**Embracing Change: Reflections on Four Decades of Marriage and Divorce** After forty years of marriage, I’ve found myself reflecting deeply on love, health span, and personal growth. Our relationship, once passionate, gradually transformed into what Tamara Silver calls “quiet misery.” Intimacy faded, leaving a longing for a more fulfilling connection. In Israel and globally, divorce rates show evolving societal norms, especially among those over 40. This trend underscores the complex emotional landscapes of long-term relationships. Our decision to part ways was driven by a desire for renewed vitality and mindfulness. Practices like meditation, psychology, and exploring psilocybin's therapeutic potential enhanced my well-being and longevity. Activities like volunteering and triathlons boosted my physical health and strengthened community ties, rediscovering joy and fulfillment. To those at a similar crossroads, remember it’s never too late to seek a life aligning with your values and desires. Embrace mindfulness, build a supportive community, and pursue passions that bring joy. Through embracing change, we find our true path to happiness and longevity.
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