As we head into the holidays, I’ll do my best to follow these steps from Braver Angels to navigate political conversations (even though it won’t be easy!):
1. Separate negative feelings about political leaders from the people in your life. It’s easy to direct frustration with political leaders at friends or family who support them, but they are not the politicians or media you disagree with.
2. Avoid expecting others to think and feel like you. No one owes you their vote or viewpoint. Focus on self-regulation, set boundaries if needed, and respect different coping styles—even among those who agree with you.
3. Work on understanding why people voted the way they did. Don’t settle for simple explanations. Seek to understand people’s decisions on their terms, not yours. If you can’t explain their reasoning in a way they would agree with, you don’t fully understand.
4. Focus on shared values and hopes for the country. Policy disagreements don’t mean value disagreements. Many people share the same aspirations for our nation but differ on how to achieve them.
5. Decide if you want to be a bridge builder. We need more bridge builders, not bridge burners. Building bridges doesn’t mean abandoning your beliefs—it’s about changing how we see each other, not how we see the issues.
For more on navigating intense emotions and relationships after the election, join Braver Angels’ national session on Saturday, December 7th at 2 p.m. ET: Session Link.
I’ll do my best to be a bridge builder—but I’ll still speak out when I think elected officials make bad decisions! Especially over the next 4 years.
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1wFantastic event and experience. Was great to see you there!