💔 The holidays have a way of amplifying absence. For many of us, the holiday season is a time of joy, family traditions, and togetherness. But when you’ve lost someone you love, even years ago, the season can feel heavier. I still remember my first Christmas without my grandmother. She was the glue that held our family together—the one who made every gathering feel warm and full of life. That year, everything felt different. The laughter wasn’t the same, the traditions felt incomplete, and her absence was impossible to ignore. Grief doesn’t have an expiration date. Even if the loss wasn’t recent, the holidays have a way of bringing it back to the surface. Familiar songs, sights, or traditions can serve as bittersweet reminders of what once was, and what can never be the same again. If you’re feeling this way, know that it’s okay to not feel “cheerful” all the time. It’s okay to miss someone deeply and still try to find moments of joy. The two can coexist. This year, I wrote about how we can navigate these feelings during the holidays—not by ignoring them, but by honoring our loved ones and finding new ways to celebrate. 📖 If you’d like to read it, here’s the link: https://lnkd.in/gwCFm_qc. To those of you missing someone this season: you’re not alone. Let’s be gentle with ourselves and each other, allowing space for both grief and joy to exist. 💬 Have you found meaningful ways to honor your loved ones during the holidays? I’d love to hear how you’ve navigated these moments. #Grief #HolidaysAfterLoss #MentalHealthAwareness #EmpathyMatters #HealingTogether
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As I approach my fourth Christmas without my dad, I’ve been reflecting on some lessons I’ve learned along the way. I hope these insights bring comfort to those facing their first Christmas without a loved one, and bring knowledge to those working with and managing people who are grieving this holiday season. 🤍Christmas isn’t a celebration for everyone - for some, it magnifies their losses, whether through a death, or a living loss, they may be facing an empty chair at the table. Remember, your colleagues might not want to ‘celebrate’ with the rest of the team or organisation. Make celebrations optional, without stigma for those who choose not to attend. 🤍Be compassionate - ask your grieving colleagues how they plan to remember their loved ones this year. Many of us appreciate when others ask about the person we’ve lost. Sharing your own traditions or ones you’ve heard about can be a lovely way to show you care and are thinking of them and their loved ones. 🤍Think before you speak - Sometimes, Christmas can feel anything but ‘Merry’ or ‘Happy.’ Consider saying, “I know this Christmas might be difficult for you. I will be thinking of you and remembering [Name],” or “I remember you telling me [Name] loved mince pies; I will be sure to have one for them this Christmas.” Personal touches mean a lot. One of the greatest gifts when living with grief is knowing others remember and think of the person you’ve lost. If you’re facing your first Christmas without someone you love, please be gentle with yourself. The lead-up can be more overwhelming than the day itself. Make extra time for self-care, don’t be afraid to set boundaries, and most importantly, tell the world about them. Ensure their legacy lives on in the stories you tell and the new memories you create 💖
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Here it is, the 4th Thursday in November. Grief is hard any time of year, but the holidays can feel particularly brutal. For many grieving folks, Thanksgiving is the hardest holiday of the bunch. It’s centered on community and gratitude, and all of it seems to highlight the empty place(s) at the table. It's hard to feel thankful when you're grieving. Gratitude gets presented to grieving folks as a cure for their ills: “At least you had them for as long as you did. Be thankful for the memories.” Parents grieving the death of a child are often told to be thankful for their remaining children. None of this is helpful. Gratitude & grief don’t cancel each other out, they sit side by side. There is a HUGE difference between choosing to feel grateful for something and having someone else prescribe gratitude and tell you how you should be feeling. There ARE ways to celebrate and acknowledge the holiday that don’t unintentionally make things worse for grieving folks. It’s far more helpful to find gratitude for things that help us survive, things that companion you exactly where you are, things that give you even the tiniest bit of comfort. It's also ok to not feel grateful. Remember that you can choose to ignore this or any other holiday, no matter what anyone else says. Wherever you are in the world, I hope this 4th Thursday in November has at least a few moments of peace inside of it for you. I wish you true reasons for gratitude, inside yourself: the company of real friends, the relief of solitude, and the shelter of love in all its forms. If you’re trying to support someone you love through the holidays, remember that you can’t make their holiday "good." Reminding them to be grateful for what they once had or what still exists won’t help — in fact, it can make them feel worse. Instead, you might ask how they’re feeling today. If they’re having a hard time, acknowledge and support them inside their sadness without trying to fix it or cheer them up. #GriefEducation #GriefSupport #HolidayGrief #HolidaySeason2024 #ToxicPositivity #LifeAfterLoss #LivingWithGrief
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🎄 ’Tis the season for… grief? Hi, I’m Corine Rogers. Widow. Warrior. Holiday Enthusiast Extraordinaire. (Okay, I don’t actually introduce myself that way, but this time of year, I feel like I’m constantly reassuring people that I’m okay. Spoiler: I am. Mostly.) If you’ve ever wondered what holiday grief looks like, I’ll tell you: it’s decorating two Christmas trees (because one just doesn’t cut it), going all-in on outdoor lights that probably need FAA clearance, and attending a “Blue Christmas” church service for sad people. It’s cathartic. A little weird. And deeply necessary. The holidays are complicated for a lot of us—especially when we’re carrying loss around like an invisible weighted blanket. Estate planners see it, too. Grief doesn’t take a holiday, especially when it’s tangled up in end-of-life plans, financial stress, or those awkward holiday card moments where you’re wondering if “The Holley Family” still applies. (True story: my husband’s name was Holley, and we signed every Christmas card as The Jolly Holleys. #GoodGriefCharlieBrown.) Here’s my take: grief doesn’t come with a rulebook. Whether you’re leaning into full-tilt Christmas chaos or skipping the season altogether, it’s okay. Do it your way. Showing up for yourself—or others—doesn’t need to be perfect. It just needs to be real. For my estate planner friends: keep showing up for your clients this season. They may not say it, but they’ll appreciate having someone who gets it—the chaos, the loss, and yes, the love that the holidays can stir up. As for me, I’ll be here, adding more lights to my lawn than my breaker box can handle, trying to make the season bright. Both literally and metaphorically. Still debating how to sign holiday cards.
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The holidays are supposed to be joyful, but what happens when they feel empty after losing someone you love? Grief doesn’t take a break during the holiday season. For families navigating the loss of a loved one, traditions can become bittersweet reminders of what’s missing. In my latest article, "Holding onto the Holidays: Navigating Traditions After Losing a Loved One," I share: ✅ The emotional complexities of grieving during the holidays. ✅ Practical ways to honor your loved one while creating new traditions. ✅ Tips for coping with loss and finding moments of peace. 💔 This topic is deeply personal for me—I remember my first Christmas without my grandmother, the glue of our family. It shaped how I approach the holidays and inspired me to help others navigate this delicate balance between grief and joy. 📖 Read the full article here: https://buff.ly/3VqBNpk 💬 How have you kept the memory of a loved one alive during the holidays? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments.
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