Advice for women in their 20s and 30s If you feel stuck in your career, you need to decide whether you want to live a career-centered life or a lifestyle-centered life. This concept, introduced to me by Erin McGoff, completely transformed the way I think about my career journey. It’s a framework that helps you align your career with what truly matters to you. 🔑 What’s the Difference? 💼 Career-Centered: Your career defines your life. What it looks like: You prioritize your career aspirations and build your lifestyle around achieving those goals. Your choices—education, where you live, how you spend your time—are driven by what’s best for your career. Example: A software engineer who dreams of working at a top tech company. They move to a city with a booming tech industry, dedicate hours to upskilling, and take roles that fast-track their growth, even if it means less time for hobbies or personal relationships. 🌍 Lifestyle-Centered: Your life defines your career. What it looks like: You prioritize the type of life you want to live and choose a career that enables that lifestyle. Your job is a tool to support your personal goals, rather than being the center of your identity. Example: Someone who values living in a small town close to family chooses to work remotely as a graphic designer. They pick clients that allow them to work flexible hours, ensuring they have time to enjoy local community events and weekend hikes. 🗺️ How to Decide What’s Right for You: 1️⃣ Define Your Priorities: Ask yourself: What do I value most right now? Is it career growth, stability, freedom, or relationships? Your answer can guide whether to focus on lifestyle or career. 2️⃣ Imagine Your Ideal Day: For a career-centered person, their day might involve leading a big project, solving complex problems, or working toward recognition in their field. For a lifestyle-centered person, their day might include morning yoga, working remotely from a coffee shop, or spending evenings with loved ones. 3️⃣ Understand the Trade-offs: A career-centered path often requires sacrifices like relocating, long hours, or delayed gratification for personal goals. A lifestyle-centered path may mean choosing jobs that pay less or offer fewer growth opportunities but provide flexibility and balance. 4️⃣ Align Your Actions: If career-centered, invest in certifications, networking, and roles that set you up for long-term growth. If lifestyle-centered, explore remote roles, freelancing, or industries with strong work-life balance. 5️⃣ Revisit Your Choice Often: Life evolves. What feels right in your 20s might not align with your 30s. Check in with yourself regularly to ensure your decisions still fit your goals. This framework reminded me: there’s no “right” or “wrong” choice—only the one that’s right for YOU. Success looks different for everyone. What advice do you have for women in their 20s and 30s? Please feel free to share in the comments ⬇️ ♻️Repost to help others in your network
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I think this is spot on. At the beginning of my career I was very career centered. But I burnt out with the hustle, so now I'm life centered. I live in a smaller city and definitely won't give up my remote work arrangements or frequent traveling experience for anything!
A career-centered life or a lifestyle-centered life—I'll take the latter please!
Such goodness in this post Caitlyn! <3
The problem is that you can choose a career centered life and make all the sacrifices and still get nowhere in your career. People and companies take advantage of your hard work but never promote you or give you the chance to utilize your skills you’ve worked so hard for. I’d say always prioritize health and lifestyle. Unfortunately you have little to no control over how your career progresses in todays market. There is sexism, ageism and other forms of bias as well that can mean it will take you twice as long to get anywhere in your career regardless of what you choose.
This is a great point. I'm 28 and deep in shifting mindset on this. In college/early 20's I was a career-centered person for sure. The hustle and the idea of the hustle forever was so exciting. But life changed and got to a really fun place. I love my partner, my dogs, walks in the morning, coffee shop days, being able to work remote and while traveling. It's better for my mental health, physical health, and allows me to pursue creative outlets and support my community. Right now, I'm still enjoying the hustle, but the hustle with boundaries. I so deeply value having jobs and a career where a few weeks or months of the year I turn it up to 11, and then there's time to rest and recoup at work.
This is some good stuff…. In your 20s, you can overcommit yourself to a job to seek external validation through praise, promotions and compensation. With age, wisdom and maturity, you realize other ambitions can also be pursued. For example, being in contribution to your community, quality time with family and friends, practicing self-care while still living in your purpose. You’re not defined solely by your job title. I personally dislike leading a conversation with what I do because it’s only a fraction of who I am. However as a woman now in my mid 30s, I appreciate the once career-centered me because it encouraged me go against the grain, become a risk-taker, trust my own judgement and intuition, and become the master of my own reality...It’s ok to fluctuate between the two lives because you will be and do what’s required at that moment in time.
This resonates with me right now and I absolutely love your perspective on this. I would just add that this is for working women of all ages because at 40 years old I just took a risk—mortgage, spouse, kids and all—and shifted to a “lifestyle-centered life.” This decision can be made at any phase, it just may come with more risk, planning, and/or challenges, but age should never limit how we recalibrate our lifestyle to fit our wants and needs.
Love this message! 100% doc approved! At times, life may be a mix of the two...and that's ok. But looking back, I am glad I realized that a switch was needed to more of a lifestyle centered approach. So, I quit working and embarked on a 3 year sabbatical, taking trips every month(love Antarctica) & living to the fullest. Fast forward 81 countries later, I can see our society/expectations need to change! That's why I love supporting/coaching others to make the switch! It's worth it! Blessings!
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1wI think you can also toggle between the two - it's okay to have a career centered life for a few years as you're building your career and learning more about what you're good at/what you want/what you don't want. It can help pave the way for eventually transitioning to something more lifestyle-centered.