Helen Langdon’s Post

I am drinking too much.” said my client. “I promised myself not to drink on Mondays.” said my friend exactly at the same week. So I was wondering.. What are you using alcohol for? Here are some options I hear: -To relax after a heavy day. -To gain confidence at your date. -To forget about the issues at work. -To refresh yourself on a hot summer day. -To be the funny one in the group instead of being the introvert. -Because you deserve it. -Because initiating sex is easier that way. -Because a man drinks beer, not water. -Because it helps you to enjoy your (miserable) life. -Because taking decisions is easier tomorrow. There is a great excuse for every day. Let’s say it works. You get what you were looking for. 💡What do you feel the next day?💡 -shame, -guilt, -regret, -headache, -anxiety, -disappointment? ☑️So you created another day filled with negative emotions. ☑️You are 1 day further away from reaching your goals. ☑️Still not knowing how to handle your challenges. (with or without a drink) ☑️Plus having your discipline muscle weakened, your inner voice/ saboteur stronger and harsher, your overall satisfaction lower. And the vicious circle continues.. ⚠️This might be the sign you are waiting for⚠️ #starttoday #innerwork #createyourlife ———————————————- I have 3 ways to support you in this process: 👉Re-Connect: The Conscious Men’s Retreat-The most efficient solution- just like 4 months of 1on1 personal development sessions. 👉Real Talk: our Men’s Group- twice a month, online. 👉1on1 life coaching, mentoring- online Book an intro call today to talk about it. I am looking forward to meeting you, Bernadett

I am drinking too much.” said my client. “I promised myself not to drink on Mondays.” said my friend exactly at the same week. So I was wondering.. What are you using alcohol for? Here are some options I hear: -To relax after a heavy day. -To gain confidence at your date. -To forget about the issues at work. -To refresh yourself on a hot summer day. -To be the funny one in the group instead of being the introvert. -Because you deserve it. -Because initiating sex is easier that way. -Because a man drinks beer, not water. -Because it helps you to enjoy your (miserable) life. -Because taking decisions is easier tomorrow. There is a great excuse for every day. Let’s say it works. You get what you were looking for. 💡What do you feel the next day?💡 -shame, -guilt, -regret, -headache, -anxiety, -disappointment? ☑️So you created another day filled with negative emotions. ☑️You are 1 day further away from reaching your goals. ☑️Still not knowing how to handle your challenges. (with or without a drink) ☑️Plus having your discipline muscle weakened, your inner voice/ saboteur stronger and harsher, your overall satisfaction lower. And the vicious circle continues.. ⚠️This might be the sign you are waiting for⚠️ #starttoday #innerwork #createyourlife ———————————————- I have 3 ways to support you in this process: 👉Re-Connect: The Conscious Men’s Retreat-The most efficient solution- just like 4 months of 1on1 personal development sessions. 👉Real Talk: our Men’s Group- twice a month, online. 👉1on1 life coaching, mentoring- online Book an intro call today to talk about it. I am looking forward to meeting you, Bernadett

"I am drinking too much." said my client. "I promised myself not to drink on Mondays." said my friend exactly at the same week. So I was wondering.. What are you using alcohol for? Here are some options I hear: -To relax after a heavy day. -To gain confidence at your date. -To forget about the issues at work. -To refresh yourself on a hot summer day. -To be the funny one in the group instead of being the introvert. -Because you deserve it. -Because initiating sex is easier that way. -Because a man drinks beer, not water. -Because it helps you to enjoy your (miserable) life. -Because taking decisions is easier tomorrow. There is a great excuse for every day. Let's say it works. You get what you were looking for. 💡What do you feel the next day?💡 -shame, -guilt, -regret, -headache, -anxiety, -disappointment? ☑️So you created another day filled with negative emotions. ☑️You are 1 day further away from reaching your goals. ☑️Still not knowing how to handle your challenges. (with or without a drink) ☑️Plus having your discipline muscle weakened, your inner voice/ saboteur stronger and harsher, your overall satisfaction lower. And the vicious circle continues.. ⚠️This might be the sign you are waiting for⚠️ #starttoday #innerwork #createyourlife ———————————————- I have 3 ways to support you in this process: 👉Re-Connect: The Conscious Men’s Retreat-The most efficient solution- just like 4 months of 1on1 personal development sessions. 👉Real Talk: our Men’s Group- twice a month, online. 👉1on1 life coaching, mentoring- online Book an intro call today to talk about it. 

I am looking forward to meeting you,
Bernadett

If you have difficulty following through , your relationship is broken, and here’s what to do about it. What relationship?? The relationship with yourself. I teach my clients time blocking, which brings up so many layers that we can coach on… ✅ Self-judgement for not getting things done (self-compassion) ✅ Irritation with yourself for allowing distractions and interruptions (enter boundaries) ✅Saying yes when you meant no (people pleasing) ✅Underestimating how long a trip to the DMV will take (giving yourself a buffer) I did the same thing. I overloaded my calendar without compassion for the woman who had to follow it! And then I would get so mad at myself for not following it. Maybe for some it shows up as not following your budget, not finishing your resume, or finding a new job. The first thing we discuss in coaching is the relationship with yourself. Procrastination is essentially having a disconnect between your present self and your future self. Procrastination is self-preserving and protective for your CURRENT YOU. By prioritizing the present moment, instant gratification - you screw over your future self. You end up stressing her out and punishing her. Instead, think of your future self as another person entirely. And ask yourself how you can have compassion for her. Developing this relationship takes time. It’s a skill to predict how your future self will feel accurately. I’m not talking about 5 years from now; start small. How about 10 min from now? Or 2 hours from now? Or the girl you made the calendar for tomorrow. Doing this can cultivate the most important relationship in your life in small increments. So my question to you is, how can you set up your future self for success today? She needs your help. If this was relevant to you, click on the link in comments and get on my “Obsessed List”. Tomorrow I’m making a BIG ANNOUNCEMENT, and if you’re on the list you’ll be the first to know! #worklifebalance #habitchangecoach #burnoutcoach #LifeAfter40 #stressmanagementtips #highachievers #perfectionist #stresscoach #relievestress #habitcoach #mindsetcoachforwomen #beatprocrastination

As human beings, we all experience life events that can seem difficult to cope with. Yet, having the ability to be resilient and look at those challenges as an opportunity to thrive and rise again stronger take work and time. I have been there... Now, I have the opportunity to help others become resilience during life challenges such as GRIEF, HEALTH ISSUES, BREAKUPS, CAREER OVERLOAD, and others life events that require adjusting to. In my "Purposeful Strong" 1:1 coaching program we'll work on building resilience in 90 days. I can get from feeling hopeless to becoming confident. Therefore, you will connect with your Life Purpose by inplementing my unique techniques that will awaken your inner strenghts and full potential, so you can start living the life you are meant to live; even though you think you don't have time. YOU DESERVE YOUR BEST! It just takes the right system, the right support, and the right accountability. DM to connect and see if I'm the right fit for you. #lifecoaching #resiliencecoaching #lifepurpose

I am drinking too much.” said my client. “I promised myself not to drink on Mondays.” said my friend exactly at the same week. So I was wondering.. What are you using alcohol for? Here are some options I hear: -To relax after a heavy day. -To gain confidence at your date. -To forget about the issues at work. -To refresh yourself on a hot summer day. -To be the funny one in the group instead of being the introvert. -Because you deserve it. -Because initiating sex is easier that way. -Because a man drinks beer, not water. -Because it helps you to enjoy your (miserable) life. -Because taking decisions is easier tomorrow. There is a great excuse for every day. Let’s say it works. You get what you were looking for. 💡What do you feel the next day?💡 -shame, -guilt, -regret, -headache, -anxiety, -disappointment? ☑️So you created another day filled with negative emotions. ☑️You are 1 day further away from reaching your goals. ☑️Still not knowing how to handle your challenges. (with or without a drink) ☑️Plus having your discipline muscle weakened, your inner voice/ saboteur stronger and harsher, your overall satisfaction lower. And the vicious circle continues.. ⚠️This might be the sign you are waiting for⚠️ #starttoday #innerwork #createyourlife ———————————————- I have 3 ways to support you in this process: 👉Re-Connect: The Conscious Men’s Retreat-The most efficient solution- just like 4 months of 1on1 personal development sessions. 👉Real Talk: our Men’s Group- twice a month, online. 👉1on1 life coaching, mentoring- online Book an intro call today to talk about it. I am looking forward to meeting you, Bernadett

Are you desperately trying to focus on work, but you have something else on your mind? It’s difficult to think Everything seems a bit pointless You ask yourself… ~ Can work wait? ~ Should I get help? ~ How do I get through this? ~ Is the work I'm doing more important than looking after myself? These are all questions I have been asking myself since losing my dad just over a week ago. Grief is still there But I’m taking time out when needed And feeling thankful that I’m so passionate about the work I do, as I know it makes a difference in other people's lives... ... so it’s keeping me going. When you love the work you do, it’s so much easier to get back into it. Do you love the work you do? It might not be grief you’re going through... 🔸But you might be worried about your health, your finances or your studies 🔸Or it might be that you’re not getting on with your partner, sibling, child or parent 🔸Or you might have a lot to do at home and the distractions are getting to you 🔸Or you might be caring for a loved one and not getting any time for you 🔸Or you might just lack confidence, motivation, or the right work habits to do your job Or it may be a combination of the above. Whatever it is, I can help you find a way through To see how one area of your life is possibly impacting the other To feel happier about your work To get more harmony in your life Don’t go through another sleepless night Don’t let those obstacles stop you getting through this I’m scheduling complementary calls this week for you to talk through any challenges that life is throwing at you, and how I can support you 🧡 If you are interested, DM me 📲 to request a chat to see how coaching can help you move from stress, distraction and overwhelm, to feeling more in control and to find passion in your work. Follow Sandra Smith (Madeira) FCCA for more life and career insights

👋 It may be hard to pinpoint a formula for a frictionless, happy life, but as a high-functioning anxious person, my struggles aren’t always visible to others. 💫 Years of daily practice have helped me manage my people-pleasing, over-functioning tendencies, and anxious thoughts, allowing me to live more mindfully. 🕊️ It took time, and I still have to practice. Growing up as a people-pleaser, it takes effort to honor my needs and avoid overwhelming myself. Sometimes, simply being present is better than striving for perfection. 🔟 Coping Strategies for High Functioning Anxious People 1️⃣ Build Your Mindset: Prioritize yourself despite daily distractions. 2️⃣ You Have a Choice: Empower yourself by making conscious decisions rather than meeting everyone’s needs first. 3️⃣ Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself and take breaks when needed. 4️⃣ Avoid Comparisons: Focus on inner work for long-term happiness instead of external validation. 5️⃣ Find Your Sweet Spot: Adjust your career or responsibilities based on your current needs. It’s okay to change. 6️⃣ Create a Support Network: Find a community where you feel accepted and supported. 7️⃣ Define Success: Identify and follow your core values instead of societal expectations. 8️⃣ Practice Mindfulness: Focus intentionally on the present moment. 9️⃣ Set Healthy Boundaries: Protect your time and energy. 🔟 Accept Criticism: Evaluate feedback neutrally without emotional reactions 👋 Which number lands for you today? 📲Need help with this? I have a few July spots open for summer life coaching sessions. Books yours today! https://lnkd.in/eBd4Y4Nu ************* 👋 I’m Christine, Master Certified Life Coach, Ed.M I coach overwhelmed and drained women to master the full-time formula with part-time effort. I help you go from hamster wheel to happy with grace. Join my community! https://lnkd.in/gTjawr_g #lifecoaching #community #support #trusttheprocess #validate

Do you feel the “same shit, different day” emotion at work? Do you drag yourself to work every day and plod through the monotonous routine without any spark of interest? This kind of prolonged apathy, frustration, and unhappiness can lead to a sense of powerlessness, a sense of being driven by circumstances rather than your own choices and efforts. Living out your life like Robinson Crusoe, feeling marooned and just counting down the days (or years!) to whatever might feel like liberation, is no way to live life, is it? Having been through this kind of situation myself and knowing how terrible it feels, I use a coaching tool to help my clients reclaim their power at work, however bad their situation might feel. It involves a simple exercise of answering 6 questions and identifying 3 actions you can take right away. This usually helps people regain a sense of control over their lives, instead of waiting for someone or something to come and rescue them! I’d like to share this tool with you in the hope that it will help you gain a fresh perspective on your situation if you're feeling trapped in your job. You can access it by clicking the link to my website given in the comments below. #careercoaching #personaldevelopment #feelingstuck

As you head into the work week, may you find space to quiet your mind, be still, and let your soul breathe. About three years ago, I was at a very difficult place in my life and career. I was feeling overwhelmed, anxious, burned out, and unwell. I kept trying to convince myself to push through, that these feelings would pass, that it wasn’t that bad…But I wasn’t able to push through and I came to a breaking point where my physical and mental health deteriorated. Someone asked me, “What do you need?” and all I could think of was that I just needed some space. Space from all the noise. Space to breathe. So, I gave myself permission to do that and took some time off from work, with the incredible support of my employer at the time. This space was like a cocoon for me where I took an honest look at my life and what I truly wanted and needed. I also accessed professional help to support my physical and mental health. In that space, I was able to come back home to my “Self.” And from that powerful place, I gained clarity and courage to make some important decisions and take action towards changing my life. For me, this wasn’t about a job or workplace culture that was bad. It was about not feeling the purpose I once did. It was about a calling I had so deep in me that became impossible to ignore. That calling was to devote my career exclusively to being a Coach. Now I get to work with amazing humans and create space for them to discover their limitless capacity to change, heal, or achieve anything in their life and career. Could you use a little space in your life right now? If so, how would you complete these sentences? I need some space from… I need some space to… You deserve that! ❤️ #stillness #calm #calmness #breathe #innerpeace #coaching #lifecoaching #careercoaching #trueself #selfdiscovery #innerwisdom #possibility #motivationmonday