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Do not disturb, please!!! Sometimes, all our coachee or client needs is that we stay by their side, calmly, listen, let them debrief themselves. As others, smarter than me, might have already said, to just stay out of their way. The coachee, when appropriate, and mostly, when ready and willing, will understand themselves by ‘talking it out’ with you, the coach. With possibly a bit of guidance, a lot of nonjudgmental curiosity, and genuine care, you can even gently but clearly challenge them to re-think, re-consider and re-organize their thoughts, their concepts and their premises, truisms or axioms, allowing new ideas, new truths and solutions to emerge. Thus, partnering in being, in camaraderie, ‘presencing’ (being present, in an intimate and sincere togetherness) will lead to new awareness both for coachee and coach. At the right time, the doing will follow, but no rush, no hurry. Reflecting, mirroring, challenging when necessary will do the job, yet the being part comes first. This is always re-challenging, even after many years of coaching, for me as well. But it also is when my coaching is at its best, and is nicely rewarded by the client’s awareness and moving forward. I would love to hear and read your thoughts on this, clients, coachees, colleagues, leaders, anybody!  #listening #thinking #challenging #coaching #executivecoaching www.nachumkatz.co.il

This thoughtful post is a great reminder that we are in service to our clients, and need to ask and listen for what they need right now. I have had some high level clients who mostly needed a safe space to talk through what was on their mind, and a few "coaching insertions" helped them get the clarity and focus they needed. You don't need to demonstrate all of your coaching skills in every session! Your presence, patience, and compassionate curiosity may be what they need the most today. #coaching #breakthroughs #presence

𝐂𝐨𝐚𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐧 𝟐𝟎𝟐𝟒: 𝐈 𝐅𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐒𝐭𝐮𝐜𝐤! This year, I’ve had the privilege of coaching senior professionals who felt stuck and held back, often expressing: - “𝑀𝑦 𝑒𝑚𝑜𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠 𝑡𝑎𝑘𝑒 𝑜𝑣𝑒𝑟 𝑖𝑛 ℎ𝑖𝑔ℎ-𝑝𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑠𝑢𝑟𝑒 𝑠𝑖𝑡𝑢𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠.” - “𝐼 𝑠𝑡𝑟𝑢𝑔𝑔𝑙𝑒 𝑡𝑜 𝑎𝑠𝑠𝑒𝑟𝑡 𝑚𝑦𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓 𝑖𝑛 𝑐𝑒𝑟𝑡𝑎𝑖𝑛 𝑠𝑖𝑡𝑢𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠.” - “𝐼 𝑓𝑒𝑒𝑙 𝑔𝑢𝑖𝑙𝑡𝑦 𝑤ℎ𝑒𝑛 𝐼 𝑡𝑟𝑦 𝑡𝑜 𝑝𝑟𝑖𝑜𝑟𝑖𝑡𝑖𝑧𝑒 𝑚𝑦𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓.” Using the 𝐏𝐀𝐂 𝐌𝐨𝐝𝐞𝐥 (Parent-Adult-Child), a popular coaching framework, we explored how these different states influence thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. Key explorations clients found most useful: 𝟏. 𝐄𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐭𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐠𝐞𝐫𝐬: We explored how the Child state can fuel emotional reactions (e.g., fear, frustration) and practiced shifting to the Adult state for rational, calm responses 𝟐. 𝐒𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐝𝐨𝐮𝐛𝐭: We identified limiting beliefs from the Child state, reframing them to more empowering self-perception 𝟑. 𝐎𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐦, 𝐠𝐮𝐢𝐥𝐭: We examined how the Child’s need for validation or fear of guilt impacts decisions, and developed strategies to remain grounded in the Adult state By becoming aware of your states and shifting to the Adult state, one can break free from feeling "stuck". 𝐈𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐬, 𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐩 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐥𝐝 𝐨𝐟 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐜𝐨𝐚𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠: ❓ Where do you notice your Child state influencing your emotional responses or actions? ❓ How can you nurture helpful Child traits (creativity, curiosity) while managing less helpful tendencies (fear, guilt)? ❓ What limiting beliefs can you reframe to build confidence and clarity? Celebrating ~500 hours of coaching 🎉 I’d love to hear your thoughts - share in the comments or DM me to explore further! #coaching #leaders #LeadershipDevelopment #reflection #leadership #learning #CareerGrowth #SelfCoaching #EmotionalIntelligence #SelfAwareness #TransactionalAnalysis #PACModel

What will you do with the 114 days left of 2024? Would you like to finish this year with the strengthen ability to understand instinctively, without conscious reasoning or explanation, your behaviours, thoughts and beliefs? After Intuitive Psychology coaching, people find they have more understanding and empathy for themselves and others. Your limiting beliefs that may have held you back, are replaced with a more creative and curious thought patterns. You understand more about what you tolerate, where your boundaries are and operate more aligned to your own core values. 💥 You will speak with your true and authentic voice 💥 We are all made up of layers of experiences and memories that frame our standpoint in life and create our own map of the world. This is why we need diversity, as there may be similarities but no two lives have been lived the same way. Within these layers, we have a layer of conscious thoughts, those things we know about ourselves, traits we recognise, behaviours we repeat. We also have a layer of unconscious - this is the inner map of our world, here lies the parts of ourselves that are tucked away in the shadows; the bits we haven’t yet reached. Through the Peony Community you will be supported to explore this further, working with the Shadow and Alchemy Method and 34 unique techniques combining science and spirituality guided myself, an AADCT trained coach. There are 6 places available, for people who want to invest in their own coaching habit and wellbeing- if you would like a coffee and chat to hear more, have a read, book in time with me, I am very happy to share more. https://lnkd.in/eaHPKkiJ #coaching #wellbeing #mentoring #personaldevelopment #HRleadership

What Questions Does a Coach Avoid Asking? In coaching, it’s important not only to ask the right questions but also to know which ones to avoid. Some questions a coach may intentionally avoid include: 1. Judgmental Questions: Asking something like, “Why do you keep making the same mistake?” can lead to feelings of shame or defensiveness, hindering the client’s progress. 2. Closed-Ended Questions: Questions that can be answered with a simple “yes” or “no” limit deeper exploration and reflection, such as “Do you feel happy today?” 3. Solution-Oriented Questions: Pushing for direct solutions with questions like, “Why don’t you just do this?” discourages the client from finding their own path and fosters dependency. 4. Questions that Minimize the Client’s Process: Asking, “Isn’t this problem small?” can invalidate the client’s emotions, making them feel their concerns are insignificant. 5. Resistance-Generating Questions: Questions like, “Why haven’t you achieved this yet?” can create unnecessary pressure and defensiveness, making it harder for the client to open up. 6. Privacy-Invading Questions: Asking about personal topics or traumas that the client has not willingly shared can breach trust and create discomfort. A coach’s role is to create a space of trust and openness, where clients feel empowered to explore their own thoughts and emotions without pressure or judgment. #Coaching #Leadership #PersonalDevelopment #Empowerment #CoachingQuestions #CoachingSkills

"Am not going to sit and wait for this bus, it'll find me along the way" 🚌 ................................................... Another of my coaching clients just celebrated a long-awaited promotion—a role perfectly aligned with her values and vision for impactful work. But as with many, stepping into new roles, seasons and challenges, that devilish "Impostor Syndrome" started whispering again. In our session, we didn’t just focus on cheers and high-fives. 📣 🙌 Those are nice but good coaching dives deeper than that. Together, we explored how she’s overcome impostor syndrome before, and what tools could carry her forward. 🔧 🔨 🔬 She shared a powerful metaphor:  Picture a bus station with a crowd waiting for a bus that never comes. After all that waiting, she finally decides,  “NO, am not going to wait for this bus, it'll find me along the way". There’s a lot of wisdom here. 💡 Sometimes, the “CONFIDENCE BUS” is late or isn’t coming at all; but starting anyway, daring to lead, and taking those first steps is what gets us to where we need to be. Inspired by Brené Brown, she also embraced the SFD (Shitty First Draft)—starting imperfectly and improving along the way. And whether we walk, run, or ride, we’ll all get there. 🏆 What a beautiful session this was!! Coaching is about discovering these insights and supporting you to step up and move forward. So, if you’re hearing that dark whisper, a good coach might just be what you need. #Coaching #Leadership #ImpostorSyndrome #BreneBrown #PersonalGrowth #CareerJourney #LifeCoaching #CareerCoaching #SelfAwareness #PersonalDevelopment #Reflection ................................... My name is Sam Kimera and 3 words describe my WHY: People. Purpose & Progress. I am a Learning & Development professional (MBA, Assoc. CIPD UK), a certified Advanced Level Coach with the Coach Masters Academy Global and a member of the International Coaching Federation. Have you considered what a coaching session could do for you? My November calendar has a few slots. Click below to book your first coaching session. https://lnkd.in/d5jDbhm7 ..................

Executive coaching is the gift of time. It's an opportunity to press pause, process feelings, percolate ideas, inspire fresh insight, commit to actions and set intentions. Today's coaching session was a delight. We reviewed their updated Strengths Profile Expert and Leader reports - so many impressive changes since the last assessment 12+ months ago: - All of the Unrealised Strengths became Realised. - Top Realised Strength had become a Learned Behaviour due to overuse. - A Weakness became an Unrealised Strength The overall picture was a confidence building validation of how they are now. Importantly, things feel different. Using the riders&elephants Transition Handbook we explored these changes and how the executive now felt. We set intentions for the month ahead using the ECD cards and highlighted opportunities where they could be shared internally. We used Neuro Nudges questions and prompts to help guide the discussion. There is nothing more satisifying than watching people successfully, learn, grow, evolve and flourish. The best part? The ripple effect! I know this will ripple across their organisation, families and beyond. Let’s flip what the world feels. Imagine a world where millions more people can have better, more emotionally aware days – where they feel acknowledged, accepted and free to state what is happening for them in the moment and beyond. If such a vision excites you, join us on our mission to bring out new conversations. Learn more here: https://lnkd.in/egJwkg7P #toevolve #strengthsprofile #emotionalculturedeck #neuronudges

Changemakers Coaching believe that becoming more self aware is the first step in all aspects of personal (and professional) development. What if the benefits of developing your #selfawareness included; - Being able to better manage and regulate your emotions - Improved communication - Enhanced decision making skills - Improved relationships - Higher levels of happiness - More confidence - Increased job satisfaction - More creativity - More focus Sounds good, right? However, there is a paradox with self awareness. I am sure we all know someone who has very little self awareness and they, by definition, are not aware of it! No one is going to put their hand up and say "I lack self awareness". 🙋🏻♂️ How then, can we 'become' aware, of our self awareness? The good news is, it's a learnable, practicable, buildable skill and for those that already possess some self awareness, they can further improve and develop their skills. Now, go back to that person you just thought of that 'thinks' they have self awareness and yet, you clearly see their blind spots. What would be the impact on them, and you, if they improved their self awareness and were no longer oblivious to their blind spots? Powerful, eh? Changemakers Coaching believe (cos we've seen it with our own eyes) that developing and practising self awareness can unlock unlimited potential. So, if you would like to uncover your (or someone else's) 'blind spots' (spoiler alert: we ALL have them), or build and improve your self awareness, we are right here for you. #selfawareness #blindspots #leadershipskills #leadership #coaching #commmunicationskills #emotionregulation #happiness #jobsatisfaction #dreamteam #creativity #focus #coachingskills #makingchange #changemakers #changemakerscoaching

I've recently started reading Julia Baird book 'Bright Shining - how grace changes everything'. Julia's research mentions wisdom isn't just about knowledge—it's a blend of empathy, compassion, self-reflection, and emotional regulation. Elements I believe mirror the core foundations of effective coaching. A piece of research that I was particularly drawn to: Wisdom is defined as having several components - including empathy, compassion, self-reflection and emotional regulation or dsicipline. Without empathy and compassion we are more likely to be lonely. When we are kinder to others, listen and try and understand their perspective, we are more likely to be wiser and less lonely. As a coaching psychologist, I can see how this definition of wisdom enriches our approach to personal development: 💫Self-reflection becomes more powerful when guided by compassion rather than judgment 💫Emotional regulation linked to compassion creates the space needed for genuine empathetic connection 💫Understanding others' perspectives opens doors to deeper, more meaningful conversations and the creation of bigger perspectives The research shows that cultivating these qualities not only makes us wiser but also more connected. In coaching, we're essentially creating spaces for wisdom to grow (wellbeing is improved, connection is created, self-insight is created). Where both the coach and the coachee are both learning and growing. Curious to hear from others in the coaching community: How do you see the relationship between wisdom and coaching practice? #Coachingpsychology #Personaldevelopment #Leadership #Wisdom #ProfessionalDevelopment" Rebecca Kornmehl Selina L.

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