I have exciting news and an invitation to all of Boston: Please rearrange your life and join me, Thursday night at Scullers Jazz Club!
The news: I’m announcing my first book. It'll be out in June. Cover art is at left.
It's my story then and now: excerpts from my online CaringBridge journal, interwoven with what I’ve since learned about e-patients and participatory medicine.
The title reflects the mind-powered approach I took to my “prognosis is grim” disease. (More on this below.)
The invitation is for all of New England to come celebrate and honor a singer who was a huge, powerful force during the course of the disease: my sister Suede. (Yes, that’s her name.)
She’s performing Thursday, April 22 at Sculler’s Jazz Club in Boston. One show only. Tickets: http://www.scullersjazz.com/attractions/detail.htm?id=839
With four CDs and a live DVD to her credit, Suede is a self-made independent artist with a phenomenal stage presence. Be prepared to be owned by the diva for the entire evening. You’ll see what I mean.
All New England, please come join us! It’s a dual celebration – Suede rarely plays Boston (she’s more often found on Olivia Cruises), and I’ve never published a book. April 22, 8 pm. Best seats go to those who buy the dinner/show package.
Q & A follows. "Do it!," as Suede says during one of her songs. :-)
What’s the title about??
It's the approach I chose to take to the news that I had a lethal cancer - a summary of the advice I got in the first few weeks after diagnosis, before I even started my journal:
- "Laugh" is for the healing power of laughter, as famously discussed by Saturday Review editor Norman Cousins in his book Anatomy of an Illness
- "Sing" is the advice my doctor gave. I had asked if I should drop out of my much-loved championship chorus to save energy, but he said, "You don't want to stop doing life activities that you love - it sends the wrong message." Wow. So, okay, laugh and sing! Not bad.
- "Eat like a pig" refers to the diet the hospital sent me, to increase my caloric intake, to combat weight loss and prepare for the battle ahead.
Why a book with this message?
4,000 people a day (in the US alone) discover they have cancer, and face that moment of "What on earth do I do NOW??" I know that feeling. Some look for what to do next; others don't even think they can do anything — they just think they're screwed and go into depression. This book is about hope, getting it in gear, and going "e." (E-patients are "empowered, engaged, equipped, enabled, and educated.")
What does Suede have to do with it?
"Laugh Sing" is about facing the unfaceable with power and grace, and nobody was a stronger influence than my sister Suede.
She taught me to have a powerful relationship to the disease (all explained in the book) and not be owned by it. She taught me what she learned about facing death from her years working with patients in the AIDS epidemic. She brought people from her extraordinary fan base to join our support group on CaringBridge.
Most incredibly, she organized an impossible effort to solve another challenge I’ve rarely discussed: The whole time I was sick we owned an extra house.
We’d lived in the Midwest for a while before something told us we had to get home to New England. We put that house up for sale in 2006, just as the market hit the skids, though nobody knew it yet; we thought it would sell soon.
Then I found out I wasn’t getting the job that was 99% (not 100%) certain. So for months I owned two houses with no income. I found a job. And three months later I learned I had Stage IV cancer.
The value of both houses started dropping. 30%, eventually. So, while I was sick we also had carrying costs for two houses on a one-house budget. And not even any showings on the old house. It felt crushing, but we were focused on just staying alive. First things first.
Then, we got an offer. For $18,000 less than we owed.
What did Suede do? She organized an incredible campaign and put on a benefit concert – she and her community raised the $18,000. So, in September 2007 we sold that house and got the official word that I’d survived. It was a very good month.
Join us. Celebrate the book, Suede, and life!
You can see what a powerful, wonderful, amazing woman this soulful singer is. She will own you for that evening.
At the benefit concert my physician Dr. Danny Sands and wife Libby came to the first half of the show. He was blown away: at halftime they were trying to decide which CDs to buy, and they decided they had to stay for the second half to hear more songs.
That's how good she is. (He later said “We came for you, but we stayed for Suede.”)
Let’s sell out the house! Bring friends! Rearrange your life for this rare show - buy tickets. Celebrate life!
