits for people of any age—and it's especially relevant during times of upheaval or change. Think divorce, graduation, career change, becoming a parent, losing a loved one... There are protocols in place for certain types of therapeutic life review (such as when a patient is on hospice, for instance), but even journaling or sharing memories with a personal historian skilled in active listening can be powerful and impact well-being—and even future choices. I'm curious: Would you be open to such a purposeful review of your life at your current age, or do you think it's an undertaking better suited to your later years? #lifereview #transitions #writeyourlife #reminiscencetherapy https://lnkd.in/gWjm3bY8

To every new mom struggling with postpartum challenges—this is your reminder: The light you’re searching for is already within you. That inner calling, that quiet voice saying, “This is the path,” is your signal. But if you ignore it—if you suppress it—you risk staying stuck in a life scripted by others, shaped by your wrong beliefs. The fearless, dreaming version of you—the one who believed anything was possible—gets buried under the weight of “being an adult.” The result? Frustration. Regret. A life that feels unfulfilled. But it doesn’t have to be this way. Motherhood isn’t just a new chapter—it’s an opportunity for a rebirth. When you embrace this shift and you surrounder to what your subconscious mind is communicating to you : ✅ Your mental health thrives. ✅ Your physical health improves. ✅ Your children flourish, following your lead. ✅ And most importantly, you live a longer, happier, more fulfilled life. This is your chance to rewrite the story and live with purpose. To align with your true self. Are you ready to embrace this shift? 💫 DM me 'Rebirth' to discover how you can find your purpose.