Nigel Laing’s Post

When was the last time you really looked at yourself in the mirror—not to check your hair, your teeth, or if your outfit’s on point—but to truly see the person looking back at you? Most of us go through our routines without pausing to acknowledge ourselves as whole humans. We’re quick to spot a stray hair or a wrinkle but slow to recognize our own resilience, kindness, and worth. We check our physical appearance, but we rarely take a moment to check in with the person we are on the inside. Mel Robbins talks about her journey with the “High 5 Habit”—a small, daily gesture of giving yourself a high five in the mirror each morning. It sounds simple, even a bit silly at first glance, but it’s so much more than a gesture. It’s about finally seeing ourselves beyond our surface, honoring the human who’s showing up day after day, through the ups and the downs. This habit isn’t just about self-care or self-love—it’s about self-recognition. It’s about acknowledging the struggles we face, the courage it takes to keep moving, and the quiet victories we often overlook. It’s about seeing yourself, not through the lens of what you should be or how you could improve, but as a person who’s worthy, as you are. So tomorrow morning, try it. When you’re in front of that mirror, give yourself a high five. Look beyond the checklist of physical details and connect with the person staring back. Remind yourself of everything you’ve overcome, of the strength and compassion that make you who you are. Let’s make a habit of truly seeing ourselves, of showing up for the person in the mirror. Because once we start seeing and honoring our own humanity, we find a deeper resilience, a confidence that radiates outward. And that, I believe, is one of the most powerful gifts we can give ourselves. As we dive deeper into Movember, let’s remember that mental health starts with recognizing our worth and humanity. Supporting men’s health isn’t just about growing a mustache—it’s about showing up, seeing ourselves clearly, and standing together for each other’s well-being. If you’d like to support my Movember journey, help me reach my $2,000 goal to drive awareness and action. Every contribution counts. Let’s make a difference together.[https://bit.ly/3zN0K3p] #High5Yourself #SeeTheHuman #SelfRecognition #Movember #MensMentalHealth #MindfulMoments #Resilience #EmpoweredLiving

At Promet, we recognise Stress Awareness Month this April. This month, we wanted to provide strategies to reduce stress and promote mental well-being within the mining industry.   Here are some ways you can help tackle stress: 1. Break the Silence: Encourage open conversations about stress within your team. 2. Share Strategies: Share what works for you in combating stress. 3. Practice Empathy: Recognise your colleagues' signs of stress and offer a listening ear. 4. Prioritise Self-Care: Carve out time for relaxation and rejuvenation.   Together, let's prioritise mental well-being alongside operational excellence.  #stressawarenessmonth #stressawareness #awareness #support #april2024 #monthawareness #stress #worklifebalance #managingstress #tips

In one of the DEI sessions, the facilitator shared a wonderful metaphor that #microaggression is like a mosquito sting. One sting doesn't feel much, but a couple of them all over your body is extremely uncomfortable, even painful. I cannot stop myself sharing with everyone. Imagine such stings disturbing not only your physical health but also your mental sanity. Are you aware of this term? Have you ever engaged in #criticalconversations? Does your organisation offer a #safespace for such conversations? I believe channelling such conversations is what is needed to know how people feel especially #minorities Be mindful, your comments not cause discomfort to others. #DEI

Fear is a mental construct that is intangible and can only be experienced emotionally. By conditioning our minds and reflecting on past experiences, we can often recognize that many of our fears are unfounded. Historical context provides comfort, revealing that today's fears may become irrelevant over time, especially as many situations, such as exams or health concerns, are temporary. Specific fears vary greatly among individuals, and while some fears, like those of darkness or natural disasters, may require professional guidance, they are not universally shared. The only common fear among humans is the fear of death, which is deeply rooted in the unknown aspects of what follows after life. This fear is often exacerbated by concerns about the suffering associated with dying and the impact on loved ones. Understanding that death is an inevitable part of life can help mitigate the fear surrounding it. The fear of death is primarily a fear of the unknown, as we cannot perceive what lies beyond life. Embracing uncertainty and recognizing that outcomes may vary can empower individuals to confront their fear of death with a sense of openness, much like facing the uncertainties of moving to a new country. Ultimately, accepting the unknown can lead to a more peaceful perspective on mortality.

Everything isn’t about Geology! Instead, I want to have a real conversation about something just as important: mental well-being. As professionals, we often get caught up in deadlines, targets, and the hustle, but how often do we take a step back to check in with ourselves and others? Sometimes, we get so focused on fixing problems that we forget what people truly need—empathy, a listening ear, or just a simple gesture of support. Mental health impacts everything—our performance, our relationships, our daily lives. So, during this Mental Health Month, let’s make an extra effort to prioritize it, not just for ourselves but for those we work with and care about. Before offering advice or solutions, ask yourself: Does this person need understanding more than answers? Let’s be there for each other, professionally and personally. How do you keep your mental health in check? Share with us in the comments section. ————————— 𝑰 𝒂𝒎 𝒂 𝑮𝒆𝒐𝒔𝒄𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒔𝒕 𝒐𝒏 𝒂 𝒎𝒊𝒔𝒔𝒊𝒐𝒏 𝒕𝒐 𝗱𝗲𝗺𝘆𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗳𝘆 𝒈𝒆𝒐𝒍𝒐𝒈𝒚 𝒊𝒏 𝒂 𝒔𝒊𝒎𝒑𝒍𝒆 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒆𝒙𝒄𝒊𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒘𝒂𝒚, 𝒘𝒉𝒊𝒍𝒆 𝒂𝒅𝒗𝒐𝒄𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒔𝒖𝒔𝒕𝒂𝒊𝒏𝒂𝒃𝒍𝒆 𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒄𝒆𝒔 𝒆𝒙𝒑𝒍𝒐𝒊𝒕𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏. #MentalHealthMonth

I did a webinar with Online Events the other night about tech, social media and the impact on #neurodivergent mental health. A small group of us, but some interesting discussions about how we/loved ones are impacted by things like infinite scrolling, dopamine mining and "compare and despair".  The great news is you can watch it back here and feel free to carry on the discussion!  https://lnkd.in/ehrmhfAS

This is what we call relational trauma or emotional neglect, and in our emotionally immature society it’s one of the most hidden forms of suffering for almost every human being. It’s even hidden for yourself. Making you believe there is something wrong with you. Trying to fix yourself all of your life. Not knowing that what you are looking for is meeting the needs you had as a little child, that were never truly met. It’s the loneliness or emptiness that you feel. It’s the depression. It’s the feeling of not ever being worthy or good enough. It’s that feeling of helplessness or: it doesn’t matter what I do anyway, things will always stay the same. It’s your anxiety. Your frustration. Your anger. Your boredom. Your always seeking but never finding. Becoming aware of your relational wounds and starting to grieve all that you didn’t receive, is your way out. Your journey of reparenting and healing yourself. And that is the only way to start with filling yourself from the inside out and freeing your (very) suppressed authentic self. The only way onwards, is inwards.

Six unpleasant discoveries about our lives I try to always remember. 1. The fastest way to get depressed is to start comparing yourself to other people. 2. The biggest killer of our dreams is dependence on other people's opinions. 3. You can't make everyone happy. If you try you will lose yourself in the process. 4. Don't react to people who don't like you. Most of the time those people don't like themselves. 5. The biggest limitations are often in our own minds. Conjured out of fear of the unknown. 6. The biggest and most self sabotaging addiction in the world is the comfort zone.

❋ Do you recognise the impact that addiction or dysfunctional family of origin has had on your life? ❋ Tried support groups, but they’re not your thing? ❋ Sick of feeling different, wrong or less than because of what you have been through? ❋ Missing a sense of understanding from a community who knows what it’s like? ❋Regret the way you seem to react your way through life? You can feel freedom Don’t you want freedom from the unconscious scripts that still play out in your everyday life? You know, the ones that still whisper that you don’t deserve, you don’t get to… Don’t you crave freedom from the pervading sense of fear and danger that is the background hum of your day? You know, the fear that tells you to keep small, don’t trust, don’t speak up, flatline your emotions with a ‘everything is fine’. Don’t you deserve freedom from attracting and being attracted to relationships which feel unsupportive and undermining? You know, the ones that leave you feeling drained, that require you to perform, the ones that leave you gasping for oxygen? Here's what previous participants say about working together: "I now know that I am my number 1 priority. I also understand that it's ok if the things I enjoy or how I process things is different to my family. I'm an entirely different person to where I began with you and am now really looking forward to what I can do and where I can go with this new found happiness of myself." Ready to enter a brave space where we embrace our messiness together and come home to ourselves? Feeling Freedom: A 12-week comprehensive programme for those who want to feel free from isolation, emotional disconnnection and self medication by reducing your shame, grieving your losses and resolving wounds. 12 WEEKS OF SUPPORT ❋ Weekly live calls ❋ Specific workshops on shame, grief, boundaries & family of origin wounds  ❋ EFT tapping scripts and live sessions ❋Professional support with an advanced addiction practitioner. Call now --> https://lnkd.in/etQ-hFhc

Let’s talk about something that many people find difficult to say out loud: suicidal thoughts. If you’ve ever had them, you know how isolating and overwhelming they can feel. You might even feel ashamed or guilty thinking that having these thoughts somehow makes you a bad person. But here’s the truth: suicidal thoughts don’t make you a bad person. They don’t define who you are, and they don’t determine your worth. Read more here: https://lnkd.in/eBN3pxx4