Abraham Lincoln once said, “In the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.” Last week, I said “farewell” to one of the most influential women in my life. Since I was born, “Aunt Terrie” Moyer was a stalwart presence. She and my uncle lived in a modest cabin near Lake Tahoe, CA, which was a safe haven for me during some timultuous adolescent years. My brothers and I spent many weekends, holidays, and summer breaks around their wood stove, watching our favorite cartoons from The Walt Disney Company. She was a kid at heart and loved her stuffed animals and all things #Disney. She lived her life well. Terrie’s childhood years were also hard and she committed to rise above them. She and my uncle bypassed college and both found stable, long-term work. They saved for retirement and spoiled us when they could. Unable to conceive children, they always considered us their kids. The week before I started at Hutchinson Regional Healthcare System, they moved into the Wesley Towers. In their mid-70’s, she had a degenerative disease that affected her central nervous system and he could no longer serve as her sole care giver. She was fiercely independent and it pained her to rely on others. There is little in life more excruciating than an illness with no cure, but it was that hardship that brought us closer than ever. Between doctors appointments, Walmart trips, and dinners at IHOP and Applebee's Neighborhood Grill + Bar, I saw her more often than any other season in my life. Our kids grew close to her as well. Two weeks ago, I received a call at my office from my uncle. Aunt Terrie was dying and I was needed right then. On my way over there, the nursing home called and asked about hospice care. I requested a nurse named Laci Chastain from Hospice & Home Health of Reno Co . She’s was best I’d ever seen. The incredible folks with the Wesley Towers and our hospice team guided us through each of those final hours. They comforted us while proactively caring for Terrie. Even when she could no longer speak, Terrie was the quarterback through all of it. This was her road to travel up until the final moments, when my uncle called me in to pray with her. Last night, Hospice and Home Health of Reno County hosted its annual Festival of Rememberance to raise funds to make hospice care available to anyone, regardless their personal means. My family is so thankful for the care we received from them. No one should go it alone. Nabeel Khokhar, MHCL, LNHA Darla Mark Lori LeadingAge LeadingAge Kansas Kansas Hospital Association
I remember her so deeply well. Rest in peace aunt Terrie. 💐
Aunts are the second moms the world knew we all needed. Thoughts and prayers to you and glad you could be there to support your uncle and Aunt Terrie to her heavenly home.
Peace to you and your family during this tough time.
Beautifully written Ben, thank you for sharing her story.
So many angels in this story. Sending your family love Ben.
Thanks for sharing such an important message Ben. My condolences to you and your family in your loss.
Your speech was amazing Friday night!
What an amazing and wonderful woman. I'm very sorry for your loss, Ben. May you heal well!
So sorry for the loss. My Aunt Mil served me in a similar role and I was just sharing that yesterday. A safe place with unconditional love. ❤️