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Hi All MANAGERS AND WORKERS What is the best form / type of feedback you've received? I'm trying to get a bit better at giving frequent, useful, timely and structured feedback - both positive and constructive. This btw (as many people who work(ed) with me know) is not because I'm reticent about giving feedback, but because the company is growing and taking on a less fluid structure fast. I need to be able to provide structured feedback in a really helpful way - both because I am time limited, but also because (as the lovely Kel Eckley pointed out to me) - wonderful as my waffling may be, clear agenda and measurable goals are helpful rather than brownian motion feedback. So yes, how has this worked best for you - I know what's worked for my brain previously, but that is absolutely no guarantee it will work for others. #TeamAryium #ManagingPeople #WorkingWithIndividuals

Feedback…love it or hate it, you can’t escape it. I still remember the first time I received critical feedback at work. My immediate reaction? 𝗗𝗲𝗳𝗲𝗻𝘀𝗲. “That’s not fair,” I thought. “They don’t understand the effort I put in!” 𝗔𝘁 𝗳𝗶𝗿𝘀𝘁, 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗱𝗯𝗮𝗰𝗸 𝗳𝗲𝗹𝘁 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝗮𝗻 𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗮𝗰𝗸. My inner critic would kick into overdrive, turning a single comment into hours of rumination. It left me 𝗱𝗼𝘂𝗯𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 myself and 𝗾𝘂𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 if I was doing anything right. Do you feel the same? What I didn’t realize back then was that feedback is neutral. It’s neither 𝗴𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝗻𝗼𝗿 𝗯𝗮𝗱. It’s how we choose to interpret it that makes all the difference. When I began to approach feedback with 𝗰𝘂𝗿𝗶𝗼𝘀𝗶𝘁𝘆 instead of defensiveness, things started to change. Instead of asking, “Why me?” I started asking, “What can I learn from this?” 1. Feedback isn’t a judgment; it’s a 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲. 2. It’s less about your flaws and more about your 𝗽𝗼𝘁𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗮𝗹. 3. Listening doesn’t mean agreeing, but it does mean 𝗴𝗿𝗼𝘄𝗶𝗻𝗴. 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁’𝘀 𝗮 𝗽𝗶𝗲𝗰𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗱𝗯𝗮𝗰𝗸 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲? 𝗦𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘀𝘁𝗼𝗿𝘆 𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗼𝘄! #FeedbackIsAGift #GrowthMindset #LeadershipDevelopment #SelfGrowth #LearnAndAdapt

Discover how to transform feedback into a constructive conversation by setting aside preconceived notions and emphasizing clarity, positivity, and actionable steps.

For years, I’ve been trying to get better at giving #feedback. And today, I had a conversation that completely changed my mind. 🙍🏽♀️ Most people I know find giving feedback #uncomfortable. Hence, we’re super focused on  (1) delivering it well — constructive, authentic, professional — and  (2) telling ourselves not to feel weird about it. But what if we stopped using our energy trying to make it slightly less uncomfortable for the person 𝐠𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 feedback... and started focusing on 𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐞𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 feedback first? 🤔 🙍🏽♀️ Most people I know also want to #grow. They want to learn and improve. Imagine a workplace culture where we ASK for feedback all the time. Where feedback is not just “welcomed” but *craved* 🙏🏽 ▶️ "𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐝𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐈 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐯𝐞? 𝐈 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐠𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬.” ◀️ 🌀 When feedback becomes something we seek rather than something we dread, it changes everything. The giver doesn’t have to tiptoe around discomfort, and the receiver takes real #ownership of their growth. So here’s my challenge to all of us: Let’s lead by example. Let’s ASK for feedback. Let's VALUE feedback. And let's inspire the people around us to do the same.

Thinking back on two separate situations in the past, I’m reminded of how much the way we phrase feedback can change everything. In one instance, I heard, “I don’t love it.” - keeping the tone constructive. In another, “This is terrible.” Guess which one I felt more motivated to make perfect? What we say—and how we say it—matters. Constructive feedback can inspire and lead to growth, while harsh words can shut down creativity.  So next time, think about not just the message, but also the delivery. It might make all the difference. #LanguageMatters #ConstructiveCriticism #ProfessionalGrowth

When you receive constructive criticism from your manager or a peer, use this six-step process to handle the encounter with tact and grace. 1-Stop Your First Reaction. 2-Remember the Benefit of Getting Feedback. 3-Listen for Understanding. 4-Say Thank You. 5-Ask Questions to Deconstruct the Feedback.

Discover how to transform feedback into a constructive conversation by setting aside preconceived notions and emphasizing clarity, positivity, and actionable steps.

Tired of feedback being synonymous with criticism? Let us introduce you to the power of positive feedback loops! Our blog post, “Positive Feedback Loops,” explores how constructive feedback can revolutionise team dynamics and elevate performance. 🔗 https://lnkd.in/enVmNqqF #DevelopingRandDLeaders #EnduringLeadershipExcellence

We often hear that feedback is a gift, but truly embracing it can be challenging. It’s easy to feel defensive or hurt when our efforts are scrutinized. But here's what I've learned: constructive criticism is not a judgment on our worth—it's an opportunity for growth. When we open ourselves to feedback, we gain valuable insights that we might have missed. It’s about recognizing that we are all on a journey of continuous improvement. Whether it's in our personal lives, careers, or creative endeavors, there’s always room to grow. Here’s how I’ve learned to embrace it: 1. Listen with an open mind. Try to understand the perspective behind the feedback. 2. Separate your self-worth from your work. Critique is about the work, not you as a person. 3. Reflect and act. Use the feedback to identify areas for improvement and make changes. It’s also important to recognize what constructive criticism isn’t. It’s not: 1. Personal attacks or insults. 2.Vague comments without specific suggestions for improvement. 3. Negative feedback given with the intention to hurt or demean. Remember, accepting constructive criticism doesn’t mean you agree with everything said, but it does mean you value growth over comfort. 💪 Let’s uplift each other by sharing and receiving feedback with kindness and an open heart. Together, we can achieve so much more! 🌱✨ #GrowthMindset #ConstructiveCriticism #PersonalDevelopment #KeepGrowing

Being comfortable to give or receive feedback is so important. How can we improve if we are not comfortable talking about what needs to change? Yet, if our message is not clear, it can be confusing. We want to be kind, honor personality needs, let them know what they are doing well, and then clearly focus on the next improvement steps. See feedback as a gift to help us get better and you will want to make it a new habit! #feedback #leadership #leadershipdevelopment