Man Says Friend Wrecked His Car, Then Called Him 'Dramatic' When He Refused to Let Her Borrow It Again

A man is asking for a second opinion to determine if he's in the wrong for not letting a friend borrow his car after she previously wrecked it.

In a recent "Am I The A-----?" post on Reddit, a 29-year-old man described a dilemma he’s currently facing. 

A few months ago, the man wrote that he lent his car to a friend, 28, for a weekend trip. "I trusted her, and I thought it would be fine," he wrote. "However, she ended up wrecking it — totaled the front end."

"She swore it was an accident and offered to pay for the repairs, but it took weeks to get it fixed, and I was out of a car during that time,” he added.

Although his kept her word and paid to get his car fixed, the man said he still felt “pretty uneasy” about lending his car out again. But, that didn't stop her from asking.

Last week, he wrote that his friend "asked to borrow my car for a family event because her car was in the shop."

When he said he was "uncomfortable lending it out again after what happened last time," he said his friend “got really upset and accused me of not trusting her,” and even said he “was being dramatic.”

“Now, our mutual friends are divided — some think I should give her another chance, while others agree that I have every right to be cautious,” the Redditor said. “I feel terrible for letting her down, but I also think my feelings are valid given the circumstances.”

Overall, commenters took his side.

“You don’t trust her, and with good reason. She wrecked your car when you loaned it to her as a favor, and, even if she paid for repairs, you still had to deal with not having a car while it was getting repaired,” read one comment with 4,000 upvotes. “Basically, your friend is upset because she is dealing with the consequences of her own actions.”

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Another person suggested that “whoever is giving [him] grief” should “lend her their cars” since “it’s no big deal.”

Meanwhile, others said that the Redditor didn't owe anybody an explanation.

“You don't need a reason for not lending your car. You have no obligation to ever lend your car. You don't have to and should not explain or provide reasons," read another reply. "You should simply say ‘No, that doesn't work for me.' ”