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How do you deal with people who only talk about themselves? It's no secret that people tend to prioritise themselves and enjoy sharing stories about their own experiences, which seems to be a fundamental aspect of human nature. However, some people take this tendency to an extreme and ONLY talk about themselves. They are exhausting! I remember a friend I made a couple of years ago who fits this description perfectly. Whenever we spent time together, she would transform into a chatterbox, sharing stories of her relationships and personal challenges. Rarely would I receive any questions about my own experiences or feelings, and she seemed disinterested when I tried to share them. Eventually, I made the decision to distance myself from the friendship, feeling that enough was enough, without pausing to reflect on the underlying reasons for her behaviour. In my coaching practice, I sometimes encounter clients facing similar challenges in their relationships. And it's only now that I've begun reflecting on my own experiences and questioning what might have been happening for my friend. ✅ Some clients have mentioned that the people hijacking conversations in their lives appear anxious and seem to be seeking counselling within their friendships. ✅ Through my studies in coaching and neurodiversity, I've learned that certain behavioural patterns, such as excessive self-focus, can be associated with conditions like ADHD or autism. ✅ Others have described the individual as displaying narcissistic traits, showing a complete disregard for others' perspectives. So, how should one respond to those who only talk about themselves? I now understand the importance of examining the root causes before deciding to end a friendship. If the behaviour is related to trauma or a neurodevelopmental condition, individuals can assess whether they feel capable of providing support. However, it's crucial to recognise one's own limitations, as some may find themselves unable to offer the necessary support. And that’s perfectly fine. In addition to offering support, proactive communication about one's feelings and needs are important in navigating such relationships. At work, a way forward can be establishing an agenda and making everyone contribute to it before the meeting takes place. But what about dealing with a narcissist? Can they ever change? 🤔 The consensus among experts is that significant change in narcissistic behaviour is rare. While therapy may help manage some aspects of narcissism, fundamental personality traits tend to be deeply ingrained. Therefore, it's essential to establish boundaries and manage expectations when interacting with individuals who exhibit narcissistic tendencies. Sometimes you will have to move on. ✈ #communication, #boundaries, #coaching

My friend Aman sent me a note the other day. Because of our several discussions and going through my posts he was able to see as to how his colleague Neha had been showing narcissist traits and how is he getting into a trauma bond with her. He asked an important question that post reading whatever I written on the topic he can’t understand as to why Neha believes and proclaims that she is an empath. Narcissist person believes that they are empath. And the questions arise is how this happens. Narcissism is a personality disorder characterized by tremendous lack of self-awareness. These people don’t understand or even care as to how their behavior affects other people. They are disconnected by what motivates them intrinsically and their actions are motivated by what is external to them. This makes them often shift their goals just to stay in the trend or get that validation. They generally underestimate and overestimate the impact of their behavior depending upon how it benefits them. They underestimate the harm they have caused you and they will gaslight you when you highlight that harm. They will overestimate as to how much they have helped someone or positive influence they have on somebody or how generous they have been in someone’s life. Their self-appraisal is always inaccurate. As they are selectively able to frame their bad behavior as not being a problem or issue only because you are too sensitive, they see themselves as someone who is doing all the good things like “I am so helpful”, “I am so much fun”, “I took care of friend when she was sick” or “I care so much for my friends’ children”. Because of this distorted vision of themselves that they hold also confirms as to why narcissist see themselves as victims. If they believe that they are such nice people and others are being so terrible to them even when it is a slight critique. If you try telling them that because of the difficult time that you are having in the relation, you want some empathy from them, they will look at you as if you are out of their mind or they will gaslight you. Narcissists are aware that empathy is a socially valued quality even if they have contempt for it. They don’t like empathy as it is too vulnerable for them, and vulnerability makes them look weak which they will never want. Their need to control, validation and be the best is too strong to think about empathy. But the thing is narcissist can fake empathy for long to get what they want; they just don’t have much use for it. They expect it but don’t want to give it out. When a narcissist walks around using empathy as a reason for their bad behavior, don’t be surprised. This means rest of us who are dealing with them need to be aware of the fact that although they may profess, they lack empathy and more so insight into themselves. Awareness and knowledge is power that will save us from being trauma bonded and getting gaslighted by them.  Post#8;#dealingwithnarcissist

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Ever wondered why some relationships feel effortless while others are a struggle? Your attachment style might hold the key! From childhood to adulthood, it shapes how we connect with loved ones, friends and even our bosses. Psychologist Jessie Tadros explains how understanding your attachment style can transform your personal and professional life. Have you ever wondered why you cling to some people while pushing away others? Or why you struggle to connect emotionally with certain partners? The answer might lie in your attachment style – a concept that explains how we connect and bond with others. From a young age, our relationships with our caregivers shape our attachment style and program us for our relationships later in life. Our attachment style begins to influence the way we see ourselves, others, and the world around us. It’s no wonder, the impact this can have on our bond with our romantic partner, friends, and yes, even – our boss. There are four main attachment styles: secure, anxious, dismissive, and fearful. A secure attachment style is the healthiest and involves being comfortable with emotional intimacy and forming close relationships easily. On the other hand, anxious attachment can involve fear of abandonment and clinginess, while dismissive attachment can involve emotional distance and a desire for independence. Fearful attachment involves a mix of anxious and dismissive styles and can lead to trust issues and difficulty forming close relationships. It’s important to understand your attachment style so you can work on creating healthier relationships. You can do this by reflecting on past relationships and patterns of behaviour. If you struggle with anxious attachment, it can be helpful to work on building self-esteem and seeking reassurance from within. For those with dismissive attachment, practicing vulnerability and being open to emotional intimacy can be beneficial. For those with fearful attachment, working on trust and communication can help. Therapy can also be an excellent resource for exploring attachment patterns and developing strategies for improving emotional regulation and communication. By recognising and addressing attachment styles, individuals can improve their emotional well-being and form stronger, more meaningful relationships. Jessie Tadros Registered Psychologist The Resilience Centre How does it relate to your child’s mental health 👉 https://lnkd.in/gmjnRCWG #attachmentstyle #relationships #mentalhealth #psychology #worklife

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