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Are you an introvert or ambivert? If so, you may want to watch this interview of Vanessa Van Edwards. She shares how these types of people can find the right environments and create the right situations to bring them positive energy and get the most out of social situations - something that is key for #networking. She shares how you can read and signal the right cues, that are true to yourself, to improve your professional and personal interactions to better accomplish your desired goals - be that selling in an idea, connecting with certain important stakeholders, even finding a mate. Thanks Steven Bartlett for giving Vanessa your platform to enable many more people to take advantage of her great thinking. #communication #language #authenticity #growth #connection #confidence

Great short video! Insightful that some people might lack warmth or confidence and we have to learn the hidden cues of communication. Very interesting!

What comes to mind for you when I say the words, “SELF-GASLIGHTING”? For some of us, we automatically resonate, and know that we have, indeed, done this to ourselves. For others, the old definition of gaslighting we may know brings resistance, and we can’t help but hear some sort of victim blaming. In my practice, the MOST powerful transformations have happened when people have understood the way we “self-gaslight”, have broken the power those messages had over them, and rewrote the narrative. So, in today's episode, I explain how direct external GASLIGHTING, and extrapolation/perceived inference leads to self-directed GASLIGHTING, aka, SELF-GASLIGHTING. The ripple effects of understanding these concepts are HUGE. I hope you find them helpful! I'd love to hear your thoughts and/or questions. Drop a comment or DM me. Listen here: https://lnkd.in/gfh5ksiu

Have you ever seen someone behave "out of character?" 😱 Likely they were leaning into a different 𝐛𝐞𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐢𝐨𝐫𝐚𝐥 𝐝𝐫𝐢𝐯𝐞. Harvard researchers found that each person has 𝑓𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑐𝑜𝑟𝑒 𝑑𝑟𝑖𝑣𝑒𝑠 that influence behavior: 🔥 The Drive to 𝐀𝐜𝐪𝐮𝐢𝐫𝐞 - Competition, Status, Achievement ⛰ The Drive to 𝐃𝐞𝐟𝐞𝐧𝐝 - Control, Security, Justice 🌪 The Drive to 𝐋𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧 - Creativity, Curiosity, Knowledge 💧 The Drive to 𝐁𝐨𝐧𝐝 - Acceptance, Collaboration, Affection Each person contains all of these drives, but some are more dominant than others. Any guesses what my primary drive is? 💧💧💧 Call me Bobby Boucher, because I'm the w-w-w-water boy!! 🌪 Was a nearby second place. 𝘒𝘯𝘰𝘸𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘥𝘳𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘧𝘶𝘭. 𝘉𝘶𝘵 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘰 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘵 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦'𝘴 𝘥𝘳𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘴 𝘪𝘴 𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘢𝘭. Most people suffer from the "consensus bias" and believe that everyone else sees the world that same way that they do. To quote Terry Bean, I'm "a watery dude". I sometimes assume that everyone else sees the need for connecting, bonding, and collaborating at the same level of importance that I do. That gets me in trouble because water is not the primary element that everyone associates with. 𝙒𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙙𝙧𝙞𝙫𝙚 𝙙𝙤 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙠 𝙞𝙨 𝙙𝙤𝙢𝙞𝙣𝙖𝙣𝙩 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙮𝙤𝙪? 💡 Want to find out? Take the free quiz: https://lnkd.in/geSNKFkj ----------------------------------------------- If you want to learn more about the behavioral elements, listen in to my episode with Terry Bean! 🎧 https://lnkd.in/g5n6GXPs

Everyone 👏🏽 is 👏🏽 creative 👏🏽 Filipe Alverca beautifully explains the concept of creativity, how we can change our mindset around it, and how to nurture it. 🌻 Quick tips: 1️⃣ Change your environment; go for a walk, take a shower, or just move away from your laptop and you’ll come up with new ideas more easily. 2️⃣ Consume content you otherwise wouldn’t or don’t necessarily agree with. The result? Your mind will expand and you will see how other people think and work, which might inspire you to do something you wouldn’t be able to think of on your own. 3️⃣ Give yourself some restrictions, e.g. try to describe yourself in 10-15 sentences without using adjectives. You’ll quickly notice how your brain starts to work differently. A couple of months back, Filipe had an entire presentation on creativity, which I was lucky enough to attend in person! He was an amazing guest and I cannot wait for you to hear what he has to say on this topic! 🌈 You can check out the episode here: https://lnkd.in/dW7ApWAq

"Any question that starts with 'why' is probably an unhelpful question because you immediately feel blamed." This line from a conversation with Paul McGregor has stuck with me ever since 🧠 . When I start a question with "why," it often stems from feelings of frustration, disappointment, or confusion. Without defaulting to curiosity, "why" questions lead me to search for causal implications without enough understanding of the issue at hand. In line with Paul's thinking, when I manage to set aside my emotions (and perhaps ignorance) and stay curious, I ask better questions and ultimately reach superior outcomes. This can start with a simple change, replacing “why” with “what.” 💡 And when we stay curious, we foster more positivity in our interactions and create a supportive environment where we can learn and reflect, without fear of blame or criticism. Paul also shared this insight: "There are so many automatic questions we ask without realizing they may be poor questions. 'Did that make sense?' 'Any questions?' 'What do you think?' 'How are you?' Anytime you can get more specific in your questions, you'll get better answers." So I’d love you to consider: When do you ask automatic questions, and how could you make them more specific? 🤔 -- If you're interested, the link to the full episode is in the comments!

The Power of Words: How We Shape Each Other’s Minds Words hold an irrepressible power to mold our minds and shape our experiences. 🌟 In every interaction, language bridges our emotions with rationale, connecting us to one another. In this episode, we explore how our inner dialogue guides our decisions and actions. 🔍 Some takeaways: 1. *Interactive Minds: Language is a resource we provide each other, altering perspectives and igniting change. 2. *Visualizing Possibilities*: Our minds run simulations, painting visions of potential futures and decisions. 3. *Empowered Reflection*: Self-talk evolves into internal guidance, rooting our values and decisions. Listen to the whole episode. Link in the comments.

You've heard of Confirmation Bias, right? That phenomenon where we automatically look for evidence to support what we already believe. 🧐 ***Wait...it's not a coincidence that EVERY time I'm in a bad mood, the world is full of awful people who are terrible drivers...?!*** This doesn't just affect how you "human" on a hard day, though. If you believe (even unintentionally) that, say... 👉 You don't deserve time to yourself 👉 It's too late to accomplish what you want 👉 You cannot figure something out ...you're primed to walk out into the world looking for evidence of that every day. In short, it's easier to believe what we already think. And it's WAY harder to act in opposition to it. (Why would I bother taking on a big goal when ten minions in my mind agree that "I can't do it"?) This week's episode is a snippet of a past Cognitive Biases Workshop I ran. It'll help you avoid getting STUCK by Confirmation Bias when you wake up with wacky ideas about what you "can't do" or "don't deserve"! APPLE: https://lnkd.in/gHEhgA_F YOUTUBE: https://lnkd.in/gaRuFjm4

the power of suggestion

Everyone should listen to this entire interview. This individuals observations are spot on. This country may not have been perfect throughout its history. Mistakes are going to happen. Defining the country solely based on its mistakes. Not recognizing how good we have it in terms of our freedoms. Those freedoms are under attack. Many sacrifices were made to be able to be the Country we are. People fought and died to protect this country because they loved this country and what it stood for. This country has always been viewed as strong. Empires, die from within.When people no longer take pride in their country. When people are no longer willing to fight for what this country was built upon. The core values, the independence, the freedom to own property, start a business, speak freely, all the things that apparently mean very little to many. Instead people are told they are victims. That they have no chance. Only one person decides if you are a victim. That person is you. Life is hard and it throws a lot of curveball, creates many obstacles, tests your resolve. The beauty is that if you keep fighting you can achieve whatever you want to achieve. We have that freedom. We can choose to quit fighting or we can choose never to give in or give up. We must remember this. There is no other country quite like our country. If we allow ourselves to fall prey to the agenda to divide us, if this country loses its greatness, and it's standing in the world. No One Really Wins! All of humanity loses. We must find common ground and agree on that. We may not agree on everything but why not start somewhere and build off of that.