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Phenomenal Conversation #30 a co-dialogue with Katherine Long, on the topic of 'Healing the Heart of Regeneration' Why is this type of phenomenal dialogue or exchange important? Phenomenal Conversations are not about presentations or lectures—it’s about shared exploration. We shift the focus from rigid conventional methods to a more open, collaborative dialogue. Through these conversations, we hope to create a space where curiosity can be in the lead, and where the wisdom of each participant adds to a deeper collective understanding or activates the wisdom of the field. This Event Format: 1. Co-Dialogue: Our speakers will begin with an intimate, thoughtful exchange, reflecting on the themes of healing and wholeness. Rather than a formal interview, this will be an organic conversation, guided by curiosity and shared inquiry. 2. Interactive Reflection: Following the initial dialogue, you are invited to join small group discussions, where you can share your thoughts and reflections in a warm, welcoming space. 3. Collective Sharing: We’ll come back together to listen to each other’s insights, finding common threads and new perspectives,and leaving with a sense of connection and possibility. Online Tuesday 26 November 19.00-21-00 CET More here; https://buff.ly/3YDtJDx Book Here https://buff.ly/3MN9SLj

Ever feel like you and your partner/friend are having a conversation, but it seems like you’re speaking in entirely different languages? 🤔🗣️ This disconnect might be because you’re not having the same kind of conversation. If you don’t recognize what kind of conversation is happening, it’s unlikely you’ll connect. This is the “Matching Principle of Communication.” 🧠✨ 💡 What is it? The Matching Principle of Communication teaches us that to truly connect with someone, we need to ensure we’re having the same kind of conversation at the same time. It’s about aligning not just the topic but the tone, intent, and emotional level of the discussion. 🔍 Why does it matter? • If one person is being emotional 🥺, and the other logical 🤖, they’ll feel unheard. • If one wants to solve a problem 🛠️, and the other just wants to share their feelings 😔, frustration arises. • If one person is joking 😂, and the other is serious 😐, misalignment can break connection. 📘 Example: Imagine your partner comes home stressed and says, “Today was terrible.” If you jump straight to solutions, like “Why don’t you talk to your boss?” without matching their emotional need to vent, they might feel dismissed. Recognizing that this is an emotional conversation, you can respond with, “That sounds so hard—tell me what happened.” Now, you’re aligned. 🧩 Takeaway: If you want to be heard—and hear others—you need to: 1️⃣ Recognize the kind of conversation that’s happening: emotional, problem-solving, storytelling, etc. 2️⃣ Match their tone, intent, and emotional level. 3️⃣ Invite them to match you if you’re ready to shift the focus. ✨ By doing this, you create space for connection, understanding, and collaboration. Next time you feel disconnected, pause and ask yourself: What kind of conversation are we having? I learned this while watching this video https://lnkd.in/e2R2AxQE

Ever had a conversation, but you got the feeling that you and the other person just weren't connecting? Charles Duhigg’s TED talk, “The Science Behind Dramatically Better Conversations,” reveals why: it's because each person has their own idea of the conversation's purpose. This makes sense to me because sometimes my life partner doesn't want to be helped, he just wants to be heard. Sometimes I don't want to be heard, I just want to be hugged. Duhigg calls this “the matching principle”—learning to recognize whether a conversation is practical, emotional, or social, and then responding in kind. Once we do that, we can unlock deeper, more meaningful connections with the people around us. So, I wrote on a sticky note to put in our kitchen: Do you want to be heard? hugged? helped? And when I get confused about what kind of conversation we are having, I point to the sticky note and ask. And, then I know... Check out his talk to connect more easily with others! #Communication #Conversations #CharlesDuhigg #TEDTalk #Empathy #Connection

To enrich the conversation, I have decided to host occasional guest posts that offer insights and reflections from individuals with unique expertise or interesting viewpoints. So, come read the first guest post: https://lnkd.in/g2_USMDe

Bringing self-awareness to mind, in a conversation, enables us to be more intentional about where we go next. Conversations can be an opportunity for us to practice self-awareness. This of course involves a delicate balance of being “in” the conversation enough to be a good conversation partner, while also being an observer of the conversation—observing both our contributions and our partner’s contributions. https://lnkd.in/enZ7KUTf

Thoughtful reflections by Michael Ashford on how to navigate through these times.

Look our for my next article "Debunking the Myth of Difficult Conversations.

“Imagine relationships built not on control, but on upliftment.” Today, relationships are evolving beyond old expectations. They’re about supporting each other’s unique paths while finding shared purpose. When we approach our connections with respect and openness, we create bonds that are strong and fulfilling. This mutual upliftment isn’t just personal—it can transform teams, partnerships, and entire communities. Want to rethink how you approach connection? Dive into this topic in this week’s Brain Cast. Link in bio.

How to Live From Vision | Interview with Ilona Selke and Dr. Karen Perkins In this powerful interview hosted by Dr. Karen Perkins, bestselling author and empowerment coach Ilona Selke shares transformative insights on how to Live From Vision. Learn how to shift your focus from problems to solutions and cultivate emotional growth by using practical techniques. Ilona reveals the first step from her Living From Vision five-week course, teaching you the "Stop, Look, Feel, Choose" method to gain clarity and create positive change in your life. Discover how consciousness and matter are interconnected, and how focusing on what you truly desire can transform your reality. https://lnkd.in/gqNGJidD

Humor can unexpectedly lighten our day. Me: “Did you get a powdered donut from Gran?” My 4 year old: “Why do you ask?” In the research world, eliciting answers from clients can be tricky. At Confide, clear communication and on-topic discussions are our priorities. With screened participants and supportive partners, we keep your research focused. How can we help you get the answers you are looking for? #Communication #Research #Confide