Leah Ausch, LCSW’s Post

I’d get the belt/beltbuckle shoe metal tent pole tip of a fishing rod hands fists. that hurt but not as much as cutting grass with a ruler and scissors or sitting in that cupboard under the stairs in the dark feet on the ground back against the wall for hours in terror not moving even though he couldn’t see me. I could keep going on with more things my stepdad thought was acceptable punishment. I spent my whole life as a shadow trying to claw my way back from what he left me as drugs helped for a long time 24y living on the streets helped 23y counciliing helped 8y. Ive a stepdaughter and 3 grandkids I’ve never rasied my voice or hands to her she doesn’t to her kids you couldn’t find a more loving or caring mother same with her husband he had a bad stepdad but he’s an awesome dad never shouts comes in from work spends a couple of hours doing home work or bath time my grandkids are such happy kids clever smart inquisitive not afraid to ask not afraid to get stuff wrong my oldest is 11 she does dance comps goes out with friends I at 11 was sleeping under 2 black bags nailed to a log in a graveyard I was happier and safer there than I was in my house. Sorry for the rant I needed that. 🙁

Then let's add to that the Biblical doctrine of disciplining with a device? Still going on....

Pain never thought you anything except that it hurt

There is a better way, one that transcends the hurt and disconnect often experienced in early relationships. Secure attachment revolves around the idea of being emotionally available, responsive, and supportive. It encourages open communication and a deep understanding of oneself and others, thus paving the way for healthier, more fulfilling relationships. This method isn’t just about breaking free from toxic cycles; it’s about building an enriching environment where love, empathy, and security flourish. With secure attachment, lifelong healthy outcomes become attainable. Children raised in a secure environment are not only more resilient but are also better equipped to form meaningful relationships in their own lives. They learn that vulnerability is a strength, and they carry those lessons into adulthood, choosing connection over isolation. By embodying the principles of secure attachment and embracing the role of a cycle breaker, we can foster a legacy of emotional intelligence and resilience, transforming not only our lives but also the lives of future generations. Let’s take a stand together and choose a healthier path, one marked by understanding, compassion, and enduring love.

Why would a child trust the person who's meant to protect them, when they turn out to be the one who hurts them. I was smacked....I will never smack my children! They will never fear me.

I had hands put on me. And I’ve worked with kids. I would never ever put hands on a child. Absolutely mind blowing that people think it’s okay.

Definitely not fine Leah Ausch, LCSW. Building the secure base takes time and effort but makes the whole difference to our lives.

except if they are the undead, vampires…or infected with rapid spread rabies…

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This is very good and very real