Bride Left 'Crying' in Bathroom After Guests Ordered Pizza to Her Vegan Wedding

A bride is questioning whether she was wrong to have sprung an all-vegan menu on her wedding guests after her brother and cousins circumvented her plans.

The 28-year-old bride shared in a post on Reddit’s popular "Am I The A------" forum that she and her husband — who had been vegan for three years — decided to surprise guests with an “all-vegan reception dinner.”

“We deliberately didn't mention the food was vegan on the invitations because we wanted people to enjoy it without prejudice,” she said. “Every dish was designed to be delicious and satisfying, regardless of dietary preference.”

She noted that she and her husband “spent months” working with a chef to create a “gourmet”  five-course meal “that just happened to be vegan” with mushroom wellingtons, truffle risotto and other menu items. She noted that they spent “nearly $15,000 on the food alone.”

However, things did not go as planned. While her wedding ceremony went off without a hitch, the bride noticed her brother Tom was missing during the reception, later returning with her cousins carrying 20 large pizza boxes.

“They started distributing them to guests, announcing ‘Real food for anyone who wants it!’ ” she recalled.

“I was mortified,” the bride continued. “The caterers looked so embarrassed, and several guests hadn't even tried our carefully planned menu yet. When I confronted Tom, he said my aunt had texted him that ‘all the food is just vegetables’ and they ‘couldn't let people go hungry at a wedding.’ ”

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She said the unplanned pizza surprise ended up “upstaging” the couple’s “expensive gourmet meal,” with people taking photos and “treating it like a joke.” She even noted that her mother-in-law posted on Facebook that the wedding was "saved by pizza” because the bride “tried to ‘force everyone to eat rabbit food.’ ”

“I ended up crying in the bathroom, and my husband asked Tom and the cousins to leave,” she shared. “This caused a scene, and now half the family is calling us stuck-up and saying we ruined our own wedding by ‘pushing our beliefs’ on everyone. They're saying we should have warned people about the vegan menu.”

Several people in the comments noted that they felt the bride and groom were wrong for not informing guests about the menu ahead of time. 

One person said, “You didn’t tell anyone about the menu because you knew they wouldn’t like it/come if you did.” They added that if guests had been informed of the menu ahead of time, they “could have eaten beforehand if they knew the menus weren’t to their liking.”

Another person agreed, saying, “Honestly, there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to serve a vegan meal at your wedding, but you didn’t disclose that because you KNEW folks were going to have responses to it. A heads up would have been the right move here.”