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    How to Deal with Toxic Relationships: A Comprehensive Beginner's Guide to Learn Effective Methods in Order to Deal with Negative, Manipulative, and Toxic Relationships
    How to Deal with Toxic Relationships: A Comprehensive Beginner's Guide to Learn Effective Methods in Order to Deal with Negative, Manipulative, and Toxic Relationships
    How to Deal with Toxic Relationships: A Comprehensive Beginner's Guide to Learn Effective Methods in Order to Deal with Negative, Manipulative, and Toxic Relationships
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    How to Deal with Toxic Relationships: A Comprehensive Beginner's Guide to Learn Effective Methods in Order to Deal with Negative, Manipulative, and Toxic Relationships

    By Miranda Wilson

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    We have all had the displeasure of encountering toxic personalities at one point in our lives. These are the people that get you to wonder which version of them you will encounter on any given day and who will do everything in their power to put the blame for everything on someone or something else. However, we don't always realize how much thei

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherMiranda Wilson
    Release dateJul 26, 2023
    ISBN9781088227138
    How to Deal with Toxic Relationships: A Comprehensive Beginner's Guide to Learn Effective Methods in Order to Deal with Negative, Manipulative, and Toxic Relationships

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      How to Deal with Toxic Relationships - Miranda Wilson

      Introduction

      We have all had the displeasure of encountering toxic personalities at one point in our lives. These are the people that get you to wonder which version of them you will encounter on any given day and who will do everything in their power to put the blame for everything on someone or something else. However, we don't always realize how much their behavior can affect us in our own lives. Spotting toxic traits can be challenging – and this is what makes their actions so damaging. You don't even know how much power a toxic person yields over you. So, you just let them continue to chip away at your self-esteem until you start questioning your own integrity instead of theirs.

      As you will learn from this book, it doesn't have to be this way. You can live your life in peace and harmony without letting a toxic person drain you of your energy, joy, and hope. This comprehensive book provides deep insight into the different types of negative behavior, highlighting common toxic traits and their possible background. Understanding them will help you move on with your life by learning to focus on yourself first. While this may sound like a delicate prospect given the difficult context of your relationship, putting yourself first will enable you to finally see your experiences with a toxic person from a different perspective, one that truly matters, namely, yours.

      This book also contains plenty of useful techniques to effectively identify and deal with different types of toxic behavior in relationships. They will especially come in handy when it comes to old relationships, which you can decide to sever for any number of reasons. And while avoiding new relationships with toxic individuals would be the ideal way to minimize their harmful impact on your life, this too isn't always possible. There will always be coworkers, mutual acquaintances from your social circle, and even family members with negative traits you'll have to deal with on a regular basis.

      Ultimately, it all comes down to how you handle the toxicity around you. Sharpening your senses will help you spot the warning signs early on, making it harder for someone to manipulate or emotionally abuse you. But this is only part of the job. You must also recognize that spending time with these folks genuinely isn't good for you. People who can't respect your boundaries will do everything they can to provoke conflict and drag you into their world of delusion and drama. This all begs the question: Why should you let that happen when you can spend time around people who uplift you instead? More importantly, you can listen to your inner voice telling you that you don't need anyone's approval to live your life in a way that makes you happy. Throughout this book, you will find all the tools needed to become confident in your ability to fend off toxic influences and pursue more rewarding relationships.

      Chapter 1

      What Is Toxic Behavior?

      In order to learn how to deal with negative, manipulative, and toxic characters, you must first understand what toxic behavior is. At some point in your life, you have probably encountered people who caused you a lot of trouble — and you may not have acknowledged this as toxic behavior. The signs of someone being a toxic individual vary from subtle to unmistakable, depending on how close your relationship with this person is and how aware you are of your environment. This opening chapter provides an insight into what toxic behavior looks like and what personality traits and behavior patterns to look for to identify it. Remember, the best way to master this skill is to start by raising your self-awareness. After all, no one is immune to negative behavior. As soon as you accept your own faults, the sooner you will be able to look for them in others.

      What Is Toxic Behavior?

      Every action and spoken word that adds negativity to your life is considered toxic behavior. If someone is causing you to feel stressed, have self-deprecating thoughts, or get in conflicts with them or anyone else, they are displaying toxic behavior. More often than not, this type of behavior is exhibited by someone you have a close relationship with. Due to their proximity, these people often have a very strong emotional hold over you. Because of this, you tend to ignore the red flags and keep submitting yourself to all the negativity they throw your way. Even if you recognize the signs, the only thing you do is ask yourself what you did to warrant such behavior. Or, if you acknowledge that it wasn't you who caused the issue, you may be wondering what caused them to be that way. The answer to these questions will be discussed in the following chapter.

      Types of Toxic Personalities

      The kind of toxic behavior you perceive depends on the type of people exhibiting it. Here are the most common types of toxic personalities you may encounter in your life.

      The Judgmental Type

      Due to their inflated egos or insecurities, this type is more than eager to criticize everything you do without even trying to understand your perspective. For example, you are telling your friend that you've decided to quit your job because you've just been offered an opportunity to realize your own business ideas, and the reception you get is barely lukewarm. Instead of being happy for you for being able to realize your dreams, the friend launches into a monologue about you acting irresponsibly and how much they disapprove of your decision.

      The Narcissistic Type

      A narcissist will only talk about themselves and will always try to maneuver situations in a way that the attention is solely on them all the time. When conversing with them, they will act as if they are experts on everything. Let's say you are remodeling parts of your home and are talking to them about how you plan to rearrange things. A narcissist will tell you how they would do it as it was the right (and for them, the only acceptable) way to do it. If you disagree with them, they will get upset and will try to put you down for voicing an opinion that differs from theirs.

      The Pessimistic Type

      Some people struggle to find positivity in anyone or everything around them. Not only that, but they will often try to discourage you from positively approaching situations. For instance, you are studying to achieve your dreams and working to support yourself in the meantime. When talking to a pessimist, they will tell you how hard it is to find a job you really like, no matter how qualified you are, because they weren't able to do so themselves. Despite this, they show no interest in making the changes to better their lives, and when you ask them why they act as if that isn't possible, they will stall. Instead of considering your perspective, they will tell you that you are throwing away money by investing it in your education.

      The Manipulating Type

      Manipulators seek to gain benefit or leverage from every situation and relationship they participate in. To do this, they often lie, steal, cheat, and cover up their own negative behavior, so you would only focus on what they want you to hear or see. And they do all this without the tiniest shred of regard for your feelings. If your partner tells you that you are too sensitive about something they've said or done that upset you, they're manipulating you. They are making you think that no one else has a problem with their behavior and that you should just accept it no matter how much it hurts you.

      The Type That Thrives with Gossip

      Gossip may seem like an innocent pastime for many people, but it's the only way of life for some. This type of person just loves to dissect everyone's lives rather than deal with their own. What's worse, they will make malicious comments about the person they are talking about and thrive on others' negative life experiences, whether it's a break-up or a lay-off. Imagine a friend calling you and telling you that a mutual friend of yours is getting a divorce. They will dish out every detail they've heard about the infamous event — whether this information is accurate or not. And they will do it with glee because it serves them as a distraction from their own unhappiness and empty existence.

      The Pretender

      This type of person will take the credit for things they haven't done or haven't accomplished by themselves. A great example of this would be a coworker boasting about their work accomplishments on social media when you know it took a team to make it happen.

      The Attention-Seeker

      This is a person to whom you can never devote enough attention. If they see that you are turning your focus to someone else, they will immediately try to gain it back with childish tactics. They may even pretend to agree with you on something when, in fact, they couldn't care less about your opinion. If you are out shopping for clothes with your friend and they agree that everything you try on looks good on you, even if you know it doesn't, they are trying to move on and shift the attention back towards them.

      The One-Sided Type

      This type can only thrive in one-sided relationships. They expect you to listen to them, be there for them and act affectionately towards them all the time — when they are unwilling to do the same for you. For example, your friend expects you to find the time to talk whenever they have a problem with their partner. However, when you are trying to vent your own frustration about your partner, the friend suddenly

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