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Negative self-talk can hold us back from reaching our potential. Learning to speak kindly to yourself is not only empowering but essential for personal growth. We're offering practical tips to break the cycle and embrace self-compassion. Start being your own biggest supporter: https://bit.ly/4eDSXXf #selftalk #selfcompassion #mentalhealth #personaldevelopment #growthmindset

Tip Tuesday; From Procrastination to Progress! Reminiscing about my procrastinating self barely 2 months ago and how I finally decided to take the bull by the horn and live more purposefully, here’s my guide; ✅Accountability coach; I could barely get myself to do anything, so I needed someone of authority whom I could respect. This way even without the will to do something, I did it anyways yo avoid getting scolded 😅. This helped me become more disciplined, such that even when I didn’t receive direct instruction, I could do something by myself. ✅Reading and reflection; I had been receiving a lot of books, and I knew the benefits of reading. But did I read iften? No! When I finally decided to however, I came across my game-changer, @Atomic Habits by @James Clear. This was it! This was the book!! ✅Intentional living; I began questioning myself. How do the decisions I make daily sum up in line with my dreams and aspirations? Is it an inverse or a direct relationship? How do I do better? This greatly boosted my analytical skills in literally every aspect, talk about small changes bug results! So far so good, I can say. Not comfortable, but definitely progressing. Afterall a ship in habor is safe, but that’s not what it was made for. The results of this are that; -I have become noticeably more productive and time-conscious. -I am more efficient at task completion -I definitely feel better mentally, knowing that I am building my small world of impact. This is my story, this is how I did it. Now it’s your turn! Are you going the same way? What’s your own blueprint? Please share your thoughts in the comments 🙏🏻 #personalgrowth #selfimprovement #professionaldevelopment #breakingfreefromself #productivityhacks Image source: Safari

This is something I don’t do - in fact actively avoid. LinkedIn is for work - but, at DP World they have actively encouraged mental health and the often over looked elements to men’s mental health and as a man that has watched strong able bodied men around him take their own lives, I wanted to say this: I have struggled with demons and I to this day, fight the good fight. However, finding the strength in vulnerability: it was a journey to self-compassion (championed by my beautiful loving and giving wife): • The Revelation: Avoiding personal exposure on social media may feel like self-protection, but it can also conceal deeper truths about ourselves. Facing my brokenness taught me that growth starts not in the eyes of others but within the confines of our own hearts and homes. • The Lesson: True change doesn’t require a public declaration or external validation. It is born of self-forgiveness, honest reflection, and a willingness to see one’s flaws not as failures but as the starting points for transformation. The world outside often demands our best face, polished and curated for approval. For years, I placated the facade of social media, thinking it kept me safe. I told myself that my thoughts and struggles didn’t need to be broadcasted to strangers. What I didn’t realize was that I wasn’t shielding myself from judgment; I was hiding from my own reflection. When life cracks your foundations, you learn what truly holds you together. My journey started in quiet moments—moments where I saw my flaws clearly and chose to embrace them. I came to understand that progress doesn’t begin with grandeur; it begins in the smallest acts of self-kindness. It is forgiving yourself for the stumble before taking another step. Self-betterment doesn’t need an audience, but it demands your attention. The hardest part was realizing that no one else’s validation could heal the wounds I carried. Only I could stitch the edges, gently and patiently. In turning inward, I found the tools to move forward. I learned that kindness is not weakness, and admitting pain is not failure. Growth begins in the shadowed corners of our lives—the places we often neglect but need the most care. So if you find yourself broken, start where you are. Look inward. Be gentle. Let your quiet courage build the strength you need. You don’t need to post it or prove it. Growth speaks for itself. #SelfCompassion #GrowthJourney #InnerStrength #ForgiveYourself #KindnessMatters #PersonalDevelopment #HealingJourney #VulnerabilityIsStrength #StartWithin #EmpowerYourself

Most of us, and by “us” I mean Gen X, belong to the “powering through” type and I believe we do need a good amount of #resilience to deal with life; getting the job done, reaching our goals, getting through those overwhelming everyday situations, stress, family drama, rejections, mistakes, setbacks, failures… Since #poweringthrough has worked my whole life I thought it would help me get through #longcovid, #MECFS.. #cancertreatments..and for some parts it really worked. Unfortunately as we now know, you can’t ”power through” Long Covid or ME/CFS. The more you push yourself, the worse your condition will get. This is the biggest lesson one needs to master before finding #acceptance and a #purposefullife with these #chronicconditions. However, you do need a strong mindset and reasons to keep lifting yourself up over and over again because this is not a “I’ll set up a plan and keep repeating it”. This needs a continuous self evaluation; what can I do today, where is the mark I should not pass, today. Because if you keep passing that mark, it means you have gone into the “powering through” zone where you end up in a downward spiral. FOR YOU WHO IS GOING THROUGH THIS: When the level of your resilience is challenged, just remind yourself: your future, your goals, what you are so eagerly waiting to do, they won’t disappear. They will wait for you. They will transform for you if needed. However, if you try to ”power through”, those things will only move further away. FOR YOU WHO WANTS TO SUPPORT SOMEONE: Please try to listen and show compassion with an open heart. This is a condition which can stay out of sight and even thought the person is suffering you might not see it. Unfortunately the “normal” training advice is usually not the best. This person has most likely done all the research and read all the articles, latest results… they know the details of their condition. The most helpful thing you can say is: Is there anything I can do to help you today?

The entire session helped me gain a positive outlook on life, to repeat affirmations, to build self confidence and avoid procrastination which in turn will help me to be more productive in my routine. #humansofmcrmetrise

Read more about the benefits of leaning into your fears. And if you’re looking for support with embracing your fears, book a free intro conversation with me!

Vague buzz words are often thrown around in the personal development space without the meanings explained. . Here is my take on self-love and self-connection: . Self-connection means that you will know yourself so well that you will know exactly what you want when any decision comes up. . You will also know how to check in with yourself regularly so that you don't over-stretch or take on too much that it exhausts or burns you out, and then you waste time needing to take extra time to recover... OR under-stretch/don't challenge yourself enough so that you feel bored or restless. . You will be able to feel safe in your body, meaning you will be able to feel a consistent peace as a part of you at all times, one that nobody can take away from you, one that can't be swayed by ANYTHING going on outside of you. . An example of self-love is to say no to something you don't really want to do ENOUGH for it to be WORTH your energy. . That you choose to honor your true preferences, your time and energy as finite, even if it means disappointing or upsetting someone else. . Another example is that you trust yourself with your decisions; you know your values so deeply and believe in yourself that you made the best choice you could with the limited information you had, and you boldly follow through with it even if no one else understands it. . You don't need them to understand; it is ENOUGH that YOU understand and support that decision.  . This means you are free to do whatever you want; that nothing is off-limits to you. You no longer fight, resist or sabotage yourself or get in your own way for your goals! . Because you trust yourself, you are CONFIDENT and EMPOWERED knowing that you can go for anything you want, that is meaningful to you, and that you CAN get it, or at least learn something amazing from the experience of going for it. . Your trust and worth are UNWAVERING so you are bulletproof to whatever may happen externally. . Self-connection and self-love are key building blocks for confidence. And these are two main things we work on in my new Tame the Tiger program. . For a limited time you can experience a free sample session where we deepen your roots within just the power hour - DM me TIGER for more info. . . #selflove #selfconfidenceboost #selfconfidence #coachingprogram #coaching #personaldevelopment

Be so busy improving yourself that you have no time to criticise others. 🤠 Behaviour is all about learning to improve and control yourself…not the others!☝️ The best way to follow this is, to work upon yourself , do take inputs from others as it can really help you to keep on track but let it not distract you from making those improvements in your self towards your growth and success. There are many ways to focus on improving yourself. Let me give you these three tips: 😃 1. Stay away from negative things. 2. Spend time to improve yourself and your surroundings. 3. Have a positive attitude. So get busy improving yourself and become the star that you should be! ✨✨✨ Hania Rizvi #communicationskills #coach #behaviourcoach #MapsTellguide

Someone once told me “The difficult people in your life, are your angels. Put a halo and wings on them because they are here to teach you a lesson” Of course my very imaginative self scrapped that image. Instead ditched the halo for horns, gave them a menacing grin and a pitch fork. I realised that the longer I saw this person as the villain in my life's story, the only person it hurt was me. It left me feeling powerless and victimised. So I started to seriously consider that they might be my angel. I took this to my coach and began to address it. Part of the work that I did with my coach was think about what was really playing out. If I silenced the noise a bit, what was really the issue for me. I realised that my issue was how they would always put me on the spot. I thought about how I showed up in that relationship or the meetings. I just did what was required and wanted to go. It was uncomfortable. But when I dug deep on the source of discomfort I discovered that they were challenging me, my thinking, my approach to certain things or sometimes they were simply curious and wanted my view. But my storyline blocked this out because I just saw them as being difficult and trying to embarrass me or make me feel small. But when I let go of that storyline. I actually started seeing how this was helping me and stretching me. The next meeting I attended, I came with an open mind, that included, open to being challenged. I no longer relied on my story to filter out the opportunity to learn and do things differently. I started welcoming it and inviting the leader to give their input instead of waiting for them to challenge me. When they did challenged me I would respond by first thanking them, and would either give them a response on the spot or tell them I will find out. The spotlight no longer felt like being under a microscope but it was an opportunity to showcase my talent and own my space. I also began to see a shift in our relationship, the tension lessened. The leader began to seek out my views more and we started working well together. Years later one day I ran into them and they told me how much they missed me. The lesson for me is that: 1. there’s no learning or growth that takes place in our comfort zone. 2. Learning is uncomfortable and if we welcome opportunities to be challenged. We give ourselves permission to grow. 3. And in the wise words of Maya Angelou "If you don't like something, change it. If you cant change it, change your attitude." When my attitude changed, everything changed. Think of a difficult stakeholder, or a colleague or whomever comes to mind. Ask yourself what is the lesson for you in that engagement. I truly believe no pain is ever wasted. We always grow, we always learn. Let’s remember to thank the angels in our lives.

🧠 Understanding Learned Helplessness: Breaking Free from Self-Imposed Limitations 🔓 Have you ever felt stuck, unable to change your circumstances despite opportunities for improvement? You might be experiencing 'learned helplessness'. What is learned helplessness? 🤔 It's a psychological state where individuals believe they have no control over their situation, even when they do. This mindset can significantly impact personal and professional growth. Key signs to watch for: • Lack of motivation • Difficulty recognising opportunities • Increased stress and anxiety • Tendency to give up easily The good news? Learned helplessness can be unlearned! 💪 Here are three strategies to overcome it: 1️⃣ Practice self-awareness 2️⃣ Challenge negative thought patterns 3️⃣ Celebrate small wins Remember, you have more power than you think. By recognising and addressing learned helplessness, you can unlock your full potential and achieve remarkable things. Have you encountered learned helplessness in your life or career? Share your experiences and strategies for overcoming it in the comments below. 👇 #LearnedHelplessness #PersonalDevelopment #MentalHealth #ProfessionalGrowth #Resilience