Dr. Daniel Taylor’s Post

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Rolling around today with my thoughts a little bit again. So I guess here we go if I'm gonna do this. It's funny, I didn't really tell my family I was gonna post this first video of my friend Brian suggested, and he's probably correct. I had given into my intrusive thoughts. But when I got home, my daughter was like, Dad, you're going to be an influencer. And I said I don't even really know how to post these videos properly. So I'm not quite sure how influential this is going to be. But having said that, you guys were all incredibly nice and had a lot of really great feedback. And I'm very thankful for that, just in general. So I appreciate it very much. One thing that was noted by another friend of mine, Adrienne Baysmore, who's a excellent coach in his own right. Suggested that it might be interesting to talk about and think about the highs and lows of working in sports, which is a very fascinating concept and covers a great deal really in general. But I did obviously think about it and I do think about it and I have thought about it. And I would even say highs and lows just throughout my career, which is everything from personal training right through to working in the NDA and even now what I'm doing and I have been fortunate. Enough to experience first round and C AA wins with Sienna College and be a, you know, Cinderella team. I've also lost in the first round of the Mac tournament. I have helped somebody get off diabetic medication and be in complete control of that diabetic condition as a personal trainer. And I've also seen people struggle through levels of rehab that have kind of left them in in in the docket and tough place. I've also lost an NBA preseason game by 70 points and I've been part of a buzzer beater in a regular season game. Against a future NBA champion. So I really have kind of felt and seen it all. And also the day-to-day stuff as well, which has its own highs and lows and it's incredible. It's an incredible thing. I mean, the highs are just unbelievable in those moments. And you know, it's just a culmination of of time and energy and emotional attachment and, and all the different things that go into winning and winning at a high level. And at the same sense, there's the crush and the depth of the sort of like, not quite. It's bad, but the, the sort of bleak feeling you get when you lose or you, you kind of come short for what you're aiming for. And they couldn't be more polar opposite and they're as powerful as each other. And again, you kind of drink up the success of it and it's just intoxicating and it makes you want to do it more. And when you lose and you lose to that level, you know, depending on how you're gated, if you're competitive, you want to get right back at it and try and like, you know, achieve something again and overcome what you failed. And you know the one thing about the winning, obviously. Which I always say is that you really only a champion for that night. The very next morning you're a defending champion. So you're right back at it anyway. And it's just again, it's just amazing, amazing sort of rollercoaster ride of everything. As she few things though, because there is cautionary tales around it and one of them is there is an expense to all of it. And anything that is that intoxicating and is like a drug, and I think for those of us that have taken part in it and live it and still do, whether you're an athlete, you know, an administrator. You know, working it or even work in any type of high level performance, no matter what it is, there is again like a sacrifice that has to be made. And often it's a personal sacrifice. And and you know, that's one thing, but you have to almost audit throughout the times you're experiencing those these things, what those sacrifices are and if they're worth it, because often it is friends and family and people and events and even health of yourself and loved ones. And I think that. You know, people sometimes miss that audits and have to kind of like, you know, double check that is this still worth it? And once those those kind of checks and balances swing the wrong way, you have to be prepared to sort of make a decision around it because again, like any intoxicating drug like thing. You know, there's goods that come with it, but also there are negatives and you've got to make sure that those negatives are kept in check and again, are still being outweighed by the positives. The other thing that I thought about a lot is, you know, what is the important thing to do professionally through these sort of like big swings? And consistency is something that always comes up for me. So first of all, and, and sort of logically, you are literally paid for your consistent quality work. That's why you're there. Why even brought in? So that's sort of a non negotiable. If you start to become inconsistent or, or, or or drop the quality of your work, you will be found out and get fired pretty fast. What I actually think is, is more important for this discussion and where my brain goes. Is sort of a consistency of personality. And what I mean by that is a hallmark of my career is you would always know where they're an athlete, administrative coach. Remember, I was dealing with what you were going to get when you saw me at work. From a sort of personality perspective and and I think that always served me well because people are drawn towards that consistency. Nobody likes inconsistency, don't want likes these sort of big personality swings. You know, players don't like it amongst themselves. They're already in inconsistent environment just by the nature of sports and the different things around them. They don't like to be led by inconsistency in in this sort of personality and emotion. I know coaches don't like it. From the kind of group that they're around, they like consistency and then it like to like know what they're going to be facing from their staff and, and from things around them. I mean, frankly, kids don't like it from their parents in relationships, you don't like to be with an inconsistent partner. I mean, even the stock market, the stock market crashes in the stock market gets in trouble when there's inconsistencies in the world or the inconsistencies that go on politics, you name it, nobody likes inconsistencies. So it's very, very important that you remain consistent now. What your personality is, is again, one of those. It's gonna be your thing to find. If you are of the salty chap type or lady, cool. So long as you're effective in delivering your message and effective in delivering the work. You can be salty, you can be overly joyful, you can be neutral. That's really not what's in question. It's just that if you happen to be the more surly amongst us and are a super effective practitioner and the athlete in this case comes in and just knows that's how you're going to be, then they're going to be fine. They'll appreciate the, the, the, the nature of the work. They'll appreciate again, going back to caring and just your presentation is a little bit different. But if you're happy one day, suddenly the next day neutral and next day and they have no idea what to expect, you're not going to be able to deliver for the quality of work and people aren't going to want to be around it. And it will kind of slow down your capacity to be effective and sort of maintain employment as well. So consistency is really, really important. It's probably again, one of the key things for my career. I do think as a kind of a caveat to that point, though, you are allowed to be human. And I have won the ACC championship and wept like a baby. And I've also, you know, lost these games or been in situations that didn't go well and needed to sort of step away for a moment because I don't like losing. And I, you know, no one obviously likes these negative things. So I needed a moment to steal myself. So I think you are more than allowed to be human and to have. This change in your dynamic personality wise in the outcomes. Of what the work was. So when cry, celebrate with, with the team, whatever your thing is in the, the sort of like, you know, losses that you may achieve, like whatever your thing is, then so in the outcomes, sure, that's absolutely fine. That's, that's sort of a reward for the work and a reward for everything that's been done in the process. You have to remain consistent and people will, will thrive around your consistency and be drawn towards it and it will make you employable and make you successful. So again, I think, you know, it's a hell of a ride for anybody that's involved in sports or really again, any high performing group. And and it's something to be sort of marveled at and soaked in. There needs to be an evaluation at times about is it still worth it as it relates to sacrifices around it and then consistency, you know, be consistent in the in the work throughout it and then enjoy the hell out of the outcomes from it. And hopefully you'll have a good career along the way too.