Bride Angry After Her Pregnant Dressmaker Friend Says She Can't Make Wedding Gown Because Ceremony Is Near Due Date

A wedding dress designer who is 26 weeks pregnant has found one of her most demanding customers to date in her best friend.

In a post shared to the "r/AmItheA------" subreddit on Sunday, Aug. 11, a 38-year-old dressmaker candidly described the mixed feelings she's experiencing after her friend seemingly didn't understand that she's getting ready to go on maternity leave and wouldn't be able to make her wedding gown.

"AITA for telling my friend I can't make her wedding dress despite making them for two other friends?" the mom-to-be titled the post, explaining that she was recently informed of her friend's upcoming wedding.

"She asked if i'd be making her dress for her and I told her of course, to just let me know when they had a date and I was told they already had a date, January 19th," the dressmaker wrote. "That was fine, a year and five months, perfect, plenty of time to do the designs and make it and I expressed as much to her but she corrected me, it wasn't January 19 2026 like i assumed, but January 19, 2025."

According to the post, the expectant mother's wedding gift for her friends has been to make them an "original wedding dress made to their taste."

Noting that she'd done so for two friends already, she asked the bride-to-be to change her wedding date, "pointing out how five months wasn't much to plan a wedding anyway," but she refused.

"She didn't understand this at all pointing out how i'll be taking time off work soon anyway and can't I just use that time to make her dress," the post reads. "I admit in hindsight I got a bit snappish here and she likely didn't realise just how much work goes into a wedding dress but I asked her if she'd hit her head and why she'd think it's ok to ask me to put stress on my pregnancy for her wedding dress?"

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The dressmaker claims that her friend called her out in their group chat, which made her feel "annoyed" yet "regretful."

"Maybe I could have a rehearsal dinner dress made for her or even a reception dress to soothe the hurt of her not getting the custom dress she wants," the dressmaker wrote, noting that she "can't trust my employees to make a wedding dress without me as their skill level isn't up to that." 

Various Reddit users replied to the post, telling the dressmaker that she's "NTA."

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"NTA you are not obligated to do anything for anyone," one user wrote. "NTA, wow she is entitled," wrote another.

One user wrote: "You’re pregnant. You deserve to rest during that time instead of making a dress. And once the baby is born you’re going to be so busy and tired… your friend is not being very kind or empathetic to your needs in the face of your generosity."

Another commented: "Tell your friend it is about timing and it is not personal. If she had asked when the other friends had asked, it would have been her dress you made. That a real friend will understand everyone's circumstances change and would back off."