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Gratitude has its uses. It helps us take stock of what’s awesome, gives us a sense of peace in the moment and allows us to truly enjoy our lives. But it can also be a bit of a tranquilizer. Take me, for example. For years, I had a great job, no debt and called San Francisco home. I was respected by colleagues, peers and bosses. I had nothing to complain about. But I hated my day-to-day. I practically had to push myself into work. I knew the Sunday Scaries well and dreaded 9-5. There was a guttural feeling that I knew I was made for more, that I could do more, that there were bigger ripples in me than my life was currently creating. I was treading in lukewarm water looking around and wondering, “Is this it?” I kept shaming myself to feel grateful. Why can’t I feel grateful!? What’s wrong with me? Anybody would want this! Then I went through a divorce, a very hard rock bottom, that shook me out of my sleepwalk. I’d been at a 5/10 and sunk to a 0/10, but now I had my eye on 10/10. I knew I was here for a reason and a purpose. And that things had to change. And that’s the flipside of gratitude, that the opposite can be really change-inducing. Looking around and saying, “This is bullshit! This isn’t what I want!” can be highly motivating. When you have nothing to lose, you often make your boldest moves. You’re so fed up, you swim like hell out of the lukewarm status quo, no longer trying to convince yourself to just shut up and be grateful. Am I saying don’t be grateful? Not at all. Take stock and smile when you look around at your life. Am I saying hitting rock bottom is the best way to change? Not at all. That’s simply an extreme example. What I am saying is if you’re getting too comfortable, too middle of the road, you might need to find some polarity to snap you out of it so that it doesn’t become a rut. Watch that you don’t just accept things the way they are because you feel bad that you’re not happy. Watch that you don’t should yourself with gratitude. If you want to quit your job even when the salary is good, the people are great and the commute is short, it doesn’t make you ungrateful, selfish or entitled. It means your eyes are open to what you’re truly here for. And if you're not seeing it, don’t get stuck in a comfortable spot. Go get it. Are you struggling with breaking it through to Director level and beyond? If you’re seeking expert guidance, strategic advice, and a partnership that propels you to level UP, book your free consultation now 👉 https://lnkd.in/gA5rnAaF

“You Are Not Guaranteed Another Day” In the age we live in Social media, on the daily is blasting us with motivational quotes and memes etc Now lots get re shared, likes, hearts and comments etc But let’s be honest, people share them etc but don’t actually care about the actual quote, not really anyhow Some of the familiar themes seem to be the “live life to the fullest” & “live like you aren’t guaranteed a tomorrow” or “live like you are dying” themes Basically telling you to get the most out of life Don’t waste time Graft Hustle Love Laugh Bla bla bla Now people generally think in terms of bucket list stuff now Jumping out of planes Facing fears Doing crazy things they’ve always wanted to do All because tomorrow isn’t guaranteed Now, whilst there’s fuck all wrong with that take on things, I know this one thing for certain If I was dying, and we all are day by day, let’s be honest, and tomorrow WAS NOT guaranteed….I would not be looking to do mad crazy shit to make me feel alive However, I would - Hold my children tight, and tell and more importantly show them how bloody much I loved and cared for them and how special they are - Have more meaningful conversations with the people I cared about - Actually caring when I asked people how they are, instead of using empty words like most of us do each day - Holding that hug or kiss that extra second longer than normal - Enjoy the simple things in life more such as nature - Have more fun and laughter - Saying no more, to things, people or situations that don’t serve me or my peace and happiness - Feel more gratitude for everything I have experienced (good, bad, indifferent) and the lessons taught/learnt - Love more, love harder - Be more selfless - Be kinder I really really could go on here I’m hoping by this point that you get the picture? …..yes?? Good 😍 So my question is this👇🏻 Why can’t we adopt this attitude to this truly amazing thing called life EVERY FUCKING DAY A fucking big lesson I’ve learnt over the past couple of years is what is truly important to me in my life I learnt this lesson the HARD WAY So hard I’m actually lucky to even be alive typing this post On paper had it all All the shiny nice things But truly miserable, unfulfilled and unhappy without any purpose in life what so ever But I truly believe all these things have led me to this point, right here, right now to teach me And there in, from my own shit storm of experiences I can teach and help others Much ❤️ PS- if you’d like my help, reach out, and we can chat 😀

A Different Type Of Gratitude... There are many studies that prove it... And I know it's had a massive impact on my life personally... Gratitude is something that all personal development enthusiasts have likely heard about. It's something that increases your happiness and even your health (because it lowers your stress levels). See, when you feel grateful for what you have, you're not focusing on what you don't have. And it's what you don't have that causes so many people to feel longing and therefore emotional pain. "I wish my partner cleaned the house more" is going to make you feel one way.... "He/She is always so nice to my parents" is going to make you feel another way. Gratitude is a focus on being thankful for what you have - vs comparing it against something you don't have. You've likely heard that before. And you can never be too grateful for life. But, today, I want to challenge you to think about something else... Because this type of gratitude also increases your sense of wellbeing. Today I want you to think about... "Who is grateful for having me in their life?" This is such a powerful question. Maybe it's your partner, your kids, your parents, your siblings... Maybe it's your friends, your colleagues... Maybe it's the ticket inspector on the train you're always nice to... They don't have to have ever said it to you. So many people don't express their emotions fully. But, deep down, you know that there are people who are grateful for you being alive. And there comes a sense of inner peace with that. If you struggle to find people you think are grateful for you, it's likely your own self image getting in the way. People WILL be grateful for you. Things gets really exciting when you take this approach into everyday life... "Who can I make grateful for me today?" What a beautiful question that is? You hold doors open more, smile at strangers more, engage in conversations with checkout staff more... You hug your kids tighter more, praise your partner more, help your parents more... And, as a coach, you're being paid to make someone grateful for you. Your clients, because you change their lives, will be eternally grateful that you exist. Isn't that just wonderful? That's why I love the coaching business and being a coach. So, today, I want you to use gratitude in a different kind of way... "Who is grateful for having me in their life?" And... "Who can I make grateful for me today?" Just something to think about... ...but it can be absolutely game-changing... #Gratitude #PersonalDevelopment #Mindfulness #Wellbeing #Coaching #SelfImprovement #EmotionalIntelligence #MentalHealth #KindnessMatters #SelfReflection #PersonalGrowth

It turns out gratitude is good for your health Logically speaking, we should be in a perpetual state of gratitude. Most people who read this column, even if they aren’t fully aware, have a long list of blessings to count (most of the time, anyway). Whatever your challenges, there is much to embrace. Family. Friends. Love. Health. Freedom from war and natural disaster. Imagination. Community. A roof over our heads. Common decency. Hope. Opportunity. Memories. Financial stability. Favorite places. Days off work. Good weather. The golden age of television. Books. Music. Ice cream. Weekends. A friendly exchange. Something good that happened today. Something bad that didn’t happen today. A good cup of coffee. You may not have everything you want or even need, but that probably leaves buckets —nay, container ships — full of tangible and conceptual items for which to be grateful. Things can always be better, but they can always be worse. It often depends on how you look at that proverbial glass of water. To get in better touch with gratefulness, all you have to do is find easy ways to count blessings more often than, say, over an annual turkey dinner. Keep them boiling on the front burner of your mind, and you increase your appreciation of life. What keeps us from longer and more frequent visits to a grateful (and graceful) mental place is that we think about other things. In fact, we are wired to. Our primitive brains smartly evolved the capacity to quickly sense potential threats, to keep us safe. But in a post-saber-toothed-tiger era, we get easily annoyed, worried and distracted by a lot of extraneous noise. Instead, we need more focus on the positive. And you don’t have to set the bar high. Allow yourself to be thankful for the small, mundane things that give you joy and meaning, as well as the big ones. And don’t try to gather heaps of blessings to count; a handful each day should do it. In his play “Two Trains Running,” August Wilson wrote, “You walking around here with a ten-gallon bucket. Somebody put a little cupful in and you get mad ‘cause it’s empty. You can’t go through life carrying a ten-gallon bucket. Get you a little cup. That’s all you need. Get you a little cup and somebody put a bit in and it’s half-full.” #broker #brokers #mortgagebroker #mortgagebrokers

Do you believe in the Law of Attraction and manifesting? It doesn't really matter if you don't believe in it. It's always at work whether you believe in it or not. It's not some woo woo new age hippy dippy sh-t. It is real. Although you will read a lot of stuff with people over complicating things and selling their courses. But let me simplify it. In it's simplest terms it just means that you attract what you expect. Not what you want, what you expect. Everything is energy and has it's own vibration. Everything! Even that chair you are sat on. Even that clear air around you isn't nothingness - there are WiFi signals, mobile phone signals, ions and all manner of other stuff you can't see. All with it's own vibration. Albert Einstein said that, and he was a lot cleverer than I am. If you think of this vibrational energy as being like a radio channel. You dial into the radio frequency of the channel you want to listen to. Simple. And so it is in life, you tune into the vibrational frequency you want to live at. And to break that down in simple terms again: if you're always moaning and focussing on the negative then that's what you will dial into and attract. If you make an effort to FEEL gratitude and notice the positive, that's what you will attract. The important word with gratitude is FEEL. You need to feel gratitude. Not just write meaningless words in a notebook with no feeling. And feeling gratitude is also really good for your health and wellbeing. Lots of research on this, for those who are sceptical. Of course, bad things happen in life and nobody is suggesting you are pollyanna-perfectly-positive all the time. Absolutely not. But some people make moaning and complaining into an art form. Change your mindset and change your life. Here's an example: "Oh I've had a terrible week" Have you? Really? The whole week was absolutely terrible? Every single second of every single minute was terrible, was it? Or could it be that something happened that wasn't great but there were other moments that were happy and good. Obviously I'm talking about everday life here and not tragedies of life such as bereavement or other life changing events. Here's a simple but incredibly effective challenge for you to do: for 24 hours do not moan or complain, even in your own head to yourself. Especially in your own head to yourself. Start to notice your own internal chatter. It's also important to allow yourself to feel the other emotions of being human, whatever they are. Don't shut them out. In everyday life, it's ok to have a pity party, just don't unpack and live there. Mindset matters. It's the way you dial into the "radio station" of your life. And then you can really start to manifest the life you want (and expect). And today I feel really grateful for my day off work and for this amazing little dog who is just so full of love ❤️

Nothing is working in my life... This has been my mood for a while. I spent a great deal of the previous weeks wearing sadness like a badge of honour. I whined about anything and everything. The more I complained, the more the things that weren't working in my life got magnified. The more deadlines I missed. The more unfulfilled personal goals. It was bad. Nobody tells us how much bad emotions can affect productivity. Or maybe Joyce Meyer mentioned it in 'Living Beyond Feelings' and I was the one who wasn't paying attention. No doubt that the things I complained about were true, but I concentrated all my energy on highlighting it and it filled me with negativity. That's the power of negative emotions when we feed them. It only took a friend to remind me of a little million miracles. I'd complained a lot and she'd told me how she'd divert her energy sometimes to thinking of her little blessings. Like being grateful that the egusi soup she prepared turned out well and that she enjoyed it. Sounds little, yeah? But counting a million little miracles is a good start in getting you out of a funk. Of course, this is not to say that life cannot be hard or not balanced. Or that your problems aren't real. But magnifying them does you no good too. A positive outlook is what does good. There's a lot to be grateful for and I'm starting this new week grateful. 1. I'm grateful that I have Jesus. I don't want to imagine what my life would have looked like without Jesus and the beautiful friendship he offers. 2. I'm grateful for life, family, and friends. 3. I'm grateful for the interesting book I'm currently reading. 4. I'm grateful for not deciding in haste yesterday. I was only a few hours away from living in regret for the next two weeks. 5. I'm grateful that I've been getting good sleep recently. 6. I'm grateful that I have people praying for me. 7. I'm grateful for hugs and how soothing they can be. 8. I'm grateful for a friendship that I nearly lost that is finding its way back to blossoming. 9. I'm grateful for good conversations. They've been helpful a lot. 10. I'm grateful for good music. More than grateful... Maybe a good way to start your week is by listing ten things or more that you are grateful for. Showing gratitude is a better way to live. Have a great week🥰

Importance of Gratitude When Life Does Not Meet Expectations “It Seems to me some fine things have been laid upon your table But you always want the things that you can’t have” (From the Eagles song “Desperado” 1971) Recently, I experienced extreme disappointment when life did not unfold the way I had hoped. Lets be honest here. I did not only hope a particular outcome would occur. I expected it. I counted on it. In retrospect, how arrogant am I anyway? Life does not revolve around me. For several days I was quite inconsolable. I was angry. I pretty much shut myself off from everyone. Then when I awoke one morning, I heard the above referenced refrain from the Eagles song “Desperado” singing itself within my mind. I thought about “all of the fine things” that had been laid upon my table and I began to realize how rich and full the life that I have actually is. Why could I not remember all the “good” when I was feeling this disappointment? For me, the meaning of the Eagles song has to do with the way we often shut ourselves off and blame an “unfair” world when life does not conform to the way we would like it to be…or the way we think it should be. From this place of anger, our hearts will also shut down. We can become emotionally unavailable to ourselves and to others. We can grow emotionally numb. I understand this. It’s a defensive posture wherein we are trying to somehow keep ourselves safe and untouchable. It doesn’t work. In the Eagles song, the “desperado” is in fact desperate for love at the same time he has shut himself off from the possibility of receiving it. I also relate to the following line in the song: “You better let somebody love you before it’s too late”. When you decide to remain in a negative and hopeless/helpless “all is lost” mindset for a period of time, people will cease to be around you. It’s just the way it works. So what is the answer here? I have come to believe that the answer begins with acknowledging our grief. In my case I needed to grieve that the world I thought I lived in did not in fact exist. I have to take some responsibility for this. Maybe the evidence was there to suggest that life would not unfold in the way I wanted. I ignored this evidence. It’s humbling for me to admit this, but its also cleansing because I know what I need to forgive myself for I’m working on the next step right now. Its time to open my heart up once again, and be grateful for the things I know I can count on. These things include my family, my friends, my work, and my purpose in life more broadly. I have to believe everything will be ok in the end and its time to re engage in whatever I can do to make the world a better place.

Waking up on the wrong side of the bed, a puppy that kept you up all night moving around, the alarm clock goes off much earlier than you wanted…the coffee pot did not start brewing at the time it was set up to begin, and the clothes you set out yesterday to help move the morning along has a stain on the collar…thats just before you even leave the house…. Then you jump in the car and realize you need gas, have a meeting in 1 hour, and the traffic is horrible because of accidents from people texting while driving…ugh, people… Rolling into work with 5 minutes to spare and you are already overwhelmed…angry and frustrated by it all. Snapping and no smile on your face. A “how are you?” Is met with “just great…my morning was horrible.” OR You woke up this morning, you were alive. You have the cutest puppy cuddles and kisses. Your alarm went off but that gives you time to just sit and mindfully breathe through affirmations of the day. Coffee can brew while you get your clothes, you find a stain but you have other clothes because of your good fortune, to change into. Grab your coffee and leave. Gas? I have enough to get to work, and then go out later to get some. Not enough? Take a minute to pump a few gallons not a whole tank. Your meeting is in an hour but it is not worth worrying over because you will get there and you will get it done. You may be a few minutes late but you will be there. You see accidents, and slow traffic but that allows you time to quiet your mind by listening to music to set the tone of your day or silence to think and work on calm thoughts. You get to work with 5 minutes to spare, and you are grateful you got there. Walking in you say hello and good morning to everyone with a smile because your morming even if not perfect, was met with a grateful spirit…because in the end you realize all of it happened because you are happy with yourself and your accomplishments. Which day would you like? Which day will you have? No matter what happens there is a always a second way to think about it… Choose your day. Only YOU can. #MentalHealthAwareness #SelfLove #SelfCare #PersonalGrowth #SelfEmpowerment #GoalSetting #MyStory #Resilience #OvercomingAdversity #AuthenticLiving #SelfDiscovery #HealingJourney #EmpowerYourself #BreakTheCycle #StrengthInVulnerability #FromSurvivorToThriver #HolisticHealing #MindBodySpirit #HolisticHealth #NaturopathicLiving #AuthenticHealth #WellnessJourney #Mindfulness #SomaticHealing #GroundingTechniques #SelfCareMatters #PublicSpeaker #MotivationalSpeaker #InspirationalSpeaking #StorytellingForChange #TransformativeStories #WomenInLeadership #LifeCoach #WellnessCoach #PersonalGrowth #TransformYourLife #SpeakYourTruth #ShareYourStory #FindYourVoice #PersonalDevelopment #PurposeDriven #LiveYourTruth #BeTheChange #MentalHealthAwareness #TraumaToTriumph #RiseAbove

Big news! If you want to go from feeling stuck and sad to joyful in every situation in 4 weeks, then this will be a game-changer for you! And that’s a promise! I went through feelings of anxiety, depression, grief, and anger. I tried to go back to work for 3 days. That was the scariest 3 days of my life. I couldn’t process thoughts, read my computer because of blurry vision, comprehend my daily work tasks. I certainly could not critically think for crisis intervention. I stepped back and took more time off. However, the feeling of inadequacy, depression, fear, and grief continued to take over my life. ‘What was your joy in the journey today?’ As frustrated as I may be, there is always something to be joyful for. Many days it was simply that I was able to enjoy more time with my family. That I could sit outside and soak up sun without having to rush around. My daughter and I became closer than we ever were. What happened? I noticed I was less depressed. Less anxious. I leaned into God more and learned to trust Him with my everything. As my attitude began to change towards joyfulness. My home became a happier place to be. My relationship with my children improved. I had found my hope. As I continue to recover from what is now known to be Long Covid, I am able to see the good. I’m not scared of what may happen. Some days I have to step back a take a deep breath and remind myself what my joy is. Every day is worth it❤️ I went from my own pity party to a life celebration. If you haven't experienced the incredible feeling of joyfulness, freedom, and peace, join my 4 week cultivating joy 💥 Then you are going to LOVE IT! Imagine facing daily challenges, having the ability to maintain a positive attitude and overcoming obstacles that stand in your way of your dreams. And I’ve been living proof that this mindset works. As I’ve lost my identity in running and my work, I’ve gained my identity in Christ and joyfulness. I’ve let the fear of my limitations from fatigue keep me from sharing this gift with you. I’ve now learned ways to navigate these limitations. I call it Cultivating Joy and it’s designed to show you how to go from the daily rat race to an attitude of gratefulness in only 4 weeks🤩 It’s my brand new course designed to show others how to cultivate Joy. There will be a video lesson sent out to each person weekly the following Monday we will meet via zoom for a Q&A workshop together. This will give us the opportunity to discuss wins obstacles barriers, and how to overcome them together Meaning you are going to drastically, improve your life and the life of those around you You’re getting the ability to find good within the suck of the situation. Plus you’re getting a more intimate relationship with Jesus which means your life will feel more fulfilled. Join me 💥🤩🌙 https://lnkd.in/eVKnvqAq First video will be sent out Monday March 4th 🙌 🎉🎊

"Just Be Grateful" Is the Biggest Lie You’ve Been Sold! I used to listen to this advice, too. ↳You’re unhappy? Be grateful. ↳You don’t have money? Be grateful. ↳You’re unfulfilled in your life? Be grateful. It sounds good in theory, doesn’t it? Like gratitude is the key to turning everything around. I wanted it to be true. So, I tried. I’d sit with my gratitude journal and list every small thing I could think of. My health. My home. The opportunities I’d had. For a moment, I’d feel calmer—like the pressure of the day had lifted just a little. But here’s the thing: being grateful didn’t change anything. What gratitude actually does: ❤️For Your Body: It releases chemicals that calm your nervous system. That’s helpful—especially if you’re feeling stuck or overwhelmed. 🧠For Your Brain: It activates areas of your brain that help you think more clearly, pulling you out of tunnel vision caused by stress. But that’s where it stops. Gratitude is a tool for coping—not a solution for fixing what’s broken. I remember being in a place where I felt stuck—financially, emotionally, in my business. I’d think, If I could just be more grateful, maybe things would get better. So, I leaned into gratitude even harder. But no matter how grateful I felt: ❌ It didn’t bring me more clients. ❌ It didn’t ease the stress I felt every time I thought about money. ❌ It didn’t fill the sense of unfulfillment in my life. Gratitude gave me temporary relief, but it never solved the deeper problems. And I started to realize why: Gratitude isn’t designed to address the real pain points. It’s not going to fix feelings of being unseen, trapped, or unfulfilled. Those problems need something more. The shift happened when I stopped asking, What can I be grateful for? and started asking, What do I actually need? Here’s what I discovered: 👉 If I felt unseen or small because no one was booking my calls: ✅ I needed to tap into a feeling of power and recognition. Instead of forcing gratitude, I focused on where I already felt confident, capable, and valued—and leaned into those moments. 👉If I felt trapped when I thought about money: ✅ I had to reconnect with the parts of my life where I already felt free and independent. Those feelings helped me shift how I approached money decisions. 👉If I felt unfulfilled in my life: (Gratitude wasn’t the answer.) ✅I started looking for ways to feel included, valued, and part of something bigger than myself. Here is what I’ve learned---Gratitude can calm you down, but It’s not the magic solution people make it out to be. Real change happens when you go deeper—when you ask yourself: 👉What do I truly need right now? 👉What emotions will actually help me feel more aligned, empowered, or connected? Turns out, the loudest voice in the room is usually selling you the easiest answer, not the one that actually works. P.S. Want to wake up feeling in control of your day instead of buried under stress? Book 15 min discovery call today