High-Stakes Communications Expert & Strategist for teams and women leaders, executives, speakers, and entrepreneurs | Ret. Attorney | Keynote & TEDx Speaker | Author
They say public speaking is people's #1 fear. That fear emanates from many sources.
As a professional speaker, that fear could emanate from a lack of clarity.
It could be from the fear that you will forget something or make a mistake.
This was something that came up for my clients as we prepared for our IQONIK Talks™️ Leadership Conference.
To overcome or work through this fear, I asked them to do one thing ...
Be "powerful not perfect."
And in this snippet from my interview on the Speaking and Communication Podcast with Roberta Ndlela, I discuss why we shouldn't be afraid to make mistakes.
Link to full episode in the comments.
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The thing about speaking that I love is that it's your talk. It's yours and nobody but you. And maybe, you know, like, As for me, a mentor who helped you create it, nobody knows what you're going to say. So they don't know if you forgot something. They don't know if this piece was supposed to be skipped something. Messing it up. And here's the thing too. If you mess up, just be like, oops, mess that up. I've done that. I have done that joke about it. Yes, yes, you're human. And when you when you show other people that you're human, then they're like, they're on your side, they'll just go with you. But if you're up there and you think that this is about you, and I'm supposed to be the expert and I'm supposed to be perfect and I can't do anything, then you put this barrier between you and your audience. And it doesn't work, just be you. Just for you. And like you said, you can use that as an opportunity to show them you're human and connect with them. And also let go of the fear of judgment. Because a lot of times the fear comes from Ohh, What if I mess up? Ohh what if they laugh at me? Ohh, what if I go viral for messing up? That very fear is the reason why. If you just go with the flow, you realize that you know what? It was all in your head. Yeah. Yeah. Because people were not expecting perfection, right? They're not. So I have a client who when she gets excited, like she starts to get red. And so she was talking to me about that. She's like, Oh my gosh, Kelly, people are going to be looking at me. I said, you know what? When you just just talk about it, listen, Y'all might see me get a little red. If you see that, just know I'm getting excited. You need to lean in, right? So just put it in whatever it is that that you have that is a fear or that you think is like some people do have like outward manifestations right on their. Body of the fair. Just play it up, right, and just say listen. When y'all see that, that means you need to lean in. That means you need to get on in here, get your pen out and start writing down stuff because I'm getting excited, right? And so you make it part of the whole thing and then people aren't worried about it. So now they're also might be looking for that so that they can be really engaged, right? So you can use it to your as a positive thing, right? Turn what you perceive to be a negative into a total. Positive. And you know, when you address the elephant in the room up front, it takes away its power over you. You just say you know what? Just know that this is the story. I turned red it it already. You feel relaxed just after mentioning it. It takes away this whole thing had on you before. I would say though, don't do it like right at the beginning. Don't do it as the thing that you step on stage and say, hey, I'm going to you know, if you see me clicking my pen or don't do it right then because that takes away from the power of your message just in the moment, like as you're speaking somewhere after you have created the connection with the audience. And established that you have credibility on this stage so that they should be listening to you. Then just throw it in like as a side note right as you. By the way you know if you see such and such and then keep going with your with your message.
High-Stakes Communications Expert & Strategist for teams and women leaders, executives, speakers, and entrepreneurs | Ret. Attorney | Keynote & TEDx Speaker | Author
Thank you Kelly Charles-Collins, Esq. - The Speaker Mogul for sharing our insightful conversation on how to overcome the fear of public speaking. I love that you highlighted letting go of wanting to be perfect and make no mistakes. When we show others that we all make mistakes, sometimes forget parts of our speeches but still make a great impact - that means everyone can speak!
Co-Founder and Chief Innovation Officer at Nobody Studios | Launching 100 Companies Over the Next 5 Years | Keynote Speaker | Bestselling Author of "UNLEARN" and "LEAN ENTERPRISE"
The journey from self-doubt to self-belief is rarely easy but always worth it. 💪
Sabrina Braham MA, MFT, PCC, Executive Leadership Coach 's personal narrative is a testament to the transformative power of believing in oneself, catalyzed by the unwavering support of a mentor.
This episode of the Unlearn Podcast not only explores Sabrina's shift to a growth mindset but also inspires listeners to reflect on their own transformation journeys.
Let's embrace our full potential by acknowledging and overcoming the self-imposed limitations we face. Listen, reflect, and transform.
https://lnkd.in/gUFPdmTW#SelfBelief#TransformationJourney#InspirationalLeaders
"What is the best scenario? Fear becomes a strength."
In this new episode of Relationships at Work, Russel chats with international leadership coach and consultant Gerardo Segat about what we fear and how to coach through that fear as leaders.
We discuss...
- Leadership through fear management
- Pyramid of fears
- The Bullet Train and Regional Train approaches to coaching fear
- Transforming fear into strength
- The necessity of psychological safety
- Coaching with diversity in mind
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Great news! 🔥 A few days ago, an insightful interview went live. I had the pleasure of being interviewed by @Juan Alvarado
Juan's work emphasizes cultivating strong, intentional leadership within organizations. In our interview, we dive into one of my favorite topics: inner leadership and why self-leadership should be your first step.👇
You can watch the conversation on YouTube here: https://lnkd.in/ePqfc7SU. If you prefer the podcast version, you can listen here: https://lnkd.in/e_kf3sgB (just click on your preferred platform).
I'd love to hear your thoughts on the discussion and your perspective on the topic! 🤗
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Here's something I truly believe: 'Leaders who show vulnerability are often the strongest of them all.' 💪🛡️
Being vulnerable as a leader isn’t about showing weakness; it’s about being authentic and building trust. 🤝 When we open up and show our human side, we create deeper connections with our teams. I’d love to hear from you—how do you embrace vulnerability in your leadership role? 🙌
For more content on this topic, listen to episode 68 of the Leadership Jam Session Podcast - Ted Lasso Leadership Lessons with Kim Metcalf & Paul Catanzaro https://loom.ly/t2DkrCM#Leadership#Vulnerability#Trust#Authenticity#TeamBuilding"
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Do you struggle to delegate? A major focus of my work The Lonely Leader is helping leaders delegate more effectively.
When I begin the coaching or mentoring process I find most people have a mindset that they can do a task better than their colleagues so they retain it.
Invariably they recognise they should train staff to enhance their skills and subsequent ability to execute the task, but do not feel they have the time.
In this episode of The Lonely Leader Podcast (link in comments) I share six steps to help every leader master this critical leadership essential.
If the content resonates I would be grateful if you can follow the show.
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Transforming Leadership: Lessons from My Early Failures
Discover how embracing failure can reshape your leadership style. In this video, I share personal experiences and the vital relationship-first mindset that transformed my approach as a principal. Learn from my past mistakes to inspire authentic connections and growth in your own leadership journey. Season 4 of The Engaging Leadership Show is live! Check out our conversation with Dr. Camille Hibbler, superintendent of the Ferndale School District in MI. You can find this episode and all our previous episodes on your favorite podcast player. #LeadershipDevelopment#GrowthMindset#FailForward#AuthenticRelationships#EducationLeadership#PrincipalInsights#TransformativeLeadership#Mentorship#ProfessionalGrowth#OpenDoorPolicy
High-Stakes Communications Expert & Strategist for teams and women leaders, executives, speakers, and entrepreneurs | Ret. Attorney | Keynote & TEDx Speaker | Author
8moFull episode https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-5PnpnqYU1Q