Dr. Tülay Massey

“You can’t solve a problem with the mind that created it.” You have to believe it can be better and that you are 100% in control of it. You can’t create something you don’t believe. Phases of belief… 💠 Impossibility – “I can’t…” 💠 Possibility – “I could…” 💠 Inevitability – “I will…” >>> “I am…” I’ll get you through the phases of belief for whatever it is you want to change about your experience of leadership. ➡️ Burnout to balance ➡️ Exhausted to energized and engaged ➡️ Defeated to determined ➡️ Self-critical to self-confident We create what we believe. About ourselves, our ability, our lives… What do you want to believe? ✨ Message me to learn how we can work together and get you to 100% belief in yourself and your ability to take control of your career. ✨

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Done with settling for a ‚good enough‘ career? It's okay to aspire for more. If you sense a longing for change, it's time to acknowledge it. There's a world of possibilities out there, waiting for your next move. The UNLOCK YOUR PURPOSE group programme is designed for ambitious women ready to showcase their true potential. In this 6-week online group experience, you will: ✅ Rediscover your unique skills, passions and wisdom. ✅ Learn how to hear and follow the intuitive voice within. ✅ Step into self-leadership and pave your purpose-driven path. ✅ Transform fear into brave, bold action. Check out the details: https://buff.ly/3VYwj65 Set up a call with me to see whether this programme is for you: https://buff.ly/3Q3U9cK #personaldevelopment #purpose #personalpurpose

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How good is your communication? Chances are you don't know. 🤔 Most of us only know how effective or ineffective we are when something goes wrong. You know, you say something and can see it didn't land well, that dry mouth you might get when you get nervous speaking to a senior manager in your organisation. Suddenly, you are back in a conscious mindset, thinking about what you said. For the rest of the time, we can be on autopilot. I decided to make a video about it... 🎥 What Speed Dating Taught Me About Good Communication In it, I share 3 simple strategies that you can use to improve your communication and connect better with people. You will also find out what happened when I went speed dating! Click to watch it here https://lnkd.in/etJAz-vt #EffectiveCommunication #CommunicationSkills, #WorkplaceCommunication, #PersonalDevelopment #LeadershipSkills, #ManagementSkills

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Are you an employed Trainer thinking about taking the leap of faith into the world of freelance? Or Have you recently taken the leap And wondering how to attract your own clients? 8 years ago I had the same thoughts And over 8 years I've learned many strategies that work and many that don't I can speed up the process and ensure you avoid my mistakes Grab my FREE Freelance Trainer Guide to get started I absolutely love helping other freelance trainers grow their business by sharing my knowledge and experiences Click the link below to grab your copy now https://lnkd.in/esfRZWwd PS This morning I wrote a post about 1 thing I'd do differently if I could go back 8 years. If you're a freelance what 1 thing would you do differently with the benefit of hindsight?

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This mug = love/friendship = connection with nature = inspiration. Objects have the power to mean so much more than what they are. You see this mug and maybe you like its design, or it makes you think of the coffee you need to go and make. I see this mug and it makes me think of the friend on the other side of the country who sent it as a ‘happy random day’ gift. Thinking of her and the many moments we have shared in over 30 years of friendship can lift my spirits even as my morning coffee lifts my energy level. But this mug also, surprisingly, sparked my interest in octopuses.   Since receiving it, I have this urge to fill my home with octopus objects, to watch documentaries about octopuses (or octopi or even octopodes), and to take vacations and snorkel where I might see a live one. One of the things I teach is how to use objects to help your listeners connect to deeper meanings. It can work in reverse as well. After all, I’d seen my first octopus in the wild before I received the mug. Did the mug help me tap into the joy and wonder of that first encounter? Very likely! What is an object that has meaning for you that people wouldn’t guess just by looking at it? Share in the comments! With a picture if you are so inclined. #stickystorytelling, #storytelling, #heritageinterpretation, #nakedspeaking

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"The help you gave me with my Copy (Counselling Directory profile) just made my enquiries EXPLODE" 💥 This was a comment that I received yesterday during one of my Bi-weekly coaching calls with my membership! It was an amazing session, where I gave extensive support including; • Process of Launching a Membership • Ideal Client I.D. using my unique method • Creating connecting and impactful content • LinkedIn Strategies • Business mindset for Counsellors I absolutely love this part of my work, working live, seeing my clients have that real time "Ah-ha" moment of realisation that Business and Marketing can feel lighter and totally in alignment with their own values and industry ethics. When I help my clients gain the knowledge and confidence to step into being a business owner as well as a Therapist, they become empowered to implement and then great things happen such as: • a constant stream of enquiries • becoming fully booked • growing wait lists • affording time off without worrying • increasing life long personal pensions & investments Being a trained Counsellor myself, as well as an award winning Business Coach for 10+ yrs and a qualified Accountant for 3 decades, AND holding a diploma in Marketing and Advertising, makes me perfectly and totally uniquely positioned to guide my members to Private Practice success! What do you find challenging in The Business & Marketing side of your Private Practice right now? What do you need support with? #counsellor #Psychotherapist #privatepractice #businesscoach #privatepracticecounsellor #privatepracticetherapist

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Testimonials are a beautiful thing! They let you know you are on the right track, are appreciated and have added value. They also let people know from peers, that this is a safe pair of hands and will add value. They aren't an advert, but they clearly are an advert! Perhaps they are a signpost?! Here is a signpost to working with someone who can add value. But then I would say that. #leadership #leadershipdevelopment #coaching #executivedevelopment

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Today is Small Business Saturday. Book a session to find out your communication challenges (some may completely surprise you) and receive real-time coaching. https://lnkd.in/eMirfPCX You can simply choose any topic, and the session will be tailored for you. Looking forward to assisting you. #SmallBusinessSaturday

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I'm in search of an adjective.. Here's why you should be as well. #breathworkthoughts - The ultimate form of agnostic niche'ing is to be known for a word. It sounds conceited, even vain to think about this in my head. But I would like to lean all-in on an aspect of what I do that I can really own. I want to OWN a word, it's the ultimate form of marketing association and clarity. Think about this for example, what do you think of when you think about: James Clear - Habits. Justin Welsh - Solopreneur. Ali Abdaal - Productivity. Brené Brown - Vulnerability. Simon Sinek - 'Why?'. Marie Forleo - Figureoutable. Carol Dweck - Mindset. Tim Ferris - 4-hour. Gary Vaynerchuck - Hustle. So I set about asking a selection of my client base what words describe me and our engagement best, to them. I got this absolutely brilliant message from a power couple that are clients in the weekend. I love the 'challenged' idea, but I loathe the word 'clarity' (because it doesnt mean anything to most people.. until it does). People of LinkedIn - HALP! What word(s) best describe the clarifier statement at the bottom?

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Last weekend, I was inspired to go to my local Fruit and Veggie shop, Tewantin Market Garden quite early. They are open at 7 am on Sundays which is a little unusual for this part of the world. ​ I keep going back there to purchase products because I believe they are very service-oriented. 🙏 ​ A few weeks ago, I asked Monica (the owner) about a particular type of honey 🍯 that I thought she would stock, and I couldn’t see it on the shelf. It appeared they had sold the last one. Monica said she would reach out to the honey people (she called them by name) and have it in the store very soon. ​ Today, I find myself reflecting on what “𝗕𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗼𝗳 𝗦𝗲𝗿𝘃𝗶𝗰𝗲” means to me.  ​ What I have found to be true is when you are being of service to another, you are committed to engaging with them to find an outcome or solution that serves their needs and their wants. ✅ ​ In the act of giving service, you are focusing on another, looking to help them to live a better life.  ​ 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗳𝗼𝗰𝘂𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝗼𝘂𝘁𝘄𝗮𝗿𝗱 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗶𝗻𝘄𝗮𝗿𝗱. 💯 ​ To be truly of service, you are required to put the other person first, almost like, walking a while in their shoes… 👣 ​ In most of my personal development courses, I ask the participants where they are in their own “pecking order”? ​ 1-100 ➡️ 1 being "𝘐 𝘢𝘮 𝘯𝘶𝘮𝘣𝘦𝘳 𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘮𝘺 𝘭𝘪𝘧𝘦" and 100 being "𝘐 𝘱𝘶𝘵 99 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘮𝘦." ​ I do this to invite them to fill their own cup first, so they have more energy and fuel to face a new day. I believe when you are fully fueled, you will be more inclined to be of service to someone else. 💪 ​ Not everyone is cut out to be of service, but when I meet someone like Monica, I feel inspired to smile more and be more considerate to others. ​ When I experience great service, it almost stops me in my tracks and causes me to take a breath, to be grateful for what is being offered, through a smile or some friendly advice. 🙏 ​ Take the time to be decerning where you shop, find the people who are being of service to others, and don’t settle for less. ​ Thanks, Tewantin Market Garden! ​ Do you have a similar story you would like to share in the comments? 👇 ​ Always Remember 💥 Rise Up, Give Back ​ #MaryScottInfluence #PersonalDevelopment #ConfidenceCoach #BeingOfService #ServingOthers

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The next chapter in my business story If you followed by business story last weekend, you may be wondering what steps I took next Well this post is more about my mistakes, so you don't make them yourself! I thought I needed to make a considerable investment to learn how to gain clients through LinkedIn Big Mistake - Huge! I invested over 1k to be told the following: 1. Start your LinkedIn Headline with Helping..... The problem with that is everyone who followed this person's advice also did the same. Hence there were hundreds even thousands of people with the Helping..... headline. It made it much harder to stand out in a very busy crowd 2. I was also told not to send DMs under any circumstance. That's like meeting someone at a party or event and never having follow up conversations and expecting to become friends. Only a very small percentage of followers will see your posts. What's the point of building your network if they never see your posts and never get to know you? It took me far too long to realise I had to find a strategy that worked for my business There's no 1 approach that fits every business even though some will expect you to believe that! Tomorrow I'll share what I did next, once I realised the above steps wouldn't work for my business Is there a mistake you've made in your business which you've learned from? Share below PS If you're new to freelance training or you're thinking of making the leap, grab my freelance trainer guide. It's free. Link is in the comments

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And on the subject of listening........ Reach out to me at [email protected] or by DM and I will both listen to you and write it down. #pushingbeyondboundaries #coaching #mentoring #mindset #personaldevelopment #fsbmember #abm #activelistening

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48 Weeks of Wonder! Week 35 Precept 35 What a delicious precept, isn't it? Take a walk in a park or a forest near you. Observe the trees, listen to them. What are they saying to you? Write down your thoughts in your journal. ----- Every Monday, I shall share one precept from the book ‘365 Days of Wonder’ by R.J. Palacio. Wonder over it. There are synonyms of wonder- #mull, #think, #reflect, #ponder. The only condition is you must wonder in #writing . Write down your reflections on the precept. Share in the thread what emerged for you. You can also come up with your precept in your own words! You never know when an aha moment happens, or an apple drops into the garden of your thoughts. Anything can happen if you choose to pick the pen and run it over paper. Still wondering what use would this be or if it will work? You will only know when you start writing! #journaling #reflection #writing #thoughts #selfawareness #selfhealing #selfcoaching #sundayreflections #consistency #justdoit #communication #wellness #mentalhealth

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Here’s the truth about networking 🤔 Not every connection you make will lead to somewhere nice for you. Don’t blame or punish yourself for a connection falling through. Sometimes that person is busy, very occupied with multiple commitments and simply doesn’t have the capacity to help you in a way that benefits you. If you tried to speak with someone, but the connection doesn’t go anywhere after multiple tries then please move on to the next person. There are different people out there who can help you on your career journey and you just need to have a mindset where you’ll do what it takes to get where you need to be. Just like in dating, you need to take your time to get to know the person to see if they are really genuine and can be trusted. What are some other truths you’ve learnt about networking? Comment below and let me know #networking #careertips #networkingtips #careerpathway #coaching #mentoring

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