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Let’s talk about marriage. While marriage is a deep emotional connection and a commitment to support and care for one another through life's ups and down, when one or both partners have experienced trauma, the dynamics of the relationship can be significantly impacted. Trauma-informed care provides a framework for understanding and addressing the effects of trauma on individuals and relationships, including marriages. Trauma can manifest in various ways, such as anxiety, depression, flashbacks, and difficulty trusting others. These symptoms can affect how partners communicate, resolve conflicts, and show support for each other in a marriage. By integrating trauma-informed care principles into the relationship, couples can create a safe and understanding environment where both partners feel heard, validated, and supported. Practicing trauma-informed care in a marriage involves acknowledging the impact of past trauma, fostering open and non-judgmental communication, and building trust through empathy and patience. By creating a sense of safety and predictability in the relationship, couples can navigate challenges together and strengthen their bond. Ultimately, trauma-informed care in marriage can pave the way for healing, growth, and a deeper connection between partners. Need extra support? We’re here for you. Visit our website (https://ow.ly/jluk50QYSRZ) to learn more and schedule a consultation with our office.

New Article! In the complex dance of marriage, defining oneself can often feel like trying to hold onto your identity in a rapidly flowing river. Take the case of Sarah and Alex, for example. After eight years, their marriage had hit a rough patch marked by frequent arguments and tension that permeated their home. It wasn't until they embarked on a journey of self-discovery through therapy, guided by the principles of Bowen Family Systems Theory, that they began to see a change. By learning to define themselves within their marriage, they found a new understanding and a path toward a healthier, more resilient union. Self-Differentiation In mental health and family dynamics, defining oneself is critical, especially when viewed through the Bowen Family Systems Theory lens. This theory sheds light on how individuals can significantly reduce anxiety by achieving a higher level of self-differentiation. But what does self-differentiation mean? Simply put, it's the process of distinguishing one's thoughts, feelings, and behaviors from others within the family system. Click Below to Read More: https://lnkd.in/eppj_n72

The same thing that makes marriage so incredibly hard Is the same thing that makes it so deeply fulfilling It's THIS: Marriage puts a magnifying glass on all of our: Insecurities Trauma Flaws I hoped that getting married would automatically heal those things in me But the truth is that when you love someone When you put so much trust into someone When you share a life with someone... It's going to bring up stuff inside of you that hasn't been resolved That is NOT a sign that the marriage isn't right Or that you need to cut bait It's a sign that you and your partner have a choice You can either outsource your healing onto them... The "YOU should make me happy" mindset Or you can look at each other and say... "Let's heal together. I'll work on my stuff. You work on yours. And let's give each other grace and compassion along the way. We can do this." Life is all about refusing to outsource your own inner work And when both partners decided to OWN it And support each other along the way You forge something truly incredible --------------------------------------------------- I'm Michael Anderson I'm a work in progress trying to help other parents along the way I also share insights on marriage, parenting, and mental health If that is interesting to you, then feel free to follow along

Don’t forget this when working on your marriage. Many people focus solely on fixing their marriage, which is great. But here's one tip I've seen help many individuals, especially men: Work on yourself. Are you unhealthy? Take steps to get healthy. Struggling with addiction? Seek recovery. Hate your job? Either fix it or leave. Other broken relationships? Start healing those. The issues that bring a marriage to a breaking point are often complicated, but rarely isolated to just the relationship. When you take steps to become healthier as an individual, you’ll often find that your marriage becomes healthier too. #StrongMenStrongMarriages #MarriageAdvice #MensGrowth #RelationshipTips #HealthyMarriage #MensCoaching

You can tell your children a thousand times how important it is to have a healthy relationship, but ultimately they’ll learn the most from what they observe. How you and your partner treat each other sets the standard for what they’ll expect in their own relationships. If they see a marriage filled with respect, affection and teamwork, they’ll learn to expect the same from their partners. But if they see constant conflict or disconnection, that’s what they’ll believe is normal. This doesn’t mean your marriage has to be perfect, but it should be one built on mutual respect and kindness. Be the example you want them to follow... be their role model and show them what they can expect for themselves later on. Change starts the moment you decide you want it to be better xx #ShouldIStayorShouldIGo #RelationshipCoach #MarriageCounselling #MarriageTherapy #RelationshipTherapy #RelationshipCounselling #ASDmarriage #ADHDmarriage

MARRIAGE SERIES 2 COMPLEXITY OF A TOXIC MARRIAGE: Managing a toxic partner in marriage can be incredibly challenging, but it's essential to prioritize your well-being. While it's natural to hope for positive change and see the good in your partner, sometimes, facing the reality of the situation is necessary. Remember, your happiness and mental health are paramount, and it's okay to prioritize yourself if the situation becomes untenable. Recognizing when a relationship becomes harmful is crucial, especially when it escalates to physical abuse. It's essential to prioritize personal safety and well-being over any feelings of love or attachment. Seeking help from professionals, such as counselors or domestic violence hotlines, can provide valuable support and guidance in navigating such challenging situations. Remember, your life and health are invaluable, and it's okay to prioritize yourself and seek a safe and healthy environment, even if it means leaving the relationship for a while. YOU NEED TO BE ALIVE TO BE MARRIED! KEEP JOLLOFING © E.D.A Emmanuel Deji Aláké

Strengthen Your Relationship with Online Marriage Counseling. Marriage counseling is a therapeutic process that helps couples navigate complexities in their relationship. It focuses on fostering open communication, understanding, and addressing underlying issues. TalkToAngel, an online platform, offers professional and compassionate services to help couples navigate challenges and strengthen their relationships. Both platforms offer flexible scheduling, secure communication channels, and personalized treatment plans. #relationship, #relation, #marriage, #marriagelife, #couple, #love, #stress, #depression, #anxiety, #mentalhealth, #health, https://lnkd.in/d3hyktNQ

🌟 Considering Premarital Therapy? Here’s Why You Should! 🌟 Marriage is a beautiful journey, but it’s essential to start on the right foot. Premarital therapy helps couples build a strong foundation for a lifelong partnership. Here are some reasons to consider it: Enhanced Communication: Learn effective ways to express your thoughts and feelings, ensuring both partners feel heard and understood. Conflict Resolution Skills: Equip yourselves with tools to handle disagreements healthily and constructively. Strengthened Connection: Deepen your emotional bond and understanding of each other’s needs and expectations. Future Planning: Discuss and align on important topics like finances, children, and career goals. Preventative Care: Address potential issues before they become significant problems. Invest in your future together! Book a free consultation with our experienced therapists today and start your journey towards a harmonious and fulfilling marriage. 💑✨ #PremaritalTherapy #CouplesCounselling #RelationshipGoals #MarriagePrep #HealthyRelationships #TherapyWorks #MentalHealthMatters #LoveAndGrowth #CounsellingServices #YourBestSelf

💔 Why Saving Your Marriage Matters More Than You Think 💍 Our latest blog dives into the true costs—financial, emotional, and family-related—of not seeking counselling support to save your marriage. Sometimes, taking that first step can make all the difference. Is it worth it? Discover how investing in counselling not only strengthens your marriage but also supports your own mental health and family’s stability. READ THE FULL BLOG HERE 👉 https://lnkd.in/gudJD2jz #couples #marriage #relationships #couplescounselling #couplescounsellingsydney #relationshipcounselling #couplestherapy #couplestherapy #relationshiptherapy #marriagecounselling #marriagetherapy #hillsdistrict #sydneypsychologist

Coupling and marriage is a deep interest of mine. -I once gave a talk on the history of marriage to a women's group. -I think about pair bonding in humans...are we designed for monogamy? -I study research on the impact of divorce on kids. -Attachment theory and complex trauma is embedded into how I view couples therapy. -I am deeply curious and consume everything I can get my hands on, on how social constructs like power, patriarchy, social policies, and capitalism impact a couple. Coupling is a main specialty in my psychotherapy work because my folks were married six times. I have been at this in my own healing for 26 years. I have been practicing couples therapy for 20 years and married for 20 years. And I still learn more every day. I am not a "one way is the right way to live" kind of human so I read research and train in many modalities of couples therapy and I am a "talk to regular people about their experience" kind of human not just the academic stuff. One standout in my current research on couples communication is that usually one person is driving the couple to uplevel their communication skills but they struggle to get their partner to join them. I am curious about that. I'd like to hear from some of you...how do you and your partner motivate one another to uplevel communication skills? What doesn't work? DM me if you like.